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[0.000 --> 4.320]  12 non-verbal communication examples and how to use them. We usually think that
[4.320 --> 9.440]  battle language is the only way that we can send a message without using words. But it's just
[9.440 --> 15.200]  one aspect of non-verbal communication and these 12 examples will boost your people analysis skills.
[15.200 --> 20.480]  In this video you will find out the three types of hand gestures, a secret that I's
[20.480 --> 26.000]  reveal and how communication goes way beyond your body. My name is Jesus Enrique Rosas.
[26.000 --> 31.200]  I'm the battle language guy and I help you uncover the secrets that people try to hide from you.
[36.960 --> 41.520]  Number one, your general posture. No matter if you're standing or seated, your body
[41.520 --> 46.800]  posture is the first clue to reveal your current mood. That's one of the quickest way to assess
[46.800 --> 52.400]  someone's feelings in just a couple seconds thanks to their global battle language. One example
[52.400 --> 57.280]  is alpha and beta postures. One of them projects confidence and the other in security.
[57.280 --> 62.640]  You can even feel more confident by just assuming an alpha posture. The easiest way to tell
[62.640 --> 68.240]  difference is the way the shoulders are broad and relaxed in one or tense and contracting the other.
[68.240 --> 74.480]  Number two, facial expressions of emotions. We're naturally drawn to see faces and that's why
[74.480 --> 79.680]  it's the most important area when we want to express emotions without words. Most of the time we
[79.680 --> 84.320]  pick those signals by intuition but with a little practice you can spot them consciously.
[84.320 --> 89.280]  One example is when someone presses their lips you know that they have an emotional reaction.
[89.280 --> 95.360]  Our faces can show seven basic emotions but it's more important if you can spot these more subtle
[95.360 --> 100.400]  changes. I recommend that you get used to pay attention to faces during the conversation.
[100.400 --> 105.600]  Number three, illustrator gestures to emphasize words. When someone uses their hands to make their
[105.600 --> 111.040]  point clearer, doors are called illustrator gestures. They're very important because they
[111.040 --> 116.880]  help the other person understand and remember your words and connect deeper with them. For example,
[116.880 --> 122.720]  if you're saying that something is big or tall or try to emphasize the point that your hands move
[122.720 --> 127.840]  in unison. Every time your hands support what you're saying you're using illustrator gestures.
[127.840 --> 133.280]  They're very easy to detect because people almost never try to hide them. Number four, voice,
[133.280 --> 138.480]  tone and body. Another non-verbal communication example that usually doesn't get enough attention
[138.480 --> 144.720]  is the quality of our voice unless people know how to control their emotions their voice is going to
[145.200 --> 150.640]  be the first channel that reveals their inner state. For example, when someone is excited or upset
[150.640 --> 155.440]  they're going to raise their voice. If they feel insecure they will lower it. This is great news
[155.440 --> 160.320]  because this way you can detect someone's emotions without even having to look at them. They just
[160.320 --> 165.600]  have to practice active listening whenever you can. Learning to spot this non-verbal communication
[165.600 --> 171.600]  signals requires a bit of practice and no one where to look. That's why I've summarized more than
[171.600 --> 176.640]  90 body language clues in a free ebook that you can download right now. You can find the link in
[176.640 --> 182.640]  the description all right here. Number five, manipulator gestures that reveals stress. If illustrator
[182.640 --> 187.920]  gestures emphasize words, manipulator gestures reveal an emotional reaction to us situation. You can
[188.000 --> 192.960]  spot them because they add absolutely nothing to the message that the person wants to convey.
[192.960 --> 198.160]  There are many examples like rubbing the eyes, pulling the air love, touching the nose, those are
[198.160 --> 203.280]  manipulator gestures. They're not directly related to line but instead to some emotional
[203.280 --> 208.000]  discomfort. If you're paying attention at the person's body language you should have no problems
[208.000 --> 214.480]  spotting them. Number six, clothing and accessories. As I said before, the recommendation is not only about
[214.480 --> 219.280]  body language because the way people dress gives clues about their personality. And the best
[219.280 --> 224.560]  question you can ask in your mind is what kind of person chooses to dress this way. So people
[224.560 --> 229.920]  claim that they way their dress has nothing to do with their personality and that's wrong. Because
[229.920 --> 235.280]  in most cases they choose what to wear. It's a decision that they make. So it's a matter of
[235.280 --> 240.560]  reverse engineering that decision to make a Sherlock Holmes guess about their character. Number seven,
[240.640 --> 245.920]  the secrets in their eyes. I know that eyes are part of facial expressions but they reveal so much
[245.920 --> 251.360]  information that you could just focus on them. After all they call the windows to the soul and for
[251.360 --> 257.280]  a good reason we can express emotions just moving them. Whether it's rolling our eyes or we notice
[257.280 --> 262.080]  that someone is blinking faster or someone points in the direction of another with their gaze.
