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26mv49

I m a waiter and my boss is demanding that I work for free as punishment Hey guys I m a waiter at a restaurant owned by a very famous chef corporation known all over the world. I ve been waiting tables for 8 years and have worked my way up to a position where I make around $50k a year (considerably high for my job). My general manager was testing our knowledge of the 20 custom cocktails we serve. The waiters had to determine what cocktail it was by smell alone. I was sick at the time and answered incorrectly. The general manager told me that he wasn t going to ask for us to learn this material anymore he was going to force us to learn it. He told me that he was going to start with me and told me that I had to come in on my day off without clocking in and without getting any tips compensation and work the bar for a few hours to learn the drinks better and added that he didnt care if it was legal or not. What can I do? I know this is illegal but if I do take some sort of action against the company I m sure I would never be hired by them again. This is important since they have a restaurant in nearly all of the largest cities in the world.

Personally I would just go in and treat it as a free training session on cocktails. I d spend an hour or two taking advantage of the knowledge of the bar staff at this famous restaurant to really practice my cocktails. Ideally I d end up chatting about drinks and since I m only there to learn for an hour or so drink some myself have some laughs and go home or go out for a late boozy lunch with friends after. That way I get a personal benefit from the training and don t damage my relationships with my manager or my career which can probably take you far if you get really good skills. Since you have been a waiter for 8 years it sounds like the hospitality industry might be a long term career for you and this could help you get ahead in the long run. Before anyone dismisses this as a non legal answer I am a lawyer and I think this is clearly a situation where even mentioning your legal rights is hopelessly counter productive. I would understand that as basic negotiation theory. You have no real interest in getting into a dispute with your employer nothing significant to gain but a lot to lose. The main reason I have seen people get fired is they go over their managers head on something which pisses off their manager who then finds a reason to fire them. I m not saying you should never go over your managers head. There are a few good reasons to do that but a few hours of unpaid overtime to learn cocktails better doesn t seem like one of them to me. The only slightly legal answer I might suggest is to make it clear that you re there to learn and develop your skills not work for free and make sure you re not regularly getting flagrantly ripped off for free labor. If there s an issue about this I would negotiate directly with your manager about it. I always wonder about the background to these stories. It sounds to me like your GM is an old school guy ( doesn t care if its legal or not ) who is disappointed by his staff not being as enthusiastic and knowledgable as he would like. Wouldn t you have more to gain by overlooking a few extra hours and impressing him? I appreciate it s different in hospitality which generally pays by the hour but I have done lots of unpaid overtime for all sorts of silly reasons but mostly because it s the culture of the legal profession. When I was a student I worked in hospitality and ended up in senior positions in some places where I d been willing to put in a few extra hours as needed regardless of pay.

&gt I know this is illegal but if I do take some sort of action against the company I m sure I would never be hired by them again. Have you gone over the GM s head? If this is a major corporation then start by politely talking to the restaurant manager if available or someone at corporate.

26vwao

IL - Being extorted by a girls mother. She is threatening to accuse me of having sex with her daughter if I do not pay her. I am 30(m) and the daughter is 13. I was mentoring and tutoring this girl for a few months previous to her trying to mother accusing me. The mom has accused me of having sex with her daughter. Last night she called me and said that she would go to the police unless I paid $5000. She then threatened to have me killed if I try to run or not pay her. A few things to note: * The daughter stayed overnight at my house twice and slept in my spare bedroom. This was at the request of her mother who agreed to pay me to watch her but never did. Both times she was over from 12pm Friday night until I dropped her off back at her moms house at 10am the next day. Looking back I understand how this was a huge mistake but at the time I never thought she would try to extort me. * The daughter has extremely low self esteem and lives with only her mom. * I spoke with the daughter every few days to make sure she was ok and doing her homework. * I tutored the girl twice at her house with her mom present. I was supposed to be paid both times but she said she didn t have the money. * The girl confided with me that her mom physically and mentally abuses her. * While in the house I witnessed the mom mentally abusing her. She ripped on her daughter constantly for things that happened months or years ago (breaking the laptop accidentally starting a fire and lying) * The daughter constantly seeks attention from older males. I know of 3 that she has fooled around with or have tried to take advantage of her within the time that I have known her. * The daughter made advances on me by trying to kiss me and by telling me that she loves me in a text message. Both times I turned her down. I have no issues taking a polygraph (although all of the research says I should not). My fear is that even though there is no proof of any sort of intimate relationship that I will still be arrested and charged based on her word alone and the fact that she was alone with me twice. Being arrested on her word alone would ruin my social life and career. What should I do?\\ Edit - Thank you for the advice. I have spoken with a lawyer. He has told me to block all communication with both of them.

You may have been marked by this woman in a con with this extortion as a final goal. Daughter either being coerced or forced but clearly her behavior as you described is inappropriate. If she threatened murder you really should consider going to the police. AFTER you speak with an attorney. The investment would be well worth it to guarantee someone to look after your best interests. Extortion is not a one time thing. Five grand will turn into eight in a few months etc etc. Do not play that game. Hire an attorney. Gather evidence and decide whether going to the police would be your best move. Edit - Response to OP s update- Good. Hopefully lawyer saw the evidence as largely circumstantial. It does look like you got set up. You re probably not the only one either. She may have targeted others and put them in the same situation and threatened every one with the same gist she gave you. Still a death threat should not be taken lightly so if you live alone stay with a friend for a while or have one stay with you.

Ianal but I recommend recording her trying to extort you (if you live in a single party consent area) and take it to the cops. Assuming you havent actually had sex with the kid and the kid doesn t lie to whoever asks her. Polygraphs are (in the US as far as I ve been told) not generally acceptavle evidence but ymmv. If she has no money she has no money for a hitman haha

26vwao

IL - Being extorted by a girls mother. She is threatening to accuse me of having sex with her daughter if I do not pay her. I am 30(m) and the daughter is 13. I was mentoring and tutoring this girl for a few months previous to her trying to mother accusing me. The mom has accused me of having sex with her daughter. Last night she called me and said that she would go to the police unless I paid $5000. She then threatened to have me killed if I try to run or not pay her. A few things to note: * The daughter stayed overnight at my house twice and slept in my spare bedroom. This was at the request of her mother who agreed to pay me to watch her but never did. Both times she was over from 12pm Friday night until I dropped her off back at her moms house at 10am the next day. Looking back I understand how this was a huge mistake but at the time I never thought she would try to extort me. * The daughter has extremely low self esteem and lives with only her mom. * I spoke with the daughter every few days to make sure she was ok and doing her homework. * I tutored the girl twice at her house with her mom present. I was supposed to be paid both times but she said she didn t have the money. * The girl confided with me that her mom physically and mentally abuses her. * While in the house I witnessed the mom mentally abusing her. She ripped on her daughter constantly for things that happened months or years ago (breaking the laptop accidentally starting a fire and lying) * The daughter constantly seeks attention from older males. I know of 3 that she has fooled around with or have tried to take advantage of her within the time that I have known her. * The daughter made advances on me by trying to kiss me and by telling me that she loves me in a text message. Both times I turned her down. I have no issues taking a polygraph (although all of the research says I should not). My fear is that even though there is no proof of any sort of intimate relationship that I will still be arrested and charged based on her word alone and the fact that she was alone with me twice. Being arrested on her word alone would ruin my social life and career. What should I do?\\ Edit - Thank you for the advice. I have spoken with a lawyer. He has told me to block all communication with both of them.

You may have been marked by this woman in a con with this extortion as a final goal. Daughter either being coerced or forced but clearly her behavior as you described is inappropriate. If she threatened murder you really should consider going to the police. AFTER you speak with an attorney. The investment would be well worth it to guarantee someone to look after your best interests. Extortion is not a one time thing. Five grand will turn into eight in a few months etc etc. Do not play that game. Hire an attorney. Gather evidence and decide whether going to the police would be your best move. Edit - Response to OP s update- Good. Hopefully lawyer saw the evidence as largely circumstantial. It does look like you got set up. You re probably not the only one either. She may have targeted others and put them in the same situation and threatened every one with the same gist she gave you. Still a death threat should not be taken lightly so if you live alone stay with a friend for a while or have one stay with you.

That does sound like extortion. But man what an epically bad decision to have anything to do with this kid without a witness to say you weren t diddling her. but seems like you realize that. your choices are: cops consult with a local criminal defense lawyer then tell the cops do nothing. guess which one I think is best.

2797s4

Dentist mixed up patients and now my younger brother has 2 holes and caps in his mouth when he went in just for a cleaning. Okay were located in Allentown pa and my brother (Who is 15) and mom went to the dentist for a cleaning so when he got back to the chair they said simply the last name of the other patient (who has the same first name as my brother) my brother took this as a introduction ie the doctor was telling him his her name. They never once asked whats your name birthday ect all the standard questions you would ask before proceeding with the treatment. The office made a incident report that is false to what my brother and what my mother heard said. now i know first hand they dont ask names except first names as i was there earlier that day. To sum things up my brother mother and i are pissed to put it kindly and (rightfully so ?) and were asking for any advice on filing a case ? i know im leaving out alot of details so as the details come to me or you guys ask questions ill provide more information.

You won t even have to really sue they will settle out of court. You will need a lawyer to show them you are serious. Pre negotiate with the lawyer on his fee: Don t let the lawyers take all your money. 15% with settlement &lt 30% if trial. This should be a slam dunk case with a few hours of work at the most. Just make sure the dentists pay you a reasonable amount. About $30 grand probably fits the bill for settlement. They will try to lowball you. If they want to lessen it just say its $50k if you have to go to trial AND you will have the falsification of records prosecuted. Testify the fact dentist was unapologetic devious in covering tracks etc. Threaten to make it puiblic. These will shut him up and make em pay: his business relies on word of mouth and good referrals. He ll want to keep this quiet. Your dentist could lose his license for falsifying records even do some jail time. It s unlikely but technically true. At the least a serious breach of trust has occurred here: change dentists after you sue. People are vengeful. You should be VICIOUS if necessary in making this creep pay if he really did falsify records. You re dealing with a criminal that holds a doctors license. Kicker: His insurance will go up a smidge. He wont actually have to pay the fine. Dumb doctor mistake. NOT YOUR FAULT. Don t let him off easy - every bill you pay a dentist is paying for these fuckups. $2k for an hour of dentists work? Would you forgive a doctor if they sawed off the wrong leg? They left a drop of cement glue on my wifes face before: it did not scar which would have been big $$ but they still settled (quickly and without a lawyer) to the sum of several thousand dollars off our bill. If you harm someone on your job there should be repercussions. These guys barely pay a fine ~ DON T let them low ball you. Get some justice.

Wow! So didn t your brother suspect something when he began drilling away?

2797s4

Dentist mixed up patients and now my younger brother has 2 holes and caps in his mouth when he went in just for a cleaning. Okay were located in Allentown pa and my brother (Who is 15) and mom went to the dentist for a cleaning so when he got back to the chair they said simply the last name of the other patient (who has the same first name as my brother) my brother took this as a introduction ie the doctor was telling him his her name. They never once asked whats your name birthday ect all the standard questions you would ask before proceeding with the treatment. The office made a incident report that is false to what my brother and what my mother heard said. now i know first hand they dont ask names except first names as i was there earlier that day. To sum things up my brother mother and i are pissed to put it kindly and (rightfully so ?) and were asking for any advice on filing a case ? i know im leaving out alot of details so as the details come to me or you guys ask questions ill provide more information.

You won t even have to really sue they will settle out of court. You will need a lawyer to show them you are serious. Pre negotiate with the lawyer on his fee: Don t let the lawyers take all your money. 15% with settlement &lt 30% if trial. This should be a slam dunk case with a few hours of work at the most. Just make sure the dentists pay you a reasonable amount. About $30 grand probably fits the bill for settlement. They will try to lowball you. If they want to lessen it just say its $50k if you have to go to trial AND you will have the falsification of records prosecuted. Testify the fact dentist was unapologetic devious in covering tracks etc. Threaten to make it puiblic. These will shut him up and make em pay: his business relies on word of mouth and good referrals. He ll want to keep this quiet. Your dentist could lose his license for falsifying records even do some jail time. It s unlikely but technically true. At the least a serious breach of trust has occurred here: change dentists after you sue. People are vengeful. You should be VICIOUS if necessary in making this creep pay if he really did falsify records. You re dealing with a criminal that holds a doctors license. Kicker: His insurance will go up a smidge. He wont actually have to pay the fine. Dumb doctor mistake. NOT YOUR FAULT. Don t let him off easy - every bill you pay a dentist is paying for these fuckups. $2k for an hour of dentists work? Would you forgive a doctor if they sawed off the wrong leg? They left a drop of cement glue on my wifes face before: it did not scar which would have been big $$ but they still settled (quickly and without a lawyer) to the sum of several thousand dollars off our bill. If you harm someone on your job there should be repercussions. These guys barely pay a fine ~ DON T let them low ball you. Get some justice.

There weren t cavities then? The doctor just drilled healthy tooth?

27kaae

How to congratulate a pair of lawyers on their new marriage in contract-speak? Have two friends that are getting married to each other soon. I m the best man. I was hoping to have this be a part of my speech. Something with a lot of hereafter refered to as the couple and but with out assumption of liability on our part etc. As complicated and goofy as a contract can be. Lil help? EDIT: if it matters we re in CA. EDIT2: stuff like [this](http: www.rollonfriday.com Images LauraP Images ffw%20xmas%20card.jpg) and [this](http: f.kulfoto.com pic 0001 0037 95OG036612.jpg).

WHEREAS James E. Strathmore Esq. of the city of Stockton ( Strathmore ) and Madison J. Easterman Esq. of the city of San Francisco ( Easterman ) have met the lawful requirements for marriage under applicable California law AND WHEREAS the ceremony commencing such marriage has been duly held and officiated and the appropriate certificate and licenses duly executed AND NOW THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED that those attended here do hereby celebrate and affirm such marriage subject to the general traditions of the United States of America including but not limited to the drinking of wine the toasting of the happy couple the cutting of the wedding cake the smushing the wedding cake into the bride s face the tossing of the bouquet and of the garter and the dancing of both the Macarena and the Chicken Dance.

Check out [Black s](http: thelawdictionary.org ) maybe you re Library will have a copy you can peruse for some words to fit in to your best man speech.

27kaae

How to congratulate a pair of lawyers on their new marriage in contract-speak? Have two friends that are getting married to each other soon. I m the best man. I was hoping to have this be a part of my speech. Something with a lot of hereafter refered to as the couple and but with out assumption of liability on our part etc. As complicated and goofy as a contract can be. Lil help? EDIT: if it matters we re in CA. EDIT2: stuff like [this](http: www.rollonfriday.com Images LauraP Images ffw%20xmas%20card.jpg) and [this](http: f.kulfoto.com pic 0001 0037 95OG036612.jpg).

WHEREAS James E. Strathmore Esq. of the city of Stockton ( Strathmore ) and Madison J. Easterman Esq. of the city of San Francisco ( Easterman ) have met the lawful requirements for marriage under applicable California law AND WHEREAS the ceremony commencing such marriage has been duly held and officiated and the appropriate certificate and licenses duly executed AND NOW THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED that those attended here do hereby celebrate and affirm such marriage subject to the general traditions of the United States of America including but not limited to the drinking of wine the toasting of the happy couple the cutting of the wedding cake the smushing the wedding cake into the bride s face the tossing of the bouquet and of the garter and the dancing of both the Macarena and the Chicken Dance.

You may have more luck posting the speech you want to give and letting us make suggestions -- it can be hard to come up with things off the top of one s head. As always I m an undying fan of Conduct Yourselves Accordingly (specifically because it s the worst kind of arrogant lawyer talk).

27kaae

How to congratulate a pair of lawyers on their new marriage in contract-speak? Have two friends that are getting married to each other soon. I m the best man. I was hoping to have this be a part of my speech. Something with a lot of hereafter refered to as the couple and but with out assumption of liability on our part etc. As complicated and goofy as a contract can be. Lil help? EDIT: if it matters we re in CA. EDIT2: stuff like [this](http: www.rollonfriday.com Images LauraP Images ffw%20xmas%20card.jpg) and [this](http: f.kulfoto.com pic 0001 0037 95OG036612.jpg).

WHEREAS James E. Strathmore Esq. of the city of Stockton ( Strathmore ) and Madison J. Easterman Esq. of the city of San Francisco ( Easterman ) have met the lawful requirements for marriage under applicable California law AND WHEREAS the ceremony commencing such marriage has been duly held and officiated and the appropriate certificate and licenses duly executed AND NOW THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED that those attended here do hereby celebrate and affirm such marriage subject to the general traditions of the United States of America including but not limited to the drinking of wine the toasting of the happy couple the cutting of the wedding cake the smushing the wedding cake into the bride s face the tossing of the bouquet and of the garter and the dancing of both the Macarena and the Chicken Dance.

I think a good and funny way to do this is announce that you got your hands on a copy of their prenuptual agreement. You can make a show of pulling it out of your pocket and opening it up and then read it. It will contain legalspeak but also all sorts of ridiculous clauses and requirements specific to the couple that let you show off your knowledge of and care for the couple.

27pfxl

(LA) Landlord says I can not have sex. Will call the police. I rent a house. The landlord is my neighbor. We share a long driveway but the houses themselves are fairly far apart (half a mile maybe). This is in a very rural setting and there are trees covering the views from either house (this is important later). The lease is a year ( I am at six months). When I first moved in I was working more and dating less. About two months ago I started dating more. The lease says I can t have any overnight guests for excessive amounts (listed as over three nights a week). I was fine with this and this is not the issue. I have sex in the house I rent. A lot of it. Sometimes with different men. Sometimes they stay the night (never for more than three consecutive days) sometimes they leave after. My landlord has suddenly decided this is his business. He has begun recording when I have male visitors only. He doesn t care when my mother and sister visit. He showed me his log and next to it he has recorded how long they stay (an hour or so) and how many times he has seen that one person. This is just creepy. Often times when he sees a car enter the driveway he comes over to see who it is. He has to walk half a mile over to my house. Often times he will knock on the door he says to make sure I am okay and that I am not being hurt. Why would I be being hurt by my guest? I have never complained about it in the past he has no reason to suspect it. It is often hard to get him to leave. He uses the excuse of needing to do some landscaping to hang around. I have seen him look through the windows while my male visitor is over. He let himself in the other day and I saw where he looked through my cabinets at the condoms I had stashed in them. He threw some male underwear that got left at my rental house away (I found it in the trash). I confronted him about it and he just said he found concerning I had so many men over. When I come home late at night he will come over to make sure I get in the house safe and will question me about where I have been at such a late hour. I don t need that. I am an adult. If I wanted that I would live with my mother. I have gotten the police called on me while I have been having sex because they say they are getting noise complaints by my landlord and one time he said he heard someone being attacked and raped and I had to deal with the police on that. Edit: Often times I haven t even been having sex (it was just a male friend visiting). There is no way he could hear my normal sexual activities in a different house that far away. He won t let me break the lease. He wants me to not have sex in the house. Do I have any rights here? [Update](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27swf5 update_landlord_said_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call )

This is absolutely over the line. You have the right to make use and enjoy the property without excessive intrusion from your landlord. He must provide notice of usually at least 24 hours before he can enter. On top of that he can t dictate what activities you undertake within the property with some exceptions which this certainly doesn t fall under. This could possibly be grounds to break the lease. Most attorneys do low cost or free consultations. Check around for attorneys that handle this kind of stuff. A stern letter from a lawyer may be sufficient to stop this behavior. If he takes any kind of retaliatory actions you would even have better grounds.

He s trespassed and is violating your right to quiet enjoyment of the premises. A tenant lawyer may be able to help you by writing a quick letter laying all of the behavioral issues out and that may be enough to stop him. If not you may have to try and get a restraining order that stops him from behaving this way.

27pfxl

(LA) Landlord says I can not have sex. Will call the police. I rent a house. The landlord is my neighbor. We share a long driveway but the houses themselves are fairly far apart (half a mile maybe). This is in a very rural setting and there are trees covering the views from either house (this is important later). The lease is a year ( I am at six months). When I first moved in I was working more and dating less. About two months ago I started dating more. The lease says I can t have any overnight guests for excessive amounts (listed as over three nights a week). I was fine with this and this is not the issue. I have sex in the house I rent. A lot of it. Sometimes with different men. Sometimes they stay the night (never for more than three consecutive days) sometimes they leave after. My landlord has suddenly decided this is his business. He has begun recording when I have male visitors only. He doesn t care when my mother and sister visit. He showed me his log and next to it he has recorded how long they stay (an hour or so) and how many times he has seen that one person. This is just creepy. Often times when he sees a car enter the driveway he comes over to see who it is. He has to walk half a mile over to my house. Often times he will knock on the door he says to make sure I am okay and that I am not being hurt. Why would I be being hurt by my guest? I have never complained about it in the past he has no reason to suspect it. It is often hard to get him to leave. He uses the excuse of needing to do some landscaping to hang around. I have seen him look through the windows while my male visitor is over. He let himself in the other day and I saw where he looked through my cabinets at the condoms I had stashed in them. He threw some male underwear that got left at my rental house away (I found it in the trash). I confronted him about it and he just said he found concerning I had so many men over. When I come home late at night he will come over to make sure I get in the house safe and will question me about where I have been at such a late hour. I don t need that. I am an adult. If I wanted that I would live with my mother. I have gotten the police called on me while I have been having sex because they say they are getting noise complaints by my landlord and one time he said he heard someone being attacked and raped and I had to deal with the police on that. Edit: Often times I haven t even been having sex (it was just a male friend visiting). There is no way he could hear my normal sexual activities in a different house that far away. He won t let me break the lease. He wants me to not have sex in the house. Do I have any rights here? [Update](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27swf5 update_landlord_said_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call )

This is absolutely over the line. You have the right to make use and enjoy the property without excessive intrusion from your landlord. He must provide notice of usually at least 24 hours before he can enter. On top of that he can t dictate what activities you undertake within the property with some exceptions which this certainly doesn t fall under. This could possibly be grounds to break the lease. Most attorneys do low cost or free consultations. Check around for attorneys that handle this kind of stuff. A stern letter from a lawyer may be sufficient to stop this behavior. If he takes any kind of retaliatory actions you would even have better grounds.

He can t just come over and let himself in he needs to give you advanced notice to enter the rental property. http: housing.ucsc.edu cro pdf CCC_privacy.pdf &gt D. 1. Except as provided in subdivision (e) or as provided in paragraph (2) or (3) the landlord shall give the tenant reasonable notice in writing of his or her intent to enter and enter only during normal business hours. The notice shall include the date approximate time and purpose of the entry. I don t know what sort of recourse you have consult with a local attorney to find that out.

27pfxl

(LA) Landlord says I can not have sex. Will call the police. I rent a house. The landlord is my neighbor. We share a long driveway but the houses themselves are fairly far apart (half a mile maybe). This is in a very rural setting and there are trees covering the views from either house (this is important later). The lease is a year ( I am at six months). When I first moved in I was working more and dating less. About two months ago I started dating more. The lease says I can t have any overnight guests for excessive amounts (listed as over three nights a week). I was fine with this and this is not the issue. I have sex in the house I rent. A lot of it. Sometimes with different men. Sometimes they stay the night (never for more than three consecutive days) sometimes they leave after. My landlord has suddenly decided this is his business. He has begun recording when I have male visitors only. He doesn t care when my mother and sister visit. He showed me his log and next to it he has recorded how long they stay (an hour or so) and how many times he has seen that one person. This is just creepy. Often times when he sees a car enter the driveway he comes over to see who it is. He has to walk half a mile over to my house. Often times he will knock on the door he says to make sure I am okay and that I am not being hurt. Why would I be being hurt by my guest? I have never complained about it in the past he has no reason to suspect it. It is often hard to get him to leave. He uses the excuse of needing to do some landscaping to hang around. I have seen him look through the windows while my male visitor is over. He let himself in the other day and I saw where he looked through my cabinets at the condoms I had stashed in them. He threw some male underwear that got left at my rental house away (I found it in the trash). I confronted him about it and he just said he found concerning I had so many men over. When I come home late at night he will come over to make sure I get in the house safe and will question me about where I have been at such a late hour. I don t need that. I am an adult. If I wanted that I would live with my mother. I have gotten the police called on me while I have been having sex because they say they are getting noise complaints by my landlord and one time he said he heard someone being attacked and raped and I had to deal with the police on that. Edit: Often times I haven t even been having sex (it was just a male friend visiting). There is no way he could hear my normal sexual activities in a different house that far away. He won t let me break the lease. He wants me to not have sex in the house. Do I have any rights here? [Update](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27swf5 update_landlord_said_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call )

This is very abnormal behavior. I d advise you to worry less about your rights and more about the danger that this man is likely to pose to you. Contact law enforcement. Keep logs of his actions toward you. Look for a new place.

He s trespassed and is violating your right to quiet enjoyment of the premises. A tenant lawyer may be able to help you by writing a quick letter laying all of the behavioral issues out and that may be enough to stop him. If not you may have to try and get a restraining order that stops him from behaving this way.

27pfxl

(LA) Landlord says I can not have sex. Will call the police. I rent a house. The landlord is my neighbor. We share a long driveway but the houses themselves are fairly far apart (half a mile maybe). This is in a very rural setting and there are trees covering the views from either house (this is important later). The lease is a year ( I am at six months). When I first moved in I was working more and dating less. About two months ago I started dating more. The lease says I can t have any overnight guests for excessive amounts (listed as over three nights a week). I was fine with this and this is not the issue. I have sex in the house I rent. A lot of it. Sometimes with different men. Sometimes they stay the night (never for more than three consecutive days) sometimes they leave after. My landlord has suddenly decided this is his business. He has begun recording when I have male visitors only. He doesn t care when my mother and sister visit. He showed me his log and next to it he has recorded how long they stay (an hour or so) and how many times he has seen that one person. This is just creepy. Often times when he sees a car enter the driveway he comes over to see who it is. He has to walk half a mile over to my house. Often times he will knock on the door he says to make sure I am okay and that I am not being hurt. Why would I be being hurt by my guest? I have never complained about it in the past he has no reason to suspect it. It is often hard to get him to leave. He uses the excuse of needing to do some landscaping to hang around. I have seen him look through the windows while my male visitor is over. He let himself in the other day and I saw where he looked through my cabinets at the condoms I had stashed in them. He threw some male underwear that got left at my rental house away (I found it in the trash). I confronted him about it and he just said he found concerning I had so many men over. When I come home late at night he will come over to make sure I get in the house safe and will question me about where I have been at such a late hour. I don t need that. I am an adult. If I wanted that I would live with my mother. I have gotten the police called on me while I have been having sex because they say they are getting noise complaints by my landlord and one time he said he heard someone being attacked and raped and I had to deal with the police on that. Edit: Often times I haven t even been having sex (it was just a male friend visiting). There is no way he could hear my normal sexual activities in a different house that far away. He won t let me break the lease. He wants me to not have sex in the house. Do I have any rights here? [Update](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27swf5 update_landlord_said_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call )

This is very abnormal behavior. I d advise you to worry less about your rights and more about the danger that this man is likely to pose to you. Contact law enforcement. Keep logs of his actions toward you. Look for a new place.

He can t just come over and let himself in he needs to give you advanced notice to enter the rental property. http: housing.ucsc.edu cro pdf CCC_privacy.pdf &gt D. 1. Except as provided in subdivision (e) or as provided in paragraph (2) or (3) the landlord shall give the tenant reasonable notice in writing of his or her intent to enter and enter only during normal business hours. The notice shall include the date approximate time and purpose of the entry. I don t know what sort of recourse you have consult with a local attorney to find that out.

