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The dataset generation failed because of a cast error
Error code: DatasetGenerationCastError
Exception: DatasetGenerationCastError
Message: An error occurred while generating the dataset
All the data files must have the same columns, but at some point there are 7 new columns ({'Financial and Legal Disagreements', 'Other', 'Work Dynamics', 'Cultural and Identity-Based Issues', 'Family Issues', 'Personal Boundaries', 'Relationship Conflicts'}) and 3 missing columns ({'title', 'id', 'selftext'}).
This happened while the csv dataset builder was generating data using
hf://datasets/yosrissa/AITA-posts-topics-dataset/train_labels.csv (at revision 6eb9de284292a6c15b4e295713ad5c40db03c20c)
Please either edit the data files to have matching columns, or separate them into different configurations (see docs at https://hf.co/docs/hub/datasets-manual-configuration#multiple-configurations)
Traceback: Traceback (most recent call last):
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/builder.py", line 1870, in _prepare_split_single
writer.write_table(table)
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/arrow_writer.py", line 622, in write_table
pa_table = table_cast(pa_table, self._schema)
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/table.py", line 2292, in table_cast
return cast_table_to_schema(table, schema)
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/table.py", line 2240, in cast_table_to_schema
raise CastError(
datasets.table.CastError: Couldn't cast
Family Issues: int64
Relationship Conflicts: int64
Work Dynamics: int64
Financial and Legal Disagreements: int64
Personal Boundaries: int64
Cultural and Identity-Based Issues: int64
Other: int64
-- schema metadata --
pandas: '{"index_columns": [{"kind": "range", "name": null, "start": 0, "' + 1218
to
{'id': Value(dtype='string', id=None), 'title': Value(dtype='string', id=None), 'selftext': Value(dtype='string', id=None)}
because column names don't match
During handling of the above exception, another exception occurred:
Traceback (most recent call last):
File "/src/services/worker/src/worker/job_runners/config/parquet_and_info.py", line 1417, in compute_config_parquet_and_info_response
parquet_operations = convert_to_parquet(builder)
File "/src/services/worker/src/worker/job_runners/config/parquet_and_info.py", line 1049, in convert_to_parquet
builder.download_and_prepare(
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/builder.py", line 924, in download_and_prepare
self._download_and_prepare(
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/builder.py", line 1000, in _download_and_prepare
self._prepare_split(split_generator, **prepare_split_kwargs)
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/builder.py", line 1741, in _prepare_split
for job_id, done, content in self._prepare_split_single(
File "/src/services/worker/.venv/lib/python3.9/site-packages/datasets/builder.py", line 1872, in _prepare_split_single
raise DatasetGenerationCastError.from_cast_error(
datasets.exceptions.DatasetGenerationCastError: An error occurred while generating the dataset
All the data files must have the same columns, but at some point there are 7 new columns ({'Financial and Legal Disagreements', 'Other', 'Work Dynamics', 'Cultural and Identity-Based Issues', 'Family Issues', 'Personal Boundaries', 'Relationship Conflicts'}) and 3 missing columns ({'title', 'id', 'selftext'}).
This happened while the csv dataset builder was generating data using
hf://datasets/yosrissa/AITA-posts-topics-dataset/train_labels.csv (at revision 6eb9de284292a6c15b4e295713ad5c40db03c20c)
Please either edit the data files to have matching columns, or separate them into different configurations (see docs at https://hf.co/docs/hub/datasets-manual-configuration#multiple-configurations)Need help to make the dataset viewer work? Make sure to review how to configure the dataset viewer, and open a discussion for direct support.
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1fs8i6c | WIBTA for not letting my MIL tell our kid that the tooth fairy is real? | I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant, so my husband and I have been having a lot of conversation about how we want to raise our child.
One thing we agreed on immediately was that we don’t want to lie to our kids. So, while we will 100% celebrate Christmas, Easter, losing teeth, etc and make the event as wonderful and memorable as possible, we won’t be telling them that Santa or large bunnies or tooth fairies will be breaking into our house to deliver gifts.
Everything seemed great… until his MIL.
She is a dental hygienist and is obsessed with her job. She absolutely loves the tooth fairy and even makes little doors for her kid patients to put in their room to “let the fairy come in.” She wrote an (unpublished) book about the tooth fairy.
Safe to say she’s extremely passionate about the tooth fairy.
My husband and I were honestly thinking mostly about Christmas and this potential conflict hadn’t occurred to us until now. It’s still important to us not to lie to our kids like that, but I *know* my MIL is going to freak out. My husband will side with me when push comes to shove, but is starting to worry it’ll devastate her
WIBTA if I stand my ground and don’t let MIL tell our child the tooth fairy is real? |
1fro44o | AITA for telling my little sister’s best friend that my brother stole her college fund? | I (30M) found out my younger brother, "Tom" (28M), stole $5,000 from my little sister’s (18F) best friend, "Emma" (18F). Tom and Emma's families have always been close, and Emma practically grew up with us. My mom asked Tom to help Emma manage her money for college because she trusted him with it (he works in finance).
Tom recently confessed to me that he “borrowed” $5,000 from Emma’s college fund and blew it on gambling. He said he planned to replace it before anyone noticed, but he lost everything. He begged me not to tell anyone, saying he’s going through a rough patch and just needs time to make it right.
Emma’s family doesn’t have a lot of money, and she worked super hard to save for school. Knowing this, I felt sick. I didn’t want to betray my brother, but Emma’s future is on the line.
So, I told Emma the truth. She was devastated and confronted Tom, who denied everything at first, but eventually broke down and admitted it. Now, my family’s furious with me for “ruining” Tom’s life and says I should have given him a chance to fix it. Tom won’t speak to me.
AITA for telling Emma?
--edit : just to clarify, my brother and I are quite close but, due to some past events, not so close to our parents. They didn't know about my brother hobby. |
1fqq0xx | AITA for not letting my mom browse my messages? | I am a 16 year old male and has had a phone since I was 8. My mom would take my phone from time to time and browse all my messages and conversations on all my messaging apps. I understood it when I was younger, but now I feel like I'm too old for that. When I told her I don't want her to do that, she'd accuse me of hiding something for her and say something the lines of "Is this my thanks for everything I've been doing for you???" and similar things that just make me feel like an asshole, hence the post.
I understand she's very worried about me and she just wants to make sure I'm ok and don't get into conversations with shady people and such. But I feel like I'm old enough to be able to deduct who I should or shouldn't talk to and I want to be able to have privacy.
I also completely understand she has been through a lot in life and that she may view this as me being distrustful of her, doing something behind her back and lying to her, and I really don't want to hurt her.
So AITA for not letting my mom browse my messages?
Edit: Holy cow my notifications are exploding |
1fuh88g | AITAH feeling guilty for swearing at kids i do not know | throw away acc
I was taking an afternoon walk a couple days ago and came past these kids all under the age of 12 (youngest looked about 7; possibly all siblings) on the busy suburban road. They were crossing from one side of the road to the other side with busy incoming traffic on both ways and during that time is peak hour. A couple cars had beeped at them but no one seemed stopped. Their parents were no where to be seen. It annoyed me a lot since it could cause a big accident and injury. I thought about not speaking up but something in me was like no say something.
I will admit I spoke out in emotion because I said “You do know what you’re doing is fucking dangerous” “Where the fuck are your parents?” And the kid responded “Inside” I told them “I think it’s best you guys go back inside because if you guys keep on doing this you will cause an accident”
I felt so bad to swear at kids I did not know. I was so frustrated that no one had stopped to tell these kids to stop running back and forth off the road. Their parents obviously did not care what their children were up to because if they did they would be outside watching them.
But AITAH for swearing at them? I definitely do know there could have a been a better way to approach it. The intention was there just the way I spoke out wasn’t.
Edit: I had seen them from a distance as they were running back and forth as if it was a game to see who could outrun the incoming cars. |
1fr251p | WIBTA for refusing to eat my stepsister’s ex’s food and making my own? | My stepsister (40F) and I (25M) live with our parents due to her having a special needs son (12M) and I have autism. Her ex husband (the father of her child) has been out of the picture for most of her son’s life. He abandoned them shortly after her son turned 1. As such, I don’t like the guy.
I recently got a closing shift job, meaning I’m not home for dinner most nights. Cooking is my primary hobby, but because of my job, I had to give up doing it for all but one night a week. I found out today that my stepsisters ex wants back into her life, and wants to cook for my family once a week. The problem, aside from expecting to just waltz back into his sons life after being absent for a decade, is that the day my family agreed to give him is my day to cook, leaving me with no chance to make dinner. This is really frustrating to me, as it feels like my primary hobby and my need to do something on my days off has been disregarded by my entire family. My grandmother is the only person who backs me up.
WIBTA if I cook my own meal for me and my grandma once a week and not partake in his? |
1fudxor | WIBTA if I let my dad stay over after roommates tried to veto it? | I live in NYC and have 3 female roommates. We aren't very close with one another and definitely aren't all the most compatible as roommates, but things are mostly pleasant at the apartment.
My dad is visiting NY for 4 days, and he and I were planning on him staying with me. I texted the roommate gc asking if anyone minds, and two of my roommates said it made them uncomfortable.
I really only texted as a courtesy. I wasn't expecting anyone to veto. My roommates have overnight guests very frequently, male and female. While they've never had their dads stay over, they've had their moms stay. They also throw parties at the apartment that I've expressed discomfort with, but I've never been allowed veto power. They, too, text the group chat out of courtesy - not asking for permission or saving room for discussion.
We have a decently sized apt for NY with 4 beds and 2 baths. My dad would be staying in my room and would really only be at the apartment to sleep. He's very normal and quiet and respectful. WIBTA if I had him stay over anyways? |
1fq6s6u | AITA for not deleting old messages from an old phone I haven’t used in years? | so my partner saw some old messages from a old phone of mine that our kid plugged up. My partner put the password in and somehow saw some very old texts between myself and an ex who at the time we were just fwb’s. I had told them multiple times about how much of bad place I was in before we met. How when we met I was just trying to make it an FWB thing because I didn’t want to get hurt again. My ex and I hadn’t spoken in a bit before my current partner and I met. But the last text sent was a week before we were introduced. The texts read were very NSFW. I’ve been getting the silent treatment for the majority of these last two days and as soon as I was told it happened I apologized profusely. Made sure they knew it was before them and never happened during. Today is day three and I can still feel the shift and the awkwardness. I don’t know what to do. I’m not one to just let it not be talked about but they’re one to just bottle up emotions and take forever to talk about things. |
1fru3zx | AITA for Refusing to Give My Mom $10 Every Month? | Hey Reddit, I need some perspective. My mom asked me to give her $10 every time I get paid, saying it would be a blessing for me genuinely saying that giving her money will bring me blessings from God. I'm $60,000 in debt + monthly expenses and my husband can't work here in Costa Rica or find an international job, so he is my responsibility.