[262.080 --> 267.840]  All those are signals that we give away even if we cover our entire face. It's not a coincidence
[267.840 --> 273.040]  that we're always drawn to see other people's eyes. Number eight, proxemics and interaction
[273.040 --> 278.560]  distance. Different cultures have different customs about how close do people stand to each other
[278.560 --> 284.080]  when talking or just hanging out. But at the same time those differences in interaction distance
[284.080 --> 289.760]  can reveal what kind of relationship they have. Proxemics is also about the way our gestures reach
[289.760 --> 294.480]  out to the other person during a conversation. If you see two people talking and they don't have
[294.480 --> 299.680]  problems sharing that personal space then you know they feel comfortable. This can be spotted
[299.680 --> 306.080]  not only in couples but also in groups. Number nine, custom hand gestures or emblems. By now you've
[306.080 --> 311.920]  noticed that there's much more to hand that just a few gestures to emphasize our words. There are
[311.920 --> 318.000]  also emblems that are hand gestures with a certain meaning that is given by the culture or society.
[318.000 --> 323.440]  For example the okay sign or the thumbs up are emblems that have meaning even if you just see an
[323.440 --> 328.720]  isolated hand. Just remember that the same emblems can have different meanings in different cultures
[328.720 --> 334.560]  so be careful. When you visit other countries it's a good idea to know in advance about this. Number
[334.560 --> 340.960]  10, our personal space. If the way we dress can reveal details about our personality or living
[340.960 --> 346.640]  and working spaces also give a nonverbal message. That's why it's important to pay attention to
[346.640 --> 353.040]  someone's house or apartment or office to see what can give us information about them. Do they have
[353.040 --> 358.960]  plans? What kind of books do they have? Do they have pictures, posters, paintings? It's a good
[358.960 --> 363.440]  practice to reverse engineer someone's personal space to make a guess about their character.
[363.440 --> 368.000]  And one of the most important clues that we can get is what do they like? Number 11,
[368.000 --> 373.280]  haptics and touching others. No matter the culture they're always going to be people who like to
[373.280 --> 378.800]  touch others and people who really hate to be touched. But for example the handshake is one of the
[378.800 --> 383.520]  most common forms of touching and you can tell a lot from someone's grip. You can put a hand on
[383.520 --> 388.000]  someone's shoulder or bag to show support. And there's the fact that a woman can do a
[388.000 --> 393.600]  very soft touch of her own arm to attract the attention of a man. So the act of touching is in
[393.600 --> 399.760]  itself an unverbal clue no matter if it's a formal greeting or a warm hug. Number 12, physical
[399.760 --> 404.800]  reactions. When we talk about rebellion emotions these are the hardest to conceal body language
[405.520 --> 410.160]  and since they're connected directly to the central nervous system there is almost nothing
[410.160 --> 415.200]  that we can do to control them. We're talking about sweating, pupils dilating, shortness of breath,
[415.200 --> 421.600]  blushing and so on. Most of these reactions are automatic and they reveal an emotional reaction.
[421.600 --> 426.960]  Maybe the person feels threatened. The only way to control them would be to control your own
[426.960 --> 432.400]  emotions in advance. They may take away about all these nonverbal communication examples is that
[432.400 --> 437.280]  none of them is more important than the others. What's more, you should always consider the
[437.280 --> 444.160]  context of the interaction to get a full understanding. My suggestion is that you try to spot one by one
[444.160 --> 449.280]  at first. It's easy to feel overwhelmed so practice by focusing on one for a whole week and then
[449.280 --> 454.240]  add another. Of course it will always be a dynamic of comparing their nonverbal communication
[454.240 --> 459.840]  signals with what they are saying to spot inconsistencies. And that's when you will start
[459.840 --> 464.400]  detecting hidden emotions. Again, if you want all my free nonverbal communication tips,
[464.400 --> 469.360]  there's a link in the description to download my ebook. And don't forget to subscribe and activate
[469.360 --> 476.400]  those notifications so you don't miss any of my body language analysis and tips. See you next time!