27pfxl

(LA) Landlord says I can not have sex. Will call the police. I rent a house. The landlord is my neighbor. We share a long driveway but the houses themselves are fairly far apart (half a mile maybe). This is in a very rural setting and there are trees covering the views from either house (this is important later). The lease is a year ( I am at six months). When I first moved in I was working more and dating less. About two months ago I started dating more. The lease says I can t have any overnight guests for excessive amounts (listed as over three nights a week). I was fine with this and this is not the issue. I have sex in the house I rent. A lot of it. Sometimes with different men. Sometimes they stay the night (never for more than three consecutive days) sometimes they leave after. My landlord has suddenly decided this is his business. He has begun recording when I have male visitors only. He doesn t care when my mother and sister visit. He showed me his log and next to it he has recorded how long they stay (an hour or so) and how many times he has seen that one person. This is just creepy. Often times when he sees a car enter the driveway he comes over to see who it is. He has to walk half a mile over to my house. Often times he will knock on the door he says to make sure I am okay and that I am not being hurt. Why would I be being hurt by my guest? I have never complained about it in the past he has no reason to suspect it. It is often hard to get him to leave. He uses the excuse of needing to do some landscaping to hang around. I have seen him look through the windows while my male visitor is over. He let himself in the other day and I saw where he looked through my cabinets at the condoms I had stashed in them. He threw some male underwear that got left at my rental house away (I found it in the trash). I confronted him about it and he just said he found concerning I had so many men over. When I come home late at night he will come over to make sure I get in the house safe and will question me about where I have been at such a late hour. I don t need that. I am an adult. If I wanted that I would live with my mother. I have gotten the police called on me while I have been having sex because they say they are getting noise complaints by my landlord and one time he said he heard someone being attacked and raped and I had to deal with the police on that. Edit: Often times I haven t even been having sex (it was just a male friend visiting). There is no way he could hear my normal sexual activities in a different house that far away. He won t let me break the lease. He wants me to not have sex in the house. Do I have any rights here? [Update](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27swf5 update_landlord_said_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call )

Sounds like he has an unhealthy infatuation with you.

He s trespassed and is violating your right to quiet enjoyment of the premises. A tenant lawyer may be able to help you by writing a quick letter laying all of the behavioral issues out and that may be enough to stop him. If not you may have to try and get a restraining order that stops him from behaving this way.

27swf5

Update: Landlord said I can not have sex. Will call police [original post here](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27pfxl la_landlord_says_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call_the ) I thought I d do an update since there are some people still commenting on my post. I read the comments and I thank you for your advice and your worry about my safety. Your points were valid and I appreciate all the help you gave. I took the day off work to deal with the issue. Last night I packed some things and went to stay with some family until I can figure out what to do. I didn t tell him I was leaving but I will continue to pay rent of course until this is all sorted out. I met with him this morning in person (with my father and brother present) to discuss the issue and whether I could break the lease early. He declined. I asked him to no longer worry about my sexual activity and to not visit without notice. I had already found a lawyer that could meet with me that morning so I then went to see him. He gave me advice on how he could help and I will be taking him up on that. The landlord should be receiving some letters soon. My father and brother went through the house with me to look for cameras and such. We found one seemingly disconnected camera in the garage that the landlord said was used for security purposes by the last tenant. We didn t find any cameras. Looking through my stuff I found a few intimate items missing that were still there before I left last night. I can t prove he took them. I didn t confront him about them. He came over while we were searching the house and asked what we were doing. My father told him to leave and the landlord threatened to call the police if my father and brother didn t leave. I told him fine and I would leave with them. As we were leaving I offered to pay three months rent right there if he would let me out of the other three months. He declined. Like I said I am staying with family I have all the stuff I should need for a bit and I don t plan on returning to that house until the issue is resolved. edit: (location) This is LA (Louisiana)

Your landlord can t call the police in your father and brother for being in your rental. I would have let him try and then complain your landlord is harassing you. He Can t come over whenever he feels like.

Awesome congratulations on keeping a level head and pursuing a productive course of action. I hope you ll continue to keep us updated we love hearing about how this stuff works out.

27swf5

Update: Landlord said I can not have sex. Will call police [original post here](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27pfxl la_landlord_says_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call_the ) I thought I d do an update since there are some people still commenting on my post. I read the comments and I thank you for your advice and your worry about my safety. Your points were valid and I appreciate all the help you gave. I took the day off work to deal with the issue. Last night I packed some things and went to stay with some family until I can figure out what to do. I didn t tell him I was leaving but I will continue to pay rent of course until this is all sorted out. I met with him this morning in person (with my father and brother present) to discuss the issue and whether I could break the lease early. He declined. I asked him to no longer worry about my sexual activity and to not visit without notice. I had already found a lawyer that could meet with me that morning so I then went to see him. He gave me advice on how he could help and I will be taking him up on that. The landlord should be receiving some letters soon. My father and brother went through the house with me to look for cameras and such. We found one seemingly disconnected camera in the garage that the landlord said was used for security purposes by the last tenant. We didn t find any cameras. Looking through my stuff I found a few intimate items missing that were still there before I left last night. I can t prove he took them. I didn t confront him about them. He came over while we were searching the house and asked what we were doing. My father told him to leave and the landlord threatened to call the police if my father and brother didn t leave. I told him fine and I would leave with them. As we were leaving I offered to pay three months rent right there if he would let me out of the other three months. He declined. Like I said I am staying with family I have all the stuff I should need for a bit and I don t plan on returning to that house until the issue is resolved. edit: (location) This is LA (Louisiana)

Your landlord can t call the police in your father and brother for being in your rental. I would have let him try and then complain your landlord is harassing you. He Can t come over whenever he feels like.

I personally think I would have called the police for him but in any case good job and good luck. Keep us updated.

27swf5

Update: Landlord said I can not have sex. Will call police [original post here](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27pfxl la_landlord_says_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call_the ) I thought I d do an update since there are some people still commenting on my post. I read the comments and I thank you for your advice and your worry about my safety. Your points were valid and I appreciate all the help you gave. I took the day off work to deal with the issue. Last night I packed some things and went to stay with some family until I can figure out what to do. I didn t tell him I was leaving but I will continue to pay rent of course until this is all sorted out. I met with him this morning in person (with my father and brother present) to discuss the issue and whether I could break the lease early. He declined. I asked him to no longer worry about my sexual activity and to not visit without notice. I had already found a lawyer that could meet with me that morning so I then went to see him. He gave me advice on how he could help and I will be taking him up on that. The landlord should be receiving some letters soon. My father and brother went through the house with me to look for cameras and such. We found one seemingly disconnected camera in the garage that the landlord said was used for security purposes by the last tenant. We didn t find any cameras. Looking through my stuff I found a few intimate items missing that were still there before I left last night. I can t prove he took them. I didn t confront him about them. He came over while we were searching the house and asked what we were doing. My father told him to leave and the landlord threatened to call the police if my father and brother didn t leave. I told him fine and I would leave with them. As we were leaving I offered to pay three months rent right there if he would let me out of the other three months. He declined. Like I said I am staying with family I have all the stuff I should need for a bit and I don t plan on returning to that house until the issue is resolved. edit: (location) This is LA (Louisiana)

Your landlord can t call the police in your father and brother for being in your rental. I would have let him try and then complain your landlord is harassing you. He Can t come over whenever he feels like.

Thanks for keeping us updated. I hope for your own safety and peace of mind your lawyer can negotiate a way out of that place ASAP. That guy sets off way too many alarms on my Creep-o-Meter.

27swf5

Update: Landlord said I can not have sex. Will call police [original post here](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27pfxl la_landlord_says_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call_the ) I thought I d do an update since there are some people still commenting on my post. I read the comments and I thank you for your advice and your worry about my safety. Your points were valid and I appreciate all the help you gave. I took the day off work to deal with the issue. Last night I packed some things and went to stay with some family until I can figure out what to do. I didn t tell him I was leaving but I will continue to pay rent of course until this is all sorted out. I met with him this morning in person (with my father and brother present) to discuss the issue and whether I could break the lease early. He declined. I asked him to no longer worry about my sexual activity and to not visit without notice. I had already found a lawyer that could meet with me that morning so I then went to see him. He gave me advice on how he could help and I will be taking him up on that. The landlord should be receiving some letters soon. My father and brother went through the house with me to look for cameras and such. We found one seemingly disconnected camera in the garage that the landlord said was used for security purposes by the last tenant. We didn t find any cameras. Looking through my stuff I found a few intimate items missing that were still there before I left last night. I can t prove he took them. I didn t confront him about them. He came over while we were searching the house and asked what we were doing. My father told him to leave and the landlord threatened to call the police if my father and brother didn t leave. I told him fine and I would leave with them. As we were leaving I offered to pay three months rent right there if he would let me out of the other three months. He declined. Like I said I am staying with family I have all the stuff I should need for a bit and I don t plan on returning to that house until the issue is resolved. edit: (location) This is LA (Louisiana)

Your landlord can t call the police in your father and brother for being in your rental. I would have let him try and then complain your landlord is harassing you. He Can t come over whenever he feels like.

someone no doubt suggested this in the original post but there s nothing stopping you from proactively going to the police. go down to the station and tell then you have a stalker and a persistent trespasser. tell them that you believe he s making unwarranted noise complaints. your posts are all police this and that but idk why you haven t just explained it to the police. after that you need to stop feeding this guy. quit answering the door when he comes to check on whose cars are there. just like with an ex if you give them nothing eventually they ll move on. LL status notwithstanding. if he s there to do LL stuff just avoid him.

27swf5

Update: Landlord said I can not have sex. Will call police [original post here](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 27pfxl la_landlord_says_i_can_not_have_sex_will_call_the ) I thought I d do an update since there are some people still commenting on my post. I read the comments and I thank you for your advice and your worry about my safety. Your points were valid and I appreciate all the help you gave. I took the day off work to deal with the issue. Last night I packed some things and went to stay with some family until I can figure out what to do. I didn t tell him I was leaving but I will continue to pay rent of course until this is all sorted out. I met with him this morning in person (with my father and brother present) to discuss the issue and whether I could break the lease early. He declined. I asked him to no longer worry about my sexual activity and to not visit without notice. I had already found a lawyer that could meet with me that morning so I then went to see him. He gave me advice on how he could help and I will be taking him up on that. The landlord should be receiving some letters soon. My father and brother went through the house with me to look for cameras and such. We found one seemingly disconnected camera in the garage that the landlord said was used for security purposes by the last tenant. We didn t find any cameras. Looking through my stuff I found a few intimate items missing that were still there before I left last night. I can t prove he took them. I didn t confront him about them. He came over while we were searching the house and asked what we were doing. My father told him to leave and the landlord threatened to call the police if my father and brother didn t leave. I told him fine and I would leave with them. As we were leaving I offered to pay three months rent right there if he would let me out of the other three months. He declined. Like I said I am staying with family I have all the stuff I should need for a bit and I don t plan on returning to that house until the issue is resolved. edit: (location) This is LA (Louisiana)

Your landlord can t call the police in your father and brother for being in your rental. I would have let him try and then complain your landlord is harassing you. He Can t come over whenever he feels like.

Ill say again. Contact [GNO Fair Housing](http: gnofairhousing.org) They deal with this stuff all the time. I can definitely seeing him logging your male visitors as a potential fair housing claim. Free attorneys who do this kind of housing work.

28b4z2

Neighbors kids stole my dog Recently I purchase a new puppy from an out of state breeder. He had a full check up and was in perfect health. I have his AKC papers and he s micro-chipped. My dog and I go outside everyday so he can run around the yard and do his business and I can work in the garden and relax outside. A few days ago I let my dog run around our yard by himself for about an hour. My niece showed me the kids posting photos of their new dog on facebook. IT S MY DOG. He s even still wearing the collar and has his pet ID tag with *MY* address. I went over to speak to the parents who REFUSE to return my dog since they don t want to disappoint their kids. That they already fell in love with it. The dad offered me $20 bucks for the dog. Not only is this far less than I paid for my dog ($2500) I don t want money. I want *my* dog back. If I call the police will they help me get my dog back? If not is there anything else I can do? I m pissed. They jumped my fence stole my dog and now they don t want to give him back!!! (TEXAS)

You might also mention to them that regardless of what *they think* the dog is worth its value is $2500 which makes the theft a felony in Texas and they could face a year or more in state prison in addition to significant fines. http: statelaws.findlaw.com texas-law texas-theft-larceny-laws.html

So wait when you talked to them they *admitted* that it was your dog and they had stolen it? If they are so brazen it might be worth talking to them about it again and recording the conversation.

28b4z2

Neighbors kids stole my dog Recently I purchase a new puppy from an out of state breeder. He had a full check up and was in perfect health. I have his AKC papers and he s micro-chipped. My dog and I go outside everyday so he can run around the yard and do his business and I can work in the garden and relax outside. A few days ago I let my dog run around our yard by himself for about an hour. My niece showed me the kids posting photos of their new dog on facebook. IT S MY DOG. He s even still wearing the collar and has his pet ID tag with *MY* address. I went over to speak to the parents who REFUSE to return my dog since they don t want to disappoint their kids. That they already fell in love with it. The dad offered me $20 bucks for the dog. Not only is this far less than I paid for my dog ($2500) I don t want money. I want *my* dog back. If I call the police will they help me get my dog back? If not is there anything else I can do? I m pissed. They jumped my fence stole my dog and now they don t want to give him back!!! (TEXAS)

You might also mention to them that regardless of what *they think* the dog is worth its value is $2500 which makes the theft a felony in Texas and they could face a year or more in state prison in addition to significant fines. http: statelaws.findlaw.com texas-law texas-theft-larceny-laws.html

There appears to be a step missing between I let my dog run around in our yard by himself for about an hour and the kids are posting photos. What happened inbetween?

28b4z2

Neighbors kids stole my dog Recently I purchase a new puppy from an out of state breeder. He had a full check up and was in perfect health. I have his AKC papers and he s micro-chipped. My dog and I go outside everyday so he can run around the yard and do his business and I can work in the garden and relax outside. A few days ago I let my dog run around our yard by himself for about an hour. My niece showed me the kids posting photos of their new dog on facebook. IT S MY DOG. He s even still wearing the collar and has his pet ID tag with *MY* address. I went over to speak to the parents who REFUSE to return my dog since they don t want to disappoint their kids. That they already fell in love with it. The dad offered me $20 bucks for the dog. Not only is this far less than I paid for my dog ($2500) I don t want money. I want *my* dog back. If I call the police will they help me get my dog back? If not is there anything else I can do? I m pissed. They jumped my fence stole my dog and now they don t want to give him back!!! (TEXAS)

You might also mention to them that regardless of what *they think* the dog is worth its value is $2500 which makes the theft a felony in Texas and they could face a year or more in state prison in addition to significant fines. http: statelaws.findlaw.com texas-law texas-theft-larceny-laws.html

How old are the kids? They could get in trouble for trespassing and stealing. Once you get your dog back put up trespassing signs and get a camera.

28by56

Update: Neighbor s kids stole my dog Here s what happened after I logged out: First I called my husband. He didn t want me to be alone when the police came in case our neighbors got out of hand. He said to wait for him to get home and we d go to the station. So I called my sister in law to ask her to print the screen shots from nieces facebook and gave her a quick run down of what was going to happen. She told niece. I was waiting for my husband to get home from work and printing out the contract I signed with the breeder got his AKC certificate photos of him ect. While I was doing this my niece posted a status about how I was going to the police station and that these kids were going to go to jail and she TAGGED the oldest kid in her status. (I already plan on thanking her but also explaining what things should and should not go on facebook. These are middle school aged kids with the youngest entering 5th grade and the oldest just finish 7th) I assume the kids went crying to their father who came over to my house screaming his lungs out. He said if I called the police he d press charges on my niece for slander and harassment. He claims the kids didn t steal the dog they wanted to share it with me. He also didn t believe dogs cost that much and that it looked like a regular poodle mix. (my dog is a bichon frise) I told him he needed to get off my property and return my dog or I would call the police and it would be felony theft. We argued for a while and he stormed off cussing. He brought my dog and practically threw him at me. So not much legal stuff happened. My dog is safe although they painted his nails which I m in the process of undoing. I plan on calling the police the second any of those brats cross on to my yard. For now I m just happy my dog is back and I m never letting him go outside unsupervised. **EDIT:** **Texas! Sorry Location Bot!**

You still need to call the police and file a report. I doubt this is the last issue you are going to have with your neighbor. It would be in yoir best interest to start the paper trail now.

I concur with u Lynn_L s assessment of your neighbor. Can I suggest no unsupervised yard time for your pooch from now on? Edit - ah I see you said that. Good call.

28by56

Update: Neighbor s kids stole my dog Here s what happened after I logged out: First I called my husband. He didn t want me to be alone when the police came in case our neighbors got out of hand. He said to wait for him to get home and we d go to the station. So I called my sister in law to ask her to print the screen shots from nieces facebook and gave her a quick run down of what was going to happen. She told niece. I was waiting for my husband to get home from work and printing out the contract I signed with the breeder got his AKC certificate photos of him ect. While I was doing this my niece posted a status about how I was going to the police station and that these kids were going to go to jail and she TAGGED the oldest kid in her status. (I already plan on thanking her but also explaining what things should and should not go on facebook. These are middle school aged kids with the youngest entering 5th grade and the oldest just finish 7th) I assume the kids went crying to their father who came over to my house screaming his lungs out. He said if I called the police he d press charges on my niece for slander and harassment. He claims the kids didn t steal the dog they wanted to share it with me. He also didn t believe dogs cost that much and that it looked like a regular poodle mix. (my dog is a bichon frise) I told him he needed to get off my property and return my dog or I would call the police and it would be felony theft. We argued for a while and he stormed off cussing. He brought my dog and practically threw him at me. So not much legal stuff happened. My dog is safe although they painted his nails which I m in the process of undoing. I plan on calling the police the second any of those brats cross on to my yard. For now I m just happy my dog is back and I m never letting him go outside unsupervised. **EDIT:** **Texas! Sorry Location Bot!**

You still need to call the police and file a report. I doubt this is the last issue you are going to have with your neighbor. It would be in yoir best interest to start the paper trail now.

Yeah never let your dog out alone again. Also make sure your house is good to the point that the average middle schooler can t break into it. Also mail your neighbors an advertisement to the local animal shelter.

28by56

Update: Neighbor s kids stole my dog Here s what happened after I logged out: First I called my husband. He didn t want me to be alone when the police came in case our neighbors got out of hand. He said to wait for him to get home and we d go to the station. So I called my sister in law to ask her to print the screen shots from nieces facebook and gave her a quick run down of what was going to happen. She told niece. I was waiting for my husband to get home from work and printing out the contract I signed with the breeder got his AKC certificate photos of him ect. While I was doing this my niece posted a status about how I was going to the police station and that these kids were going to go to jail and she TAGGED the oldest kid in her status. (I already plan on thanking her but also explaining what things should and should not go on facebook. These are middle school aged kids with the youngest entering 5th grade and the oldest just finish 7th) I assume the kids went crying to their father who came over to my house screaming his lungs out. He said if I called the police he d press charges on my niece for slander and harassment. He claims the kids didn t steal the dog they wanted to share it with me. He also didn t believe dogs cost that much and that it looked like a regular poodle mix. (my dog is a bichon frise) I told him he needed to get off my property and return my dog or I would call the police and it would be felony theft. We argued for a while and he stormed off cussing. He brought my dog and practically threw him at me. So not much legal stuff happened. My dog is safe although they painted his nails which I m in the process of undoing. I plan on calling the police the second any of those brats cross on to my yard. For now I m just happy my dog is back and I m never letting him go outside unsupervised. **EDIT:** **Texas! Sorry Location Bot!**

You still need to call the police and file a report. I doubt this is the last issue you are going to have with your neighbor. It would be in yoir best interest to start the paper trail now.

I m kinda mad that you didn t call the police on them but at least you got your dog back. Next time please don t hesitate to get those fuckers in trouble.

28by56

Update: Neighbor s kids stole my dog Here s what happened after I logged out: First I called my husband. He didn t want me to be alone when the police came in case our neighbors got out of hand. He said to wait for him to get home and we d go to the station. So I called my sister in law to ask her to print the screen shots from nieces facebook and gave her a quick run down of what was going to happen. She told niece. I was waiting for my husband to get home from work and printing out the contract I signed with the breeder got his AKC certificate photos of him ect. While I was doing this my niece posted a status about how I was going to the police station and that these kids were going to go to jail and she TAGGED the oldest kid in her status. (I already plan on thanking her but also explaining what things should and should not go on facebook. These are middle school aged kids with the youngest entering 5th grade and the oldest just finish 7th) I assume the kids went crying to their father who came over to my house screaming his lungs out. He said if I called the police he d press charges on my niece for slander and harassment. He claims the kids didn t steal the dog they wanted to share it with me. He also didn t believe dogs cost that much and that it looked like a regular poodle mix. (my dog is a bichon frise) I told him he needed to get off my property and return my dog or I would call the police and it would be felony theft. We argued for a while and he stormed off cussing. He brought my dog and practically threw him at me. So not much legal stuff happened. My dog is safe although they painted his nails which I m in the process of undoing. I plan on calling the police the second any of those brats cross on to my yard. For now I m just happy my dog is back and I m never letting him go outside unsupervised. **EDIT:** **Texas! Sorry Location Bot!**

You still need to call the police and file a report. I doubt this is the last issue you are going to have with your neighbor. It would be in yoir best interest to start the paper trail now.

Your neighbor is ridiculous... I can t believe some of the bullshit he told you. What an entitled asshole. Anyways glad you got your dog back!

28by56

Update: Neighbor s kids stole my dog Here s what happened after I logged out: First I called my husband. He didn t want me to be alone when the police came in case our neighbors got out of hand. He said to wait for him to get home and we d go to the station. So I called my sister in law to ask her to print the screen shots from nieces facebook and gave her a quick run down of what was going to happen. She told niece. I was waiting for my husband to get home from work and printing out the contract I signed with the breeder got his AKC certificate photos of him ect. While I was doing this my niece posted a status about how I was going to the police station and that these kids were going to go to jail and she TAGGED the oldest kid in her status. (I already plan on thanking her but also explaining what things should and should not go on facebook. These are middle school aged kids with the youngest entering 5th grade and the oldest just finish 7th) I assume the kids went crying to their father who came over to my house screaming his lungs out. He said if I called the police he d press charges on my niece for slander and harassment. He claims the kids didn t steal the dog they wanted to share it with me. He also didn t believe dogs cost that much and that it looked like a regular poodle mix. (my dog is a bichon frise) I told him he needed to get off my property and return my dog or I would call the police and it would be felony theft. We argued for a while and he stormed off cussing. He brought my dog and practically threw him at me. So not much legal stuff happened. My dog is safe although they painted his nails which I m in the process of undoing. I plan on calling the police the second any of those brats cross on to my yard. For now I m just happy my dog is back and I m never letting him go outside unsupervised. **EDIT:** **Texas! Sorry Location Bot!**

You still need to call the police and file a report. I doubt this is the last issue you are going to have with your neighbor. It would be in yoir best interest to start the paper trail now.

So glad this worked out and most importantly you handled this like a human... even when your neighbor didn t. A lot of people would not have handled it this way and ended up in jail tonight.... including myself... :) If you haven t already get him chipped with your info. You may also want to invest in a GPS chip collar. It s not foolproof but if your dog goes missing again you can iphone track the little bugger.

28d4ul

My abusive mother is threatening to sue me for visitation to my kids I live in Chicago Illinois how can I fight this? Please do not get judgmental and say things like You she let your mom see her grand kids because if that s all you have to say then don t waist your time. I was physically and psychologically abused my whole life by her until I was able to get away and out from under her thumb. I had a long struggle but I got married to a beautiful woman who helped me get over my past and grow up. I cut my mother out of my life because contact with her was unhealthy and I didn t want to dwell on all that anger all the time. I got a notice from her a little while ago that she s learned we have kids and wants to see them. She says she has a right to see them and is planning to sue us to have contact. I have told my kids that my mother mistreated me as a child and because of that they weren t going to be exposed to her. They have no ill effects from not seeing their grandmother to them she s just a stranger who isn t a part of their lives. I don t want my kids exposed to the kind of person she is. I refuse to allow her contact with my kids for the same reason I wouldn t allow a criminal or a drug addict to visit my kids. I ve told her this and promised that she d never see them but I m not sure that I can fight it legally. My wife and I don t have the money for a lawyer and there s no proof of the abuse I claim. What kind of options do I have?

First of all she is very likely blowing smoke. In Illinois she does not even have standing to sue much less win since your children are of an intact marriage. The only angle she has is to prove you are incompetent which is a severe uphill battle. This doesn t mean she can t sue. Her lawyer will try to push for arbitration or mediation (since he knows there is 0 chance of winning in court) they will sell the arbitration as a low or no cost alternative to resolve the dispute. REFUSE this. You are under zero obligation to even speak with her. If served you are going to need a lawyer the stakes are simply too high. The cost should be minimal since all you want the lawyer to do is to file for a dismissal based on lack of standing. edit: I m sorry this is happening to you. Going forward it is advisable to stop all communication with her as any communication you provide will be used against you. At this point she needs a golden email where you deny visitation. Simply refuse all contact don t answer the phone block social media etc. If she get harassing report her to the police.

According to this random lawyer blog she must meet two conditions. Does she? http: www.chatzkylaw.com blog visitation-rights-for-grandparents-are-still-evolving-in-illinois Is there any chance your mother has changed and would be a positive influence in the lives of your children? People do change sometimes. Not always but sometimes.

28d4ul

My abusive mother is threatening to sue me for visitation to my kids I live in Chicago Illinois how can I fight this? Please do not get judgmental and say things like You she let your mom see her grand kids because if that s all you have to say then don t waist your time. I was physically and psychologically abused my whole life by her until I was able to get away and out from under her thumb. I had a long struggle but I got married to a beautiful woman who helped me get over my past and grow up. I cut my mother out of my life because contact with her was unhealthy and I didn t want to dwell on all that anger all the time. I got a notice from her a little while ago that she s learned we have kids and wants to see them. She says she has a right to see them and is planning to sue us to have contact. I have told my kids that my mother mistreated me as a child and because of that they weren t going to be exposed to her. They have no ill effects from not seeing their grandmother to them she s just a stranger who isn t a part of their lives. I don t want my kids exposed to the kind of person she is. I refuse to allow her contact with my kids for the same reason I wouldn t allow a criminal or a drug addict to visit my kids. I ve told her this and promised that she d never see them but I m not sure that I can fight it legally. My wife and I don t have the money for a lawyer and there s no proof of the abuse I claim. What kind of options do I have?

First of all she is very likely blowing smoke. In Illinois she does not even have standing to sue much less win since your children are of an intact marriage. The only angle she has is to prove you are incompetent which is a severe uphill battle. This doesn t mean she can t sue. Her lawyer will try to push for arbitration or mediation (since he knows there is 0 chance of winning in court) they will sell the arbitration as a low or no cost alternative to resolve the dispute. REFUSE this. You are under zero obligation to even speak with her. If served you are going to need a lawyer the stakes are simply too high. The cost should be minimal since all you want the lawyer to do is to file for a dismissal based on lack of standing. edit: I m sorry this is happening to you. Going forward it is advisable to stop all communication with her as any communication you provide will be used against you. At this point she needs a golden email where you deny visitation. Simply refuse all contact don t answer the phone block social media etc. If she get harassing report her to the police.

