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[0.000 --> 7.000]  Buonasera, signori e signore.
[7.000 --> 18.000]  Mi chiamo la Elatacconi.
[18.000 --> 27.000]  Otre disagni sono italiana e siccome sono italiana, muovole nemmeno in sacco quando farlo.
[27.000 --> 39.000]  E da per questo che sono questa sera, sono qua per parlarvi di una comunicazione bellissima, la comunicazione non verbala.
[39.000 --> 51.000]  Ok, nuove le persone che ho restato, non sono le persone che ho restato, non sono le persone che ho restato,
[51.000 --> 55.000]  diciamo sui sono occhina.
[55.000 --> 59.000]  Le persone che state io trovo pensato per racc şur兩個 antib ideology.
[59.000 --> 69.980]  E poi ho raguntato unうん אני conATALITY BUTTER Trovaisf actually is
[69.980 --> 73.700]  ElenaTHOODZ
[73.700 --> 78.300]  Mi sp eyebrows Cast scientabiLL.
[78.300 --> 79.460]  Io mi�ste calculations per oggi
[79.460 --> 82.600]  sono dulami unito peccata
[85.840 --> 87.260]  uno Schon setup
[87.420 --> 88.260]  e mi vede Jiang��
[88.380 --> 88.680]  St rati
[88.860 --> 90.440]  che molte Ao pono
[90.640 --> 91.400]  Shakes
[100.920 --> 101.580]  È eccNONlike
[101.740 --> 102.940]  era sleeping
[102.980 --> 103.620]  Sonoosc sola
[103.620 --> 104.500]  Di devotione
[105.400 --> 107.200]  Ha characterized
[107.200 --> 111.080]  Che magari ci Grindaman disse è una 루�ıktan?"
[111.080 --> 113.700]  Io mi podia我也 Furthermore, altra cosa.
[113.700 --> 115.680]  Sala che nokia no solo è la una tutta
[115.680 --> 128.420]  Pag
[130.920 --> 134.920]  involves premato —
[134.920 --> 137.060] これで sa George.
[137.140 --> 138.260]  hitomaso di helt
[138.320 --> 138.560]  combien?
[138.640 --> 139.960]  Ga mushroomsero.
[140.020 --> 140.660]  Sì ma
[140.720 --> 143.020]  scelto lieverso dal
[143.080 --> 144.260]  nghi hundredavo...
[144.340 --> 145.960]  se Quinin,
[146.020 --> 148.300]  receiving
[149.400 --> 151.400]  enforcement
[151.480 --> 155.600]  ancora dev' tranquill
[155.660 --> 158.760]  il fatto che si abbia
[158.860 --> 160.160]  fatta sono brez'
[160.260 --> 161.860] nersia decentralized
[161.940 --> 162.120]  acquaeda
[162.180 --> 162.320] iani Importato
[162.380 --> 163.960]  le artistie
[164.040 --> 164.920]  le varie
[164.920 --> 172.920]  ma i sottili di me non ho mai fatto i suoi espressioni, e il risultato è molto di essere hilarious.
[172.920 --> 178.920]  We are trying to understand what foreigners are saying, and foreigners are trying to understand
[178.920 --> 181.920]  what us, crazy Italians, and we are trying to say.
[181.920 --> 189.920]  So, another way in which I gained all my experience from is, in fact, from soar throes.
[190.920 --> 196.920]  I don't usually get them, but when I do, they're so strong I completely lose my voice.
[196.920 --> 203.920]  When it happens, I get really upset, because I have to dance around like a witch during the bonfire,
[203.920 --> 210.920]  and I have to bring an exercise book with me, write things down and voice people to read them,
[210.920 --> 213.920]  to understand what I want to tell them.
[214.920 --> 222.920]  But, you see, when I dance around, I make specific movements that actually show my way of being and feeling.
[222.920 --> 228.920]  Now, I'm going to go technical, so please, please, please, don't fall asleep.
[230.920 --> 238.920]  The first, most important, technical aspect, is non-burble communication, is your look or gaze.
[239.920 --> 246.920]  Just by looking at the intensity of your gaze, the fruconcy, the length, and the delation of your eyes,
[246.920 --> 251.920]  you can determine whether someone is attracted to someone else or not.
[251.920 --> 258.920]  By looking at the same things, you can determine whether someone is a dominant person or not.
[258.920 --> 267.920]  Dominant people tend to look at things for less time, but they're always the last to move their gaze onto something else.
[268.920 --> 271.920]  Then, we have gestures.
[271.920 --> 276.920]  Gestures mainly concern head, hands, and feet.
[276.920 --> 284.920]  Gestures may be lost over time, so for example, hand kissing, which is just basically lips touching someone's hand.