My mom has a husband that is retired and a 17-year-old son. While my brother doesn't work, she buys him expensive things like Nike sneakers and an iPhone. She said I'm a bad person for not giving her money, even though she earns two to three times my salary. I feel conflicted because I'm trying to manage my debt and support my household. I'm also from Costa Rica , I ear $5/h 💀. AITA for standing my ground and not given her the money since she doesn't need it? |
1fso546 | AITA for buying my boyfriend a chili pepper pipe? | Am I the asshole for wanting to buy my Mexican boyfriend a chili pepper pipe because I thought it would remind him of his culture?
Important information:
He is very passionate about being Mexican and likes to display that he is with car bumper stickers of the Mexican flag and similar things like that around his house.
He does not think I was racist, but my friends do. He thought the attempt was sweet. (the artist that made the pipe ran out, and I was not able to get him it)
I know food is a part of culture, but culture also includes beliefs, values, practices, and many other things.
I don't only associate Chili peppers with Mexican people; I know many people from almost every other ethnic group who use them in cooking.
But I do know Chili peppers have some significance in Mexican cuisine/culture.
Am I racist because I am being told I am
Edit: For the sake of easy writing for the post, I put my boyfriend. We are broken up now, but we are still friends. |
1fsbrw9 | AITA for giving someone asking for money a gift card | Today I went to a local convenience store and there was a man outside asking people for spare cash. The guy seemed pleasant enough and 90% of the time I will always give a person in that situation a buck or two, but I knew I had no paper money on me so I told him I’d get him something on my way out. I considered going to the ATM and taking ten bucks out, but there was a line and I was in a bit of a hurry. I quickly scanned my wallet and found a Dunkin Donuts gift card that I knew I hadn’t used. On my way out I handed him the card, apologizing that’s it was all I had. His demeanor changed, smacking the card on top of a trash and muttering something along the lines of “Man, get this crap outta my face.” I simply kept walking and he kept grumbling. As I approached my car, he yelled towards me “You think I’m f**king stupid?!” I brushed it off but still felt bothered by the situation, seeing his glare in my rear view mirror as I pulled out.
Am I the asshole here? |
1fr5viu | AITA for not helping my coworker when she really didn't need help? | My coworker has a habit of asking me to help her when I am also busy. We work together, but take care of seperate tasks so we get more done. Nothing that we do requires 2 people to handle the same task, so she really doesn't need my help, it would just make her work more convenient and mine longer if I stopped what I was doing to help her. So I don't help her. Am I the asshole? |
1fupt0n | AITA for having a monotone voice that affects many relationships? |
I (30f) have a monotone voice and can't control it. This has been an issue since around age 16. I realized it affected my relationships earlier on, so I’ve made it a point to be extremely blunt about how I feel. Otherwise, people think I'm bored or sarcastic. I went through some things and developed PTSD, which caused my emotions and voice to dim into this monotone sound. It’s the only tone I have. I explain this to people and ask them not to think I’m ungrateful, unhappy, bored, or sarcastic.
Recently, my long-term partner (27m) said he hates that I can't express myself vocally. Every time he does something nice for me, he feels that I am ungrateful. This came to a head because we ended up fighting when he thought I didn't want to spend time with him and the kids that day. He based his assumptions on my voice tone. In actuality, I was excited and happy. I specifically told him, “I’d like to go to this place, but anywhere else that you want to go to, I don’t mind going too,” as he was still thinking of where to go. However, he thought I felt forced to go along. We eventually didn't do anything because of the argument.
AITA? |
1fqiib8 | AITA for asking to keep some friendships separate in a relationship? | AITA for asking my partner of 6 years to keep some friendships separate? We have many mutual friends but I have some friendships I wish to keep for my own because I like the comfort of him not being too involved so I asked to not build a close/direct friendship relationship with. He thinks everybody, no matter their relationship to me, should be allowed to be his friend and really would like to get a one on one drink with this guy. I’m totally ok hanging out together but separately I thought was too much.
AITA for asking this?
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1fsnwsi | AITA for deciding to quit my work and focus on my side gig? | For context me and my girlfriend are both 20 years old and don’t live together nor share any bills.
I have a ten grand saved up from working like a slave since I was 16 and I have also been doing this side business where I draw and design clothing and sell them. So I decided since my side business has been starting to pick up (like ~20 orders a week) that I would quit my job and start putting my full focus onto my business; using the 10 grand I have saved up to keep me afloat for a couple months.
My girlfriend says I’m just wasting my time and money and that I should just continue working so we could move out together. I get where she is coming from but this might be the only time in my life where I don’t have much bills at all and can afford to put my full focus into something like this.
She said she won’t support me at all with this decision and that this would put a “strain” on our relationship.
I feel like I’m doing nothing wrong and am simply following my passion? Am I wrong here? |
1fssxhw | AITA for staying home to see my grandma | Hi I'm 14 and recently my grandma was admitted to a hospital because she was having a lot of seizures recently. Today I was told that my grandma was going to come home and after school I would see her but since my mom was gone when I was young and when I was 4 came back to be a real mom while she was gone I was with my grandma all those 4 years and now we are best friends. Now we go back to the present and I don't want to wait to see my grandma since she's been gone for almost 5 days and I've been worried. Though it would seem fine school has only been open for a few months and I've missed almost a week with only a day left then It becomes a week and in my district or state idk if you miss a lot of days unexcused you either get put in delfy or get put in a orphanage and my mom is mad because I wanted to stay home. So AITA for staying home? |
1fqpne6 | AITA: For wanting a “girls day” | I (F24) wants to go see a friend (F20) in the hospital with my coworker/friend(F20). She may have a serious illness and we are very worried about her. I told my partner (M27) about it and he said he will drive us or he can drive by himself and he will visit his aunt or come with us to see our friend. Normally I wouldn’t mind but my coworker invited me so I don’t feel comfortable asking her? I love him to death but we are around eachother 24/7 which I don’t necessarily mind but I work 40 hours a week with one day off. In the beginning of our relationship alone time was very important to him but now it’s changed. I haven’t been alone at all not even with just my friends without him for 3 years. I’m afraid if I say no I’ll make him sad. He said he just doesn’t want something to happen to me or for me to die without him. He is an amazing partner but I just am starting to feel crazy. Would I be in the wrong if I said no? |
1fuf1ht | AITA For not standing up for my mom while at work | (Sorry texting this on my phone English is my first language I just suck at spelling) I 25 non-binary work in a convenient store with my 60 year old mother I do graveyard she does mornings this just happen an hour ago an I'm still debating driving up their an geting on to the person last night I was stuck on the register cause my old boss doesnt trust the other coworker working with me on their she was doing other stuff that he had texted her to do I was stuck inside and we were slightly busy all i could do was keep the coffee fresh and keep the cups stock my mother came in around 5:54 am I told her that the cooler hadn't been stocked and she told me that I was okay when got clocked in I could go stock it. I go to stock the cooler filling the holes up on the shelfs but we dont have a lot of product I go and tell her that we dont have alot of stuff she tells to just fill in the holes I do. I walk out of the cooler and see my soon to be old manger and my mother quickly telling to clock out and go home I do so and go to grab my things that when I hear him getting on to her for I dont know what for but I feel my blood boiling i grab my stuff and leave.
Should have i staid and got on to him for getting on to her or should I keep my mouth shut? |
1funf4z | AITA for not going to my goddaughters birthday party for it falling on my bday weekend? |
My goddaughter‘s birthday is falling on the Saturday of my birthday weekend. I planned on taking a solo trip for my 30th birthday, as this birthday is a significant one to me because I usually don’t enjoy celebrating my birthdays. However, given I am turning 30 I figured I could celebrate stepping into a new chapter of life enjoying some alone time. I had already told my best friend that I wanted to take a solo trip for my birthday and to not plan anything for me around those dates. My god daughter’s actual birthday is five days after my birthday, which lands on a day closer to the following weekend but my best friend decided to book her daughter’s party on my birthday weekend and now I feel like I have to put my trip on pause for my goddaughters bday. Am I the asshole if I don’t attend my goddaughters birthday and take the solo trip? |
1fqsn23 | AITA for laughing while my grandma’s brother is dying? | I was standing beside my father as he was showing me some funny design fails on his pc. There were actually some really funny ones which made us both laugh and giggle at times. Well, after some odd seconds of really bad designs, my fathers smartphone was ringing and we could hear his mother (my grandmother) cry on the other side. She was informed that her brother (his nickname is Bill) was diagnosed with cancer and had 6 weeks at best. So while my grandma was in shambles, my father just continued clicking through the bad design compilation while comforting her. I notched him to stop clicking through these designs as I had to giggle to some of it and couldn’t bring myself to stay serious. Come as it had to come, the final design he showed me was of a truck which had „FUCK BILL“ written on it, because of the sliding door hiding the other letters. This made me laugh out loud, my grandmother was not so fond of me laughing about her brother basically dying. I tried convincing her that my laughter was not related to the subject she was talking about, but she didn’t want to listen to me and instead started swearing at me and my father for being inappropriate and that we should be ashamed of ourselves. She ended the call with me being uninvited from Sunday dinners indefinitely.
So again AITA for laughing while my grandma’s brother is dying? |
1fv184u | AITA for Cancelling a few days before a two day trip | AITA for cancelling on a trip a few days before going to save myself from my stressful family?
I (25M) am supposed to be going on a weekend trip to an amusement park with my mother and two sisters (it’s far so we got a hotel). My mom invited me a couple months ago and I agreed.
Here’s where the issues lie, my sisters and occasionally mom like to argue with each other on trips (even single day trips). This has given me a lot of anxiety about going on trips even with friends. It wasn’t till recently that I realized my anxiety comes from my families arguments. So I discussed not going on the trip with my mom and she came off as upset since she paid for the hotel already, but ultimately said it is up to me if I want to go. She understands the arguments can be stressful and promises there wouldn’t be arguments but I know them well. I moved out a year ago just to get away from that.
AITA for canceling on this already paid for trip to avoid adding stress to my life? |
1fue3xe | AITA for not knowing my group did a project and i didnt realize | I help whenever theres usually a group project in my class and im usually the first to answer or suggest something in the group, but i didn't realize that we had a group project and i saw messages of my group members messaging about doing work, responding to each other yet no one directly messaged me about them doing something now i have a really really bad grade, AITA? |
1fqkdre | AITAH for wanting time with my boyfriend when he's helping his bestfriend | So not long ago mine and my boyfriends bestfriend had an accident and had to have surgery on her wrist which meant she was unable to do anything with that arm
other then our bestfriends mum and sister she has my boyfriend and her other friend to look after her.
issue is I have epilepsy so I can't be there all the time as I need to look after myself but that means that the main person that can look after her is my boyfriend because he has the most free time, but most of the time she just lies on her bed on a phone call with her boyfriend watching tv, so when she's not doing anything I would assume he could make time for me
but she still wants him there to help so I dont get to see him anymore and apparently she needs 24hr care when I know she can do some things for herself
she starts her physio soon which means she will have to start using her arm and hand and if she continues asking for 24hr care while she is doing that I know she is taking the piss because she knows she can get him to do anything for her and her mum can get him to do anything too.