Some general info on grandparent s rights: [Legal aid](http: www.illinoislegalaid.org index.cfm?fuseaction=home.dsp_content&amp contentID=2402) and [here](http: www.goldberglawoffice.com attorneys-at-law grandparent-visitation-in-illinois questions-and-answers ) Its in your favor that there is no established relationship with the grandparents right now. Seems like its on grandma to prove its in the child s best interest to see her so much that it should override your right to parent.

28oygx

[UPDATE] My abusive mother is threatening to sue me for visitation to my kids I live in Chicago Illinois how can I fight this? A few days ago I posted [this](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 28d4ul my_abusive_mother_is_threatening_to_sue_me_for ) and got tons of responses with great advice. I admit I was worked up emotionally and got into a little online argument with another redditor who was joking around. I d like to let everyone know what s happened and it s looking good. The next day I started to look around for a Lawyer I then remembered that last February I sat on a Jury for a criminal trial and after the trial the Judge and Lawyers for both sides came back to the Jury room to thank us. I remembered the defense attorney because he had a really unique name. I figured it wouldn t hurt to ask so I looked him up online and called his office. I spoke to his assistant and told her I sat on a Jury he worked and was looking for advice. I told her I didn t have much money but would have been grateful for some kind of help or advice. Fifteen minutes later he called me up he didn t remember me specifically but he remembered the trial. We found the Defendant not guilty so I was hoping he d be a little more open to me. He was pretty cool about it and when I explained he was sympathetic and told me he d take care of it with no charge. I almost fainted. I gave him the contact information for my moms Lawyer and he said he d give her a call. About forty-five minutes later he called me back and told me he talked with the other lawyer and let her know all communication was to be with him. He said they had no standing and if my mom really wanted to go to court he d have no problems getting it dismissed. We haven t heard anything back but he s assured me that there s nothing to worry about. I was humbled the way he took it on for nothing and his swift response. We ve all heard about how lawyers are jerks but the man I turned to for help really did restore some of my faith in humanity. He said it was more important to do right by people who needed help and was glad to be there for me.

All the attorneys I know got into it so they could help people. I know lawyers can get a bad rep of being money-hungry sharks so it always feels good to hear stories like this that show the truth. Congratulations. You took a chance for your kids and it paid off. Way to go!

That s fantastic I m so happy for you.

29ckzk

Every few months my mother files a Missing Person request with local Police knowing I want no relationship with her. Can I file something with the police to have this stop? Is this defamation of character? My mother originally disowned and disinherited me because she disagreed with my lifestyle. Although she still doesn t believe an apology is due and that homosexuality is a grave sin every few months she still files a Missing Person report with local police no matter where I move to even from another city another state etc. The Missing Person report results in someone identifying themselves as a Police Detectives visiting my friends former roommates and even where I work asking when the last they saw me and relaying a message my mother is worried about me resulting in them thinking I did some crime or are on drugs or dying. No matter how much I relay I want no communication with my mother it is only temporary until a new one is filed a few months later. What can I file to have police simply throw this request in the trash the next time it comes in? Are there civil actions such as defamation of character that I could pursue? Thank you. {Location: Somewhere in New York}

Civil Harassment Restraining Order Then provide it to the PD she is calling. They will pull it up every time she calls then blow her off. Sometimes gently sometimes not depending on the officer.

where does she file this report orignally? i m assuming your home town. then as u IrrationalBasis says let the police know about the pattern.

29ckzk

Every few months my mother files a Missing Person request with local Police knowing I want no relationship with her. Can I file something with the police to have this stop? Is this defamation of character? My mother originally disowned and disinherited me because she disagreed with my lifestyle. Although she still doesn t believe an apology is due and that homosexuality is a grave sin every few months she still files a Missing Person report with local police no matter where I move to even from another city another state etc. The Missing Person report results in someone identifying themselves as a Police Detectives visiting my friends former roommates and even where I work asking when the last they saw me and relaying a message my mother is worried about me resulting in them thinking I did some crime or are on drugs or dying. No matter how much I relay I want no communication with my mother it is only temporary until a new one is filed a few months later. What can I file to have police simply throw this request in the trash the next time it comes in? Are there civil actions such as defamation of character that I could pursue? Thank you. {Location: Somewhere in New York}

Civil Harassment Restraining Order Then provide it to the PD she is calling. They will pull it up every time she calls then blow her off. Sometimes gently sometimes not depending on the officer.

This is not defamation. Tell the police about this pattern.

29fsas

I slept with my DUI lawyer &amp he s holding it against me... I m in the US. Here s a quick rundown. I was pulled over on my birthday refusal to blow so was automatically arrested and was released 3 hours later. My friend now attorney is a DUI lawyer. I ve known him for about 6 years now. So automatically when I was in jail he was the first person I thought to call &amp figured he d take my case seriously. He has had a HUGE crush on me for several years and one night we ended up out drinking and caught a cab home and we had sex. Now he won t leave me alone. He texts me all the time about wanting to have sex again and I don t pursue it. He sends me pictures of his dick and lewd texts. I finally told him that it was inappropriate and that im not interested in going down that path. Let s just be professional friends (if that s a thing)? That really pissed him off and he s very mad at me. Now he s saying things like Remember who is handling your case - I can win or lose it for you. He s basically kind of threatening me to lose my case . I ve already paid him $4 000 for legal fees and I m on a budget. I can t really afford to pay another attorney. How do I go about addressing this issue. Should I just abandon ship and get a new lawyer? I really don t want the DUI on my record. What should I do? Background on my DUI case : I was pulled over for speeding. Had 3 beers over a two hour period and drove home. I have always been told if you re unsure don t blow. So I kind of fucked up and didn t. Had a full blown panic attack during the process so was visibly shaking and had a hard time taking the fst. I have a 6 year background of anxiety issues and I take 2 xanax a day. Was I drunk? No. Was in a state of panic the whole time? Yes.

Assuming you are in the US this is highly improper. Get a new lawyer and file a complaint with the state bar immediately. Save all the evidence like call logs and texts.

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29x6qm

In my divorce decree it says I will have reasonable and liberal phone access to my kids. My ex cancelled her home phone and I can only talk to the kids through her cell phone when she isn t using it. Is this allowed? Located in Georgia USA. Each party shall have reasonable and liberal telephone contact e-mail text or other contact with the minor children when they are in the care of the other party. Is what the decree says. Is it reasonable to expect some of the child support I pay (she house a weekly maid and lawn service. Not strapped for cash) to pay for a phone to allow them to call me and vice versa without going through her? I paid for cell phones but they were lost (3 of them at her house. She won t replace them.)

Keep a log of when you call. When they answer. Duration of calls. Dates etc. Look at it after a month and decide If you aren t getting the access you deserve. Then decide if you want to bring it to court or simply share it with your ex and try to resolve the situation.

The only place you can get a definitive answer is in court. If you think it s not reasonable and liberal take her to court and force her to give more access.

29x7wg

being forced to work on-call 24 7-365. * Working for Managed hosting company salaried (exempt) in Texas. * Job duties involve very niche &amp specialized support for computer servers and included after hours on-call support. (fairly standard setup) * This was a two person team when I was hired we rotated the 24 7 on-call ever week. * Other person leaves the company. * Company chooses not to hire replacement. * I m left being on-call 24x7 365 days y. * No pay raise. * The job duty &amp function is indispensable and requires a rare skill set. * management has stated that I must NOT be incapacitated while on-call meaning no recreational drugs or alcohol or even over the counter sleeping aids. * Used to have a fairly significant personal life that has until recently revolved around the two-week cycle. Specifically every odd week I would spontaneously go out and consume alcohol with friends or generally have a life.... maybe go out of town... far away from civilization etc. I ll try to be as succinct as possible here is the story and question near the end. Management is asking that I provide them with a written (signed) proposal of how I would like to adjust the on-call requirements. Basically how they would like me to formally accept working 100% on-call 24 7-365 in exchange for relaxing the rules a bit which means they recognize the challenges involved but it seems as if they want me to formally not have a life in exchange for... say reducing the on-call response time from 15 minutes to 4 hours. And that if I want to NOT be on-call I would need to inform them two weeks in advance. Mind you these are for after hours in my personal time. This seems a bit over the top and I m not reacting very well to this situation. After the co-worker left the company they said they would fill the position. So I agreed to cover the on-call 100% temporarily until the position was filled. I proceeded to solicit resumes from head-hunters and found a candidate that was acceptable after a lengthy and painful several weeks of interviewing several potential people for the job. Management interviewed my chosen candidate and for whatever reason decided they were not going to hire anybody. Not only did I waste a bunch of time interviewing people ( a crappy task to say the least) that I would now be 100% the sole job function and role including after hours. I really want to just tell them that NO Now that they have decided to not fill the position I m discontinuing the temporary coverage of the after-hours on-call phone. That I m sticking to the two-week cycle and every other week I will commit to NOT drink or otherwise not be incapacitated as I always have. Meaning that every odd week I will answer the on-call phone on a Best effort . But I might be incapacitated or I might go out of town or camping where there is no mobile reliability. So for them that should mean I m mostly available but it s essentially a game of roulette. (questions are right here) Does that seem too bold of me to assert my self interest that extremely? I honestly feel that they have taken a big gamble with choosing not to hire the second person on a two-person team and are unfairly asking me to accept &amp absorb the consequences of their business choices without any fair compensation. Regardless is there any legal dimension to this that I should be aware of? The fact that they want me to put something in writing (and signed) is the whole point of my seeking legal advice it feels like a contract and I don t want to agree to this contract. Mind you I m salaried exempt which to my understanding means I have to flexibly work 40 hours a week or maybe even 80 hours a week or even 20 hours a week... I get paid the same regardless. So I m not sure if They are being insensitive or I m being too aggressive at the risk of losing my job. I m not sure that even a pay raise would be acceptable unless it was ridiculously more pay like say 50% to 100%. Mind you I m not just doing twice the on-call I m now doing the work of two people for the normal business hours too but expected to maintain the same rate of work output at the same rate of pay. The reality however is that I m very good at what I do and have seemingly been able to maintain this level of work. I can see how it makes great business sense to attempt to exploit me this way and if I were them I would Thanks in advance for the advice.

If its a job that requires a rare skill set there s a good chance someone else is looking for an employee like you. I d start trying to find a new job.

Decide how far your willing to go. If it s really such a hard position to fill with indispensable skills they are more likely to be willing to work with you. If you re willing to walk they will either give you what you need to stay (hours pay or a combination of the two) or you can tell them to get bent.

2a8gak

Getting kicked out of friends house under what feels like unjust terms and just 4 days to do so. (TX) We have been been living with these homeowners for about 5 months. Sure we had disagreements as all roommates do but a week ago they leave to go on vacation and leave us (my fiancee and our brother) to watch their house while they re gone. Which we do. Along with feeding and caring for their dog along with our own. They return from vacation and inform us that July s rent is due. Which is fine same as every month sometime between the 1rst and 7th. However after we gave them the $800 dollars for the entire month 24 hours later (yesterday) they tell us they no longer feel comfortable with us living here and want us out. In 4 days. (Monday) they also told us they decided this almost a week ago but still had us pay in full with no indication as to getting kicked out until after rent was already collected.

After living there for such a prolonged time and paying rent you are a month-to-month tenant. That means you have a lease that is automatically renewed at the beginning of the month and lasts for that entire month. If your landlord doesn t want to renew the lease then they must give you 30 day notice that they will not renew the lease. If they don t give proper notice then the lease automatically renews. [Relevant Statute](http: www.statutes.legis.state.tx.us Docs PR htm PR.91.htm). Given the personal relationship you might offer to move out by their deadline if they refund *all* of your July rent and any security deposit in full. Otherwise you have the right to stay in the house until 30 days after they gave notice.

Any lease?

2a97fg

[Utah] I had an over the phone interview for a job which went great until they asked if I was Mormon. When I told them I wasn t they said they wouldn t hire me and asked for Mormon referrals with the same skills. Is that....legal? Salt Lake City Utah I work in the tech industry. I got a phone call today from a company looking to fill a position that would be great for me. After about 10 minutes of a phone interview the interviewer said everything looks great! By the way are you Mormon? I replied that I wasn t and he said Oh that s too bad we only want to work with Mormons. Do you have any coworkers with similar skills that are Mormon that you could refer? Now I m not looking to sue or force them to hire me or anything stupid like that. I griped about this on Facebook though and several friends told me that this is illegal and is something I should report . One of them linked me to the link below talking about religious discrimination: http: www.eeoc.gov policy docs qanda_religion.html Do I have some sort of duty to report this company? Is what they are doing actually illegal? Thanks! :)

Hi there. Mormon licensed in Utah here and it just so happens my relative is in charge of all of the church s business aspects. I m going to give you a general answer that might not be as specific to your facts as you want but I happen to know a little about the more general aspects of this. First generally a prospective employer is not allowed to ask you what your religion is. they certainly aren t supposed to deny you the job because of it. it happens all the time though. my wife was asked if she was mormon by a law firm looking to hire. she is but it still made her uncomfortable that they would ask. Second there are exceptions. for example if the company is a branch of the church which it could be but i m not saying it is or isn t they can discriminate. there is a famous supreme court case where the LDS church fired a janitor for not having a temple recommend (he wasn t even mormon). the supreme court unanimously held that this was acceptable. you can read about it here: http: www.oyez.org cases 1980-1989 1986 1986_86_179 it may be that like in the Amos case above the tech company was a subsidiary of the LDS church. if it was a normal private business what they did is wrong. you could write to HR and complain about it either way and let them know how it made you feel. That might help alleviate some of the negative feelings towards the experience. Lastly on a personal note I want to apologize either way. I know from personal experience that it feels awful to be excluded from something you are otherwise qualified to do based on something like this. it makes you feel labeled and judged based on a trait that has nothing to do with the quality of person or employee you are. nobody should feel that way and they obviously did not handle it well regardless of having a valid reason to discriminate or not.

What kind of company was this? A manufacturer? A church? Hospital?

2aijq7

Neighbor is dumping diapers in yards I live in Portland Oregon and have had an ongoing problem since I moved to the SE. My neighbor to the right of me passed away and his family has let the property become overgrown and have only shown up once since last summer to take care of the property. This isn t that bad but the neighbor down the street has been throwing her kids dirty diapers into their yard for about 6 months. We used to clean it up piles of diapers 20-30 at a time when we picked them up but now the yard has become do overgrown that I can t see them and we are sick of cleaning it up. The family with the vacant house live in the NE of portland and don t not really care. I caught the lady red-handed about 2 months ago and since then it has actually escalated and now I am finding them in my yard one was left on my doorstep and another was shoved in my mailbox. I have talked to the police but they don t seem to care. I could go and confront the lady and her boyfriend but they seem like hipster tweakers. The boyfriend has a huge neck tattoo which isn t intimidating it just makes me feel that it wouldn t be that smart to confront them. I have no clue as to what to do.

&gt ...and another was shoved in my mailbox. **BINGO** We have a winner! Tampering with mailboxes or obstructing mail delivery is a federal offense. Naughty naughty! Call the postal inspector in your area. They *are* interested. Postal inspectors are badass. Think mailman with a gun.

Post a no trespassing sign put up a game camera and *then* bring it to the police to enforce the trespassing. If they re still complacent take it to the news.

2aijq7

Neighbor is dumping diapers in yards I live in Portland Oregon and have had an ongoing problem since I moved to the SE. My neighbor to the right of me passed away and his family has let the property become overgrown and have only shown up once since last summer to take care of the property. This isn t that bad but the neighbor down the street has been throwing her kids dirty diapers into their yard for about 6 months. We used to clean it up piles of diapers 20-30 at a time when we picked them up but now the yard has become do overgrown that I can t see them and we are sick of cleaning it up. The family with the vacant house live in the NE of portland and don t not really care. I caught the lady red-handed about 2 months ago and since then it has actually escalated and now I am finding them in my yard one was left on my doorstep and another was shoved in my mailbox. I have talked to the police but they don t seem to care. I could go and confront the lady and her boyfriend but they seem like hipster tweakers. The boyfriend has a huge neck tattoo which isn t intimidating it just makes me feel that it wouldn t be that smart to confront them. I have no clue as to what to do.

&gt ...and another was shoved in my mailbox. **BINGO** We have a winner! Tampering with mailboxes or obstructing mail delivery is a federal offense. Naughty naughty! Call the postal inspector in your area. They *are* interested. Postal inspectors are badass. Think mailman with a gun.

Don t call the mom a skank whatever you do. Usually cities will write a ticket to the homeowner and if they don t cut the grass. Then they will cut it and send a bill. If you read r badcopnodonut long enough you will probably see a story about someone getting arrested for this.

2aijq7

Neighbor is dumping diapers in yards I live in Portland Oregon and have had an ongoing problem since I moved to the SE. My neighbor to the right of me passed away and his family has let the property become overgrown and have only shown up once since last summer to take care of the property. This isn t that bad but the neighbor down the street has been throwing her kids dirty diapers into their yard for about 6 months. We used to clean it up piles of diapers 20-30 at a time when we picked them up but now the yard has become do overgrown that I can t see them and we are sick of cleaning it up. The family with the vacant house live in the NE of portland and don t not really care. I caught the lady red-handed about 2 months ago and since then it has actually escalated and now I am finding them in my yard one was left on my doorstep and another was shoved in my mailbox. I have talked to the police but they don t seem to care. I could go and confront the lady and her boyfriend but they seem like hipster tweakers. The boyfriend has a huge neck tattoo which isn t intimidating it just makes me feel that it wouldn t be that smart to confront them. I have no clue as to what to do.

&gt ...and another was shoved in my mailbox. **BINGO** We have a winner! Tampering with mailboxes or obstructing mail delivery is a federal offense. Naughty naughty! Call the postal inspector in your area. They *are* interested. Postal inspectors are badass. Think mailman with a gun.

there s bound to be some law regarding improper disposal of human waste..

2aijq7

Neighbor is dumping diapers in yards I live in Portland Oregon and have had an ongoing problem since I moved to the SE. My neighbor to the right of me passed away and his family has let the property become overgrown and have only shown up once since last summer to take care of the property. This isn t that bad but the neighbor down the street has been throwing her kids dirty diapers into their yard for about 6 months. We used to clean it up piles of diapers 20-30 at a time when we picked them up but now the yard has become do overgrown that I can t see them and we are sick of cleaning it up. The family with the vacant house live in the NE of portland and don t not really care. I caught the lady red-handed about 2 months ago and since then it has actually escalated and now I am finding them in my yard one was left on my doorstep and another was shoved in my mailbox. I have talked to the police but they don t seem to care. I could go and confront the lady and her boyfriend but they seem like hipster tweakers. The boyfriend has a huge neck tattoo which isn t intimidating it just makes me feel that it wouldn t be that smart to confront them. I have no clue as to what to do.

&gt ...and another was shoved in my mailbox. **BINGO** We have a winner! Tampering with mailboxes or obstructing mail delivery is a federal offense. Naughty naughty! Call the postal inspector in your area. They *are* interested. Postal inspectors are badass. Think mailman with a gun.

&gt The boyfriend has a huge neck tattoo which isn t intimidating it just makes me feel that it wouldn t be that smart to confront them. So in other words the tattoo is intimidating.

2aijq7

Neighbor is dumping diapers in yards I live in Portland Oregon and have had an ongoing problem since I moved to the SE. My neighbor to the right of me passed away and his family has let the property become overgrown and have only shown up once since last summer to take care of the property. This isn t that bad but the neighbor down the street has been throwing her kids dirty diapers into their yard for about 6 months. We used to clean it up piles of diapers 20-30 at a time when we picked them up but now the yard has become do overgrown that I can t see them and we are sick of cleaning it up. The family with the vacant house live in the NE of portland and don t not really care. I caught the lady red-handed about 2 months ago and since then it has actually escalated and now I am finding them in my yard one was left on my doorstep and another was shoved in my mailbox. I have talked to the police but they don t seem to care. I could go and confront the lady and her boyfriend but they seem like hipster tweakers. The boyfriend has a huge neck tattoo which isn t intimidating it just makes me feel that it wouldn t be that smart to confront them. I have no clue as to what to do.

&gt ...and another was shoved in my mailbox. **BINGO** We have a winner! Tampering with mailboxes or obstructing mail delivery is a federal offense. Naughty naughty! Call the postal inspector in your area. They *are* interested. Postal inspectors are badass. Think mailman with a gun.

Call child services and tell them you know this isn t their department but if the parents are behaving this way it stands to reason there may be standards within the home that are detrimental to the child children that should be noted.

2aqej5

Landlord gives me eviction notices after collecting my rent checks (update) Seattle WA http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2ah6nb landlord_gives_me_eviction_notices_after So I found out that the apartment manager has utterly blacklisted me. She has already written my rental history with them as always late on rent and refuses to pay . To be clear if anyone does a basic background check on rental history this is going to come up. She is following through with the (very very unjust) eviction. The previous company that owns the building is frantic trying to help me and the people there have tried contacting my present apartment manager saying that my accounts are current. In fact I have records of their contact with her and records of her still insisting despite evidence that I haven t paid rent and am always late. She won t listen to them. She is insistent that my rent is always late and that I haven t paid this month s rent. My rent has never been late: It says in my lease agreement that I have until the 3rd to pay and I always do. I am current on my rent payments my bank statements and the receipts I have from the current company concur. She hasn t returned any calls or emails. I am panicking and haven t signed a new lease elsewhere yet (though I am turning in an application tomorrow and I will tell them what is going on). Please help me.

To: Apartment Manager My name is xx. I am currently a resident at xx where I have resided for xx months. For several months I have been receiving unwarranted eviction notices. Defamatory statements have also been made claiming I am always late on rent and refuse to pay. My rental agreement states that $xxx is to be paid by the 3rd of each month. All payments have been made on time and I have attached copies of all rental receipts. Additionally the previous rental company attempted to contact you on several occasions to confirm this. I request you cease with your false claims against me. If this conduct continues I will be forced to pursue legal actions against you. Sincerely Name (send certified receipts included and save a copy proof of mailing)

&gt To be clear if anyone does a basic background check on rental history this is going to come up. They would have to contact this landlord. There is (to my knowledge) no general database of renters . &gt She is following through with the (very very unjust) eviction. She can t evict you for failing to pay rent on time if you have paid rent on time. An eviction requires going before a Judge with evidence. &gt I am panicking and haven t signed a new lease elsewhere yet (though I am turning in an application tomorrow and I will tell them what is going on). Please help me. Do you have a lease that isn t up until some time in the future? If so don t break it unless you want to owe unpaid rent.

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I just won a scratcher for $500 a week for life but when I go collect my prize they give me a $10 gift card to Best Buy... Is this legal? I got [this](http: i.imgur.com Cz3eZZ7.jpg) in the mail from a local Nissan dealership. This was the conversation when I went in: Me: Hi I won the Scratch n Match! Salesman: Cool! What car did you want to buy today? *In hindsight I probably should ve named a random model but I didn t want to go through a whole sales pitch and it said no purchase necessary so fuck that.* Me: Oh I just want to collect my prize. Salesman: Ok let me check the back *Comes back with a $10 gift card* Me: Umm it says pretty clearly that I won 1 OF THE AMAZING PRIZES BELOW . Salesman: Oh no you just won the scratcher you only get the scratcher prize. Me: It doesn t say that... It says I win one of these four prizes. Salesman: Yeah but you need the symbol to match one of the prizes. It says so on the board over there. Me: *Look at board my symbol indicates that I won $500 a week for life* It says I won that prize! Salesman: Thinks Sorry we ran out. Yeah we had like 200 people in here yesterday. Me: Okay well thanks. *I realized that I was getting nowhere so I took the gift card and walked away.* Salesman 2: I can take that ad off your hands. Me: Nah I ll keep it. Thanks! Are people allowed to make these offers if they can t back them up? If you can t back it up shouldn t you include: 1. While supplies last 2. You have a chance to win... Couldn t anyone run an ad in the newspaper for a chance to win $1 million if you come to my store? Seems like a pretty great way to increase foot traffic. Edit 1: Just to clarify I didn t think I would actually win any of those prizes. I know that no business in their right mind would do this. I m wondering more about the legality of this type of marketing scheme. One could argue that there is deceptive advertising everywhere Red Bull Gives You Wings . But in Red Bull s case wings can be a metaphor for ambition and since it is logically impossible to sprout wings from drinking Red Bull fulfillment is unexpected. In the lottery case the business is claiming to offer a cash prize with *no purchase necessary* and with *no submission to sales presentation necessary*. Cash is tangible and fulfillment is possible. Let s say I offer a $50 in-store credit no strings attached. I would get increased foot traffic proportional to how much I was offering. Some leave once I tell them I ran out some buy something small all come with the expectation to get that credit. I gain visibility by disseminating a lie with marginal damage to my reputation but significant benefit to my name brand. Something doesn t feel right...

If you read the fine print you ll see that the prize wasn t $500 for life but rather a: &gt California Lottery Ticket. $500 Week for Life. Game. #800. Valued $1. Overall odds 1 in 4.50. Your $10 gift card is actually worth ten times the value of the prize you would ve got. If you feel that you were somehow deceived by the content of this marketing game then I suggest that you contact the [California Dept. of Consumer Affairs](http: www.dca.ca.gov about_dca contactus.shtml) to file a complaint.

They do. I get them in the mail all the time. You have to read the very fine print.

2bbvam

I just won a scratcher for $500 a week for life but when I go collect my prize they give me a $10 gift card to Best Buy... Is this legal? I got [this](http: i.imgur.com Cz3eZZ7.jpg) in the mail from a local Nissan dealership. This was the conversation when I went in: Me: Hi I won the Scratch n Match! Salesman: Cool! What car did you want to buy today? *In hindsight I probably should ve named a random model but I didn t want to go through a whole sales pitch and it said no purchase necessary so fuck that.* Me: Oh I just want to collect my prize. Salesman: Ok let me check the back *Comes back with a $10 gift card* Me: Umm it says pretty clearly that I won 1 OF THE AMAZING PRIZES BELOW . Salesman: Oh no you just won the scratcher you only get the scratcher prize. Me: It doesn t say that... It says I win one of these four prizes. Salesman: Yeah but you need the symbol to match one of the prizes. It says so on the board over there. Me: *Look at board my symbol indicates that I won $500 a week for life* It says I won that prize! Salesman: Thinks Sorry we ran out. Yeah we had like 200 people in here yesterday. Me: Okay well thanks. *I realized that I was getting nowhere so I took the gift card and walked away.* Salesman 2: I can take that ad off your hands. Me: Nah I ll keep it. Thanks! Are people allowed to make these offers if they can t back them up? If you can t back it up shouldn t you include: 1. While supplies last 2. You have a chance to win... Couldn t anyone run an ad in the newspaper for a chance to win $1 million if you come to my store? Seems like a pretty great way to increase foot traffic. Edit 1: Just to clarify I didn t think I would actually win any of those prizes. I know that no business in their right mind would do this. I m wondering more about the legality of this type of marketing scheme. One could argue that there is deceptive advertising everywhere Red Bull Gives You Wings . But in Red Bull s case wings can be a metaphor for ambition and since it is logically impossible to sprout wings from drinking Red Bull fulfillment is unexpected. In the lottery case the business is claiming to offer a cash prize with *no purchase necessary* and with *no submission to sales presentation necessary*. Cash is tangible and fulfillment is possible. Let s say I offer a $50 in-store credit no strings attached. I would get increased foot traffic proportional to how much I was offering. Some leave once I tell them I ran out some buy something small all come with the expectation to get that credit. I gain visibility by disseminating a lie with marginal damage to my reputation but significant benefit to my name brand. Something doesn t feel right...