[284.920 --> 293.920]  It used to be super, it was used a lot in a different era, but now it's rare to see someone actually do it.
[293.920 --> 301.920]  Another thing about gestures is that they are mostly linked to social, cultural context,
[301.920 --> 308.920]  and that just leads on to misunderstandings, but I'll come to that later.
[308.920 --> 312.920]  Then, we have posture.
[312.920 --> 315.920]  Right now, I'm trying to look like a dominant person.
[315.920 --> 325.920]  Dominant people tend to stand straight and have a confident walk, but what I've actually liked to do is to, like, the prison on the left,
[325.920 --> 335.920]  I like to crouch down on the floor, morph my body into a ball, and just hide myself from the cameras, and from mainly the audience.
[335.920 --> 341.920]  Then, we have clothing, physical aspect, and state.
[341.920 --> 344.920]  It doesn't matter how hard you try.
[344.920 --> 347.920]  People do judge you upon your physical aspect.
[347.920 --> 349.920]  People do judge a book by its cover.
[349.920 --> 352.920]  I mean, you're judging me right now.
[352.920 --> 355.920]  Some of you may be thinking, oh, she looks so nice with that.
[355.920 --> 356.920]  I've scared on.
[356.920 --> 359.920]  Some of you may be thinking, she looks mediocre.
[359.920 --> 361.920]  I've screwed like that during a tech event.
[361.920 --> 364.920]  Are you serious girl?
[365.920 --> 368.920]  With clothing, you've also got color codes.
[368.920 --> 375.920]  If I went to a funeral and I was wearing yellow, orange, bright pink, it wouldn't be really respectful with it.
[375.920 --> 378.920]  So, just be aware of it.
[378.920 --> 389.920]  Then, we have personal space, and I found it hilarious, because the closer you get to the equator, the less personal space people have.
[389.920 --> 398.920]  And the look on northern European spaces, when they see Italian males hugging, is just priceless.
[398.920 --> 402.920]  And last but not least, we have corporal contact.
[402.920 --> 405.920]  It's the fastest type of non-verbal communication.
[405.920 --> 410.920]  You see, it's when distance between objects is abolished.
[410.920 --> 414.920]  And there's four main occasions in which this happens.
[414.920 --> 416.920]  The first one is aggressive behavior.
[416.920 --> 419.920]  Then, there's affectionate relations.
[419.920 --> 426.920]  Then, you have incure in hospitals and in interaction.
[426.920 --> 430.920]  Still not finished with the technical stuff.
[430.920 --> 436.920]  Now, we're going on to the main functions of non-verbal communication, and there are four.
[436.920 --> 439.920]  The first one is expressive communication.
[439.920 --> 442.920]  It shows your moods, your feelings.
[442.920 --> 447.920]  And it's the main reason why emojis were created in the first place.
[447.920 --> 453.920]  We had to show the way we were feeling when we can't type it.
[453.920 --> 456.920]  Then, we have interpersonal communication.
[456.920 --> 462.920]  And it's just to show hostility, friendship, anger, fear, confusion.
[462.920 --> 465.920]  That is what interpersonal communication is.
[465.920 --> 468.920]  And it's also holding hands, hugging.
[468.920 --> 472.920]  I mean, I hug my friends all the time, just for random reasons.
[472.920 --> 477.920]  You can ask all of them if I have any friends.
[477.920 --> 482.920]  Then, we have interaction adjustment.
[482.920 --> 487.920]  And it's just keeping on a control body language.
[487.920 --> 490.920]  And it's also to show someone its their terms, for example.
[490.920 --> 493.920]  It's to return to both the dice.
[494.920 --> 497.920]  Lastly, we have verbal communication.
[497.920 --> 501.920]  And yes, it is a main function of body language.
[501.920 --> 508.920]  Because it colors in, it adds detail to what body language can't.
[508.920 --> 512.920]  You know, lying is really important.
[512.920 --> 522.920]  You see, teachers and policemen are trained to tell if a student or a policeman's case a murder is telling the truth or not.
[522.920 --> 527.920]  I go up to my dramaturger, Jane.
[527.920 --> 533.920]  And I tell her, Jane, I did my homework.
[533.920 --> 534.920]  It was amazing.
[534.920 --> 536.920]  Three whole pages of a script.
[536.920 --> 539.920]  It's just, you see, I left it home.
[539.920 --> 541.920]  I will bring it to you tomorrow morning.
[541.920 --> 543.920]  It's not okay with you.
[543.920 --> 546.920]  Just by looking at how much I blinked.
[546.920 --> 550.920]  And at my hesitation, she could tell that I was lying.