I get no time with him anymore at the moment and if feel like she will continue to take advantage because she likes the attention
please give me advice, am I being unreasonable? do I have the right to feel this way? and how do I approach the situation if it happens? |
1fq3fhx | AITA for giving someone the finger at an aiport | Pretty simple story. I was travelling through Phoenix airport since I have a layover there. Some context that will be important later is that I'm not white, and my parents are immigrants, but I was born and brought up in the US.
There is a couple in front of me who are walking kind of slowly so I walk past them a considerable amount and then walk across in front of them so I can get on one of the moving walkways. While I walking I don't feel anything from my suitcase, but I hear a woman say "You just rolled over my foot." I was turning around to apologize, but as I'm turning around I hear the man say in a rude voice "Welcome to America!," so when I turn around instead of apologizing I give him the finger. He yells at me and call me a mf'er, but I'm already on the moving walkway and I zip away.
AITA? |
1fq5s3m | AITA for ignoring my cousin-in-law | I've(22F) been with my husband(22M) three and a half years we have been married for almost a year. He has this cousin(22M) he used to be very close to but they've been a bit distance we've gotten married, and the cousin has never been like open to me. I always reach out and invite him in his fiance(22F) to do stuff with us or go on a double date and try to be nice, friendly, and accommodating. Problem is that I'm still good friends with his ex. Her and I had been friends when we met and even since they broke up(it was toxic relationship for both of them but ended civil she said). She has been there for me during some hard times and has been a really good friend. She moved across the country nine months ago and has moved on from him altogether. Well randomly yesterday he and his fiance unadded and blocked me on all social media because they are upset that I'm still friends with her. It ended civil and they have known I was friends with her so why now. And I don't feel like I owe them anything since they don't even try to reciprocate a familial or friend relationship. So WIBTA If I stay friends with his ex since him and his fiance are not even close with me? |
1frw6nu | AITAH? Sentimental belongings ruined | My mom is dying of cancer and doesn’t have much time left. I live in a studio apartment with not much space at all for storage and I had asked if my parents keep some sentimental stuff safe at their new home only a few months ago and they promised to do so! My mom and I used to collect Barbie’s and I had some classic wizard of oz Barbie’s that meant a lot to me that was still in the box in perfect condition. I was over today and noticed them out of the box and in the floor and my nephew playing with them. My heart sank! I confronted my parents about it and they were like yeah we gave them to him! I was shattered and simply just left without a word to go cry and this is the text my dad sent me
“You need to remember that your mom has cancer and vasculitis. She only has a year or maybe two left. If you get mad over something like a doll that is worth nothing, you will probably regret it later, it’s your decision though You were fucking full of shit! I hope they mean a lot to you, I’ll box that shit up and send it to you”
My dad is such a dickhead . Like am I wrong for being sad?
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1fusmou | AITA for repeteadlty requesting my boyfriend to stop his female friend from touching his abs ? | I know that from the title it straight up looks like I'm not, however both me and my boyfriend are gay men so in his opinion I'm incredible insecure for getting jealous over a woman when she could never be "competiton", however it's just not about jealousy as I also feel very uncomfortable about it as I would never allow another person that isn't my boyfriend touch me in the way she does him.
His friend is also hella cringe about her pretty obvious crush on my boyfriend cause she'd always say how she wishes she found a man with abs like my bf's while gliding her hand across his abdomen, the thing is not to diss my bf's psyhique but he doesn't even have a pronounced six pack, like he's lean and fit but his abs are barely visible unless he's stretching, so that just makes her even more desperate in my opinion, however my bf thinks she's just "quirky" like that and means no harm (which I call BS but whatever).
Personally I don't think my bf would cheat on me with her (cause I truly believe him when he says he's gay), but I think he enjoys all the attention from her cause it feeds his ego and that's why he doesn't want it to stop despite me talking to him about it multiple times, which is really starting to get on my nerves, so AITA for expressing my frustrations about tho and making a big deal out of nothing according to my bf ? |
1fr7mdw | AITA for correcting my dad about my “sister” | I (16 female) am always correcting my dad when he talks about my sister (17 Female) who disowned us because we outed her to my grandma about always causing drama and pinning everyone against each other. This started last year when she moved in with my grandma. My sister we will call her Sahara has always loved drama and my grandma knew this . I warned my grandma when Sahara moved in with her I told her she likes to fight and cause trouble but she didn’t believe me until her marriage almost fell apart cause of it. A couple of weeks ago my grandma was talking with me and told me what Sahara did she is always fighting with her husband and accusing him of abuse but I contacted my grandma and my mom who Sahara tells everything to and my mom said that she told her that they were getting abused and I don’t take that lightly so I called my grandma and found out she was lying about everything and so Sahara blocked me, my dad, and my mom and she disowned me and my dad. My dad still refers to her as his daughter so I tell him i am the only kid you have that talks to you Sahara disowned us. He will stop talking to me for the rest of the day once I say that. Like I get that she is still his daughter but she doesn’t want anything to do with us unless she wants money. I always feel bad when I say it to him. Am I the a**hole |
1fs7uvw | AITA for giving a Stranger with unknown motives a fake name out of caution. | I (20M) was having lunch with one of my buddies at my College Cafeteria eveually he left leaving me alone to finish when this one woman walked up to my table to join me. Prior to this point, I had never met he before and when she spoke, she mentioned jokes I had made with my friend earlier, before introducing herself. Concerned that this lady had been Eavesdropping and how her intentions were unkown, when she asked for my name, I lied and gave her a fake name.
We kept bumping into each other around campus after that and in about a week I decided she was no threat and that I would tell her the truth.... that did not end well. She began saying things that insulted men as a whole and considering how mad she was, you'd assume I did something far worse. While I can see how she might view this as an attack on personal trust, I was only concerned with my safety and was uncertain about her motives(to a lesser degree I still am, but I'm reasonably certain about ruling out the really bad stuff) |
1frzdx1 | AITA for being pissed off with a friend for lying to me? | To explain;
I found out that a regular in my job (I work with the public) was interested in me, so we were talking outside of the confines of my job and things were going ok between us
A co worker found out they was interested in another person who also does the same job as me and warned me about it (fair enough) this other person that she was interested in told me that they would not go near the member of the public (for xyz reasons)
Last night I found out that my co worker (who said that they would not go near the member of the public) went and saw said person, and straight up lied to me about it all.
Then sends me messages this morning saying they feel guilty and they don’t normally lie
Am I the arsehole (I’m British) for being pissed off and feeling like I cannot trust my co worker? |
1fv8fto | AITA for finding used feminine hygiene products disgusting | I(50f) has recently injured my back so while I still clean the house, anything that requires me to bend my back is usually handled by my husband.
When daughter(15f) has her period last month, I realise she only takes out her toilet trash twice every week. Everytime I go and clean up her toiletries. It’s a foul smell and disgusting to look at. I usually clean it out immediately at the end of the day but I really can’t bend my back these few months.
So before her period starts this month I’ve warned her to clean out her feminine hygiene products immediately and she nodded. But when the time actually come she say she’s busy with exam week. I was furious and I demanded she clean it up cause it is disgusting and it smells foul.
She says I have internalised misogyny for viewing a woman body fluid to be disgusting.
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1fu7mna | AITAH I know I am but I feel horrible | I’m so messsd up
Should my man forgive me
Should my man forgive me for having inappropriate conversations? 41f w/cptsd&adhd w/36m
I had inappropriate conversations should my man forgive me? 41f-cptsd&adhd w/36m
My now ex unknown to me had been going through my phone and emails to find evidence of me cheating. We had been together officially since March,and moved in together in May. I don’t know when but he found an old photo of my ex’s privates that was stored in the cloud and had been erased from my phone. I DO ADMIT TO telling this same person in the photo that if my relationship didn’t work I MAY be back. I honestly just said it. I didn’t mean it at all. The only reason my ex was able to contact me was I had my phone reset and it took out everything in my phone that wasn’t saved in the cloud.
My now ex kept asking me if I was cheating and I’d say no,because I wasn’t physically doing anything. I honestly thought I wasn’t doing anything wrong,I’m just bulljoshing. I NEVER met up,made plans or anything.
He also found a text from a good friend that was very sexual in nature and I laughed it off,and responded in kind, until he got serious and I said ignored the other text,as opposed to becoming enraged the first time.Although I never physically cheated I now understand that I was making it seem very unlikely. He packed his things whilst I was at work and left me a dear John letter.He now has me blocked and will not talk to me. I’m very sad and very upset at myself for ruining my relationship.Please give me advice. Am I forgivable? |
1frv6kt | AITA for telling my sister-in-law she needs to learn how to drive? | My brother's wife doesn't have a license and refuses to learn how to drive. They have a special needs child and my brother routinely has to take PTO to take their child to different therapy appointments. She works at the same company as my brother so he drives her everyday. At a recent family gathering I mentioned that she should learn how to drive so that she can contribute and lessen the burden on my brother. She called me an @$$hole and they left early. That was at Labor Day and my brother is giving me the cold shoulder. I don't think I did anything wrong. I didn't call her lazy (though I think she is) and i didn't attack her with names, I thought I gave a friendly suggestion. They've been married almost ten years and she's 35, their child is 8, my brother is 40. |
1fs04ss | AITA for going to a Coldplay concert without my friend who really wanted to go? | So, here’s the situation: my friends and I (we're all Indian) were super excited about Coldplay coming to India. One of my friends, let's call him Ash, is a *huge* fan and was the one who first asked me to go. Initially, it was going to be Ash, Dom, me, and another friend, Ashley. We were all hyped to go together.
When the tickets went on sale, it was chaos with the queue system, and none of us managed to get tickets—except for Dom’s friend, who ended up getting 4 tickets. So now, Dom, his friend, his friend's girlfriend, and I are going, but that leaves Ash and Ashley without tickets.
I’m really torn here. I love Coldplay too, but Ash was the one who was so excited and invited me first. I asked him if it was okay for me to go without him, and he said yes, but I can’t help but feel like I’m ditching him and Ashley, and that he might be hurt even though he said it’s fine.