Seems like a deceptive promotion to me. You might want to complain to your state s Attorney General s office.

(Full post quoted below for reference and archiving because OP deleted prior posts posing same question on other subs.) I m not convinced you actually won the Scratch n Match. To win you have to satisfy all the terms and conditions like the small print says. Have you confirmed that you satisfied all of them? &gt I got this in the mail from a local Nissan dealership. This was the conversation when I went in: Me: Hi I won the Scratch n Match! Salesman: Cool! What car did you want to buy today? In hindsight I probably should ve named a random model but I didn t want to go through a whole sales pitch and it said no purchase necessary so fuck that. Me: Oh I just want to collect my prize. Salesman: Ok let me check the back Comes back with a $10 gift card Me: Umm it says pretty clearly that I won 1 OF THE AMAZING PRIZES BELOW . Salesman: Oh no you just won the scratcher you only get the scratcher prize. Me: It doesn t say that... It says I win one of these four prizes. Salesman: Yeah but you need the symbol to match one of the prizes. It says so on the board over there. Me: Look at board my symbol indicates that I won $500 a week for life It says I won that prize! Salesman: Thinks Sorry we ran out. Yeah we had like 200 people in here yesterday. Me: Okay well thanks. I realized that I was getting nowhere so I took the gift card and walked away. Salesman 2: I can take that ad off your hands. Me: Nah I ll keep it. Thanks! Are people allowed to make these offers if they can t back them up? If you can t back it up shouldn t you include: While supplies last You have a chance to win... Couldn t anyone run an ad in the newspaper for a chance to win $1 million if you come to my store? Seems like a pretty great way to increase foot traffic.

2bbvam

I just won a scratcher for $500 a week for life but when I go collect my prize they give me a $10 gift card to Best Buy... Is this legal? I got [this](http: i.imgur.com Cz3eZZ7.jpg) in the mail from a local Nissan dealership. This was the conversation when I went in: Me: Hi I won the Scratch n Match! Salesman: Cool! What car did you want to buy today? *In hindsight I probably should ve named a random model but I didn t want to go through a whole sales pitch and it said no purchase necessary so fuck that.* Me: Oh I just want to collect my prize. Salesman: Ok let me check the back *Comes back with a $10 gift card* Me: Umm it says pretty clearly that I won 1 OF THE AMAZING PRIZES BELOW . Salesman: Oh no you just won the scratcher you only get the scratcher prize. Me: It doesn t say that... It says I win one of these four prizes. Salesman: Yeah but you need the symbol to match one of the prizes. It says so on the board over there. Me: *Look at board my symbol indicates that I won $500 a week for life* It says I won that prize! Salesman: Thinks Sorry we ran out. Yeah we had like 200 people in here yesterday. Me: Okay well thanks. *I realized that I was getting nowhere so I took the gift card and walked away.* Salesman 2: I can take that ad off your hands. Me: Nah I ll keep it. Thanks! Are people allowed to make these offers if they can t back them up? If you can t back it up shouldn t you include: 1. While supplies last 2. You have a chance to win... Couldn t anyone run an ad in the newspaper for a chance to win $1 million if you come to my store? Seems like a pretty great way to increase foot traffic. Edit 1: Just to clarify I didn t think I would actually win any of those prizes. I know that no business in their right mind would do this. I m wondering more about the legality of this type of marketing scheme. One could argue that there is deceptive advertising everywhere Red Bull Gives You Wings . But in Red Bull s case wings can be a metaphor for ambition and since it is logically impossible to sprout wings from drinking Red Bull fulfillment is unexpected. In the lottery case the business is claiming to offer a cash prize with *no purchase necessary* and with *no submission to sales presentation necessary*. Cash is tangible and fulfillment is possible. Let s say I offer a $50 in-store credit no strings attached. I would get increased foot traffic proportional to how much I was offering. Some leave once I tell them I ran out some buy something small all come with the expectation to get that credit. I gain visibility by disseminating a lie with marginal damage to my reputation but significant benefit to my name brand. Something doesn t feel right...

Seems like a deceptive promotion to me. You might want to complain to your state s Attorney General s office.

They do. I get them in the mail all the time. You have to read the very fine print.

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New house neighbor calls police over my vehicle parked on street 2 nights was written ticket and given tow notice. What do? I just moved into a new upscale neighborhood in Veneta Oregon USA. I parked my Volvo on the street (public street no neighborhood alliance) for a couple nights while I was getting unpacked. I woke up this morning to find a tow notice on my vehicle along with a citation for violating two municipal codes. One which prevents storing a vehicle for more than 30 days on a public road and one which prevents the storage of recreational vehicles in your front yard. This afternoon I approached the neighbor who called the Sheriff introduced myself apologizes for any hassle my vehicle may have caused and explained that the car wasn t abandoned - I m new on the block and was keeping it there while I unloaded unpacked. They gave zero fucks and explained that they assumed it was abandoned because of the shady neighbors . I stated it was nice to meet them and left never raising my voice or being rude to them. Gotta be neighborly no matter how much I wanted to shit on their front porch for fucking me. I now have to take time off work to go to court and deal with this citation. I ve never been to court before. Here are the municipal codes I was cited for violating : http: www.codepublishing.com OR veneta html Veneta10 Veneta1005.html#10.05.130 and http: www.codepublishing.com OR veneta html Veneta10 Veneta1005.html#10.05.110 Any advice would be greatly appreciated! My court date is in 3 weeks. Thank you in advance!

Congratulations your new neighbors just kindly informed you that they are crazy. Mind your P s and Q s they likely have the local PD on speed dial.

I ve lived in Oregon my entire life but where is Veneta Oregon?

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I m freaking the fuck out MIL and FIL put federal debt in SO name from 2006 (WHICH THEY FRADULENTLY RECEIVED) never told him and now we have to pay 70K?! I m literally shaking. (crossposted to r raisedbynarcissist too) SO Parents put him in their files for SSA claims they have submitted throughout the years. They have fradulently been taking checks from the SSA (two separate times once in 2006 and once in 2012). SO turn 18 in 2010. They received in total 70K in checks they weren t supposed to get because the father (who is disabled) had a job when he was collected the checks both times. The first time SO was a minor the second time he was a dependent but never at home because he went to college 5 hours away. They apparantly went to trail for the 2006 money never showed up never paid for it. They in 2010 filed SSA claims in my SO name and his dad s name without his permission and never told him about all the letters demanding for the money back and hid the case from him. We found out when we were filing for taxes this year and our tax return was seized. Now the SSA is saying we have to pay the 70K if his parents don t show up for trail again. The only way we can get them to take us off this case file is to have his parents petition for it which we know they won t do. What kind of lawyer do I get? What do we do in all of this? EDIT: I cleaned it up so it s an easier read and we are in NY while they are in MA. EDIT 2: My SO just came back home and also informed me someone impersonated him to pick up the checks too in regards to 2012. It s probably his father they have the same name (except my SO is Jr). He wrote down the wrong phone number though and wrote down his own phone number.

I guess you could file a police report for fraud? Your narrative is confusing and all over the place so I m basing this off of the 8 or 9 sentences I read.

That s a lot of text with few paragraph breaks. Can you TL DR it or break out the background from the actual issues?

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[Texas] I was so happy to have landed my dream job. Life was perfect until my background check came back with multiple felonies all of which are totally false. The company rescinded the employment offer. As the title says I was offered the exact job I wanted. I accepted the position immediately and even submitted my resignation at my current company. A couple days later HR at the new company calls me and says they are rescinding the offer because my background check failed. I asked her if I could call the background check company and find out what had happened because I do not have any criminal record. She said yes and that the report was done through [First Advantage](http: fadv.com ). I called First Advantage and the CSR listed several felonies on various dates on my report. This is all completely false. I have never been charged or arrested for a single thing in my life. I live such a quiet life -- mostly just staying home playing video games never bothering anyone. The person I talked to opened an official dispute for them to look into. I gave them my information physical description and emailed them a scan of my driver s license as they requested. I asked her how long it would take to resolve this and she said by law it has to be resolved within 30 days but that the average time is 20 days. I called the HR back and told them that I am doing everything I can to get this resolved and to please let the hiring manager know. I am freaking out because I have no idea how long the company will wait before filling the position. It is so frustrating to know that the future of my life could be derailed by such a random mistake that is not my fault. I found a news article about a woman this same thing happened to. &gt http: www.businessinsider.com this-woman-learned-the-hard-way-that-background-checks-may-contain-huge-errors-2011-12 &gt Out of work two years her unemployment benefits exhausted in danger of losing her apartment Casey applied for a job in the pharmacy of a Boston drugstore. She was offered $11 an hour. All she had to do was pass a background check. &gt It turned up a 14-count criminal indictment. Kathleen Casey had been charged with larceny in a scam against an elderly man and woman that involved forged checks and fake credit cards. &gt There was one technicality: The company that ran the background check First Advantage had the wrong woman. The rap sheet belonged to Kathleen A. Casey who lived in another town nearby and was 18 years younger. It should be noted I have a very common name like almost as common as John Smith or something like that. Several people I have told this to suggested contacting a lawyer. I do think that they will eventually clear my background check. I just am not sure if they will do it fast enough that I can still get the job. My main question is if they do clear my report within the 30 days required by law but I still lose out on this job because of this error then would it be worth contacting a lawyer? Is this something legally actionable against the background check company?

You asked if you have a case against the background check company. **Yes you most certainly do**--even if they fix the report in 30 days--*especially* if you end up losing the job. Source: I litigate FCRA cases. You have what we call a mixed file case. Your main claim under the FCRA would be for actual damages (e.g. lost future earnings) caused by First Advantage s negligent failure to maintain a reasonable procedure to ensure maximum possible accuracy of reported information under 15 USC 1681e(b). Depending on facts you may have additional claims against them. Can t know for sure without more. First Advantage is the largest background check company in the U.S. followed by HireRight and Sterling. They bought out LexisNexis who bought out ChoicePoint. I ve had multiple cases against them all. I m in California but I know a firm specializing in cases like yours in Texas. PM me separately if you want to pursue it.

Did you get the locations these felonies supposedly occurred in? Maybe you could contact the jurisdictions yourself...?

2ca42o

[Texas] I was so happy to have landed my dream job. Life was perfect until my background check came back with multiple felonies all of which are totally false. The company rescinded the employment offer. As the title says I was offered the exact job I wanted. I accepted the position immediately and even submitted my resignation at my current company. A couple days later HR at the new company calls me and says they are rescinding the offer because my background check failed. I asked her if I could call the background check company and find out what had happened because I do not have any criminal record. She said yes and that the report was done through [First Advantage](http: fadv.com ). I called First Advantage and the CSR listed several felonies on various dates on my report. This is all completely false. I have never been charged or arrested for a single thing in my life. I live such a quiet life -- mostly just staying home playing video games never bothering anyone. The person I talked to opened an official dispute for them to look into. I gave them my information physical description and emailed them a scan of my driver s license as they requested. I asked her how long it would take to resolve this and she said by law it has to be resolved within 30 days but that the average time is 20 days. I called the HR back and told them that I am doing everything I can to get this resolved and to please let the hiring manager know. I am freaking out because I have no idea how long the company will wait before filling the position. It is so frustrating to know that the future of my life could be derailed by such a random mistake that is not my fault. I found a news article about a woman this same thing happened to. &gt http: www.businessinsider.com this-woman-learned-the-hard-way-that-background-checks-may-contain-huge-errors-2011-12 &gt Out of work two years her unemployment benefits exhausted in danger of losing her apartment Casey applied for a job in the pharmacy of a Boston drugstore. She was offered $11 an hour. All she had to do was pass a background check. &gt It turned up a 14-count criminal indictment. Kathleen Casey had been charged with larceny in a scam against an elderly man and woman that involved forged checks and fake credit cards. &gt There was one technicality: The company that ran the background check First Advantage had the wrong woman. The rap sheet belonged to Kathleen A. Casey who lived in another town nearby and was 18 years younger. It should be noted I have a very common name like almost as common as John Smith or something like that. Several people I have told this to suggested contacting a lawyer. I do think that they will eventually clear my background check. I just am not sure if they will do it fast enough that I can still get the job. My main question is if they do clear my report within the 30 days required by law but I still lose out on this job because of this error then would it be worth contacting a lawyer? Is this something legally actionable against the background check company?

You asked if you have a case against the background check company. **Yes you most certainly do**--even if they fix the report in 30 days--*especially* if you end up losing the job. Source: I litigate FCRA cases. You have what we call a mixed file case. Your main claim under the FCRA would be for actual damages (e.g. lost future earnings) caused by First Advantage s negligent failure to maintain a reasonable procedure to ensure maximum possible accuracy of reported information under 15 USC 1681e(b). Depending on facts you may have additional claims against them. Can t know for sure without more. First Advantage is the largest background check company in the U.S. followed by HireRight and Sterling. They bought out LexisNexis who bought out ChoicePoint. I ve had multiple cases against them all. I m in California but I know a firm specializing in cases like yours in Texas. PM me separately if you want to pursue it.

If they correct the records within the time required by the law almost certainly not. They aren t the ones who created these records they just compile them. If they don t within the time required by law maybe. The best thing you can do right now is keep your potential employer in the loop that you are doing everything you can to clear this up. Hopefully they are reasonable and realize these things can happen.

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Breaking curfew may have to go go to court. GEORGIA Peachtree City. Last night my friends and I went to Walmart to go get pizza. On the way back the police pulled my friend( the driver) and four other passengers over(including me). He was in the wrong for breaking driving GA state law curfew but then they also said the passengers would have to go to court for breaking curfew as well. BUT the Peachtree city law page states that no one under the age of 17 may loiter . . . about any GA city streets. We are all 17 and I don t want to have to pay fines for a crime of witch the law isn t writing down. Did the passengers do anything wrong by riding with a driver who broke curfew?

If you re 17 you should be in the clear. Cite the law and provide documentation that you are at least 17 years old. Your real crime is getting pizza from Walmart. That should bring a life sentence.

Did you get a ticket? If so what violation is listed?

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Ex wife leaving the state(NY) W O me and our 2 kids and has remarried. What kind of support can I get? Wife bumped into her Ex boyfriend and decided that she can t live without him. I divorced my Wife in July. We went to a mediator and split visitation time 50 50. I would be their primary care giver with the kids staying in my house. There is no child spousal support because she doesn t make much and is going out on her own. Last week she married him. Her Ex has joined the military and will be in Illinois for the next year. She decided that she can t be apart from him and is moving out there to live with him so I will have the kids 100% for both time and money. Our divorce agreement worked for our situation because she watched the kids while I am at work and I got them at night when she worked. But now it is all on me. Question 1. How long after she is gone can I say she abandoned her intentions to care for the kids? Question 2. When she goes she says she will help financially but she may decide not to work and let his military salary and housing support her. If that happens is there any way I can make a claim towards his income? Question 3. Am I asking the right questions? I am going to be hurting financially now that she will be leaving and I will need child care to go to work. I hope to not have to take her to court over this but she is very selfish and may decide not to work because she will be working just to send money back to us.

1) You don t want a court to determine she has forfeited her parental rights because that might prevent you from obtaining child support. You can instead file a motion with the court to modify the child visitation custody order to grant you 100% custody. 2) No you cannot make a claim on his income. However you can file a motion for child support and have it based on the income she *could* earn if she chooses to work. This is called imputed income. If she refuses to work you can potentially collect on any assets she jointly owns (e.g. their bank account their house their cars) or file for contempt. 3) Yes. Your primary goal (after taking care of the kids getting your job etc.) should be to terminate her right to child visitation. That will protect you if she makes an allegation that **you** disobeyed the visitation order. Your secondary goal should be to get an order for child support.

How does someone do that to their kids??

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Kids played in my pepper plants parents want me to cut them down or be arrested. I am in Port Arthur Texas I have some ghost pepper plants on my ground floor balcony. Some kids from down the complex like to go around picking flowers off of plants. I have no problem with that. This weekend it seems that one of them decided to pick a ghost pepper from my plant (without my knowledge) and try to eat it. The mom is irate at me ordering me to chop down the plant or be arrested for child abuse. The landlord has no problem with my growing these peppers on my balcony. Do I have to comply with her are there any charges that could be filed and would stick?

Tell her to blow it out her ass and learn how to manage her children. This is your piece of the world. If your lease and the law permits it then grow whatever the fuck you want. The only argument she could make is that it is an attractive nuisance and in effect lured the kids irresistibly to their harm. That would be very hard to prove with this. Maybe she needs to be told that her failure to watch her kids could be child abuse and perhaps you should have CPS decide.

I doubt the police would take her complaint very seriously. Whether you want to remove the plants to avoid further problems with the neighbor is a different question.

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I broke ~$1 500 worth of dishes when I was working for a catering company. Do I have any obligation to pay them back? This takes place in Massachusetts. It was of course an accident. The owner of the company asked me to work off half the debt for no pay which I agreed to because it felt like the right thing to do. I have worked 4 shifts so far without giving my time card to payroll. I assumed the whole time that the practice was illegal but I felt like helping out because I made a mistake. I don t recall signing any contract that would make me responsible for any breakage that I cause. As far as I know all I signed when I started working there was a W-2 (or a W-4 I forget which one is which) and an I-9 form. I had worked on and off at the company for about 5 years and have seen many people break many dishes however apparently my breakage was the largest in the history of the company. I m pretty sure the dishes are insured but I can t confirm this as a fact. It has been 2 weeks since the last time I worked a shift there because I ve been busy and obviously I haven t exactly been excited to burn a weekend day working for free. Today the owner of the company sent me an email asking Just wondering what ever happened to taking responsibility and following thru. Not only do I think this is extremely rude because what the fuck it s summer and I don t want to spend my weekends working for free and also I was just there 2 Sundays ago. I also think it s ridiculous to be chiding me about not working illegally without pay according to the owner s schedule. I was really tempted to respond rudely and tell her she can t dictate when I come in and work illegally but I d like to have a little more assurance that she can t try and take legal action against me if I just quit the job and let her eat the rest of the $1500 mistake.

Stop working for free. Totally illegal. I would tell her it was an accident but you never should have worked a single hour for free. Breakage is a cost of doing business. If she wants to fire you or take you off the schedule she can do that. (file for unemployment if she does). Alternatively she can sue you. But don t work for free. Edit: File a wage claim for the days she didn t pay you if only to spite her.

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These girls in my town wont stop harassing me. What are my options? I will try and make this as short as possible. These two girls I went to school will not stop harassing me for money. First they will text and call from multiple numbers. If I ignore them they come to my house. Yesetrday they came to my house and demanded I give half my paycheck to them. If I didnt they threatened to blackmail me. Saying I raped them. I havent even touched them. Its getting out of control. What are my options?

Call the police to report the extortion attempt.

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Wife of co-worker trying to get a paternity test on my son? Edit: I m female and married to the father of my unborn baby. From what I understand a coworker and his wife are going through a divorce because he had an affair (not with me - the wife knows who). Tonight I received a text from his wife saying she has always believed something was going on between him (my coworker her husband) and I and I will be hearing from her attorney because she s getting a judge to order a paternity test on my son who is due next week she believes he is his. Does she actually have grounds for this? I am married and live in Ohio. Thanks in advance for the help...

Ignore her. Ignore it. Assuming your husband totally trusts you and believes you on this ignore the shit out of her. She has absolutely no right to do this. If you re really bothered and are still friends with her soon to be ex husband provide him with a copy of the letter. I m sure it will help his case. But frankly if you re due In a week it s not worth the effort. If your husband is having trust issues and you guys agree to have a paternity test do it between you two and keep it to you two. She has absolutely no way of getting those results.

This was really confusing until I realized OP was female.

2e02wq

I accidentally stole a motorcycle. How can I avoid getting in trouble? (X-Post from r Motorcycles) The guys over there told me to come here so I m just going to rewrite what I told them and hopefully someone can help me out I was working as a subcontractor. A couple of the guys from the roofing crew asked if I could possibly use my truck for them to pick up one of their bikes that had a blown starter. We got to this apartment complex and the guy who claimed it was his bike showed me a yamaha key (bike was newish R6) they loaded it into my truck and we dropped it off at a shop that was more like someone s garage. Come to find out that it wasn t this persons bike and they are drug addicts living in a halfway house. I promise I had no idea what I was doing. I am a very trusting person and was taken advantage of my kind nature. I obviously want these people to face charges and if possible the owner recover their bike but am ubsure how to do that without being an accesory to a crime. I was thinking of going the leasing office of the apartment complex and find out who the bike was registered to and go talk to them man to man and explain what happened and do what I can to fix it. Please if someone can guide me in the right direction. I am not a bad person NY only fault was trusting and I want to do what I can to make it right.

That s an excellent plan if your goal is to be charged with a felony. If you really want to help this guy you need an attorney to advise and represent you. Otherwise say nothing to anybody including the police. Hopefully the bike was insured.

You should consult with a criminal defense lawyer before doing anything.

2eltae

The Vet Killed My Dog Need Legal FL We brought our 8lbs chihuahua in for a bath and asked they do not remove the collar and or leash. She was bathed without both. Then while putting the collar back on her they dropped her and she took off for the easy accessible and unguarded open back delivery door. There was no gate or caged in section blocking off the back door any dog could of just trotted right out. She escaped they went looking for her for an hour. No one called us to let us know they wanted to keep it in house . They said they sent 10 people out to look for her but then admitted to only 3. Their whole time line didn t make any sense and frankly they didn t seem to care. She was found a couple of blocks away in the middle of a busy intersection she was hit by a car and passed away. They didn t even offer to replace my dog not like she was replaceable in the first place. They didn t handle the situation properly they were not kind about it when we arrived so we called the police. They kept giving us a hard time with giving us information and we are still without answers. Is there anyone with any advice or legal direction? We would like to take action against this Vet so that others don t have to go through the same thing. We are in South Florida and would love any help or leads we can get.

The vet didn t kill your dog. Your dog was killed because they we re negligent and an accident happened. You can sue for the value of the dog.

I m sorry about your furbaby :( This is going to sound like a totally insensitive question and I really don t want to ask it but I kinda need to (relevant but really ugly to ask - and for that I apologize....) Is there anything in the contract that talks about liability if the animal gets out of their control? (I can t believe I m asking this but I m going to....) Sometimes there is something in the contract that will be a hold harmless clause that says something like - even if you said that your furbaby was a runner they can do what they think is best and if she runs it s not their responsibility because they did what they could? (Oh good grief. I m so sorry OP. I don t mean to come off as heartless I m just thinking back to the contacts and service agreements I signed and I ve seen that clause on more than one occasion.) You can take them to small claims. You can post reviews giving facts (or opinions but don t muddle the two be very careful about wording) and.... you can never go back there again... Good grief.... I m sorry OP.

2eltae

The Vet Killed My Dog Need Legal FL We brought our 8lbs chihuahua in for a bath and asked they do not remove the collar and or leash. She was bathed without both. Then while putting the collar back on her they dropped her and she took off for the easy accessible and unguarded open back delivery door. There was no gate or caged in section blocking off the back door any dog could of just trotted right out. She escaped they went looking for her for an hour. No one called us to let us know they wanted to keep it in house . They said they sent 10 people out to look for her but then admitted to only 3. Their whole time line didn t make any sense and frankly they didn t seem to care. She was found a couple of blocks away in the middle of a busy intersection she was hit by a car and passed away. They didn t even offer to replace my dog not like she was replaceable in the first place. They didn t handle the situation properly they were not kind about it when we arrived so we called the police. They kept giving us a hard time with giving us information and we are still without answers. Is there anyone with any advice or legal direction? We would like to take action against this Vet so that others don t have to go through the same thing. We are in South Florida and would love any help or leads we can get.

Pets are considered property. You can sue them for the value of a dog the same age and breed as your former pet. I m sorry for your loss truly.

I m sorry about your furbaby :( This is going to sound like a totally insensitive question and I really don t want to ask it but I kinda need to (relevant but really ugly to ask - and for that I apologize....) Is there anything in the contract that talks about liability if the animal gets out of their control? (I can t believe I m asking this but I m going to....) Sometimes there is something in the contract that will be a hold harmless clause that says something like - even if you said that your furbaby was a runner they can do what they think is best and if she runs it s not their responsibility because they did what they could? (Oh good grief. I m so sorry OP. I don t mean to come off as heartless I m just thinking back to the contacts and service agreements I signed and I ve seen that clause on more than one occasion.) You can take them to small claims. You can post reviews giving facts (or opinions but don t muddle the two be very careful about wording) and.... you can never go back there again... Good grief.... I m sorry OP.

2es0wp

I attacked and broke a girl s phone at school and now she s says she ll sue me if I don t pay her $600 I m a 16 year old girl and I m usually quiet and just keep to myself. I don t have a lot of friends I hang around with and I ve been in a few conflicts but nothing like this. Basically there s this girl at school who has been a pain in my side since I started going there. Think the blonde chick from meangirls.. everyone loves her and her family is rich. In the past she s made me spill my lunch countless times by accident has been very physical and rough on me in gym class when we play sports like basketball has one time ripped up a favorite book of mine I kept in my class desk (but didn t admit it just smiled and looked at me when I discovered it one day) she s made fun of my clothing choices and the fact I don t wear makeup. She also starts lots of weird rumors about me (although I can t really prove it) that have included me being lesbian for her and her being weirded out by me and also has posted things about me on facebook that haven t happened she just makes them up (I m not her friend but her profile is public). I ll stop there but the list goes on an on. Yesterday at school I was using the bathroom between class. I heard someone come in and didn t think much of it. The next thing I know is that I see a phone over the top of my stall and I freak out. I started screaming What the fuck are you doing?! quickly did up my pants and she s just laughing her head off. I then proceeded to tackle her into the stall and wrestled for her phone. I gave her a few bruises and scratches on her arms during the struggle (she gave me some too) and I took her phone and smashed it on the floor as hard as I could. It shattered into a million little pieces and she started screaming how that was her brand new galaxy phone. She started crying and stormed out. I just went straight home to bed and told my mom I felt sick. I went online facebook today and found I have a ton of angry messages of her calling me all sorts of names how she told everyone at school how I attacked her because I was jealous she has a new boyfriend and that if I don t pay the full cost of her phone she ll take me to court. I stayed home sick again today (in reality I ve actually been throwing up just not out of sickness but fear) and I don t know what to do. I don t have $600 and I don t want to go back to school. I think I might tell my Mom but haven t yet since she s stressed all the time and often gets mad and makes judgements without getting it. Before I tell her though I want to know if she can really sue me? She wrote on facebook about how great her lawyer is and everything and that I should just pay up before I get my ass handed to me and end up paying for her legal fees too (Oh god massive stomach pains just thinking of this). Please help.... I don t know what to do.

Since you are under 18 and she was taking pictures of you in the restroom when you where using the bathroom she is guilty of a felony child porn . I would go to your principal and tell him what is going on along with your parents. The tables will be turned on her in a heartbeat here you did nothing wrong in this case.

As a mom to a kid your age please tell your Mom. Or another trusted adult. Both you and the other girl made mistakes. Hiding from the situation won t fix it.