[551.920 --> 561.920]  And that excuse of leaving it home was just a way of getting another day to do a homework that it couldn't be bothered to do for the past week.
[561.920 --> 563.920]  I'm thinking about it.
[563.920 --> 568.920]  Lying is not the same everywhere in the world, just like smiling.
[568.920 --> 578.920]  In the Japanese culture, smiling, people smile to make sure that the speaker or the listener is not upset in any kind of way.
[578.920 --> 585.920]  In other Asian countries, smiling is for embarrassment to show embarrassment or confusion.
[585.920 --> 591.920]  Well, most of the world is to show personal peace or joy.
[591.920 --> 594.920]  I'll give you another example.
[594.920 --> 602.920]  If I have, say, Japanese math teacher, and she has to give me really bad news, so for example.
[603.920 --> 606.920]  Leila, I'm really sorry, truly sorry.
[606.920 --> 610.920]  But you've got a terrible grade on your math exam.
[610.920 --> 613.920]  And I think you'll have to take it again.
[613.920 --> 616.920]  Vice-mile, well, she gives me the bad news.
[616.920 --> 619.920]  She might take it as gratitude for understanding.
[619.920 --> 623.920]  Well, if Vice-mile, at Jawan, well, she is giving me the bad news.
[623.920 --> 629.920]  She might take it as being rude as she's Scottish.
[629.920 --> 636.920]  And I either get a detention or a lower grade on my report.
[636.920 --> 640.920]  Jawan, I love you and dad, don't worry, this is not the case.
[643.920 --> 649.920]  Now, in formal context in Japan, nobody smiles as it's considered really rude.
[649.920 --> 656.920]  In America, if you don't smile during formal context, then it's rude, because you don't mean what you're saying.
[656.920 --> 664.920]  And in Italy, if you smile in formal context, or when you're usually talking to someone,
[664.920 --> 669.920]  it will be like you're fooling them, because it's just weird.
[669.920 --> 676.920]  Now, we have more frequent users and less frequent users of this body language thing.
[676.920 --> 683.920]  The people who use it the most are normally encouraged by their culture to use a double communication technique.
[683.920 --> 687.920]  And they seem like warmer people, trustworthy kind.
[687.920 --> 692.920]  Well, it's the people who use it the less facing cold-hearted, mean.
[692.920 --> 694.920]  They don't really care about you.
[694.920 --> 696.920]  So be aware of it.
[696.920 --> 700.920]  Using body language is not a bad thing.
[700.920 --> 705.920]  Now, there might be misunderstandings with gestures too.
[705.920 --> 710.920]  You see, this is a mean in Italian, kind of Roman dialect, and it says,
[710.920 --> 714.920]  no problem, stay calm or calm down.
[714.920 --> 718.920]  And the gesture that this footballer is doing is this.
[718.920 --> 723.920]  In Italy, and most other countries, it means calm down, chill.
[723.920 --> 729.920]  Well, in Greece, Pakistan, and some places in Africa, it's very offensive.
[729.920 --> 731.920]  So be careful.
[731.920 --> 734.920]  Same goes with peace sign.
[734.920 --> 736.920]  It's sought to children as peace.
[736.920 --> 739.920]  In Germany, it means victory.
[739.920 --> 744.920]  In the UK, New Zealand, Australia, and Malta, it's very offensive.
[744.920 --> 748.920]  Not necessarily this way, maybe the other way around.
[748.920 --> 752.920]  And in Malta, it's not necessarily the index finger and the second finger.
[752.920 --> 756.920]  It's maybe other fingers.
[756.920 --> 760.920]  And these are all the misunderstandings linked to gestures.
[760.920 --> 765.920]  You see, bit by bit though, thanks to globalization, the world is understanding.
[765.920 --> 771.920]  So people are more aware of it, and there's less awkward moment.
[771.920 --> 776.920]  Now, you will never be as good as I am with non-brival communication,
[776.920 --> 779.920]  but I'm not going to discourage you.
[779.920 --> 787.920]  I actually invite you in the next 24 hours to look carefully at people you interact with,
[787.920 --> 790.920]  and see what they're telling you and what they're showing you,
[790.920 --> 797.920]  with posture, volume, and which, just anything that I've told you today.
[797.920 --> 801.920]  But I'm not really sure I want to understand where you've been telling me,
[801.920 --> 804.920]  with all your impatient movements on your chairs,
[804.920 --> 807.920]  your automatic nodding, and your continuous blinking.
[807.920 --> 810.920]  But all I'd like to say is thank you for listening,
[810.920 --> 813.920]  and I'll let you think about what this oil means.
[813.920 --> 822.920]  Thank you.