AITA for going to the concert and leaving Ash and Ashley behind, even though they were part of the original plan? Should I skip it out of solidarity?
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1fr5bo2 | AITA for not having people over | I (23F) live in an apartment with my friend (23F) of over 5 years. We met in college and back then I was wayyy more social and outgoing. Now I prefer to stay home and enjoy the peace and quiet. Before moving to this apartment, my friend and I lived in a guest house. We didn’t feel quite comfortable having friends over when we quite literally lived in our landlord’s backyard. In the last month, we moved to actual complex and it’s easier to have guests over. I think I got used to having no one over, so I enjoyed the privacy and the sanctity of old place. Now, my friend wants to invite her other friends over for game nights, baking nights, or to watch football games. I’ve met and hung out with her friends a couple times and they’re not bad people. I just feel like I’m intruding cause they all have their history and things in commons that I don’t share. Recently, she asked if we can host her friends for a halloween cookie decorating night. She already talked to her friends about it. She said if I don’t want to do it then they can do it at someone else’s. I sort of feel like I’ll get painted as the bad guy if I say no, but I don’t like to constantly have people over. I’m always emotionally drained after work so I just want quiet weekends. However, I also understand that it’s her place too. If she wants to have her friends over, she can. I should be grateful that she asks beforehand. Would I be the asshole if I said no? |
1fugzd8 | AITA for Parenting my siblings? | I(17m) have 3 siblings. 3(f) 6(m) and (15m). Recently I have been in charge of watching the two little ones most of the time because my parents have work.
Because of this the 3 and 6 year olds have been acting up which doesn't help they're glued to the tv 24/7... so I started a system where they get 2 hours of tv a day and the rest I spend time making up crafts and activities to do instead, this isn't the problem. It's punishing them for bad behavior. If they break a toy the toy gets thrown away and not replaced, If they're being mouthy they sit in time out for 5 minutes and don't get to pick out a show for the day and If they hurt eachother or swear they have the same consequence. Though I don't make them apologize because apologies without remourse don't mean anything, I do also explain why the behavior is bad and how it effects others, usually they cave and apologize themselves. They have significantly improved their behavior since.
My parents learned about this and were shocked I limit tv and put them in time out. They say I'm not the parent and should have waited until they were home to deal with it... they are usually gone from 7am - 10pm 5 days a week so I'm not exactly sure how that's supposed to work? I don't think the kids would learn if they're told off several days after doing the bad thing..... so AITA for parenting my siblings?
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1fqan5m | AITA for choosing to go to homecoming over my Aunt and Uncles Wedding | AITA for skipping out on my Aunt and Uncles wedding because it’s the same night as my homecoming? I (16F) had found myself in a slight delimma last week when I was reminded of my Aunt(37) and her soon to be husbands(38) upcoming wedding. The date had been known for over a year. I wouldn't say we're super close, I mean I've known her husband, let's call him Alex my whole life. We live in the same town, about 15 minutes away from each other. Alex and my Aunt, we'll call Laura have been together for over 20 years. They have 2 children, my cousins 14 and 8. We've always done holidays and gone to each others birthdays etc. Laura can be bitchy and blunt with people but overall I know she loves me. Alex is the exact opposite. I've never had a problem with him. Always kind to me. Even coming to some of my soccer games. So to the point I guess, Laura messaged my mom, we'll call Rachel(41) "Hey, Alex heard that (we'll call myself Carly) Carly's homecoming is the same night as the wedding. You guys are still coming, right?" Rachel text back, " me and(moms boyfriend Zach) will be there but Carly won't". This started a chain reaction of them fighting with each other. End result, none of my family(Rachel, Zach, and 3 other siblings) will not be attending. I don't think it's my fault this all happened but I feel I have the choice to choose which thing I want to go to. So Reddit AITA for choosing homecoming over my Aunt and soon to be Uncle's wedding? |
1fuuwfr | AITA For Not Helping My Father With Immigration | So me 16(f) have never been close with my father 39 (m) who lives out of the country though maybe 2 times a year with an hello and how are you. But after I met my brother (his child) who lives near me we begin doing activities with each other and getting to know each other. And after that I thought perhaps I should make an effort to build a relationship with him. I had never tried in the past really because he’s never helped with a dime, but after my mother expressed because of the distance and how it’s not the easiest where he lived I decided to give him grace. That was until my brother told me had over 4 children where he lives (all younger than me) who he doesn’t take care of either. And he also has a strained relationship with his younger daughter who lives up there with him because his 17 (f) pregnant girlfriend treats her bad and he doesn’t do anything . And he also has the crazy idea that this child will be different and he’ll be the “ideal and great father”. When he could just try with his current children.
After I found all this out my decision to permanently made to end my relationship with him was made because I will never support a predator who has impregnated a minor and also cares little for his kids. Weeks later he reached out asking if I could help with his papers ( he wants me to pretend like he wants to come back here because of his kids in the state to build relationships them and so on). While abandoning the 4 that already live where he is now. So, I cursed him out and blocked him. Am I the AHOLE? |
1fq6gz1 | WIBTA if I told my partner I don’t want to stay for the entire family trip? | So I (33M) and my partner (36M) go on holidays around twice a year with my in-laws (his parents, brother, sister, sister-in-law and two nephews) either visiting their home or going away somewhere abroad (we’re all Europeans living in Europe). I love them and feel very accepted by them, but spending so much time with everyone after some time it just gets too much/tiring for me, and I just wanna fly back home or do something by myself for a day. I’m a social introvert and after 3-4 days it feels like I need my alone/bf time back! To be fair, I had told my partner that I’d like to spend a bit more time just the two us together even if we’re on holiday, and he’s heard me - we’ve been going on half-a-day trips/hikes/etc away from the others.
We also sometimes visit my parents / brother / brother’s family as well, though I keep those visits shorter (usually around 3-5 days) and spend less time with everyone being all together. I love my family and we’re close, it’s just I have less need of spending more time with them.
We’ve been planning a longer (7-10 days) holiday abroad for next year with my partner’s family - WIBTA if I told my partner that that’d be too much for me and I’d like to either join in halfway or fly back home halfway while he spends the rest of the holiday with his family? |
1frddz6 | AITA for not taking my phone to a barber shop? | It was the morning and I told my mother I would be going to the barber's to get a haircut. I didn't drive and instead walked because the place is only around 15 minutes away.
When I arrived, there was a considerable queue there and I had to wait a bit before it was my turn. And so I waited for like 2 hours and 30 minutes before it was my turn. It was then that my cousin also came to check where I was.
When I came back home I found out that my mother was worried and even crying worrying about me
This was during the bright sunny day. It wasn't even the night, for which case I would understand her worry. And also, I am a 25 year old adult.
AITA for going to the barber's without taking my phone? |
1fr5hed | AITA For Asking My Brother To Allow My Friend To Live At A House He Owns? | So my brother owns about 30-35 homes in the area. All rentals. My friend was recently laid off and needs a place to stay. I can't offer up my place since it's kind of tight at the moment.
I called up my brother to see if he had any space available in the rentals. He kept asking me why i needed to know and I told him about my friend's situation. He immediately said no, because he was hoping to eventually get some new tenant for his vacant areas at the moment. I told him that he could spare some money for about a month or so until my friend gets back on her feet. Still no, and we began to argue about it until he hung up on me.
AITA? I think expecting some compassion isn't a-holeish |
1fv1sol | AITA: scheduling... Not making a date | I said I could be free on Friday OR Saturday for a few days house sitting with a very nice girl. My exact words were I could conceivably be free.. and indeed I essentially committed to --in my mind-- arriving on one of those two days. Maybe in a follow up conversation I have more confidence in making it on Friday (can't say for sure I didn't give that impression, but doubt I guaranteed it).
Well, in confirming plans just now (almost 48hrs in advance) I'm clarifying that Friday I'm not certain (50-50, reasons arent relevant but can add that it's not like I'm choosing to blow it off for something not important) but Saturday definitely... Can be there first thing in the morning, and if the other party wants to make plans on Friday it doesn't bother me in the least.
Am I an asshole for saying that Friday is still uncertain for me to arrive? I got a short but very clear response that I'm super disrespectful in this situation.
I wouldn't be bothered at all if the roles were reversed. I guess that part that struck me was that I'm potentially responsible for one night of my date being alone/not having anyone to hang out with for one night... Speaking for myself I struggle to relate to this point, I dunno, feels like an overreaction, but what do I know, it seems important to her so maybe I'm the asshole? |
1frbibs | AITA for telling my girlfriend and her friends to stop shouting? | Me and my girlfriend and 2 friends, we’ll call Alice and James were all standing around, when Alice makes a comment about how I’m mentally slow or something like that.
I argued back a bit jokingly, but I didn’t care much. My girlfriend was a bit more offended so she and Alice started arguing. By this point voices were raised and we were walking up the stairs towards a silent study area.
On the way up the stairs I had stopped arguing, so it was just my girlfriend defending me against Alice. By the time I had got to the door of the study area, they were still shouting.
I stopped and told them, ‘can you guys please stop shouting?’. I wanted them to be mindful of people studying, but Alice took it as me telling my girlfriend to shut up and said ‘See? Don’t waste your breath.’
My girlfriend is adamant I embarrassed her, which I can see why she would feel that way. So I have apologised for the way the message came across, but she is also adamant that I shouldn’t have told them to stop shouting at all, and saying that I was prioritising the people in the study area over her feelings?
I just wanted them to be mindful. AITA? |
1fqtyhd | AITA for calling a friend on the shitter? | I had to shit, but had a bunch of other things to do as well. I figured I would save some time by calling my friend while on the shitter. It worked fine until he asked me if I was pooping, at which point he got mad and said it was disgusting to call him while on the toilet. I think he overreacted. What do you think? |
1fv454o | AITA for not looking at my mother in the eyes? | We've had a difficult relationship from the start. I’ve never felt like I was enough for her. She constantly compares me to others and calls me stupid. She makes sarcastic, hurtful comments, and when I tell her they upset me, she accuses me of being too pessimistic. She gets angry over the smallest things and often lashes out. Once, I casually mentioned that I don't like bugs because they scare me, and from then on, she would deliberately try to put me in situations where there were bugs. One moment she's kind, and the next, she’s threatening to harm herself. I can't trust her. It’s not that I fear her as a person, but I’m afraid of her reactions.
For instance, when I was a child, if I did something she didn't like, she would punish me by ignoring me for an entire month, acting as if I didn't exist. She even told me I had to earn her love. Now, I can’t even look her in the eye without feeling anxious. She gets angry, claiming I treat her like a dog just because I struggle to face her. |
1furha1 | AITA Current friend wants an event at my house and wants me to invite my ex-best friend | I (25F) used to be best friends with this girl (24F). We met in college and had been roommates for years. Well, about 1.5 years ago out of the blue (to me anyway) I wanted to hang out (we saw each other a few weeks ago, I thought was everything normal) and she told me via text she didn't want to be friends anymore. I was understandably hurt, but if someone doesn't want me at their table I'm not going to beg for a seat. I didn't get a full explanation other than she felt we grew apart and we haven't spoken or seen each other since.