2es0wp

I attacked and broke a girl s phone at school and now she s says she ll sue me if I don t pay her $600 I m a 16 year old girl and I m usually quiet and just keep to myself. I don t have a lot of friends I hang around with and I ve been in a few conflicts but nothing like this. Basically there s this girl at school who has been a pain in my side since I started going there. Think the blonde chick from meangirls.. everyone loves her and her family is rich. In the past she s made me spill my lunch countless times by accident has been very physical and rough on me in gym class when we play sports like basketball has one time ripped up a favorite book of mine I kept in my class desk (but didn t admit it just smiled and looked at me when I discovered it one day) she s made fun of my clothing choices and the fact I don t wear makeup. She also starts lots of weird rumors about me (although I can t really prove it) that have included me being lesbian for her and her being weirded out by me and also has posted things about me on facebook that haven t happened she just makes them up (I m not her friend but her profile is public). I ll stop there but the list goes on an on. Yesterday at school I was using the bathroom between class. I heard someone come in and didn t think much of it. The next thing I know is that I see a phone over the top of my stall and I freak out. I started screaming What the fuck are you doing?! quickly did up my pants and she s just laughing her head off. I then proceeded to tackle her into the stall and wrestled for her phone. I gave her a few bruises and scratches on her arms during the struggle (she gave me some too) and I took her phone and smashed it on the floor as hard as I could. It shattered into a million little pieces and she started screaming how that was her brand new galaxy phone. She started crying and stormed out. I just went straight home to bed and told my mom I felt sick. I went online facebook today and found I have a ton of angry messages of her calling me all sorts of names how she told everyone at school how I attacked her because I was jealous she has a new boyfriend and that if I don t pay the full cost of her phone she ll take me to court. I stayed home sick again today (in reality I ve actually been throwing up just not out of sickness but fear) and I don t know what to do. I don t have $600 and I don t want to go back to school. I think I might tell my Mom but haven t yet since she s stressed all the time and often gets mad and makes judgements without getting it. Before I tell her though I want to know if she can really sue me? She wrote on facebook about how great her lawyer is and everything and that I should just pay up before I get my ass handed to me and end up paying for her legal fees too (Oh god massive stomach pains just thinking of this). Please help.... I don t know what to do.

Since you are under 18 and she was taking pictures of you in the restroom when you where using the bathroom she is guilty of a felony child porn . I would go to your principal and tell him what is going on along with your parents. The tables will be turned on her in a heartbeat here you did nothing wrong in this case.

Good on you OP

2es0wp

I attacked and broke a girl s phone at school and now she s says she ll sue me if I don t pay her $600 I m a 16 year old girl and I m usually quiet and just keep to myself. I don t have a lot of friends I hang around with and I ve been in a few conflicts but nothing like this. Basically there s this girl at school who has been a pain in my side since I started going there. Think the blonde chick from meangirls.. everyone loves her and her family is rich. In the past she s made me spill my lunch countless times by accident has been very physical and rough on me in gym class when we play sports like basketball has one time ripped up a favorite book of mine I kept in my class desk (but didn t admit it just smiled and looked at me when I discovered it one day) she s made fun of my clothing choices and the fact I don t wear makeup. She also starts lots of weird rumors about me (although I can t really prove it) that have included me being lesbian for her and her being weirded out by me and also has posted things about me on facebook that haven t happened she just makes them up (I m not her friend but her profile is public). I ll stop there but the list goes on an on. Yesterday at school I was using the bathroom between class. I heard someone come in and didn t think much of it. The next thing I know is that I see a phone over the top of my stall and I freak out. I started screaming What the fuck are you doing?! quickly did up my pants and she s just laughing her head off. I then proceeded to tackle her into the stall and wrestled for her phone. I gave her a few bruises and scratches on her arms during the struggle (she gave me some too) and I took her phone and smashed it on the floor as hard as I could. It shattered into a million little pieces and she started screaming how that was her brand new galaxy phone. She started crying and stormed out. I just went straight home to bed and told my mom I felt sick. I went online facebook today and found I have a ton of angry messages of her calling me all sorts of names how she told everyone at school how I attacked her because I was jealous she has a new boyfriend and that if I don t pay the full cost of her phone she ll take me to court. I stayed home sick again today (in reality I ve actually been throwing up just not out of sickness but fear) and I don t know what to do. I don t have $600 and I don t want to go back to school. I think I might tell my Mom but haven t yet since she s stressed all the time and often gets mad and makes judgements without getting it. Before I tell her though I want to know if she can really sue me? She wrote on facebook about how great her lawyer is and everything and that I should just pay up before I get my ass handed to me and end up paying for her legal fees too (Oh god massive stomach pains just thinking of this). Please help.... I don t know what to do.

Since you are under 18 and she was taking pictures of you in the restroom when you where using the bathroom she is guilty of a felony child porn . I would go to your principal and tell him what is going on along with your parents. The tables will be turned on her in a heartbeat here you did nothing wrong in this case.

The cost of the phone is small enough where it would need to be litigated in small claims. Attorneys are not allowed in small claims court. She s bluffing to intimidate you. I d threaten to countersue her for all the food she s dropped off yours and any other damages even if it was an accident. You also have the defense of unclean hands. Her desire to photograph you while In the restroom is clearly illegal and May invalidate any attempts she has in obtaining a judgment against you. Also you re 16 even if she got a judgment against you would likely be difficult to collect on you add you likely have no assets or income. I d tell her that you dare her to sue you because not only would you countersue and you have a strong defense but you ll also file a police report on photographing someone in the restroom and child pornography against her. Her 600 should be negligible to get compared to such damming criminal charges.

2es0wp

I attacked and broke a girl s phone at school and now she s says she ll sue me if I don t pay her $600 I m a 16 year old girl and I m usually quiet and just keep to myself. I don t have a lot of friends I hang around with and I ve been in a few conflicts but nothing like this. Basically there s this girl at school who has been a pain in my side since I started going there. Think the blonde chick from meangirls.. everyone loves her and her family is rich. In the past she s made me spill my lunch countless times by accident has been very physical and rough on me in gym class when we play sports like basketball has one time ripped up a favorite book of mine I kept in my class desk (but didn t admit it just smiled and looked at me when I discovered it one day) she s made fun of my clothing choices and the fact I don t wear makeup. She also starts lots of weird rumors about me (although I can t really prove it) that have included me being lesbian for her and her being weirded out by me and also has posted things about me on facebook that haven t happened she just makes them up (I m not her friend but her profile is public). I ll stop there but the list goes on an on. Yesterday at school I was using the bathroom between class. I heard someone come in and didn t think much of it. The next thing I know is that I see a phone over the top of my stall and I freak out. I started screaming What the fuck are you doing?! quickly did up my pants and she s just laughing her head off. I then proceeded to tackle her into the stall and wrestled for her phone. I gave her a few bruises and scratches on her arms during the struggle (she gave me some too) and I took her phone and smashed it on the floor as hard as I could. It shattered into a million little pieces and she started screaming how that was her brand new galaxy phone. She started crying and stormed out. I just went straight home to bed and told my mom I felt sick. I went online facebook today and found I have a ton of angry messages of her calling me all sorts of names how she told everyone at school how I attacked her because I was jealous she has a new boyfriend and that if I don t pay the full cost of her phone she ll take me to court. I stayed home sick again today (in reality I ve actually been throwing up just not out of sickness but fear) and I don t know what to do. I don t have $600 and I don t want to go back to school. I think I might tell my Mom but haven t yet since she s stressed all the time and often gets mad and makes judgements without getting it. Before I tell her though I want to know if she can really sue me? She wrote on facebook about how great her lawyer is and everything and that I should just pay up before I get my ass handed to me and end up paying for her legal fees too (Oh god massive stomach pains just thinking of this). Please help.... I don t know what to do.

Since you are under 18 and she was taking pictures of you in the restroom when you where using the bathroom she is guilty of a felony child porn . I would go to your principal and tell him what is going on along with your parents. The tables will be turned on her in a heartbeat here you did nothing wrong in this case.

I m not a lawyer. But I suggest that you write down dates and times for everything you can remember all the other incidents and if there s anyone else who was witness to them. Try to see if your school has an anti-bullying program or policy or something. It would have been better if it was done right after but now is good. Take screen shots of anything on her facebook that pertains to you where she s making stuff up about you and such. Keep all this stuff in a file somewhere. Tell your mom and you may need a lawyer. I m not necessarily sure breaking the phone was a bad idea if she were to put naked images of you online you can never undo that but this is a practical not legal judgement legally you weren t supposed to break the phone. That said if you had somehow managed to prove she d taken such photos you probably could get her on child pornography stalking harassment charges that are pretty damn serious. In fact if the data card hasn t been destroyed it s possible you can still prove those things which are far more hardcore than whatever punishment for breaking a phone would be...

2es0wp

I attacked and broke a girl s phone at school and now she s says she ll sue me if I don t pay her $600 I m a 16 year old girl and I m usually quiet and just keep to myself. I don t have a lot of friends I hang around with and I ve been in a few conflicts but nothing like this. Basically there s this girl at school who has been a pain in my side since I started going there. Think the blonde chick from meangirls.. everyone loves her and her family is rich. In the past she s made me spill my lunch countless times by accident has been very physical and rough on me in gym class when we play sports like basketball has one time ripped up a favorite book of mine I kept in my class desk (but didn t admit it just smiled and looked at me when I discovered it one day) she s made fun of my clothing choices and the fact I don t wear makeup. She also starts lots of weird rumors about me (although I can t really prove it) that have included me being lesbian for her and her being weirded out by me and also has posted things about me on facebook that haven t happened she just makes them up (I m not her friend but her profile is public). I ll stop there but the list goes on an on. Yesterday at school I was using the bathroom between class. I heard someone come in and didn t think much of it. The next thing I know is that I see a phone over the top of my stall and I freak out. I started screaming What the fuck are you doing?! quickly did up my pants and she s just laughing her head off. I then proceeded to tackle her into the stall and wrestled for her phone. I gave her a few bruises and scratches on her arms during the struggle (she gave me some too) and I took her phone and smashed it on the floor as hard as I could. It shattered into a million little pieces and she started screaming how that was her brand new galaxy phone. She started crying and stormed out. I just went straight home to bed and told my mom I felt sick. I went online facebook today and found I have a ton of angry messages of her calling me all sorts of names how she told everyone at school how I attacked her because I was jealous she has a new boyfriend and that if I don t pay the full cost of her phone she ll take me to court. I stayed home sick again today (in reality I ve actually been throwing up just not out of sickness but fear) and I don t know what to do. I don t have $600 and I don t want to go back to school. I think I might tell my Mom but haven t yet since she s stressed all the time and often gets mad and makes judgements without getting it. Before I tell her though I want to know if she can really sue me? She wrote on facebook about how great her lawyer is and everything and that I should just pay up before I get my ass handed to me and end up paying for her legal fees too (Oh god massive stomach pains just thinking of this). Please help.... I don t know what to do.

Since you are under 18 and she was taking pictures of you in the restroom when you where using the bathroom she is guilty of a felony child porn . I would go to your principal and tell him what is going on along with your parents. The tables will be turned on her in a heartbeat here you did nothing wrong in this case.

The truth is she could take you to small claims court. You did break her phone even if she was using the phone in such a way that was completely unacceptable. I m afraid bullies sometimes do this: get you to a point where you take unacceptable actions so that you are to blame not the bully. It s crap. I would try to talk to your mother about this. Or do you have a school counselor you trust? I would not pay her for the phone however. I mean yes she could sue you but it s also going to quite embarrassing for her when you explain what caused this and while you might up paying for the phone you might not.

2ewya6

A cop has fallen attracted to my girlfriend and been taking advantage of his position to semi-stalk her So there was a domestic violence charge at my girlfriends house one night. Nothing too crazy just things got out of hand one night at home and the police were called. One of the responding officers from the very beginning was acting pretty unprofessionally and hit on my girlfriend asking her brother for details on her and even giving him a personal phone number to give to her. It went as far as him pretending like he was taking a video statement in a closed room with her when really he just asked what her deal was. There are now assigned detectives on her case so I thought it would be the last we heard of the officer but just yesterday he made an impromptu visit all on his own to just check up on them. He stumbled upon a violation (father is living at home which is a breach of bail conditions) so he told my gf she needed to come down to the station with her. Again only asking personal things How are u and your bf? what do you like to do for fun? He admitted he drives around her neighborhood hoping to bump into her. And shes afraid of being upfront and rude with him about his lack of professionalism because he s a cop. Cops don t normally get what they deserve. She said she gets the sense that the officers he responded with were wingmanning him that the detectives gave a smirk when they exited the interrogation room. Like they re all in on it. She did tell him that he was being unprofessional and that he got visibly upset and annoyed. He went out of his way to make threats on her father (the initial night) while he was in the holding cell. But shes still scared of what to say or do or NOT do. I told her she didn t need to let him in the house or go anywhere with him. To get his badge number and make note of his police division. Should she contact his supervisor? Or go past that and contact internal investigations? He makes her uneasy and he seems like he might get obsessive

OK I m a cop and this is creepy. First let me clear up any misconceptions you might have. Contrary to what the reddit hivemind might think upper management does not just blindly protect officers who display bad behavior. This guy is a creep and his behavior is a *huge potential liability* for the police department. Upper management will recognize this and unless you re living in a small podunk town where Officer Creepy and his uncle the Chief are the only two cops in town allegations like this will be taken very seriously by the command staff. Go down to his police station and ask to speak to the officer in charge (usually called a watch commander or shift commander or something along those lines.) She needs to calmly state what s going on without any drama. Just state the facts as they are and articulate the fact that this officer s behavior is making her uncomfortable. Do this as soon as possible.

Call the police department and ask to speak to the department that handles officer misconduct. Make a report to them.

2ez045

My hedges were cut down by neighboring property struggling to figure out what to do. [Oregon] This is in Oregon. I m mostly clear on the legal issues at stake but I would really like the insight from anyone who has seen the aftermath of similar cases. I apologize in advance for the length and thank anyone who reads it. My brothers and I own three houses in a row. We planted hedges along the outer property line and landscaped to create an event space in the back yards. We only hold maybe a dozen weddings events a year we all have other careers so this is a hobby of sorts and make a small income from. The land is CR zoned and we have never had a complaint about noise or other issues in the 7-8 years we have been doing it. A couple years ago the apartment complex that we share a property line with converted to condos. The new HOA asked us to cut our back hedge shorter to provide them with a better view of downtown. We politely refused. The treasurer of the HOA persisted in hassling us about it until we had enough. We had an attorney friend of mine recheck the zoning codes property lines and sent a certified letter telling them to stop contacting us citing the codes showing we are doing nothing wrong. The treasurer responded by hiring day laborers to cut the hedge down. He didn t get official approval from the rest of the board he acted on his own. However he did use HOA funds to do it. The police took a report and cited him but told us that we would need to sue for the damages ourselves. I believe I understand what the law allows for (thanks to r legaladvice being part of my morning coffee routine!) and we do have an attorney as this is outside small claims. This is what I am struggling with: *fairly* calculating damages. We are furious about it but do not intend to attempt to gain anything or punish anyone but really want things to be put right again. We had a landscape architect come give us an estimate. The trees have to be replaced they won t grow back. His estimate to make things back to how they were is a little over $200 000. This is for the trees lighting that was broken and an area of perennials that was destroyed. But - we bought the hedge trees and planted them ourselves 15 years ago for maybe $10 000. We did almost all of the landscaping ourselves buying plants here and there over the years. I have idea how much they cost. A few thousand dollars probably in the destroyed perennials I replant the annuals every spring anyway so didn t have him include those. Since events are really a side project part time job we make less than $15-20 000 a year or so from them (we all have much higher laying careers and don t *rely* on the money but we do use it for a yearly family vacation. It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. My fears are that the condo owners will each end up having to pay something out of pocket. Even the treasurer who I am beyond furious with has a wife and small children who would suffer if he is the one charged with paying restitution. I m worried the people he hired to do the cutting would be found liable as well and lose everything they have. I have considered the fact the HOA likely has insurance that would cover liability but I am considering who they would go after to recover that. The HOA has refused to return calls so the attorney can t get their insurance info. I am sure I am overthinking things but I lose sleep over this. I just want to do the *right* thing. The attorney urges us to file for everything possible even lost income for not being able to use the event space while being repaired labor to replant the crushed gardens everything. My brothers aren t sure what to do and asked me to make the final decision. I *almost* decide to just ask for a smaller amount get new less expensive trees stop having events for a few years and spend that time gardening to build a new space while the hedges grow again. But then I feel like I am cheating my brothers and myself out of what we are entitled to or I get angry and upset because I really just *liked* how things were and what we did. I love the time I spend with my brothers and am really proud of what we built together. Then I get anxious and angry that I am even in this position to begin with. I know emotions shouldn t play into it but I can t seem to extract one from the other. I *really* don t want to be an entitled bitch but I don t want to be a chump by going too far to be sympathetic. Does anyone have any insight to offer as to the probable consequences for everyone else affected? Please tell me if I am being ridiculous in either direction. I have never felt more confused about anything. Again thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I tried to be concise and will answer any questions you have. I appreciate any thoughts you might have.

&gt It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. I don t see it this way at all. Money has value over time and labor also has value. Your neighboring HOA destroyed a mature large hedge cultivated into a desirable form not the newly planted trees. Think about it this way-- if I went to the Louvre and burned the Mona Lisa they wouldn t just charge me with destroying a piece of canvas and some paints. Were you around when they were cutting the hedge? You should have called the police for trespassing.

Does the HOA have an insurance company that covers liability? You can probably settle this with them fairly easily. You might want to get two more estimates on replacing the hedges. $200k for replacing some hedges seems to be a little bit too much. YMMV. IMHO.

2ez045

My hedges were cut down by neighboring property struggling to figure out what to do. [Oregon] This is in Oregon. I m mostly clear on the legal issues at stake but I would really like the insight from anyone who has seen the aftermath of similar cases. I apologize in advance for the length and thank anyone who reads it. My brothers and I own three houses in a row. We planted hedges along the outer property line and landscaped to create an event space in the back yards. We only hold maybe a dozen weddings events a year we all have other careers so this is a hobby of sorts and make a small income from. The land is CR zoned and we have never had a complaint about noise or other issues in the 7-8 years we have been doing it. A couple years ago the apartment complex that we share a property line with converted to condos. The new HOA asked us to cut our back hedge shorter to provide them with a better view of downtown. We politely refused. The treasurer of the HOA persisted in hassling us about it until we had enough. We had an attorney friend of mine recheck the zoning codes property lines and sent a certified letter telling them to stop contacting us citing the codes showing we are doing nothing wrong. The treasurer responded by hiring day laborers to cut the hedge down. He didn t get official approval from the rest of the board he acted on his own. However he did use HOA funds to do it. The police took a report and cited him but told us that we would need to sue for the damages ourselves. I believe I understand what the law allows for (thanks to r legaladvice being part of my morning coffee routine!) and we do have an attorney as this is outside small claims. This is what I am struggling with: *fairly* calculating damages. We are furious about it but do not intend to attempt to gain anything or punish anyone but really want things to be put right again. We had a landscape architect come give us an estimate. The trees have to be replaced they won t grow back. His estimate to make things back to how they were is a little over $200 000. This is for the trees lighting that was broken and an area of perennials that was destroyed. But - we bought the hedge trees and planted them ourselves 15 years ago for maybe $10 000. We did almost all of the landscaping ourselves buying plants here and there over the years. I have idea how much they cost. A few thousand dollars probably in the destroyed perennials I replant the annuals every spring anyway so didn t have him include those. Since events are really a side project part time job we make less than $15-20 000 a year or so from them (we all have much higher laying careers and don t *rely* on the money but we do use it for a yearly family vacation. It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. My fears are that the condo owners will each end up having to pay something out of pocket. Even the treasurer who I am beyond furious with has a wife and small children who would suffer if he is the one charged with paying restitution. I m worried the people he hired to do the cutting would be found liable as well and lose everything they have. I have considered the fact the HOA likely has insurance that would cover liability but I am considering who they would go after to recover that. The HOA has refused to return calls so the attorney can t get their insurance info. I am sure I am overthinking things but I lose sleep over this. I just want to do the *right* thing. The attorney urges us to file for everything possible even lost income for not being able to use the event space while being repaired labor to replant the crushed gardens everything. My brothers aren t sure what to do and asked me to make the final decision. I *almost* decide to just ask for a smaller amount get new less expensive trees stop having events for a few years and spend that time gardening to build a new space while the hedges grow again. But then I feel like I am cheating my brothers and myself out of what we are entitled to or I get angry and upset because I really just *liked* how things were and what we did. I love the time I spend with my brothers and am really proud of what we built together. Then I get anxious and angry that I am even in this position to begin with. I know emotions shouldn t play into it but I can t seem to extract one from the other. I *really* don t want to be an entitled bitch but I don t want to be a chump by going too far to be sympathetic. Does anyone have any insight to offer as to the probable consequences for everyone else affected? Please tell me if I am being ridiculous in either direction. I have never felt more confused about anything. Again thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I tried to be concise and will answer any questions you have. I appreciate any thoughts you might have.

&gt It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. I don t see it this way at all. Money has value over time and labor also has value. Your neighboring HOA destroyed a mature large hedge cultivated into a desirable form not the newly planted trees. Think about it this way-- if I went to the Louvre and burned the Mona Lisa they wouldn t just charge me with destroying a piece of canvas and some paints. Were you around when they were cutting the hedge? You should have called the police for trespassing.

I m not a lawyer but wouldn t this case be eligible for treble damages due to the defendant cutting down these trees? http: www.oregonlaws.org ors 105.810

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My hedges were cut down by neighboring property struggling to figure out what to do. [Oregon] This is in Oregon. I m mostly clear on the legal issues at stake but I would really like the insight from anyone who has seen the aftermath of similar cases. I apologize in advance for the length and thank anyone who reads it. My brothers and I own three houses in a row. We planted hedges along the outer property line and landscaped to create an event space in the back yards. We only hold maybe a dozen weddings events a year we all have other careers so this is a hobby of sorts and make a small income from. The land is CR zoned and we have never had a complaint about noise or other issues in the 7-8 years we have been doing it. A couple years ago the apartment complex that we share a property line with converted to condos. The new HOA asked us to cut our back hedge shorter to provide them with a better view of downtown. We politely refused. The treasurer of the HOA persisted in hassling us about it until we had enough. We had an attorney friend of mine recheck the zoning codes property lines and sent a certified letter telling them to stop contacting us citing the codes showing we are doing nothing wrong. The treasurer responded by hiring day laborers to cut the hedge down. He didn t get official approval from the rest of the board he acted on his own. However he did use HOA funds to do it. The police took a report and cited him but told us that we would need to sue for the damages ourselves. I believe I understand what the law allows for (thanks to r legaladvice being part of my morning coffee routine!) and we do have an attorney as this is outside small claims. This is what I am struggling with: *fairly* calculating damages. We are furious about it but do not intend to attempt to gain anything or punish anyone but really want things to be put right again. We had a landscape architect come give us an estimate. The trees have to be replaced they won t grow back. His estimate to make things back to how they were is a little over $200 000. This is for the trees lighting that was broken and an area of perennials that was destroyed. But - we bought the hedge trees and planted them ourselves 15 years ago for maybe $10 000. We did almost all of the landscaping ourselves buying plants here and there over the years. I have idea how much they cost. A few thousand dollars probably in the destroyed perennials I replant the annuals every spring anyway so didn t have him include those. Since events are really a side project part time job we make less than $15-20 000 a year or so from them (we all have much higher laying careers and don t *rely* on the money but we do use it for a yearly family vacation. It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. My fears are that the condo owners will each end up having to pay something out of pocket. Even the treasurer who I am beyond furious with has a wife and small children who would suffer if he is the one charged with paying restitution. I m worried the people he hired to do the cutting would be found liable as well and lose everything they have. I have considered the fact the HOA likely has insurance that would cover liability but I am considering who they would go after to recover that. The HOA has refused to return calls so the attorney can t get their insurance info. I am sure I am overthinking things but I lose sleep over this. I just want to do the *right* thing. The attorney urges us to file for everything possible even lost income for not being able to use the event space while being repaired labor to replant the crushed gardens everything. My brothers aren t sure what to do and asked me to make the final decision. I *almost* decide to just ask for a smaller amount get new less expensive trees stop having events for a few years and spend that time gardening to build a new space while the hedges grow again. But then I feel like I am cheating my brothers and myself out of what we are entitled to or I get angry and upset because I really just *liked* how things were and what we did. I love the time I spend with my brothers and am really proud of what we built together. Then I get anxious and angry that I am even in this position to begin with. I know emotions shouldn t play into it but I can t seem to extract one from the other. I *really* don t want to be an entitled bitch but I don t want to be a chump by going too far to be sympathetic. Does anyone have any insight to offer as to the probable consequences for everyone else affected? Please tell me if I am being ridiculous in either direction. I have never felt more confused about anything. Again thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I tried to be concise and will answer any questions you have. I appreciate any thoughts you might have.

He didn t stand around wringing his hands wondering if he was making the right decision to cut down your amazing trees. You shouldn t be wringing your hands about what to do about it. Sue his ass.

Does the HOA have an insurance company that covers liability? You can probably settle this with them fairly easily. You might want to get two more estimates on replacing the hedges. $200k for replacing some hedges seems to be a little bit too much. YMMV. IMHO.

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My hedges were cut down by neighboring property struggling to figure out what to do. [Oregon] This is in Oregon. I m mostly clear on the legal issues at stake but I would really like the insight from anyone who has seen the aftermath of similar cases. I apologize in advance for the length and thank anyone who reads it. My brothers and I own three houses in a row. We planted hedges along the outer property line and landscaped to create an event space in the back yards. We only hold maybe a dozen weddings events a year we all have other careers so this is a hobby of sorts and make a small income from. The land is CR zoned and we have never had a complaint about noise or other issues in the 7-8 years we have been doing it. A couple years ago the apartment complex that we share a property line with converted to condos. The new HOA asked us to cut our back hedge shorter to provide them with a better view of downtown. We politely refused. The treasurer of the HOA persisted in hassling us about it until we had enough. We had an attorney friend of mine recheck the zoning codes property lines and sent a certified letter telling them to stop contacting us citing the codes showing we are doing nothing wrong. The treasurer responded by hiring day laborers to cut the hedge down. He didn t get official approval from the rest of the board he acted on his own. However he did use HOA funds to do it. The police took a report and cited him but told us that we would need to sue for the damages ourselves. I believe I understand what the law allows for (thanks to r legaladvice being part of my morning coffee routine!) and we do have an attorney as this is outside small claims. This is what I am struggling with: *fairly* calculating damages. We are furious about it but do not intend to attempt to gain anything or punish anyone but really want things to be put right again. We had a landscape architect come give us an estimate. The trees have to be replaced they won t grow back. His estimate to make things back to how they were is a little over $200 000. This is for the trees lighting that was broken and an area of perennials that was destroyed. But - we bought the hedge trees and planted them ourselves 15 years ago for maybe $10 000. We did almost all of the landscaping ourselves buying plants here and there over the years. I have idea how much they cost. A few thousand dollars probably in the destroyed perennials I replant the annuals every spring anyway so didn t have him include those. Since events are really a side project part time job we make less than $15-20 000 a year or so from them (we all have much higher laying careers and don t *rely* on the money but we do use it for a yearly family vacation. It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. My fears are that the condo owners will each end up having to pay something out of pocket. Even the treasurer who I am beyond furious with has a wife and small children who would suffer if he is the one charged with paying restitution. I m worried the people he hired to do the cutting would be found liable as well and lose everything they have. I have considered the fact the HOA likely has insurance that would cover liability but I am considering who they would go after to recover that. The HOA has refused to return calls so the attorney can t get their insurance info. I am sure I am overthinking things but I lose sleep over this. I just want to do the *right* thing. The attorney urges us to file for everything possible even lost income for not being able to use the event space while being repaired labor to replant the crushed gardens everything. My brothers aren t sure what to do and asked me to make the final decision. I *almost* decide to just ask for a smaller amount get new less expensive trees stop having events for a few years and spend that time gardening to build a new space while the hedges grow again. But then I feel like I am cheating my brothers and myself out of what we are entitled to or I get angry and upset because I really just *liked* how things were and what we did. I love the time I spend with my brothers and am really proud of what we built together. Then I get anxious and angry that I am even in this position to begin with. I know emotions shouldn t play into it but I can t seem to extract one from the other. I *really* don t want to be an entitled bitch but I don t want to be a chump by going too far to be sympathetic. Does anyone have any insight to offer as to the probable consequences for everyone else affected? Please tell me if I am being ridiculous in either direction. I have never felt more confused about anything. Again thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I tried to be concise and will answer any questions you have. I appreciate any thoughts you might have.