Fast forward to present day. We still have a couple mutual friends, who know we aren't friends anymore and decided to stay out of it. We just all hang out separately. Well, one of those mutal friends found out she is expecting, and I am so happy for her. She asked if I would throw her a baby shower and I said I'd love to do so. However, she wants to invite my ex-best friend. I am 100% not comfortable with that, as that ex-friend and still I haven't spoken and I am still very hurt by how she ended our friendship and dropped me. I dont think I could pretend everything was okay. Am I the a-hole for not allowing this ex-friend in my house for a mutual friend's baby shower? |
1frs44t | WIBTA if I left my friend at homecoming | So im a 16 year old girl, and I'm currently at homecoming. I hate it here so much, I hate the noise, I hate the people here, everybody is looking at me because I didn't show up in a slu**y short dress. Id rather be at home or going to my local dollar store for a monster right now, rather than have to go through this. But my problem is that my friend is here with me. My mom drove us both here, and it wouldn't matter if I left because I live a walkable distance from my school. The problem is she doesn't have a ride back to her house and she lives multiple miles away and her parents will make her walk. So this is why I think I'll be an asshole if I leave, like we can always pick her up after but I don't want her to wonder where I went because she kind of ditched me at the tables.
So wibta if I just leave |
1fv4xh8 | AITA for wanting a full pot of coffee? | Am I the Asshole for wanting my dad to make a full pot of coffee instead of just a half?
Evey single day my dad makes half a pot of coffee in the morning. Why? I HAVE NO CLUE!! We're a family of 4 who all drink coffee and when a half pot is made only 3 people can have a small cup of coffee and I didnt mind giving up my coffee until recently because I was on summer vacation and didn't have a job.
Now I'm school and on Thursdays I have school for 9 hours straight, no break, so I kinda care if I'm able to get a cup of coffee or 2.
Whenever I ask him to make a full pot on Thursdays so I can sleep for an extra hour or 2 i always get a response like "stop being such an ass" or "deal with it". THERES NO REASON FOR HIM TO MAKE HALF A POT AND IT TAKES THE SAME TIME AS MAKING A FULL POT!!!! whenever you ask him why he makes half a pot he just sighs and looks away.
Anyways AITA? |
1funa4u | AITA for serving box mac and cheese for a get together with friends? | I invited some of my (33f) friends over last week as we hadn’t seen each other in a while, everyone goes their own way and has kids and jobs. I was really excited because it really has been a while and it’s been a rough time for everyone. I didn’t really think too hard about what to eat or anything because my Mom always said when you do stuff like this, it isn’t about the food. It’s about spending time with loved ones and well drinking too.
I had a few boxes of mac and cheese and some chicken nuggets made up. And of course we had beer for everyone too. So when it came time for everyone to eat I told them to grab a bowl.
They acted like this was really weird like it wasn’t something we ALL eat all the time? They said that it was weird for me to invite everyone to dinner but at the same time serve kids food to them. I didn’t really know what to say because to me it isn’t kids food. I eat it all the time and I’m 33.
Two of them had refused to even eat and said they hadn’t eaten chicken nuggets since they were kids and made dramatic “icky” faces about it.
I guess I’m asking AITA for serving the box mac to everyone? I thought it was about us being together and catching up but I guess they expected a fancy meal from me. I feel really sad that this went this way and I don’t really feel like I understand. AITA?
# The box mac wasn't Kraft it was Annie's |
1fr6x01 | AITA for telling my friend to shut up/ F off? | I (18F) turned 18 a few weeks ago and for my birthday my parents bought me a sapphire jewelry set consisting of matching earrings, a necklace, and ring.
Due to my lunch schedule, I eat lunch with a lot of underclassmen, so I started sitting with an old friend/ acquaintance (17F) and some of her friends. I like her but I admit she has flaws where she talks bad about people she calls her “sisters.” (Close friends of hers) random emotional outbursts (randomly crying/ explosive anger) and cheating on boyfriends.
So for the past few weeks I’ve been wearing my jewelry set every day and I’m really happy to have this set, so I like to hold the ring up to the sun and admire it.
I was doing this today at lunch and my friend made a comment how it was funny I kept bragging about my jewelry. I said I wasn’t bragging because I hadn’t said anything, and was just sitting. She replied saying she thought it was weird I was so proud of my tiny ring and the fact that my parents had bought it for me was sad, because she had a job and her parents would never do something like that for her.
I felt a little offended because I was minding my business, and I said I didn’t care about the size of the ring, I got what I wanted and I was grateful for it. She said how she had bigger at home and didn’t wear it to school and look dumb like I did. By this point I was upset and I told her to “fuck off and mind her buisness.”
Am I this asshole? |
1fr1ihb | AITA - best friends boyfriend messaged me for help and now she's mad | My (25f) best friends (26f) boyfriend (25m) messaged me the other night asking for some help as they we going through something and he wanted another one of our friends numbers without telling her.
I had called her a few times that day and the phone was never picked up. I quickly sent the number and didn't think anything of it, I was out with my partner and was going to call her after to tell her (we were at Church).
I get asking if he had reached out to me and I was truthful and sent her the screenshots etc. She is now mad at me for not being "loyal" to her.
I honestly don't see what I've done wrong - I only sent the number because I thought it was an issue of not being able to reach her or something like that, not that they were breaking up.
So, AITA? |
1fr7qdq | AITA for getting pissy at my partner at his friend’s 21st party |
Hey reddit, so I (19F) and my partner (20M) have been acting like boyfriend and girlfriend since January, we introduce each other as bf and gf to everyone we’re with, but we don’t officially have a title yet (he said we’d be together soon not to long ago so i’m not phased). But tonight, I was catching up with one of my old friends at the party and she asked if him and I were together and he said ‘no we’re not’ and that made me really mad at him and I gave him a glare. Everyone KNOWS we’re together and we always introduce ourselves that way but he didnt just now and it made me really upset obviously. So I started giving him attitude after communicating about how it made me feel and he sat with me instead of hanging out with his friends even though it was his friends’ 21st. So I left to go sit in my car while I cool off.
So now I’m wondering if I’m TA in this situation because I genuinely do not know. |
1fr1inx | AITA for say “I don’t care” to a classmate? | I m18 am a college student, I’ve been going through minor depression since the start of college, I moved a state away from my family and have been stressed over classes (I have 7 classes due to my degrees if I want to graduate in 4 years)
yesterday a classmate lets call her Maggie asked if I could help her with her homework because she forgot to do it. This is not like a math equation it is a 500 word writing assignment, if it was I would have
I said I can’t because I have so much homework to do that I can’t (also I was sick for the past 3 days) and she responded with “you would let a woman fail a class. What happened to chivalry” I thought she was joking but I looked over and she look like that Linus tech tips meme. And I I asked “are you serious” she said yes. Then I said “I don’t care”
I got an email today by my English professor asking to speak to me about it Monday after the girl told my professor that I said something rude to her. And now her friend (who I’ve been talking to) is texting me saying I’m a dickhead for not helping.
I admit I should’ve said it better but ma’am I’m sorry that I’m not gonna help you do your homework which you didn’t do it’s absurd in my opinion.
Am I the asshole |
1fv2ulg | AITA for watching videos at 2x speed | The title says it all really. My friend sent me a video to watch on youtube, one of those informative ones where someone talks through a concept with some visuals to help explain. It was about 30min long and I watched it on 2x speed the way I normally do for such videos. If I watch these videos in normal speed I tend to get distracted so I almost always speed them up.
After about 20min I replied to my friend about how interesting the video was, I really enjoyed watching it as it was very thought provoking. My friend then accused me of not watching it and quizzed me on things that were said in the video. They seemed very angry when I said I watched it at 2x speed. I explained that I always speed up videos(apart from music) for the reason I gave above. Many friends also speed up for videos and I am currently studying at uni where almost everyone speeds up lecture and tutorial recordings.
I just wanted to ask here though, AITA for watching YouTube videos on 2x speed? |
1fsis2c | AITA for not buying cookies? | A month ago my mom broke her ankle. I took three days off to get her to appointments and make sure she had groceries, a wheelchair, cat food is accessible, those things.
She lives about an hour away. The last three weeks I took my daughter to hang out with her while I:
Got six double doozies from Great American Cookie
Picked up lunch from Longhorn.
Got an order from Freddie's.
A chili burger from Taco John's.
A medium vanilla coke from Sonic.
Cash from an ATM.
Groceries
Did all that once a week for three weeks. Today, I told her I was in town with a friend playing disc golf. I could get groceries, but not the other stuff. Use Door Dash if you want it.
She proceeded to yell at my friend for being too busy, yelled at me for being an ungrateful piece of shit son who never does anything for her, etc. I responded badly and said something to the effect of "you're going to be fucking grateful I brought this so you don't starve." Also set up Door Dash on her phone while she literally bawled about how hard everything is and how much I suck as a human and she could just die and nobody would care.
AITA? |
1frz223 | AITA for being sensitive over my boyfriend's comment? | I, (20f) and my bf (21m) have been together for a year.
yesterday, his hair was quite messy and I decided to help him comb it. While I was combing it, he made a comment saying ''you look like my personal maid rn''.
To me, it felt disrespectful because a maid is someone who does chores in exchange for money. I told him I felt it was disrespectful because I was just trying to help him out and it was insensitive to call me a maid.
He started defending himself and said it was just a harmless 'joke' and that I was clearly overreacting and wanting an argument.
He then later asked for a goodbye kiss, and he was leaving and I went ''additional services cost extra sir" because I was still mad at the fact that he called me a maid.
He got really mad and started going on and on about how I was taking it too far and it was ridiculous that I refused to give him a kiss because of his comment. He said I was being really childish, and I had to learn to take a joke.
He left angry.
AITM for taking it too deep? |
1fr0y9r | AITA for telling my mother in law she’s an *sshole? | I’m a little trapped as I’m in another country with my mother in law at the moment. My mother in law has many great qualities. She’s very down to earth and (seemingly) likable. She also has a great sense of humor that everyone warms up to instantly. The problem is the second anyone leaves the room, shots are fired. She makes rude, hateful comments about everyone. Her daughter, her friends, her family, me, you name it. It’s exhausting to be around. One minute we’re all friends, and the next we’re tearing down the existence of everyone and everything.
To give you context, when I started dating my wife, this was her take: “Why do you want to date him? You’re going to have funny looking kids.” (I wish I was exaggerating.)
Generally I’m able to dismiss those comments and allow it to roll off my shoulders, but this trip in particular I had enough. I communicated to her that I think she’s generally great to be around, but I struggle to talk negatively about people. I also told her that it very well could be a me problem, but I’m going to respectfully separate myself if or when she starts making rude comments about others.
It did not go well. My MIL now hates my guts and my wife is telling me it was rude to say that to her. I did apologize that it wasn’t well received, but I refuse to apologize for what I said or establishing what I perceive as healthy boundaries for myself. My wife’s stance is “why couldn’t you just keep the peace?” They all think I’m a sack of crap, but honestly, I’m struggling to grasp how the hell this has blown up to the capacity that it has.
Am I the asshole? |
1fv8lck | AITA for doing chores after work? | live with my girlfriend and I work from home pretty much full time. I'll go into the office probably once every two weeks whereas my girlfriend is only home around once a week now that she has started her new job. Her old job was work from home so she'd occasionally do laundry and other chores during downtime.
I've been moved into a new team and have a lot of work to do so my downtime is pretty much non existent. My girlfriend has started asking me to do laundry and maybe do some dusting during the day. I've told her I will do it if I get time but that I can't guarantee it. I said I'll happily do it after work but am not likely to be able to do it in work time.
She was annoyed at this and pointed out she used to do it but I just told her that our jobs are different and her having downtime doesn't mean I have downtime. Yesterday morning she asked me to do some laundry during the day and I told her I'd do it if I got time but if not I'd do it after work.
I was busy all day so put the laundry in the machine when I finished work. When my girlfriend got home she saw the washing machine was on and got annoyed. She asked why I hadn't done it earlier so I told her again that I didn't have the time. I asked what the difference was as it's still getting done but she just said I should have done it earlier.
AITA for doing chores after work? |
1fqiecl | AITA For Sharing Something Personal | Boyfriend (29M) dumped me after I (29F) shared something personal
We were arguing and I had initiated the idea of a break up because I was uncomfortable with crossing certain physical boundaries and he had kept pushing it. I explained why I was uncomfortable with him crossing those boundaries by sharing a past experience and that's when he decided to end the conversation and dumb me. I didn't want to share, but after incessantly explaining my point of view he just wasn't getting it and I felt forced to share. I feel that I've hurt him/his ego by what I've shared, but I'm also so mad that he was pushing something he wasn't willing to accept if I had done it with someone else in my past. |
1fqy3uh | AITA For Not Telling A Student's Parents Their Kid Hit My Car? | A week ago, one of the students I (F30) teach was backing out, got out of the student parking lot and when she was driving forward accidentally hit my car in the lot in front of the student one. I wasn't too really upset, given it was just a scrape on paint, and no structural damage but the student (F16) was still upset over it. She was more concerned about my car than hers, which kind of surprised me since her car was more than my salary (She had like an GLE63 or something) and I told her not to worry about it.
She kept asking to see if I was sure and said that she'd use some of her money to help pay for it, but I said it was nbd.
Now her parents call me, telling me that they found out what happened because they finally noticed the scrape on the car and their daughter told them that she had accidentally scraped my car. I told her parents I told her not to worry about it since it wasn't that much of an issue, but they immediately said that next time I should've given them a call or something like that. They weren't necessarily too angry. We had a discussion over it and that was that. But they were kind of upset I didn't tell them.
AITA? Or was i the ah in this situation? |
1fsepr4 | AITA for telling my friend that his ex is getting shagged right now | Context:
Me and a few friends were joking around but what tends to happen is they end up targeting jokes at me and anything I say back to them, they belittle it. I tried to leave the conversation but they were still throwing little jokes at me until I threw an insult to one of my friends saying that his ex is probably getting ragged right now. I feel quite bad because afterwards they both told me that went too far. Am I the asshole? |
1fq3znv | AITAH for getting a wheelchair and my parents not liking it | I (25M) went to my doctor because I have had pains that made me barely able to walk on most days but sometimes I can walk for 10 minutes max. I went to the doctor today asking for solutions for my pain and I made a idea of getting a wheelchair, because I have had this issue for a year and it’s not going away and i can sometimes walk for 10 minutes but I said I will just be using it for ambulatory use and he said yes. And I had to pay for my own and a few days ago it came and my parents got really annoyed because they don’t think I needed it and she said “you shouldn’t have that someone else might need it more” but I told her my doctor said it was a good idea. this happened on back and forth for about a week and she is just being really stunborn on this. Dads is trying to stick up for me as I have a great relationship with him because we play helldivers 2 together and he’s sticking up for me I am starting college soon and getting everything done for my wheelcha and everything.
AITAH for this I don‘t think I am as my doctor said it was a good idea
so you in the comments |
1fshglt | AITA for giving up my seat on the bus for an old lady and not for a kid? | I 15nb currently use public transport to get around the majority of the time because my parents are too busy working, gambling, taxiing my siblings around to their stuff, and life in general to really care.
Anyways so today (about an hour ago) I was on my way home from work. The bus was full when a kid and mom got on the bus. They came and the mom was talking with her kid trying to get my attention as she kept saying that polite people would give up their seat to let a kid sit down especially if they were just teens. After a few stops this old woman gets on, using a cane having trouble walking. I stood up and gave her my seat.
The mom tried to get her kid in the seat id just left but I stopped them and said it wasn’t for the kid, it was for the lady. The woman then said that her kid needed a seat and that I was a b for not giving her one.
I vented to my brother about this when I got home and he said it was a bad move for me not to give my seat to the kid (who looked to be about 6) in the first place but was better of me to let the old lady have the seat.
So AITA for not giving up my seat for the kid? |
1fubuxn | AITA for going on holiday with friends? | When I was at university I lived with 5 people. Two of these were men and three were woman. We all became close friends and planned to go on holiday after graduation. This didn't end up going ahead for a few different reason and we were all upset. That was 5 years ago.
We live in the UK but all live at different parts so we haven't been able to meet up since we all lived together. One of us made a groups chat and mentioned the possibility of going on holiday in the new year. We started looking at possible destinations.
I mentioned this to my girlfriend and she asked if she was invited. I said no as it's just for the friendship group and no one is bringing their partners. We found a destination that was affordable and somewhere we all wanted to go. My girlfriend said she should be invited or I should cancel.
She said the destination is somewhere she's wanted to go for a while so I just said we could go together another time. She said I'm being disrespectful for going on holiday with other woman and mentioned that me using my leave means we have less time to take together.
I pointed out my leave reset in April and this holiday is going to be January or February so my leave will reset shortly after. She just said again that I was being disrespectful for going away with other women. I asked what was disrespectful about it but she couldn't elaborate.
AITA for going on holiday with friends? |
1fraisd | AITA for booking my wedding on my nephews birthday | i booked my wedding day on my nephews birthday, after running it by my sister beforehand, and was told my nephew (5)would be so happy and that he would never stop talking about it. in fact ran it by her 3+ times and explained why every other date didn’t work. she is now refusing to come to my wedding because i’m taking the day from her son. manipulating my nephew and sending me voice messages of my nephew saying how upset he is. claiming i’m taking his special day from him. my fiancé and i are very private people. we would never celebrate our anniversary with anyone other than ourselves. she also lives many states away and has never thrown my nephew a birthday party. |
1fur0fz | AITA - Partner expects me to go to visit Disney Florida with her Annually | My partner travels from the UK to Disney Florida at least once per year and I'm estimating it must cost around £2500 per trip. She expects to start coming along on these annual trips but then refuses to go on shorter and cheaper trips based around my interests (mainly sports) because she doesn't enjoy them. I'm not against Disney but I'm definitely not an amusement park/Disney person. She maintains that there is something for everyone at Disney. I'm happy to go once to experience it but I also like visiting different places and feel that continually going back to the same place is a waste.
Am I in the wrong here? Is it reasonable for her to expect me to go annually? |
1fueb5o | AITA for using family emergency funds for winning HOA | We had an emergency fund that sat in a very comfortable position for a while, and we live in a nice house with an HOA. We are currently at the board of the HOA which gives us a good vintage point on house values, allows us to make sure our house is always positively impacted and also helps us guide the agenda of the HOA.
Due to several issues we let the house appearance go down a little, landscaping and outside fixtures, the election of the board is coming up.
So, I decided to use the emergency fund to fix the house so it looks great and the rivals cannot use it against us in the next election.
One of the twins says AITA because that money is needed in case a car breaks or we have an accident. The other says we can use the already maxed out credit cards.
Am I the asshole? |
1fqe9wm | AITA for making my son's birthday take precedence over my partner's family gathering? | I (37M) have a 6-year-old son whose birthday is next week. I have been planning his small birthday party and invited a few close friends and family. It means so much to him, and I just want to make it special since he's still at that age where birthdays are magical.
My partner (35M) comes from a big family, and his family is planning an event on the exact date of my son's birthday. He claims we have to go because his family always make it a point to get together during occasions. I kind of get that, but somehow, this is my son's birthday, and it should be more important than them, especially since he's excited.
I suggested we could attend his family gathering later in the day after the birthday party. But instead, he's irritated and thinks that I am putting my son's interest before his family, which feels kind of stupid. He says its not fair on his family; and that such a miss may result in hurt feelings.
I've tried to tell him that we could celebrate with his family another day, but he claims this is important to him and that I am selfish since I am not putting his feelings into consideration. Now he's threatening to go alone, which means not making it to my son's party.
I want my son's birthday to be memorable, and it happens only once a year. AITA for insisting we need to prioritize my son's birthday over his family gathering? |
1fqx387 | AITA because I want my gf to stop getting tattoos? | I (32M) met my girlfriend (28F) close to a year ago. She has since moved into my house and things are going pretty well overall.
When I met her, she was pretty heavily tattooed; almost a complete sleeve on one side covering her hand, more on the other arm, and knuckles done on both hands. She once told me that she wanted a lot more, and while I'm fine with the tattoos she has, I really don't want her to get any more. She hasn't gotten any since we've been together, fortunately.
All of her tattoos are well done, but 95% of them are not meaningful. Just a bunch of random stuff all over. It's pretty unnecessary, and I really like being able to still see some of her natural skin.
Since expressing my opinion about this, she has told me she would be fine with not going to the extent of sleeving out her arms and legs (thank god) but she still wants to get her other hand tattooed because "it looks bad with only the knuckles done," which is such a stupid reason. It looks fine.