OP rather than pile on the unanimous sentiment expressed here already let me be the first to commend you for being a downright good person. Unlike so many other assholes who post here looking for a loophole to get out of something they know they did wrong you were clearly harmed (a great deal!) through no fault of your own and are still only concerned about other people not yourself. I wish all my neighbors were like you. That kind of altruism is very very rare these days. Please tell your parents than some random internet stranger thinks they did a wonderful job raising their kids. Now go forth and litigate young man.

Does the HOA have an insurance company that covers liability? You can probably settle this with them fairly easily. You might want to get two more estimates on replacing the hedges. $200k for replacing some hedges seems to be a little bit too much. YMMV. IMHO.

2ez045

My hedges were cut down by neighboring property struggling to figure out what to do. [Oregon] This is in Oregon. I m mostly clear on the legal issues at stake but I would really like the insight from anyone who has seen the aftermath of similar cases. I apologize in advance for the length and thank anyone who reads it. My brothers and I own three houses in a row. We planted hedges along the outer property line and landscaped to create an event space in the back yards. We only hold maybe a dozen weddings events a year we all have other careers so this is a hobby of sorts and make a small income from. The land is CR zoned and we have never had a complaint about noise or other issues in the 7-8 years we have been doing it. A couple years ago the apartment complex that we share a property line with converted to condos. The new HOA asked us to cut our back hedge shorter to provide them with a better view of downtown. We politely refused. The treasurer of the HOA persisted in hassling us about it until we had enough. We had an attorney friend of mine recheck the zoning codes property lines and sent a certified letter telling them to stop contacting us citing the codes showing we are doing nothing wrong. The treasurer responded by hiring day laborers to cut the hedge down. He didn t get official approval from the rest of the board he acted on his own. However he did use HOA funds to do it. The police took a report and cited him but told us that we would need to sue for the damages ourselves. I believe I understand what the law allows for (thanks to r legaladvice being part of my morning coffee routine!) and we do have an attorney as this is outside small claims. This is what I am struggling with: *fairly* calculating damages. We are furious about it but do not intend to attempt to gain anything or punish anyone but really want things to be put right again. We had a landscape architect come give us an estimate. The trees have to be replaced they won t grow back. His estimate to make things back to how they were is a little over $200 000. This is for the trees lighting that was broken and an area of perennials that was destroyed. But - we bought the hedge trees and planted them ourselves 15 years ago for maybe $10 000. We did almost all of the landscaping ourselves buying plants here and there over the years. I have idea how much they cost. A few thousand dollars probably in the destroyed perennials I replant the annuals every spring anyway so didn t have him include those. Since events are really a side project part time job we make less than $15-20 000 a year or so from them (we all have much higher laying careers and don t *rely* on the money but we do use it for a yearly family vacation. It feels strange to me to be demanding that amount of money when it was mostly time and work to make such an increase in value. My fears are that the condo owners will each end up having to pay something out of pocket. Even the treasurer who I am beyond furious with has a wife and small children who would suffer if he is the one charged with paying restitution. I m worried the people he hired to do the cutting would be found liable as well and lose everything they have. I have considered the fact the HOA likely has insurance that would cover liability but I am considering who they would go after to recover that. The HOA has refused to return calls so the attorney can t get their insurance info. I am sure I am overthinking things but I lose sleep over this. I just want to do the *right* thing. The attorney urges us to file for everything possible even lost income for not being able to use the event space while being repaired labor to replant the crushed gardens everything. My brothers aren t sure what to do and asked me to make the final decision. I *almost* decide to just ask for a smaller amount get new less expensive trees stop having events for a few years and spend that time gardening to build a new space while the hedges grow again. But then I feel like I am cheating my brothers and myself out of what we are entitled to or I get angry and upset because I really just *liked* how things were and what we did. I love the time I spend with my brothers and am really proud of what we built together. Then I get anxious and angry that I am even in this position to begin with. I know emotions shouldn t play into it but I can t seem to extract one from the other. I *really* don t want to be an entitled bitch but I don t want to be a chump by going too far to be sympathetic. Does anyone have any insight to offer as to the probable consequences for everyone else affected? Please tell me if I am being ridiculous in either direction. I have never felt more confused about anything. Again thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. I tried to be concise and will answer any questions you have. I appreciate any thoughts you might have.

OP rather than pile on the unanimous sentiment expressed here already let me be the first to commend you for being a downright good person. Unlike so many other assholes who post here looking for a loophole to get out of something they know they did wrong you were clearly harmed (a great deal!) through no fault of your own and are still only concerned about other people not yourself. I wish all my neighbors were like you. That kind of altruism is very very rare these days. Please tell your parents than some random internet stranger thinks they did a wonderful job raising their kids. Now go forth and litigate young man.

So these day laborers cut down several hundred feet worth of hedges that were 20 feet high each? ? ?

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i want to get a new job but boss owns all my possessions and is going to take everything away if i leave. i dont think this is right but dont know who to call. dallas tx this is kind of a long story but i am 19 and want to leave my job and go find a new one i can do part time so i can finish school. my boss is okay with me leaving but the problem is that he wont be able to support me anymore if i do which means i will lose everything i own andnow i don t really know where to turn. i statred here when i was 16. a guy i knew got a big suite in the hotel which is one of the nicest ones in dallas.we had a party here. we were drinking and it got out of control and people threw up in the room and caused a lot of damage around the hotel and stole a bunch of things. the next morning i woke up to manager and security yelling at me my “friends” were all gone but left me sleeping. the manager took me to his office and i was crying and begged him not to call the police so he said i could start coming in after school and helping them clean rooms and do dishes in the kitchen to work off the money from all the damage and he wouldnt call the police. after a few weeks i told him i couldnt anymore because my parents wouldnt drive me since i wasnt bringing home any money to save and they said he was taking advantage of me but i just didnt want to tell them i was working to pay off the debt and i didnt listen because i know they didnt know the full story. so he bought me an used bike to use and said he wanted me there every day until the dmage was all paid plus the bike. over the next couple months he got more and more demanding and every time i asked how much more work i had to do he always just said he ll tell me when i m finished and if i don t want to he can just call the police. so i just kept working and doing what he said. he changed my hours to 4-12 every night and it was effecting mt school. he is a nice guy and didnt want my grades to suffer and i always had to bring him my report cards but he said do not drop out. but when i turned 18 i stopped going to school and just slept in the day. when he found out he said i had to be here pretty muhc all day if im not going to be in school which i hate because i dont really have any time for friends or my girlfriend then things got rocky with the rents and i said i wanted to leave and my boss is house sitting for a family that lives in india it has been great except a couple months per year i have to move out because they rae coming home. they odnt know that i love there for the rest of the itme. it s not all bad because i have lived comfortably he lets me take home food fromi d the hotel that is left over from the very upscale restaurant and the house i live in is really nice and if there are books or other things in the gift shop that noone buys sometimes he lets me take those too. still i have told him several times that i want to be paid but he always says i owe him and will not tell me how much the damage was or how much i have worked off. i know the statute of limitations is 3 years and after that he acnt press charges against me. so yesterday was 3 years exactly and i told him that i know he cant have me arreste danymore and that i want to quit. he said that s okay but he bought my bike all the good looking clothes i have and all the essentials i needed since i was 16. now he s saying if i dont work for him anymore that i cant live in the house and i have to give back all the things he bought for me to use during my job. he has got me a lot of things but i have seriously no money so theres no way i can leave the job. when i need something i just ask him and if im doing well at work he will buy it for me. so i dont even know where to start to rebuild my life after this place. are there resources for cases like this? is ther a way to make him let me keeo everything until i am on my own feet? thank you reddit. EDIT - MONDAY MORNING: wow i am so overwhlemd to look again this morning and see all the responses. i cant believe how much bigger a deal this is then i realized. i know from an outsider perspective how crazy this must look but it was just so easy to fall into this thing and hard to get away form. i called 2 law offices today and both were closed but i did the conttact form so hopefully they will call me back. i also tried the police but they said it sounds like a civil issue and said i should contact a lawyer also. i told them what you guys said that he was basically using me as a slave but they said unless he was physically detaining me against my will that its nothing they can help with. thakn you so much for all the help.

I am not a lawyer. But here is my rant. I want to put my fist through this man s face. First off you were not liable for damage to the room or the actions of your friends. Yes police might have been called and you would have be asked to supply names etc. But being the last person in the hotel room does not mean you were responsible for the acts of others -- especially if your name was not on the room. Secondly how much damage could have been done. It sounds like he had you working at least 40 hours a week for three fucking years (and more hours after you left school). Take home pay for minimum wage at 2000 hours a years is going to be about $10 000. So you have paid him (more like he has stolen from you) $30 000. That s a lot of fucking damage. Third it looks like there is no longer anything he can report to police or sue you for. The statute of limitations for civil damages is two years. Underage consumption in Texas is (I think) a class C misdemeanor which also has a statute of limitation of two years. If this asshole wanted to report you to the police he missed his chance. If he wanted to sue you he missed his chance. Fourth it is illegal to threaten somebody with a criminal report in order to extort services from them. Looks like it is classified in Texas as theft. Fifth even if the extortion of services wasn t illegal it s illegal for him to just keep your paycheck because he claims you owe him money. He doesn t have a judgment against you (and he never will now that the statute of limitations is up) so you don t legally owe him a dime (and you never did). Sixth Even if you did owe him the debt you are free to work wherever you wish to pay it back. Lastly if your dropping out of school was in any way related to the long hours you were working his illegal extortion has damaged you beyond the withheld paychecks. Go to a lawyer. There is absolutely nothing bad that can come of it. As pointed out any lawyer you consult with is bound by attorney client privilege so even if the attorney s advice is to just let it go (not sure why it would be though) the worst that would happen is you just leave his office. But this asshole has victimized you stolen your money and caused you real problems with his illegal acts. I think you will find an attorney eager to help and my guess is you are owed AT LEAST $30 000. Again I m not a lawyer so don t take this as legal advice.

This story is actually super hardcore D:

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i want to get a new job but boss owns all my possessions and is going to take everything away if i leave. i dont think this is right but dont know who to call. dallas tx this is kind of a long story but i am 19 and want to leave my job and go find a new one i can do part time so i can finish school. my boss is okay with me leaving but the problem is that he wont be able to support me anymore if i do which means i will lose everything i own andnow i don t really know where to turn. i statred here when i was 16. a guy i knew got a big suite in the hotel which is one of the nicest ones in dallas.we had a party here. we were drinking and it got out of control and people threw up in the room and caused a lot of damage around the hotel and stole a bunch of things. the next morning i woke up to manager and security yelling at me my “friends” were all gone but left me sleeping. the manager took me to his office and i was crying and begged him not to call the police so he said i could start coming in after school and helping them clean rooms and do dishes in the kitchen to work off the money from all the damage and he wouldnt call the police. after a few weeks i told him i couldnt anymore because my parents wouldnt drive me since i wasnt bringing home any money to save and they said he was taking advantage of me but i just didnt want to tell them i was working to pay off the debt and i didnt listen because i know they didnt know the full story. so he bought me an used bike to use and said he wanted me there every day until the dmage was all paid plus the bike. over the next couple months he got more and more demanding and every time i asked how much more work i had to do he always just said he ll tell me when i m finished and if i don t want to he can just call the police. so i just kept working and doing what he said. he changed my hours to 4-12 every night and it was effecting mt school. he is a nice guy and didnt want my grades to suffer and i always had to bring him my report cards but he said do not drop out. but when i turned 18 i stopped going to school and just slept in the day. when he found out he said i had to be here pretty muhc all day if im not going to be in school which i hate because i dont really have any time for friends or my girlfriend then things got rocky with the rents and i said i wanted to leave and my boss is house sitting for a family that lives in india it has been great except a couple months per year i have to move out because they rae coming home. they odnt know that i love there for the rest of the itme. it s not all bad because i have lived comfortably he lets me take home food fromi d the hotel that is left over from the very upscale restaurant and the house i live in is really nice and if there are books or other things in the gift shop that noone buys sometimes he lets me take those too. still i have told him several times that i want to be paid but he always says i owe him and will not tell me how much the damage was or how much i have worked off. i know the statute of limitations is 3 years and after that he acnt press charges against me. so yesterday was 3 years exactly and i told him that i know he cant have me arreste danymore and that i want to quit. he said that s okay but he bought my bike all the good looking clothes i have and all the essentials i needed since i was 16. now he s saying if i dont work for him anymore that i cant live in the house and i have to give back all the things he bought for me to use during my job. he has got me a lot of things but i have seriously no money so theres no way i can leave the job. when i need something i just ask him and if im doing well at work he will buy it for me. so i dont even know where to start to rebuild my life after this place. are there resources for cases like this? is ther a way to make him let me keeo everything until i am on my own feet? thank you reddit. EDIT - MONDAY MORNING: wow i am so overwhlemd to look again this morning and see all the responses. i cant believe how much bigger a deal this is then i realized. i know from an outsider perspective how crazy this must look but it was just so easy to fall into this thing and hard to get away form. i called 2 law offices today and both were closed but i did the conttact form so hopefully they will call me back. i also tried the police but they said it sounds like a civil issue and said i should contact a lawyer also. i told them what you guys said that he was basically using me as a slave but they said unless he was physically detaining me against my will that its nothing they can help with. thakn you so much for all the help.

I am not a lawyer. But here is my rant. I want to put my fist through this man s face. First off you were not liable for damage to the room or the actions of your friends. Yes police might have been called and you would have be asked to supply names etc. But being the last person in the hotel room does not mean you were responsible for the acts of others -- especially if your name was not on the room. Secondly how much damage could have been done. It sounds like he had you working at least 40 hours a week for three fucking years (and more hours after you left school). Take home pay for minimum wage at 2000 hours a years is going to be about $10 000. So you have paid him (more like he has stolen from you) $30 000. That s a lot of fucking damage. Third it looks like there is no longer anything he can report to police or sue you for. The statute of limitations for civil damages is two years. Underage consumption in Texas is (I think) a class C misdemeanor which also has a statute of limitation of two years. If this asshole wanted to report you to the police he missed his chance. If he wanted to sue you he missed his chance. Fourth it is illegal to threaten somebody with a criminal report in order to extort services from them. Looks like it is classified in Texas as theft. Fifth even if the extortion of services wasn t illegal it s illegal for him to just keep your paycheck because he claims you owe him money. He doesn t have a judgment against you (and he never will now that the statute of limitations is up) so you don t legally owe him a dime (and you never did). Sixth Even if you did owe him the debt you are free to work wherever you wish to pay it back. Lastly if your dropping out of school was in any way related to the long hours you were working his illegal extortion has damaged you beyond the withheld paychecks. Go to a lawyer. There is absolutely nothing bad that can come of it. As pointed out any lawyer you consult with is bound by attorney client privilege so even if the attorney s advice is to just let it go (not sure why it would be though) the worst that would happen is you just leave his office. But this asshole has victimized you stolen your money and caused you real problems with his illegal acts. I think you will find an attorney eager to help and my guess is you are owed AT LEAST $30 000. Again I m not a lawyer so don t take this as legal advice.

&gt is ther a way to make him let me keeo everything until i am on my own feet? Lawyer types is there grounds for a lawsuit here? Any chance OP could end up owning the hotel? Please tell me there is.

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i want to get a new job but boss owns all my possessions and is going to take everything away if i leave. i dont think this is right but dont know who to call. dallas tx this is kind of a long story but i am 19 and want to leave my job and go find a new one i can do part time so i can finish school. my boss is okay with me leaving but the problem is that he wont be able to support me anymore if i do which means i will lose everything i own andnow i don t really know where to turn. i statred here when i was 16. a guy i knew got a big suite in the hotel which is one of the nicest ones in dallas.we had a party here. we were drinking and it got out of control and people threw up in the room and caused a lot of damage around the hotel and stole a bunch of things. the next morning i woke up to manager and security yelling at me my “friends” were all gone but left me sleeping. the manager took me to his office and i was crying and begged him not to call the police so he said i could start coming in after school and helping them clean rooms and do dishes in the kitchen to work off the money from all the damage and he wouldnt call the police. after a few weeks i told him i couldnt anymore because my parents wouldnt drive me since i wasnt bringing home any money to save and they said he was taking advantage of me but i just didnt want to tell them i was working to pay off the debt and i didnt listen because i know they didnt know the full story. so he bought me an used bike to use and said he wanted me there every day until the dmage was all paid plus the bike. over the next couple months he got more and more demanding and every time i asked how much more work i had to do he always just said he ll tell me when i m finished and if i don t want to he can just call the police. so i just kept working and doing what he said. he changed my hours to 4-12 every night and it was effecting mt school. he is a nice guy and didnt want my grades to suffer and i always had to bring him my report cards but he said do not drop out. but when i turned 18 i stopped going to school and just slept in the day. when he found out he said i had to be here pretty muhc all day if im not going to be in school which i hate because i dont really have any time for friends or my girlfriend then things got rocky with the rents and i said i wanted to leave and my boss is house sitting for a family that lives in india it has been great except a couple months per year i have to move out because they rae coming home. they odnt know that i love there for the rest of the itme. it s not all bad because i have lived comfortably he lets me take home food fromi d the hotel that is left over from the very upscale restaurant and the house i live in is really nice and if there are books or other things in the gift shop that noone buys sometimes he lets me take those too. still i have told him several times that i want to be paid but he always says i owe him and will not tell me how much the damage was or how much i have worked off. i know the statute of limitations is 3 years and after that he acnt press charges against me. so yesterday was 3 years exactly and i told him that i know he cant have me arreste danymore and that i want to quit. he said that s okay but he bought my bike all the good looking clothes i have and all the essentials i needed since i was 16. now he s saying if i dont work for him anymore that i cant live in the house and i have to give back all the things he bought for me to use during my job. he has got me a lot of things but i have seriously no money so theres no way i can leave the job. when i need something i just ask him and if im doing well at work he will buy it for me. so i dont even know where to start to rebuild my life after this place. are there resources for cases like this? is ther a way to make him let me keeo everything until i am on my own feet? thank you reddit. EDIT - MONDAY MORNING: wow i am so overwhlemd to look again this morning and see all the responses. i cant believe how much bigger a deal this is then i realized. i know from an outsider perspective how crazy this must look but it was just so easy to fall into this thing and hard to get away form. i called 2 law offices today and both were closed but i did the conttact form so hopefully they will call me back. i also tried the police but they said it sounds like a civil issue and said i should contact a lawyer also. i told them what you guys said that he was basically using me as a slave but they said unless he was physically detaining me against my will that its nothing they can help with. thakn you so much for all the help.

I am not a lawyer. But here is my rant. I want to put my fist through this man s face. First off you were not liable for damage to the room or the actions of your friends. Yes police might have been called and you would have be asked to supply names etc. But being the last person in the hotel room does not mean you were responsible for the acts of others -- especially if your name was not on the room. Secondly how much damage could have been done. It sounds like he had you working at least 40 hours a week for three fucking years (and more hours after you left school). Take home pay for minimum wage at 2000 hours a years is going to be about $10 000. So you have paid him (more like he has stolen from you) $30 000. That s a lot of fucking damage. Third it looks like there is no longer anything he can report to police or sue you for. The statute of limitations for civil damages is two years. Underage consumption in Texas is (I think) a class C misdemeanor which also has a statute of limitation of two years. If this asshole wanted to report you to the police he missed his chance. If he wanted to sue you he missed his chance. Fourth it is illegal to threaten somebody with a criminal report in order to extort services from them. Looks like it is classified in Texas as theft. Fifth even if the extortion of services wasn t illegal it s illegal for him to just keep your paycheck because he claims you owe him money. He doesn t have a judgment against you (and he never will now that the statute of limitations is up) so you don t legally owe him a dime (and you never did). Sixth Even if you did owe him the debt you are free to work wherever you wish to pay it back. Lastly if your dropping out of school was in any way related to the long hours you were working his illegal extortion has damaged you beyond the withheld paychecks. Go to a lawyer. There is absolutely nothing bad that can come of it. As pointed out any lawyer you consult with is bound by attorney client privilege so even if the attorney s advice is to just let it go (not sure why it would be though) the worst that would happen is you just leave his office. But this asshole has victimized you stolen your money and caused you real problems with his illegal acts. I think you will find an attorney eager to help and my guess is you are owed AT LEAST $30 000. Again I m not a lawyer so don t take this as legal advice.

You must go to the police and also the local state labor board. This is nothing other than slavery you have become the victim of and I m willing to bet you are not the first nor the last person he has hurt. Please do not believe one word he is telling you he has lied to you and used you all along. Do not be scared he should be the one that is scared because HE is the one going to prison when he is caught. He will do this again and no he is not a nice guy. Believe me if you just move out without reporting him to authorities your future self will seriously have trouble with that decision. It will be a huge regret I say this because once you realize exactly what is happening to you you will be very shocked and angry. That anger can last a long time if you don t stand up for yourself right now.

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i want to get a new job but boss owns all my possessions and is going to take everything away if i leave. i dont think this is right but dont know who to call. dallas tx this is kind of a long story but i am 19 and want to leave my job and go find a new one i can do part time so i can finish school. my boss is okay with me leaving but the problem is that he wont be able to support me anymore if i do which means i will lose everything i own andnow i don t really know where to turn. i statred here when i was 16. a guy i knew got a big suite in the hotel which is one of the nicest ones in dallas.we had a party here. we were drinking and it got out of control and people threw up in the room and caused a lot of damage around the hotel and stole a bunch of things. the next morning i woke up to manager and security yelling at me my “friends” were all gone but left me sleeping. the manager took me to his office and i was crying and begged him not to call the police so he said i could start coming in after school and helping them clean rooms and do dishes in the kitchen to work off the money from all the damage and he wouldnt call the police. after a few weeks i told him i couldnt anymore because my parents wouldnt drive me since i wasnt bringing home any money to save and they said he was taking advantage of me but i just didnt want to tell them i was working to pay off the debt and i didnt listen because i know they didnt know the full story. so he bought me an used bike to use and said he wanted me there every day until the dmage was all paid plus the bike. over the next couple months he got more and more demanding and every time i asked how much more work i had to do he always just said he ll tell me when i m finished and if i don t want to he can just call the police. so i just kept working and doing what he said. he changed my hours to 4-12 every night and it was effecting mt school. he is a nice guy and didnt want my grades to suffer and i always had to bring him my report cards but he said do not drop out. but when i turned 18 i stopped going to school and just slept in the day. when he found out he said i had to be here pretty muhc all day if im not going to be in school which i hate because i dont really have any time for friends or my girlfriend then things got rocky with the rents and i said i wanted to leave and my boss is house sitting for a family that lives in india it has been great except a couple months per year i have to move out because they rae coming home. they odnt know that i love there for the rest of the itme. it s not all bad because i have lived comfortably he lets me take home food fromi d the hotel that is left over from the very upscale restaurant and the house i live in is really nice and if there are books or other things in the gift shop that noone buys sometimes he lets me take those too. still i have told him several times that i want to be paid but he always says i owe him and will not tell me how much the damage was or how much i have worked off. i know the statute of limitations is 3 years and after that he acnt press charges against me. so yesterday was 3 years exactly and i told him that i know he cant have me arreste danymore and that i want to quit. he said that s okay but he bought my bike all the good looking clothes i have and all the essentials i needed since i was 16. now he s saying if i dont work for him anymore that i cant live in the house and i have to give back all the things he bought for me to use during my job. he has got me a lot of things but i have seriously no money so theres no way i can leave the job. when i need something i just ask him and if im doing well at work he will buy it for me. so i dont even know where to start to rebuild my life after this place. are there resources for cases like this? is ther a way to make him let me keeo everything until i am on my own feet? thank you reddit. EDIT - MONDAY MORNING: wow i am so overwhlemd to look again this morning and see all the responses. i cant believe how much bigger a deal this is then i realized. i know from an outsider perspective how crazy this must look but it was just so easy to fall into this thing and hard to get away form. i called 2 law offices today and both were closed but i did the conttact form so hopefully they will call me back. i also tried the police but they said it sounds like a civil issue and said i should contact a lawyer also. i told them what you guys said that he was basically using me as a slave but they said unless he was physically detaining me against my will that its nothing they can help with. thakn you so much for all the help.

I am not a lawyer. But here is my rant. I want to put my fist through this man s face. First off you were not liable for damage to the room or the actions of your friends. Yes police might have been called and you would have be asked to supply names etc. But being the last person in the hotel room does not mean you were responsible for the acts of others -- especially if your name was not on the room. Secondly how much damage could have been done. It sounds like he had you working at least 40 hours a week for three fucking years (and more hours after you left school). Take home pay for minimum wage at 2000 hours a years is going to be about $10 000. So you have paid him (more like he has stolen from you) $30 000. That s a lot of fucking damage. Third it looks like there is no longer anything he can report to police or sue you for. The statute of limitations for civil damages is two years. Underage consumption in Texas is (I think) a class C misdemeanor which also has a statute of limitation of two years. If this asshole wanted to report you to the police he missed his chance. If he wanted to sue you he missed his chance. Fourth it is illegal to threaten somebody with a criminal report in order to extort services from them. Looks like it is classified in Texas as theft. Fifth even if the extortion of services wasn t illegal it s illegal for him to just keep your paycheck because he claims you owe him money. He doesn t have a judgment against you (and he never will now that the statute of limitations is up) so you don t legally owe him a dime (and you never did). Sixth Even if you did owe him the debt you are free to work wherever you wish to pay it back. Lastly if your dropping out of school was in any way related to the long hours you were working his illegal extortion has damaged you beyond the withheld paychecks. Go to a lawyer. There is absolutely nothing bad that can come of it. As pointed out any lawyer you consult with is bound by attorney client privilege so even if the attorney s advice is to just let it go (not sure why it would be though) the worst that would happen is you just leave his office. But this asshole has victimized you stolen your money and caused you real problems with his illegal acts. I think you will find an attorney eager to help and my guess is you are owed AT LEAST $30 000. Again I m not a lawyer so don t take this as legal advice.

Did you not tell your friends that were at the party with you? Surely the guy who booked the room out was liable for the cost of the damage. I can see how you might have fallen victim to this guy as you re there but from an outsiders perspective this is crazy. This guy has you working for free for an indefinite amount of time under false pretences. It doesn t matter that he buys you things here and there like clothes or a bike. You re supposed to be getting paid for the services you re performing. Just leave and never come back. I understand that you re going to lose the house you re looking after but that is not yours. If I were you I d explain to your parents EVERYTHING that s happened and ask for their help.