I told her she can do whatever she wants, but that I can also do what I want, and I don't have to stay with her if I don't like it. She started crying about it, asking how I could say such a thing. But I'm not stopping her from doing what she wants; I'm just saying I don't have to stick around if I don't like it. I might end up liking it, but I just really wish she would stop or get smaller, less visible ones. |
1fusv6q | AITA for not texting my girlfriend every time I get a break at work? | I text my girlfriend randomly throughout the day when at work and we normally see each other every day in the afternoons. Recently she’s been blowing up on me if I don’t text her on my lunch break. For my side of the story, I’m the one to drive to lunch and we go in a group of about 5 close friends. So we’re always cutting up and messing with each other during lunch. Honestly, sometimes I just forget to text her during lunch. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to her, I just get distracted and forget. She’s taking it as me not caring enough about her to text her. For example, today I drove us (work friend group) to a restaurant and we ate and I get a text from her just when we’re pulling back into work saying “this is the second day in a row I got no contact during your lunch” to which I replied “I’m sorry. I got distracted talking to (friend) and (friend). How was your lunch?” And then she goes off about how I don’t care about her, I have a whole hour I could text her during and I chose not to, etc. etc. I always make time for her after work so it’s not like I’m avoiding her or I don’t actually care about her. I just want to know if Im the asshole and need to be a better boyfriend or is she making a mountain out of a mole hill? |
1fuu59p | AITA for using a towel in the sauna | My gym has a spa section where I like to come and relax, recently I entered a sauna with my clean towel that I brought from home.
After I exited the sauna, another visitor has told me to never enter the sauna again with my towel, as it releases toxins into air that he doesn't want to breathe.
There are other people in the sauna using towels they brought from home, some of them are even sitting in the sauna in their swim trunks.
Is this man right? Is the linen cloth the only acceptable attire for the sauna?
Today, before entering, I checked the sauna rules for the gym and it said nothing about towels.
I had another encounter with this man where he complained about me using a towel.
I told him I checked the rules and being in a towel seems alright, l also told him there are other people in towels and even swim trunks.
He said he is gonna tell the staff and make sure I wont come back again. I said we will see.
Didn't see him again since then.
Am I the asshole in this situation? The whole towel situation feels personal, as I didn’t see him bothering other people about this, but maybe he is actually right?
I go to the sauna to relax and now l'm having uncomfortable encounters with this person twice a week instead. I just prefer being in the sauna with my towel.
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1fqyn02 | AITA for not offering my bed to my grandmother? | I (M15) live with my mother and father, my mom’s mom visted us yesterday to catch up, as I was chatting and playing with my family, my youngest cousin asked my grandmother to stay over for the night. My grandmother was reluctant after a while, she said yes and all was good, until 12AM, my grandmother decided to leave and go back to her house (she lives 2 hours away). I was obviously suprised at this, though I thought it was because my aunt was busy the next day (my cousin and aunt live with my grandmother), but my mom decided to confront ME, for not offering my bed, my grandmother apparently didn’t want to sleep on the bed like couch and was to uncomfortable, she could have spoke and told me so I could offer it, but she decided to talk to me, not my other siblings, me, the only one with a head injury, as I didn’t want to argue with my dear mother, I told her off and ignored her insults. She eventually said and I quote: “I will force all four of you in a room so I can make space for my family, I am apparently an idiot for not caring about my family before you”
After her words, I started ignoring her no matter how much she tried to talk to me, I feel bad for ignoring my mother but I also feel like I was in the right
*Lmao sorry for the grammar mistakes, this was more of a rant than anything* |
1fr0uus | AITA for not babysitting my sister’s kids pretty much every day? |
So, I (21M) am childfree and have been very clear about that my whole life. My sister (33F) has three kids (8M, 5F, and 2M), and while I love them, I don’t want to be responsible for taking care of them.
Recently, my sister has been asking me more and more to babysit so she and her husband can "have some time to themselves." At first, I said yes occasionally because I felt bad for her. But then she started asking all the time, like every weekend. I finally told her I’m not comfortable with how often she’s asking and I can’t keep saying yes.
Well, she blew up at me, saying things like “family helps family,” and that I’m selfish for not wanting to help out when she really needs it. I suggested she hire a sitter, but she said she can’t afford one and that since I don’t have kids, I should be more available to help her out.
Now my parents are involved, and they're saying I should just help her because I’m not doing anything important with my time (I work full time but apparently, it’s “different” (because I don’t have kids). I’m feeling a lot of pressure to cave in, but I really value my free time and feel like I shouldn't be guilted into taking care of kids I didn’t choose to have.
AITA for refusing to babysit and standing my ground? |
1fs9cre | AITA for eating my roommate’s food and blaming it on a storm? | When roommate (22F) was away visiting her family for a weekend recently, I (22F) had the apartment to myself. She lives about 2 hours away from our college campus apartment so she was gone almost 2 full days. I stayed in on the Friday night and got hungry. I finished off my snacks pretty quick into the night but wanted more. Because of a bad storm, I couldn’t go out and get more food or DoorDash something, so I ate some of my roommate’s food (ice cream, frozen pizza, cereal, a bag of chips etc). Since I ran out of most of my food that night, I continued eating her food throughout the weekend. The morning she was supposed to get back, I realized I had eaten pretty much all her food in the apartment and panicked. A few hours before she got back, I texted her and said the big storm we just had over the weekend cut our power and flooded a small portion next to the back door (close to where she stores her snacks), and therefore I had to toss all of her food she had in the house. She came back that night with new groceries totaling $100+ but doesn’t suspect a thing. I’m conflicted on what to do now cause I don’t want to pay her back for the food but if she finds out somehow, it could ruin our friendship. WIBTAH for not telling her or doing anything? |
1frorz2 | AITA for ordering a usb C cable? | My husband (M30) and I (F30) have a 3 year old and 3 month old. Today my husband told me to take some time for myself and go thrifting as well as pick up formula. I did that at took about an hour of time.
When I got home, I sent my husband to Costco, he was going to get a list of things as well as look for a charging cable for his new AirPods. We were texting and he said Costco didn’t have one, so I told him I would add it to the Walmart order and in the meantime he can wirelessly charge them on his phone. I thought I was doing a favor so he didn’t have to run another errand. I told him I added them to the order, but to still take some time for himself and not come home yet if he didn’t want to.
He came directly home and was very upset with me because I purposefully cut his me-time short. I can see that he was planning on going to target and maybe he was looking forward to it, but I never asked him to come home early, just that I’d buy the cable so we can get it without pickup order tomorrow. He is now cold to me and not speaking. We got into an argument when he got home because he blamed me for cutting his time short, when I was only trying to help. Now he is not talking to me and I’m wondering if im the AH.
He wanted to go to Costco by himself, and he could have gone anywhere honestly. I was just trying to be helpful. |
1fsa5e9 | AITA if I tell my landlord there’s a non-student living in my student house? | So this week I (M23) moved into a seven bedroom student house. Before I moved in, I had to sign a disclaimer stating that I was below 35 and that I’m a student (I am a student). So I move in and I’m the first person in the house for most of the week until a random man (I’m guessing forties) shows up in the hallway at like 11pm. I thought he was my landlord or something so I was just chatting to him and then he was like where is my room? I realised he was moving in and I asked if he was a student and he said he wasn’t. Then he told me he was a wedding entertainer and showed me videos of him dancing around dressed as a clown (?). So I just want to know if it would be a dick move if I ask my landlord why he’s here and if the landlord knows he’s in his forties and not a student. I’m also confused why he’d want to live with students at his age, especially considering this property is more expensive then other house shares in the area? None of my other housemates have arrived yet and we haven’t met but I’m wondering if they would think this is weird or if I’m just being mean. Please let me know, thank you!!! |
1fs87da | AITA for calling my friend out? | so, i was in class with my friends the other day when one of them pulled a pretty big prank. it was actually kind of funny, but then the teacher noticed and got really upset. he said if no one owned up to it, the whole class would get detention.
in the moment, i felt like it was better to just say what happened rather than let everyone get in trouble. i told the teacher it was my friend who did it, and he ended up getting detention. he was really pissed at me afterwards and said i should’ve just kept quiet.
now i’m feeling guilty because i didn’t want to throw him under the bus, but at the same time, i didn’t want to face detention for something i didn’t do. my other friends are kind of split on it, with some saying i did the right thing and others saying i should’ve kept my mouth shut.
aita for telling the teacher and causing my friend to get detention? |
1fuerfq | AITA for encouraging my friend to pursue their dreams? | My friend worked very hard to complete a Bachelors degree in a creative field while maintaining a full time, dead end job. They’ve been at this full time job for almost 15yrs now and despite finishing their education, have zero interest in using that degree to find a new position.
They are always complaining about money and how there is no opportunities for growth at their current organization so I told them some hard truths (they are just too comfortable, scared to put the work in to find a role in their chosen field, etc.) and they got very mad at me. Basically said the more I encourage or suggest they use their hard earned degree, the more it makes them not want to use it. It’s so frustrating because they are incredibly talented and creative but simply refuse to find a new job; I’ve even applied to role for them and helped setup interviews which they refused to go to. Am I an asshole for wanting them to be use their hard earned degree? |
1fr6qwv | AITA for asking someone to change their username? | I know a girl, friend of a friend, weve met before and been friendly.
She sells adult content which is perfectly fine. But she made a twitter one month ago (shes known me about a year), it uses my last name. My last name is common but I found it to be weird. It uses my sisters first name, which was coincidental, it's the girls middle name but I still feel weird about it. I politely messaged and explained, I said it wasnt a big deal but I'd appreciate her changing the last name.
She sent a pretty rude response saying it has nothing to do with me and shes not changing it.
It's fine she doesnt want to change it but she screenshots the messages to show her friends and make fun of me. I feel I was polite and non confrontational, but its annoyed me she couldn't see my point, and is screenshotting to make a fool of me.
Am I justified in being angry at her?
Edit:: thank you for all the replies!! I appreciate my feelings being validated, I also appreciated being humbled, I was being petty and entitled. I still don't like the girl because of the way she responded, but I dont have to like her. Letting it go and moving on |
1fs7p6h | AITA for wanting my partner to tweeze facial hair in the bathroom only | my parter is AMAB and currently transitioning - a big part of their dysmorphia comes from facial and bodily hair, so they are putting a lot of time into shaving and tweezing. I fully support esp because we can't afford laser at the moment.
often they leave a lot of plucked facial hairs on the bathroom sink, which I wipe away - I find this a little gross
today they were sitting on the couch in the living room with a mirror and tweezers- ready to lay back and pluck them out there. I said no, because tweezing is a bathroom task for me. They said their arm gets tired. I felt bad but I really don't think you should tweeze/pluck/wax/shave outside of the bathroom -- also as an afab, i get that it is uncomfortable to do thihs for a long period of time, but like...no
they suggested laying on our bed and doing it there, that their chest would 'catch' the plucked hairs, and I said no
I feel bad :( AITA???? |
1fsalai | AITA for not doing my husband’s laundry | My husband is angry with me because the jeans he wanted to wear weren’t clean yet and I’ve “had a week to take care of it”. I told him that he’s a grown man who should be able to take care of this himself and that I am not his mother. His justification is that it’s not like I have anything else to do. I am currently a stay at home mom (not by choice) and take care of everything in the house and all of the childcare. We’ve been together for 20 years, married for 14 and have two daughters. 5 years ago I gave up my full time job so he could pursue a job opportunity abroad. I gave up my financial independence and support system and became a stay at home wife, this was meant to be temporary. I worked part time for a while but a stressful work environment, lack of support, taking care of the household and being the default parent took a major toll on my mental health. I do all the cleaning, laundry, shopping, cooking and childcare. He claims he does enough because he works fulltime (flex hours from home) and provides financially. He doesn’t help out over weekends and spends his free time gaming. Am I really the asshole for not making sure his jeans were washed and ready?