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update to sunday s post re: my boss not paying me for 3 years and threatening to take everything if i quit thank you all SO MUCH for your advice this weekend. i m literally in the middle of the craziest day of my life today. looking back i feel like my situation was way over the top but it took hearing all of you say it and calling it slavery and then going nad talking to these lawyers for it to really hit home what he has put me through over the psat 3 years. i ll write more later but just want to give a quick update becuase i am so excite di can hardly focus. yesterday i googled the top employment law firms in dallas and sent some emails. i got a call from a lawyer saying he wanted to meet with me first thing in the morning. my mind was racing all night and i didnt get to sleep until after 3 am and i needed to leave by 7. i printed out about 50 pages of emails i have with him over the past 3 years (i never delete anything) and also made notes from some of his voicemails. after about 5 minutes talking to me this morning he asked if it would be okay for some of the other lawyers he works with to join us and i spent about 2 hours answering their questions and taking them through everything. the moment this all sank in for me of how big a deal this is was when i saw one of the lawyers tear up a couple times while i was talking. honestly it never felt like such a big deal to me before but now i am seeing it from a whole new light. in the end they said they will 100% take my case and I won t have to pay them anything up front and they just need a few days to do some research before we meet again and talk about the details which is going to happen on friday. like a bunch of you said they told me it s a lot more than just a pay issue and that there are a lot of parts they need to explore about lost wages and also criminal charges that he will 100% face but that they need to talk about the strategy first. they also said since i m over 18 now that my parents dont need to know anything or be involved in any way. when we were finishing the main lawyer i was talking to asked what i was doing the rest of the day. i told him i thought i was going to play it cool until we actualy sue him and i would go to work after this. i called in sick this morning and said i would be in after lunch. he said “will you excuse us for just a minute” and they went in another office to talk for a few minutes. when they came back out they asked me if want to stop working at this job and get out from under this guy. i said yes so he said to go home and pack my things and they are going to make arrangements for me this afternoon. he said i am never going to work there again and should not ansewr any calls or messages from them ever again. so I ve been home now for a few hours packing and then I got this email from their office. XXXXX It was a pleasure meeting you this morning. XXXXX asked me to get in touch to share details of the accommodations we would like to provide as well as some logistical information in advance of your Friday meeting. We ve made a 30-day reservation for you at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX which is closer to our offices and XXXXXXXXX. I ve attached a copy of your reservation confirmation. Please note that it has been paid in full. XXXXXXXXXX from our office will be in touch around 4:00 this afternoon to check in on how things are going and coordinate with you on getting your things out of the house and into the hotel. She will also provide you with some spending money for any immediate essentials and get you set up with an UberX account to make transportation to our offices a little easier next time. Although we hope to represent you in these matters we are providing these accommodations at no cost and with no obligation on your part. This is intended to help bring a more immediate stability to your living situation so you can focus on next steps in your life. Thank you again for getting in touch with us: we look forward to seeing you again soon. Warm regards XXXXXXXXXX i m assuming if they are willing to do all this for me and spend all this money that they think they are going to make a lot of money from this. which probably I am also going to come out well. so i am beyond thrilled with how this is turning out so far and 100% want to work with them. i still have a ton to pack and just wasted an hour on the internet but am going to get back to it now. thank you all so so much for pointing me in the right direction.

Just read your first post and all I can say is what the fucking fuck? Glad you decided to get legal counsel and all I would suggest now is that as much as people here are going to beg you to do it you do NOT post a single word more about this entire situation without your lawyer s explicit approval. This is such a fucked up situation that any publicity may be harmful to your case so don t take any chances.

I am really happy to hear you found a good fit with your lawyer and it sounds as if they are really interested in helping you out. Please keep us updated as to what happens going forward. This is really interesting.

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update to sunday s post re: my boss not paying me for 3 years and threatening to take everything if i quit thank you all SO MUCH for your advice this weekend. i m literally in the middle of the craziest day of my life today. looking back i feel like my situation was way over the top but it took hearing all of you say it and calling it slavery and then going nad talking to these lawyers for it to really hit home what he has put me through over the psat 3 years. i ll write more later but just want to give a quick update becuase i am so excite di can hardly focus. yesterday i googled the top employment law firms in dallas and sent some emails. i got a call from a lawyer saying he wanted to meet with me first thing in the morning. my mind was racing all night and i didnt get to sleep until after 3 am and i needed to leave by 7. i printed out about 50 pages of emails i have with him over the past 3 years (i never delete anything) and also made notes from some of his voicemails. after about 5 minutes talking to me this morning he asked if it would be okay for some of the other lawyers he works with to join us and i spent about 2 hours answering their questions and taking them through everything. the moment this all sank in for me of how big a deal this is was when i saw one of the lawyers tear up a couple times while i was talking. honestly it never felt like such a big deal to me before but now i am seeing it from a whole new light. in the end they said they will 100% take my case and I won t have to pay them anything up front and they just need a few days to do some research before we meet again and talk about the details which is going to happen on friday. like a bunch of you said they told me it s a lot more than just a pay issue and that there are a lot of parts they need to explore about lost wages and also criminal charges that he will 100% face but that they need to talk about the strategy first. they also said since i m over 18 now that my parents dont need to know anything or be involved in any way. when we were finishing the main lawyer i was talking to asked what i was doing the rest of the day. i told him i thought i was going to play it cool until we actualy sue him and i would go to work after this. i called in sick this morning and said i would be in after lunch. he said “will you excuse us for just a minute” and they went in another office to talk for a few minutes. when they came back out they asked me if want to stop working at this job and get out from under this guy. i said yes so he said to go home and pack my things and they are going to make arrangements for me this afternoon. he said i am never going to work there again and should not ansewr any calls or messages from them ever again. so I ve been home now for a few hours packing and then I got this email from their office. XXXXX It was a pleasure meeting you this morning. XXXXX asked me to get in touch to share details of the accommodations we would like to provide as well as some logistical information in advance of your Friday meeting. We ve made a 30-day reservation for you at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX which is closer to our offices and XXXXXXXXX. I ve attached a copy of your reservation confirmation. Please note that it has been paid in full. XXXXXXXXXX from our office will be in touch around 4:00 this afternoon to check in on how things are going and coordinate with you on getting your things out of the house and into the hotel. She will also provide you with some spending money for any immediate essentials and get you set up with an UberX account to make transportation to our offices a little easier next time. Although we hope to represent you in these matters we are providing these accommodations at no cost and with no obligation on your part. This is intended to help bring a more immediate stability to your living situation so you can focus on next steps in your life. Thank you again for getting in touch with us: we look forward to seeing you again soon. Warm regards XXXXXXXXXX i m assuming if they are willing to do all this for me and spend all this money that they think they are going to make a lot of money from this. which probably I am also going to come out well. so i am beyond thrilled with how this is turning out so far and 100% want to work with them. i still have a ton to pack and just wasted an hour on the internet but am going to get back to it now. thank you all so so much for pointing me in the right direction.

Just read your first post and all I can say is what the fucking fuck? Glad you decided to get legal counsel and all I would suggest now is that as much as people here are going to beg you to do it you do NOT post a single word more about this entire situation without your lawyer s explicit approval. This is such a fucked up situation that any publicity may be harmful to your case so don t take any chances.

After all this is over you should do an AMA!

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update to sunday s post re: my boss not paying me for 3 years and threatening to take everything if i quit thank you all SO MUCH for your advice this weekend. i m literally in the middle of the craziest day of my life today. looking back i feel like my situation was way over the top but it took hearing all of you say it and calling it slavery and then going nad talking to these lawyers for it to really hit home what he has put me through over the psat 3 years. i ll write more later but just want to give a quick update becuase i am so excite di can hardly focus. yesterday i googled the top employment law firms in dallas and sent some emails. i got a call from a lawyer saying he wanted to meet with me first thing in the morning. my mind was racing all night and i didnt get to sleep until after 3 am and i needed to leave by 7. i printed out about 50 pages of emails i have with him over the past 3 years (i never delete anything) and also made notes from some of his voicemails. after about 5 minutes talking to me this morning he asked if it would be okay for some of the other lawyers he works with to join us and i spent about 2 hours answering their questions and taking them through everything. the moment this all sank in for me of how big a deal this is was when i saw one of the lawyers tear up a couple times while i was talking. honestly it never felt like such a big deal to me before but now i am seeing it from a whole new light. in the end they said they will 100% take my case and I won t have to pay them anything up front and they just need a few days to do some research before we meet again and talk about the details which is going to happen on friday. like a bunch of you said they told me it s a lot more than just a pay issue and that there are a lot of parts they need to explore about lost wages and also criminal charges that he will 100% face but that they need to talk about the strategy first. they also said since i m over 18 now that my parents dont need to know anything or be involved in any way. when we were finishing the main lawyer i was talking to asked what i was doing the rest of the day. i told him i thought i was going to play it cool until we actualy sue him and i would go to work after this. i called in sick this morning and said i would be in after lunch. he said “will you excuse us for just a minute” and they went in another office to talk for a few minutes. when they came back out they asked me if want to stop working at this job and get out from under this guy. i said yes so he said to go home and pack my things and they are going to make arrangements for me this afternoon. he said i am never going to work there again and should not ansewr any calls or messages from them ever again. so I ve been home now for a few hours packing and then I got this email from their office. XXXXX It was a pleasure meeting you this morning. XXXXX asked me to get in touch to share details of the accommodations we would like to provide as well as some logistical information in advance of your Friday meeting. We ve made a 30-day reservation for you at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX which is closer to our offices and XXXXXXXXX. I ve attached a copy of your reservation confirmation. Please note that it has been paid in full. XXXXXXXXXX from our office will be in touch around 4:00 this afternoon to check in on how things are going and coordinate with you on getting your things out of the house and into the hotel. She will also provide you with some spending money for any immediate essentials and get you set up with an UberX account to make transportation to our offices a little easier next time. Although we hope to represent you in these matters we are providing these accommodations at no cost and with no obligation on your part. This is intended to help bring a more immediate stability to your living situation so you can focus on next steps in your life. Thank you again for getting in touch with us: we look forward to seeing you again soon. Warm regards XXXXXXXXXX i m assuming if they are willing to do all this for me and spend all this money that they think they are going to make a lot of money from this. which probably I am also going to come out well. so i am beyond thrilled with how this is turning out so far and 100% want to work with them. i still have a ton to pack and just wasted an hour on the internet but am going to get back to it now. thank you all so so much for pointing me in the right direction.

Just read your first post and all I can say is what the fucking fuck? Glad you decided to get legal counsel and all I would suggest now is that as much as people here are going to beg you to do it you do NOT post a single word more about this entire situation without your lawyer s explicit approval. This is such a fucked up situation that any publicity may be harmful to your case so don t take any chances.

That is fabulous. That law firm is amazing. I missed the post this weekend but just went back and read it and HOLY SHIT. I m so happy for you. I hope your boss rots in prison for a long time. He deserves it for how he took advantage of you. That s the same tactic that human traffickers use to force their victims into neverending servitude (including sex work). I m so glad you came to reddit and saw the light. Better late than never to get your life back! )

2faevd

update to sunday s post re: my boss not paying me for 3 years and threatening to take everything if i quit thank you all SO MUCH for your advice this weekend. i m literally in the middle of the craziest day of my life today. looking back i feel like my situation was way over the top but it took hearing all of you say it and calling it slavery and then going nad talking to these lawyers for it to really hit home what he has put me through over the psat 3 years. i ll write more later but just want to give a quick update becuase i am so excite di can hardly focus. yesterday i googled the top employment law firms in dallas and sent some emails. i got a call from a lawyer saying he wanted to meet with me first thing in the morning. my mind was racing all night and i didnt get to sleep until after 3 am and i needed to leave by 7. i printed out about 50 pages of emails i have with him over the past 3 years (i never delete anything) and also made notes from some of his voicemails. after about 5 minutes talking to me this morning he asked if it would be okay for some of the other lawyers he works with to join us and i spent about 2 hours answering their questions and taking them through everything. the moment this all sank in for me of how big a deal this is was when i saw one of the lawyers tear up a couple times while i was talking. honestly it never felt like such a big deal to me before but now i am seeing it from a whole new light. in the end they said they will 100% take my case and I won t have to pay them anything up front and they just need a few days to do some research before we meet again and talk about the details which is going to happen on friday. like a bunch of you said they told me it s a lot more than just a pay issue and that there are a lot of parts they need to explore about lost wages and also criminal charges that he will 100% face but that they need to talk about the strategy first. they also said since i m over 18 now that my parents dont need to know anything or be involved in any way. when we were finishing the main lawyer i was talking to asked what i was doing the rest of the day. i told him i thought i was going to play it cool until we actualy sue him and i would go to work after this. i called in sick this morning and said i would be in after lunch. he said “will you excuse us for just a minute” and they went in another office to talk for a few minutes. when they came back out they asked me if want to stop working at this job and get out from under this guy. i said yes so he said to go home and pack my things and they are going to make arrangements for me this afternoon. he said i am never going to work there again and should not ansewr any calls or messages from them ever again. so I ve been home now for a few hours packing and then I got this email from their office. XXXXX It was a pleasure meeting you this morning. XXXXX asked me to get in touch to share details of the accommodations we would like to provide as well as some logistical information in advance of your Friday meeting. We ve made a 30-day reservation for you at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX which is closer to our offices and XXXXXXXXX. I ve attached a copy of your reservation confirmation. Please note that it has been paid in full. XXXXXXXXXX from our office will be in touch around 4:00 this afternoon to check in on how things are going and coordinate with you on getting your things out of the house and into the hotel. She will also provide you with some spending money for any immediate essentials and get you set up with an UberX account to make transportation to our offices a little easier next time. Although we hope to represent you in these matters we are providing these accommodations at no cost and with no obligation on your part. This is intended to help bring a more immediate stability to your living situation so you can focus on next steps in your life. Thank you again for getting in touch with us: we look forward to seeing you again soon. Warm regards XXXXXXXXXX i m assuming if they are willing to do all this for me and spend all this money that they think they are going to make a lot of money from this. which probably I am also going to come out well. so i am beyond thrilled with how this is turning out so far and 100% want to work with them. i still have a ton to pack and just wasted an hour on the internet but am going to get back to it now. thank you all so so much for pointing me in the right direction.

Just read your first post and all I can say is what the fucking fuck? Glad you decided to get legal counsel and all I would suggest now is that as much as people here are going to beg you to do it you do NOT post a single word more about this entire situation without your lawyer s explicit approval. This is such a fucked up situation that any publicity may be harmful to your case so don t take any chances.

[link to original post](http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2f5gj4 i_want_to_get_a_new_job_but_boss_owns_all_my ) that is so great to hear. i m happy you ve found support in the meantime while this plays out. please keep updating us as you can while everything s happening!

2faevd

update to sunday s post re: my boss not paying me for 3 years and threatening to take everything if i quit thank you all SO MUCH for your advice this weekend. i m literally in the middle of the craziest day of my life today. looking back i feel like my situation was way over the top but it took hearing all of you say it and calling it slavery and then going nad talking to these lawyers for it to really hit home what he has put me through over the psat 3 years. i ll write more later but just want to give a quick update becuase i am so excite di can hardly focus. yesterday i googled the top employment law firms in dallas and sent some emails. i got a call from a lawyer saying he wanted to meet with me first thing in the morning. my mind was racing all night and i didnt get to sleep until after 3 am and i needed to leave by 7. i printed out about 50 pages of emails i have with him over the past 3 years (i never delete anything) and also made notes from some of his voicemails. after about 5 minutes talking to me this morning he asked if it would be okay for some of the other lawyers he works with to join us and i spent about 2 hours answering their questions and taking them through everything. the moment this all sank in for me of how big a deal this is was when i saw one of the lawyers tear up a couple times while i was talking. honestly it never felt like such a big deal to me before but now i am seeing it from a whole new light. in the end they said they will 100% take my case and I won t have to pay them anything up front and they just need a few days to do some research before we meet again and talk about the details which is going to happen on friday. like a bunch of you said they told me it s a lot more than just a pay issue and that there are a lot of parts they need to explore about lost wages and also criminal charges that he will 100% face but that they need to talk about the strategy first. they also said since i m over 18 now that my parents dont need to know anything or be involved in any way. when we were finishing the main lawyer i was talking to asked what i was doing the rest of the day. i told him i thought i was going to play it cool until we actualy sue him and i would go to work after this. i called in sick this morning and said i would be in after lunch. he said “will you excuse us for just a minute” and they went in another office to talk for a few minutes. when they came back out they asked me if want to stop working at this job and get out from under this guy. i said yes so he said to go home and pack my things and they are going to make arrangements for me this afternoon. he said i am never going to work there again and should not ansewr any calls or messages from them ever again. so I ve been home now for a few hours packing and then I got this email from their office. XXXXX It was a pleasure meeting you this morning. XXXXX asked me to get in touch to share details of the accommodations we would like to provide as well as some logistical information in advance of your Friday meeting. We ve made a 30-day reservation for you at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX which is closer to our offices and XXXXXXXXX. I ve attached a copy of your reservation confirmation. Please note that it has been paid in full. XXXXXXXXXX from our office will be in touch around 4:00 this afternoon to check in on how things are going and coordinate with you on getting your things out of the house and into the hotel. She will also provide you with some spending money for any immediate essentials and get you set up with an UberX account to make transportation to our offices a little easier next time. Although we hope to represent you in these matters we are providing these accommodations at no cost and with no obligation on your part. This is intended to help bring a more immediate stability to your living situation so you can focus on next steps in your life. Thank you again for getting in touch with us: we look forward to seeing you again soon. Warm regards XXXXXXXXXX i m assuming if they are willing to do all this for me and spend all this money that they think they are going to make a lot of money from this. which probably I am also going to come out well. so i am beyond thrilled with how this is turning out so far and 100% want to work with them. i still have a ton to pack and just wasted an hour on the internet but am going to get back to it now. thank you all so so much for pointing me in the right direction.

You may not be able to update us for awhile but when it s all over please let us know what happened to whatever extent that you can ok? Even if it s not for a long while.

I am really happy to hear you found a good fit with your lawyer and it sounds as if they are really interested in helping you out. Please keep us updated as to what happens going forward. This is really interesting.

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My life is on the line. A complaint has been lodged against me and I may be accused of a sexual crime. (Québec Canada) I got a call today from the police stations where I lived three years ago. An officer explained to me that a complaint was lodged against me from my mother s ex s daughter who shall be known as V. He didn t go into much detail but I was able to take away that some touching of the sexual nature may had not been consensual even though she never told you to stop . This happened when I was 16 and she was 13. He said that no accusations have been placed so far but because of the nature of it they need to get my side of the story and investigate the case. Then they need to submit their findings to the Crown so they can determine if I need to be brought to court. I m supposed to be seeing the officer next Monday but he said if I couldn t make it then to just let him know. I m terrified. I m 19 now and I m broke. I don t know where to go from here. My entire reputation is on the line and I fear my relationship might be too. My girlfriend is a rape survivor she has overcome a lot of shit and we ve built trust around the concept that I want her to be safe with me. I think if I am accused and found guilty that will be too much for her. And then there s my job. It s just shitty retail but I need this job. I have bills to pay I have about 70 $ in my account right now. Not to mention the career I want to do. I want to be a locksmith that is not going to happen If I get a criminal conviction record. And most of all my goddamn freedom is on the line I won t last a week in prison. So where do I go from here? I m guessing I shouldn t speak with the police without a lawyer? Help please. Edit: Thank you everyone for your advice. My course of action is set: I will not go down to the police station and will not speak to them again. If they call me again I tell them that I do not wish to talk. If bad comes to worse silence at all times and I get a lawyer.

Let me rephrase the officer s phone call for you: There s been a complaint lodged against you. Would you be willing to come in and confess so we can arrest and imprison you? &gt So where do I go from here? You definitely don t go to the police and give them your side of the story to determine if you need to be brought to court.

Get a lawyer NOW.

2ffhqy

UPDATE: A cop has fallen attracted to my girlfriend and been taking advantage of his position to semi-stalk her Original Post found here: http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2ewya6 a_cop_has_fallen_attracted_to_my_girlfriend_and So my girlfriend went ahead and filed a complaint to the supervisor against this creepy cop and today the matter was dealt with in court and I am so proud of our justice system that something was actually done about it and said officer received every punishment he deserved!!!! So this was in Canada and they did not take the matter lightly at all! It was a very gratifying day for me and my girlfriend. The officer has been suspended and will be transferred to a different division so there will be no chance encounters between him and my girlfriend!! I wasnt there but from my girlfriends testament the judge read out every allegation my girlfriend filed against the officer and his supervisor was there and he admitted to everything! He looked very upset and embarrassed and didn t even look at my girlfriend he seemed so ashamed and embarrassed. :) The judge asked him for the video statement he told my gf he was taking on two different occasions he admitted he never actually took the video statements. He admitted he made threats against her father while he was in holding he admitted to asking personal questions about her to her brother and handing him his personal contact info to give to her he admitted to making the unannounced visit to her home and bringing her back to the police station. He shamefully and reluctantly owned everything he did! At this point I suppose he realized how much shit he got himself into and just couldnt do anything about it. I am so happy to see how swiftly and appropriately misconduct was handled and I dont think there should be anymore issues with the officer! :) Thank you r legaladvice you guys were very supportive and encouraging with your kind advice and my girlfriend took everything you guys said seriously and credits a lot of todays justice to you guys and your insights! Thanks again guys!

&gt suspended and will be transferred to a different division Wait a minute... is this a police department or a Catholic diocese? This may be a good outcome for you but transferring this officer isn t going to keep him from abusing his next victim.

Holy crap that was fast. Great to hear it went so well and glad your girlfriend didn t allow herself to be victimized. Way to go!

2ffhqy

UPDATE: A cop has fallen attracted to my girlfriend and been taking advantage of his position to semi-stalk her Original Post found here: http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2ewya6 a_cop_has_fallen_attracted_to_my_girlfriend_and So my girlfriend went ahead and filed a complaint to the supervisor against this creepy cop and today the matter was dealt with in court and I am so proud of our justice system that something was actually done about it and said officer received every punishment he deserved!!!! So this was in Canada and they did not take the matter lightly at all! It was a very gratifying day for me and my girlfriend. The officer has been suspended and will be transferred to a different division so there will be no chance encounters between him and my girlfriend!! I wasnt there but from my girlfriends testament the judge read out every allegation my girlfriend filed against the officer and his supervisor was there and he admitted to everything! He looked very upset and embarrassed and didn t even look at my girlfriend he seemed so ashamed and embarrassed. :) The judge asked him for the video statement he told my gf he was taking on two different occasions he admitted he never actually took the video statements. He admitted he made threats against her father while he was in holding he admitted to asking personal questions about her to her brother and handing him his personal contact info to give to her he admitted to making the unannounced visit to her home and bringing her back to the police station. He shamefully and reluctantly owned everything he did! At this point I suppose he realized how much shit he got himself into and just couldnt do anything about it. I am so happy to see how swiftly and appropriately misconduct was handled and I dont think there should be anymore issues with the officer! :) Thank you r legaladvice you guys were very supportive and encouraging with your kind advice and my girlfriend took everything you guys said seriously and credits a lot of todays justice to you guys and your insights! Thanks again guys!

&gt suspended and will be transferred to a different division Wait a minute... is this a police department or a Catholic diocese? This may be a good outcome for you but transferring this officer isn t going to keep him from abusing his next victim.

Glad to hear everything turned out well!

2ffhqy

UPDATE: A cop has fallen attracted to my girlfriend and been taking advantage of his position to semi-stalk her Original Post found here: http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2ewya6 a_cop_has_fallen_attracted_to_my_girlfriend_and So my girlfriend went ahead and filed a complaint to the supervisor against this creepy cop and today the matter was dealt with in court and I am so proud of our justice system that something was actually done about it and said officer received every punishment he deserved!!!! So this was in Canada and they did not take the matter lightly at all! It was a very gratifying day for me and my girlfriend. The officer has been suspended and will be transferred to a different division so there will be no chance encounters between him and my girlfriend!! I wasnt there but from my girlfriends testament the judge read out every allegation my girlfriend filed against the officer and his supervisor was there and he admitted to everything! He looked very upset and embarrassed and didn t even look at my girlfriend he seemed so ashamed and embarrassed. :) The judge asked him for the video statement he told my gf he was taking on two different occasions he admitted he never actually took the video statements. He admitted he made threats against her father while he was in holding he admitted to asking personal questions about her to her brother and handing him his personal contact info to give to her he admitted to making the unannounced visit to her home and bringing her back to the police station. He shamefully and reluctantly owned everything he did! At this point I suppose he realized how much shit he got himself into and just couldnt do anything about it. I am so happy to see how swiftly and appropriately misconduct was handled and I dont think there should be anymore issues with the officer! :) Thank you r legaladvice you guys were very supportive and encouraging with your kind advice and my girlfriend took everything you guys said seriously and credits a lot of todays justice to you guys and your insights! Thanks again guys!

Soon as I read This was in Canada I let out a long confident Ooooooohhh...

Very happy to read the results of your previous thread because I had the same preconceived notions concerning corrupt officers. Very happy to know that I am also wrong.

2ffhqy

UPDATE: A cop has fallen attracted to my girlfriend and been taking advantage of his position to semi-stalk her Original Post found here: http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2ewya6 a_cop_has_fallen_attracted_to_my_girlfriend_and So my girlfriend went ahead and filed a complaint to the supervisor against this creepy cop and today the matter was dealt with in court and I am so proud of our justice system that something was actually done about it and said officer received every punishment he deserved!!!! So this was in Canada and they did not take the matter lightly at all! It was a very gratifying day for me and my girlfriend. The officer has been suspended and will be transferred to a different division so there will be no chance encounters between him and my girlfriend!! I wasnt there but from my girlfriends testament the judge read out every allegation my girlfriend filed against the officer and his supervisor was there and he admitted to everything! He looked very upset and embarrassed and didn t even look at my girlfriend he seemed so ashamed and embarrassed. :) The judge asked him for the video statement he told my gf he was taking on two different occasions he admitted he never actually took the video statements. He admitted he made threats against her father while he was in holding he admitted to asking personal questions about her to her brother and handing him his personal contact info to give to her he admitted to making the unannounced visit to her home and bringing her back to the police station. He shamefully and reluctantly owned everything he did! At this point I suppose he realized how much shit he got himself into and just couldnt do anything about it. I am so happy to see how swiftly and appropriately misconduct was handled and I dont think there should be anymore issues with the officer! :) Thank you r legaladvice you guys were very supportive and encouraging with your kind advice and my girlfriend took everything you guys said seriously and credits a lot of todays justice to you guys and your insights! Thanks again guys!

Soon as I read This was in Canada I let out a long confident Ooooooohhh...

Restraining Order might still be a good idea?

2ffhqy

UPDATE: A cop has fallen attracted to my girlfriend and been taking advantage of his position to semi-stalk her Original Post found here: http: www.reddit.com r legaladvice comments 2ewya6 a_cop_has_fallen_attracted_to_my_girlfriend_and So my girlfriend went ahead and filed a complaint to the supervisor against this creepy cop and today the matter was dealt with in court and I am so proud of our justice system that something was actually done about it and said officer received every punishment he deserved!!!! So this was in Canada and they did not take the matter lightly at all! It was a very gratifying day for me and my girlfriend. The officer has been suspended and will be transferred to a different division so there will be no chance encounters between him and my girlfriend!! I wasnt there but from my girlfriends testament the judge read out every allegation my girlfriend filed against the officer and his supervisor was there and he admitted to everything! He looked very upset and embarrassed and didn t even look at my girlfriend he seemed so ashamed and embarrassed. :) The judge asked him for the video statement he told my gf he was taking on two different occasions he admitted he never actually took the video statements. He admitted he made threats against her father while he was in holding he admitted to asking personal questions about her to her brother and handing him his personal contact info to give to her he admitted to making the unannounced visit to her home and bringing her back to the police station. He shamefully and reluctantly owned everything he did! At this point I suppose he realized how much shit he got himself into and just couldnt do anything about it. I am so happy to see how swiftly and appropriately misconduct was handled and I dont think there should be anymore issues with the officer! :) Thank you r legaladvice you guys were very supportive and encouraging with your kind advice and my girlfriend took everything you guys said seriously and credits a lot of todays justice to you guys and your insights! Thanks again guys!

Soon as I read This was in Canada I let out a long confident Ooooooohhh...

Holy crap that was fast. Great to hear it went so well and glad your girlfriend didn t allow herself to be victimized. Way to go!

2fmd1q

My sisters newborn (Ten days old) was diagnosed with herpes that was contracted in the hospital. CDC investigation underway.(what should she do?)CO USA We have no idea how to handle this. None at all. Is the hospital at all responsible? so far 3 infants have been infected within 48-ish hours and to clarify my sister did not have herpes before delivery. We dont know if my sister has been infected as of yet or not. Short on money already on food stamps and housing assistance short... whats going to happen? EDIT:*maybe this is the wrong place for this lemme know where to post tho we could really use some help*

Call a lawyer in your area that does medical malpractice. The lawyer will take the case on a contingency fee so you don t need cash up front. I don t generally make too many definite statements about liability on medical malpractice cases here on reddit because they are highly fact sensitive and we don t have all the facts here. In your case however I strongly urge you to call an attorney. This is not supposed to happen. As in not ever. Hospitals have a legal duty to prevent the spread of infectious diseases. They have strict rules for all staff in place to do that. Rules like washing hands wearing clean gloves barrier protections and a whole lot of other things so complicated I won t get into it here. Just trust me on this every single thing and task in that hospital right down to the air conditioners are evaluated regularly for infection control. The hospital has an immense duty and full time staff devoted to that. Where the rubber hits the road here in your case is the hospital properly supervising the staff. Someone on their staff was not following the rules for infection control and they are legally responsible for that. Where this case is going is difficult to ascertain. It s going to depend on the strain of herpes involved and actual damages sustained. There are many different types of herpes. Some are fairly benign. Some you are highly unlikely to go through life without contracting. However the deal is that newborns are highly vulnerable and unable to fight off even very common and typical infections. You can t sue for what might have happened. Only what did happen. Your sister s newborn was promptly diagnosed presumably treated and should be fine. Regardless if it was my newborn baby I would be completely losing it. I have handled medical malpractice cases where the failure to diagnose herpes resulted in the death of newborns. There is a massively huge probability that your new niece nephew and your sister will be just fine. As in you will have minimal damages. Doesn t matter. Call a lawyer anyway. Your case here has what we call in the business sex appeal . It has nothing to do with sex of course. What that means is that your case has strong jury appeal. That the average jury will listen to the facts and be appalled. Don t plan on spending the money any time soon. These cases take forever. Your niece nephew assuming prompt diagnosis and treatment should be fine. Except something really appalling happened at that hospital. With newborn infants. You should sue them just on principle and you can easily find a lawyer to do that.

Wow. I ve never heard of this happening - do they have any idea how the babies are getting infected? You will very likely need to contact a medical malpractice attorney which can be found through your State Bar Association. Unfortunately I fear that once word gets out your sister may be getting many law firms contacting her. Even if that happens I recommend you contact the Bar Association for the referral. Good luck and I m so sorry your family has to endure this. Keep us posted please.

2fmd1q

My sisters newborn (Ten days old) was diagnosed with herpes that was contracted in the hospital. CDC investigation underway.(what should she do?)CO USA We have no idea how to handle this. None at all. Is the hospital at all responsible? so far 3 infants have been infected within 48-ish hours and to clarify my sister did not have herpes before delivery. We dont know if my sister has been infected as of yet or not. Short on money already on food stamps and housing assistance short... whats going to happen? EDIT:*maybe this is the wrong place for this lemme know where to post tho we could really use some help*

Call a lawyer in your area that does medical malpractice. The lawyer will take the case on a contingency fee so you don t need cash up front. I don t generally make too many definite statements about liability on medical malpractice cases here on reddit because they are highly fact sensitive and we don t have all the facts here. In your case however I strongly urge you to call an attorney. This is not supposed to happen. As in not ever. Hospitals have a legal duty to prevent the spread of infectious diseases. They have strict rules for all staff in place to do that. Rules like washing hands wearing clean gloves barrier protections and a whole lot of other things so complicated I won t get into it here. Just trust me on this every single thing and task in that hospital right down to the air conditioners are evaluated regularly for infection control. The hospital has an immense duty and full time staff devoted to that. Where the rubber hits the road here in your case is the hospital properly supervising the staff. Someone on their staff was not following the rules for infection control and they are legally responsible for that. Where this case is going is difficult to ascertain. It s going to depend on the strain of herpes involved and actual damages sustained. There are many different types of herpes. Some are fairly benign. Some you are highly unlikely to go through life without contracting. However the deal is that newborns are highly vulnerable and unable to fight off even very common and typical infections. You can t sue for what might have happened. Only what did happen. Your sister s newborn was promptly diagnosed presumably treated and should be fine. Regardless if it was my newborn baby I would be completely losing it. I have handled medical malpractice cases where the failure to diagnose herpes resulted in the death of newborns. There is a massively huge probability that your new niece nephew and your sister will be just fine. As in you will have minimal damages. Doesn t matter. Call a lawyer anyway. Your case here has what we call in the business sex appeal . It has nothing to do with sex of course. What that means is that your case has strong jury appeal. That the average jury will listen to the facts and be appalled. Don t plan on spending the money any time soon. These cases take forever. Your niece nephew assuming prompt diagnosis and treatment should be fine. Except something really appalling happened at that hospital. With newborn infants. You should sue them just on principle and you can easily find a lawyer to do that.

Wow that s really sad to hear. I can t imagine how the family must feel. A medical malpractice attorney is the person to talk to most likely. There may not be anything TO do beyond a consultation until the CDC finish their investigation. You need to know how it happened before you can know who may be at fault.

2fqinv

Police using my driveway as speed trap I have a quarter mile driveway off of a country road in New Jersey. A few people have told me that there has been a police car parked at the end of my driveway to catch people speeding around the bend (its 25mph but people frequently drive around 50mph). Since then I have seen a police car in my driveway twice after work. Both times the officer has driven away after seeing me pull up without so much as a wave. I have two questions. Are officers allowed onto private land for this purpose? And if not is it worth stirring up trouble? I find it mildly irritating but it s not worth complaining about if suddenly I m going to be under the police microscope as retaliation. (EDIT: Forgot to include location)

Are you sure the cop isn t parked in the county right of way? Often what people consider to be part of their drive way is in fact inside the county right of way and is not their property.

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2g8qw0

My ex-girlfriend and I had sex. She initially gave consent. She told me to stop and I did. 4 months later she is accusing me of rape. What can I do? Details: We had dated for 4 months. I was her first time. At the end of the semester i talked her into letting her get oral. she didnt like it so I stopped. Later while we were still in bed I convinced her to have sex with me. like 30 sec into it she asked if we could stop and we did. She cried a little bit and i tried to console her. we chilled in the bed some more and she seemed fine afterwards. Summer break starts she goes back home (4hr away). A month later friends and I go visit her for a weekend. we hadnt kept in touch that much and things were kinda awkward. I broke up with her after I came back to school for the summer. Over summer her suite mate and I started sleeping together casually I didn t cheat but the timelines were kinda close. She found out and was upset. Upset enough to move out of her suite to avoid the suite mate. It also came up that I was still into the girl I dated before the main one. Her friends have a tendency to blow drama out of proportion and they were already pretty mad at me because of other things I had done. I just found out she made a complaint to the university claiming I raped her that day. What can I do? All of my friends have stopped talking to me and everyone is going to side with her. I dont think I raped her it that she gave consent and when she wanted me to stop I stopped. I live in Ohio.

You need to get an attorney BEFORE you are charged with a crime and here s why: Under Title IX the school will find you guilty based on a completely arbitrary and unprofessional inquiry run by nonlawyers and judged by people like Women s Studies professors. They can kick you out of school by a preponderance of evidence which means more likely than not . You may be denied a lawyer during this process denied the right to cross examine witnesses or present evidence etc. It s complete bullshit and this process is a travesty of justice but it is the law right now. That s why you need a proactive expert attorney RIGHT NOW.

&gt All of my friends have stopped talking to me and everyone is going to side with her That shouldn t be your concern right now. In fact you shouldn t be talking to anybody about it at all. Your concern should be a possible rape charge. If you are charged with a crime get an attorney.

2g8qw0

My ex-girlfriend and I had sex. She initially gave consent. She told me to stop and I did. 4 months later she is accusing me of rape. What can I do? Details: We had dated for 4 months. I was her first time. At the end of the semester i talked her into letting her get oral. she didnt like it so I stopped. Later while we were still in bed I convinced her to have sex with me. like 30 sec into it she asked if we could stop and we did. She cried a little bit and i tried to console her. we chilled in the bed some more and she seemed fine afterwards. Summer break starts she goes back home (4hr away). A month later friends and I go visit her for a weekend. we hadnt kept in touch that much and things were kinda awkward. I broke up with her after I came back to school for the summer. Over summer her suite mate and I started sleeping together casually I didn t cheat but the timelines were kinda close. She found out and was upset. Upset enough to move out of her suite to avoid the suite mate. It also came up that I was still into the girl I dated before the main one. Her friends have a tendency to blow drama out of proportion and they were already pretty mad at me because of other things I had done. I just found out she made a complaint to the university claiming I raped her that day. What can I do? All of my friends have stopped talking to me and everyone is going to side with her. I dont think I raped her it that she gave consent and when she wanted me to stop I stopped. I live in Ohio.

You need to get an attorney BEFORE you are charged with a crime and here s why: Under Title IX the school will find you guilty based on a completely arbitrary and unprofessional inquiry run by nonlawyers and judged by people like Women s Studies professors. They can kick you out of school by a preponderance of evidence which means more likely than not . You may be denied a lawyer during this process denied the right to cross examine witnesses or present evidence etc. It s complete bullshit and this process is a travesty of justice but it is the law right now. That s why you need a proactive expert attorney RIGHT NOW.

Don t talk to the cops. Goto youtube and search dont talk to the police. Top result is a 40 minute video from a law professor telling his class why you should never talk to the police.

2g8qw0

My ex-girlfriend and I had sex. She initially gave consent. She told me to stop and I did. 4 months later she is accusing me of rape. What can I do? Details: We had dated for 4 months. I was her first time. At the end of the semester i talked her into letting her get oral. she didnt like it so I stopped. Later while we were still in bed I convinced her to have sex with me. like 30 sec into it she asked if we could stop and we did. She cried a little bit and i tried to console her. we chilled in the bed some more and she seemed fine afterwards. Summer break starts she goes back home (4hr away). A month later friends and I go visit her for a weekend. we hadnt kept in touch that much and things were kinda awkward. I broke up with her after I came back to school for the summer. Over summer her suite mate and I started sleeping together casually I didn t cheat but the timelines were kinda close. She found out and was upset. Upset enough to move out of her suite to avoid the suite mate. It also came up that I was still into the girl I dated before the main one. Her friends have a tendency to blow drama out of proportion and they were already pretty mad at me because of other things I had done. I just found out she made a complaint to the university claiming I raped her that day. What can I do? All of my friends have stopped talking to me and everyone is going to side with her. I dont think I raped her it that she gave consent and when she wanted me to stop I stopped. I live in Ohio.

* DO NOT TALK TO ANYONE about this at all anything you say will be used against you * Go talk to an attorney or go get one ASAP. You cannot handle this on your own

&gt All of my friends have stopped talking to me and everyone is going to side with her That shouldn t be your concern right now. In fact you shouldn t be talking to anybody about it at all. Your concern should be a possible rape charge. If you are charged with a crime get an attorney.

2g8qw0

My ex-girlfriend and I had sex. She initially gave consent. She told me to stop and I did. 4 months later she is accusing me of rape. What can I do? Details: We had dated for 4 months. I was her first time. At the end of the semester i talked her into letting her get oral. she didnt like it so I stopped. Later while we were still in bed I convinced her to have sex with me. like 30 sec into it she asked if we could stop and we did. She cried a little bit and i tried to console her. we chilled in the bed some more and she seemed fine afterwards. Summer break starts she goes back home (4hr away). A month later friends and I go visit her for a weekend. we hadnt kept in touch that much and things were kinda awkward. I broke up with her after I came back to school for the summer. Over summer her suite mate and I started sleeping together casually I didn t cheat but the timelines were kinda close. She found out and was upset. Upset enough to move out of her suite to avoid the suite mate. It also came up that I was still into the girl I dated before the main one. Her friends have a tendency to blow drama out of proportion and they were already pretty mad at me because of other things I had done. I just found out she made a complaint to the university claiming I raped her that day. What can I do? All of my friends have stopped talking to me and everyone is going to side with her. I dont think I raped her it that she gave consent and when she wanted me to stop I stopped. I live in Ohio.

* DO NOT TALK TO ANYONE about this at all anything you say will be used against you * Go talk to an attorney or go get one ASAP. You cannot handle this on your own

Don t talk to the cops. Goto youtube and search dont talk to the police. Top result is a 40 minute video from a law professor telling his class why you should never talk to the police.

2gdev3

A woman deliberately backed into me at a red light. What can I do to get justice? This happened yesterday and the story goes like this. I am behind a car approaching the red light and she thinks i m tailgating her and decides to break check me. I stop in time and by my best guess i m probably about a foot away. Then this insane woman puts her car in reverse and backs into my front bumper. I couldn t believe it. Once i get over the fact she just hit me i take out my phone and took a pic of her plate. Still at the red light i get out of my car and walk over to her window. This lady blames me by saying why were you stopped so close to me? Almost in full rage mode at this point but still minding my manners I said your crazy you backed into me im calling the cops. She then snaps back at me i ll just tell them you were tailgating me you wont call the cops on me. And drives away. Wait!! What?! Now i know shes nuts. I pull into the corner call the police and file a report. The officer tells me he will call me in 20 minutes after he hears her side of the story and leaves. Then the officer calls me to inform me what he found he goes on to explain to me that even though he does believe me about what happened and wanted to charge her with malicious destruction of property and leaving the scene of an accident he cannot do anything about it because she never admitted to it she only said I thought about it when he asked her flat out if she did it. The officer also tells me that there was none of my paint on her bumper from my car and since I had previous damage to my bumper (Not from other accidents though I delivered pizza. Damn driveways.) there s not much i can do. Today i m pissed i m more mad then yesterday. This lady was so cocky about the police and now she could actually get away with it. I know this was a long story and my grammar well lets be honest. I dont care today. Im sorry thats probably a bad outlook especially since i created an account to ask legal advice for some advice and stop lurking like i hear on here all the time. What can i do to get some justice? Thanks in advanced Redditors. Edit: Im in Michigan.

This kind of thing regrettably is why russians all have dash cams. You could have given a recording to the police if you had it.

Was your car damaged?

2ghmi2

(OK) I am a manager at a movie theatre. I had to kick out a customer for refusing to take her crying baby outside. She is now suing me for assaulting her daughter. Oklahoma USA Here s what happened: I (25m) was contacted during a movie by a male guest complaining about a baby crying during a non-kids movie. As is policy I had to ask for the child to be taken out of the theatre while it was crying. When I entered the theatre I immediately heard the crying and approached an older woman (40s maybe) who was there with an infant and a teenage girl. I asked the woman to take the infant outside. She refused and said he wasn t making noise. The infant continued screaming and I told her she would be kicked out if she didn t take the baby out. She asked if she would be refunded and I said yes she could have two tickets or just come back and see the movie another day. She asked for four tickets and I told her I could only give her two. At this point she became belligerent and I told her I was getting mall security. I went and got a security guard and explained what was going on. I stopped into my office for a moment to tell my employees the situation and could hear the woman screaming and hollering from where I was. People in surrounding businesses came out to see what was going on. When I went back toward the theatre I saw she was outside with her children and the security guard who was trying to get her to leave. I told her that we would need to call the police if she didn t leave and after more screaming and threatening to smear me on Facebook and that she was friends with the sheriff she left. This occurred on Saturday around 8pm for reference. After I returned from work an old employee and friend of mine texted me to say his friend was friends with her on Facebook and she d posted saying that I kicked her out for breastfeeding and pushed her down the stairs. And that she was going to sue me. Yesterday a police officer showed up at my work and said that the woman was suing me for assaulting her teenage (17) daughter and that I should be receiving a subpoena in a couple days. To be clear she is suing me personally not the theatre. At no point did I EVER put my hands on the woman her teenage daughter or the infant. At all. I was never alone with any of them and the security guard can corroborate this. My question is what comes next? What can I expect and what advice do you have for me? I know that I have a fairly strong case but it seems really he-said she-said. **UPDATE 9 17:** it s been a few days now and I haven t heard anything. No paperwork has shown up for me. I m assuming the matter has been dropped (or hoping rather) but if it turns out I m wrong I ll make a new post in this sub with new information. Thank you to everyone who commented with advice!

&gt Yesterday a police officer showed up at my work and said that the woman was suing me for assaulting her teenage (17) daughter and that I should be receiving a subpoena in a couple days. To be clear she is suing me personally not the theatre. I call bullshit (or her or the so-called cop). Cops jobs don t include relaying lawsuit threats for people. Notify your supervisor immediately. Your employer probably has business liability insurance that will cover you (including paying for a defense) *if* she sues you - which is very unlikely.

You need an attorney. You also need to go get the report that the security officer hopefully wrote about the incident.

2ghmi2

(OK) I am a manager at a movie theatre. I had to kick out a customer for refusing to take her crying baby outside. She is now suing me for assaulting her daughter. Oklahoma USA Here s what happened: I (25m) was contacted during a movie by a male guest complaining about a baby crying during a non-kids movie. As is policy I had to ask for the child to be taken out of the theatre while it was crying. When I entered the theatre I immediately heard the crying and approached an older woman (40s maybe) who was there with an infant and a teenage girl. I asked the woman to take the infant outside. She refused and said he wasn t making noise. The infant continued screaming and I told her she would be kicked out if she didn t take the baby out. She asked if she would be refunded and I said yes she could have two tickets or just come back and see the movie another day. She asked for four tickets and I told her I could only give her two. At this point she became belligerent and I told her I was getting mall security. I went and got a security guard and explained what was going on. I stopped into my office for a moment to tell my employees the situation and could hear the woman screaming and hollering from where I was. People in surrounding businesses came out to see what was going on. When I went back toward the theatre I saw she was outside with her children and the security guard who was trying to get her to leave. I told her that we would need to call the police if she didn t leave and after more screaming and threatening to smear me on Facebook and that she was friends with the sheriff she left. This occurred on Saturday around 8pm for reference. After I returned from work an old employee and friend of mine texted me to say his friend was friends with her on Facebook and she d posted saying that I kicked her out for breastfeeding and pushed her down the stairs. And that she was going to sue me. Yesterday a police officer showed up at my work and said that the woman was suing me for assaulting her teenage (17) daughter and that I should be receiving a subpoena in a couple days. To be clear she is suing me personally not the theatre. At no point did I EVER put my hands on the woman her teenage daughter or the infant. At all. I was never alone with any of them and the security guard can corroborate this. My question is what comes next? What can I expect and what advice do you have for me? I know that I have a fairly strong case but it seems really he-said she-said. **UPDATE 9 17:** it s been a few days now and I haven t heard anything. No paperwork has shown up for me. I m assuming the matter has been dropped (or hoping rather) but if it turns out I m wrong I ll make a new post in this sub with new information. Thank you to everyone who commented with advice!

Wait...The cop came and told you that you were being sued without actually serving you with a Complaint and Summons? Did he leave a card? If so call his department and ask to speak with the ranking officer. I can think of no reason for a cop to become involved unless they were serving you with Court documents. I think she may have a friend coming to try to scare you. Verify and wait for service of process. It comes get a lawyer but also notify the theater manager and owner. The other reason I am skeptical is that if she is after money there is zero reason to sue you and not sue the theater. They are the deep pocket. I think you got a nasty bitch who has some friends on the force that may be misusing their uniform to scare you. Call around and verify then get a lawyer if you get served. Also in the future just call the cops if a patron becomes belligerent. They have immunity.

You need an attorney. You also need to go get the report that the security officer hopefully wrote about the incident.

2grhab

A friend and I made a game now my friend is selling it and not giving me any profit. I hoping to get a bit of help with this problem at least getting help knowing where exactly I stand with this. A few months ago I had a good idea for a (pc)game. As I m no good with programming I got my good friend in on it. From the very beginning we decided we would split any profit 50 50 if we actually succeeding in making a good game. Fast forward a few months and the game is 98% finished. We had the game beta tested by a few big gamers and were told if would definitely make money if we put it on the market that we could probably even sell it to one of the bigger gaming companies. At this point I felt like we needed a sort of contract just in case but my friend no longer wanted to split profit 50 50. He told me he felt like he had done all the hard work and wanted 80-85% instead of just half. Keep in mind he did programming while I did everything else (Made up the story characters ect did the script graphics sounds recorded voice-acting and such things). I told him no as I didn t feel like the deal was fair 20-15% simply doesn t cover the amount of time and energy I have put into this project (besides I ve been the one paying for everything like voice-actors). About a month goes by without us talking much and I then find out he has published the game without my knowledge or permission. I ve also found out that he has made quite a bit of earnings from it and that he has possibly sold the rights to the game to another company (not quite sure about it yet but 60% sure). He refuses me any part in all of this telling me he did all of the work and by rights that makes it his game. For the record I still have the original script I still have a lot of the game s files saved on a harddisk (and the program we used to edit it shows every date we ve been messing with the program meaning I can prove I ve been in on this from the beginning) I have gameart laying around I have mails from the voice-actors of the game (with dates) I have mails from my friend where we talk about the earlier stages of the game development I have sound-files and I have the game grapich files (all of which have dates). Now please tell with all of this stuff can I do anything about my friend s actions?

&gt Now please tell with all of this stuff can I do anything about my friend s actions? Sure. You can sue him. You should take your story to an attorney for a consultation. He ll tell you what your realistic chances of winning are and you can decide whether to proceed.

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2gs47u

I m a student working as a pizza delivery driver part time I torrented a movie and got caught. They want me to pay a $3800 settlement fee which goes to $4800 if not paid by 9 26. Help? Okay as I said before I downloaded a movie (Dallas Buyers Club) and I got caught. I now understand why it s stupid and who I took from. My problem now is this case. I have $150 to my name and a paycheck of around $250 every two weeks. I can t raise this money in time. My parents know about this but I am not going to put this burden on them. A - it was my mistake and it is my responsibility and B - they aren t in the best financial situation either. Is there anything I can do to ease this burden so my case doesn t go to court? I d happily pay more if it means I have more time raising the money. [Here](http: imgur.com ydz8D0X) is page one of the letter they sent me and [here](http: imgur.com dOMoqvi) is page two. I understand where I went wrong and I know who I took from. Please help me figure this out. Thanks in advance for your help. EDIT - Wow thanks for all your help! I was busy at work and school today and only had so much time to respond. I will begin copious hours of redditting researching for this case. Thank you all for all your help. This is why I love Reddit. Thanks again!

Dallas Buyers Club LLC is a copyright troll. Google them and see for yourself. Don t settle don t panic do talk to an attorney.

They made you an offer on how you can make this go away you can make a counter offer. Don t let them scare you with award in Sony. Every case is different. You can also offer to settle once you are sued. They just want money. Now here is my most important piece of advice: get a lawyer who is familiar with defending this type of lawsuit. They will be familiar on what to do what steps to take to settle look up similar suits in the Northern District of Ill etc etc. Whatever you do don t ignore it.

2gs47u

I m a student working as a pizza delivery driver part time I torrented a movie and got caught. They want me to pay a $3800 settlement fee which goes to $4800 if not paid by 9 26. Help? Okay as I said before I downloaded a movie (Dallas Buyers Club) and I got caught. I now understand why it s stupid and who I took from. My problem now is this case. I have $150 to my name and a paycheck of around $250 every two weeks. I can t raise this money in time. My parents know about this but I am not going to put this burden on them. A - it was my mistake and it is my responsibility and B - they aren t in the best financial situation either. Is there anything I can do to ease this burden so my case doesn t go to court? I d happily pay more if it means I have more time raising the money. [Here](http: imgur.com ydz8D0X) is page one of the letter they sent me and [here](http: imgur.com dOMoqvi) is page two. I understand where I went wrong and I know who I took from. Please help me figure this out. Thanks in advance for your help. EDIT - Wow thanks for all your help! I was busy at work and school today and only had so much time to respond. I will begin copious hours of redditting researching for this case. Thank you all for all your help. This is why I love Reddit. Thanks again!

Dallas Buyers Club LLC is a copyright troll. Google them and see for yourself. Don t settle don t panic do talk to an attorney.

Before you take any action I would recommend doing some research on Dallas Buyers Club LLC and some of their recently filed cases that are exactly like this one. You can also reach out to a lawyer who has experience with these and similar cases and get their opinion as well and I would urge you to do that before moving forward with anything. You still have options. Negotiating a settlement with them right now is one of those options but not the only one.

2gs47u

I m a student working as a pizza delivery driver part time I torrented a movie and got caught. They want me to pay a $3800 settlement fee which goes to $4800 if not paid by 9 26. Help? Okay as I said before I downloaded a movie (Dallas Buyers Club) and I got caught. I now understand why it s stupid and who I took from. My problem now is this case. I have $150 to my name and a paycheck of around $250 every two weeks. I can t raise this money in time. My parents know about this but I am not going to put this burden on them. A - it was my mistake and it is my responsibility and B - they aren t in the best financial situation either. Is there anything I can do to ease this burden so my case doesn t go to court? I d happily pay more if it means I have more time raising the money. [Here](http: imgur.com ydz8D0X) is page one of the letter they sent me and [here](http: imgur.com dOMoqvi) is page two. I understand where I went wrong and I know who I took from. Please help me figure this out. Thanks in advance for your help. EDIT - Wow thanks for all your help! I was busy at work and school today and only had so much time to respond. I will begin copious hours of redditting researching for this case. Thank you all for all your help. This is why I love Reddit. Thanks again!

Dallas Buyers Club LLC is a copyright troll. Google them and see for yourself. Don t settle don t panic do talk to an attorney.

You re not yet required to pay anything. This letter is an offer of a settlement. You can still go to court if you want and present a defense. If however you ve decided to simply pay out then contact the law firm and negotiate the settlement. You may be able to get them to knock a big chunk of the total off and or you can negotiate a payment plan.

2gz6jh

Got a flat tire called AAA to tow me home tow truck ends up rear ending me. Car is totaled AAA truck was going very fast my back hurts.. i need help.

Call your insurance company. This is why you pay them. Also if your back hurts go to the ER. Not sure how we could help with that. I left my fairy dust in another subreddit.

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2gz6jh

Got a flat tire called AAA to tow me home tow truck ends up rear ending me. Car is totaled AAA truck was going very fast my back hurts.. i need help.

Call your insurance company. This is why you pay them. Also if your back hurts go to the ER. Not sure how we could help with that. I left my fairy dust in another subreddit.

wait for insurance to figure it out. get copies of any physician reports exams treatment etc. if that s inadequate consider hiring a injury lawyer.