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1fq5d9g | AITAH my partner, and I had an argument which led to the silent treatment. | Me (21F) am currently getting the silent treatment from my partner(29M). This all started because my partner told me he would call me when he got home and we made plans to online game (we currently live a few hours away from each other.) I waited for my partner to contact me, But heard nothing from him. I waited until 9 PM and then I messaged him “ hey are you still busy?” he responded to me that he was playing a game with his friends online. I left it alone after that since he was busy playing with friends and I didn’t want to interrupt that. I end up calling him before I went to bed and we talked for a while. He asked if I was ok and I told him I was a bit upset that he forgot to call me and forgot about our plans. He got upset and said. ” you always make me feel guilty for wanting alone time.” I tried to explain that I didn’t want to interrupt him playing a game with his friends. He got more upset and asked me why I didn’t tell him that he forgot when I first messaged him. I told him I shouldn’t have to remind him and that it hurts me when he forgets and blames me for not reminding him. He hung up and is now giving me the silent treatment AITAH? |
1fqqn93 | AITAH for tell my ex she can't be mad when our daughter calls my girlfriend mum when she'll call my ex's boyfriend dad | I (M26) have had a ongoing disagreement with my ex (F25) about what our daughter will call my girlfriend (F29) or or her mom's boyfriend (M25). My ex won't correct our daughter when she'll call this guy dad but gets extremely mad when my daughter will call my girlfriend mum.
My girlfriend has been in my daughter's life for almost two years now while my ex's boyfriend has been in her life for less than a year. Anytime she called my girlfriend mum, I'd correct her and I'd do the same when she talks about her weekend at her mom's place and talks about her mom's boyfriend. If she calls him dad, I tell her, "No sweetie, that's your mom's boyfriend. Like Cori is my girlfriend until either side gets married to them. Then they'll be your step parent or other parent" Note trying to explain it to a 5 year old, is easy and isn't at the same time.
But, when I was dropping my daughter off to her mom and she said hi to her mom and her mom's boyfriend, she called him dad. I corrected her. Her mom got irritated and said, "She can call him whatever she wants." Not even two minutes later, my daughter says bye to me and my girlfriend calling her mum. My ex got pissed. "She isn't her mom. I'm her only mom until you two get married."
So it's okay for him to be called dad but she can't be called mum? How is that fair? Plus I still corrected my daughter. In front of everyone.
I don't mind, but I just want it to be fair. But my daughter just calls mine and her mom's other half by their name.
So reddit, am I the jerk?
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1fu7lmu | AITA for accidentally ignoring my boyfriend’s text for two hours? | UPDATE: He just messaged and apologized.
He’s been going through a lot lately with work and stuff. I should’ve took that into consideration.
Hi, so what happened was I was working on some college assignments and my boyfriend and I were texting. I finished with my assignments and had texted him saying I was done with my school work. That was the last text I had sent and as far as I knew was the end of the conversation.
After my schoolwork, I started cleaning up my room, did a bit of laundry, and had a snack. I then got stuck in the living room talking with my parents because one of them just got home from work. I don’t carry my phone in my hand 24/7 and I figured while cleaning and stuff I would hear the message pop up.
At about 10:30 my boyfriend messages me “….” And I was very confused. I then look above the message and see that he had sent me a text way earlierrr. I felt awful for not seeing it and messaged him apologizing for not seeing the message sooner. He then messages back saying that it says I actually did read the message. I absolutely do not remember seeing this message at all. I continued to apologize but it didn’t do much. He’s upset with me and asked to give him time but I feel horrible. Especially because I honestly don’t remember the message at all. He’s the sweetest person in the entire world and I would never ever purposely ignore him, but I have to know, AITA? |
1frznm9 | WIBTA to refuse to bring my son to his mother’s on her day? | WIBTA if I said I’m not going to pick him up from school and bring him to her house on her days, nor do I want to start picking him up from practice and driving to her city to bring him to karate then to her house only to get home at 9p?
To be clear, I handle pickups on the days he is with me. She lives 30 minutes away and karate practice is next to her house at 7pm. |
1fqy1wr | AITA for stopping for a dog on the road? | I was at a 4 way stop and there's a shed like building that looks like it's abandoned. There was a dog that was lingering there, bit close to the road, so I parked on that property to check the collar. Dog was friendly but wasn't staying still so I was digging around the car for a lead or anything similar, and a man walked over from behind the building.
He asked what I'm doing and I responded that I was just checking the dog. He didn't "understand" what I meant so I told him I was checking if he was lost and wanted to check if he had a tag or anything on his collar.
He got irritated and said the dog lives there. I never knew there was a house behind the shed and it totally looked abandoned at first glance. He asked if the dog got close to the road and I said yes. Why else would I stop for a dog? Guy says the dog keeps doing that but wants me to get off the property anyway because he's annoyed that I'm bothering them.
Kept thinking he should keep a better eye on the dog if he doesn't want him to get off the property... AITA for checking on the dog? |
1fqaxfd | AITA for refusing to help my mom with housework because I’m tired from my job and classes? | I (20F) live with my mom (45F) while attending college full-time and working a part-time job. My mom also works full-time, but recently she’s been asking me to help out more with housework. She says it’s because I’m home more often than she is, even though I’m usually studying or exhausted from work.
Last week, she got really upset with me because I didn’t clean the kitchen after my shift, even though I told her I had an exam the next morning and needed to study. She said that I’m not pulling my weight and that I’m taking advantage of the fact that I’m living with her rent-free. I told her that I’m trying my best to juggle everything and that I need to prioritize my education, but she called me ungrateful and lazy.
Now I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable by not helping out more. AITA for refusing to do more housework because I’m tired? |
1fsjegj | AITA for asking my bf to do the dishes while I am gone | My (long time) bf live in my place 4 days out of 7 because his place is really small, rn I am in college while he dropped out and his trying for a job. Since he wakes up way after I am gone for college I ask him to do little tasks like "hey when you wake up can you do the end of the dishes / takes the trash out" LITTLE TASKS only. But now he’s starting to do small comments about how weird it is for him to do that as my "guest" while for me it’s normal for him to do 1/2 chores a day since he lives here at my total expense ( so rent, food, water, basically everything ) . But I genuinely don’t know if I am right here, probably not, so I would really like answers here :) |
1fsbw47 | AITA for telling my friend to stop talking about how he quit a game that we play. | Me and my friends all play a card game every week. One of my friends who has tried the game and dislikes it shows up and has mentioned that he wants to be invited when we hang out to play at locals or other events. Every time he is with us he talks about how he is glad that he has stopped playing the game. That was fine the first time but he asks if we are excited for new cards coming out and everytime we talk about a new combo that can be done he says some form of complaint or talks about being glad that he's stopped and even compairing it to other games saying that those are better. I haven't told him that he's kinda ruining the mood when we are there to play a game and he's showing up to hang out but always having to say something negative about the game we are playing. I understand he wants to hang out but there are other ways outside of playing a game that he does not enjoy and always has something negative to say.
Edit 1: he's in a group chat where we mention events and he goes to the shop that we play the game at on its designated day. |
1fuk6kl | AITA for staying at a party when my friend's mum died? | My (26f) friend's (29m) mum sadly passed away two weeks ago. I was hosting my housewarming party that day and my friend texted me in the morning that he won't make it due to his mum not feeling well. I replied that I completely understand and wished her (and him) the best.
At about 10.30 pm, I recieved another text, that his mum had died in hospital. I offered to call him, asked if he needs anything and that I am sorry to not be able to drive to the other town where the hospital is. He never replied.
Now he is calling me an AH because I did not come to the hospital or his home to comfort him. I did not want to send all my guests home, especially the ones sleeping over, and I was not allowed to drive anymore since I had been drinking. Does it make me TA? |
1fubw87 | AITA for not letting child live with me | My adult daughter & her husband were evicted from their rental home. We talked of them temporarily moving in with me to get on their feet. The day before moving, my SIL and I got in a huge fight because of his disrespect toward my daughter & their 12 week old twins. In the end, I uninvited him to live with me, but told my daughter that her and her babies were welcome. She has been having many issues with him and keeps telling me that she is done with him & his attitude. However, she chose to stay with him and they are now homeless and living in a motel and she will not talk to me. AITA? The mom guilt is great and I am missing my daughter and the babies. |
1fr4c36 | AITA: am i the asshole for postponing my date ? | For context, my girlfriend and i live together in my parents house. my parents travel for work and my mom has to care for my brother who has cancer. (doctors appointments etc). my parents were home today and my mom told me that we were going to be having family dinner, my girlfriend included. about 3 hours before my mom told me this my girlfriend and i had planned to go out to dinner that night. i told my girlfriend we could still go out just after we saw my parents.
my girlfriend is upset that i pushed back the date so, am i the asshole? |
1fv6qmv | AITA for ignoring phone calls from an ex friend | I was uninvited to her birthday party by her after another friend of hers invited me via Facebook.
Over the last couple years, my friend quit inviting me to meet for cocktails and do other things with her. She also did this to another mutual friend. We discussed it several times and both of us have hurt feelings over it. I chose to walk away and be done with her. My other friend keeps trying to reach out to her, but always ends up getting her feelings hurt.
When I got the invite, I didn’t rsvp because I didn’t think she would have invited me herself. About 3-4 days before the party, she said she was calling to chat. But, she ended up uninviting me to her party by saying things like, “I’m not looking forward to this party because…entertaining everyone, certain people invited don’t get along, people in town, don’t care for the venue. She had plenty of reasons to explain why I shouldn’t come because SHE will be so stressed, etc.
Since that phone call, she’s tried calling multiple times and texting me to see if I’m okay and ask why I haven’t responded.
Aita for not responding with an answer? Should I answer her call and tell her I don’t want to be friends anymore (she’s the one that started excluding me in the first place). Or should I continue to ignore the calls and hope she figures it out on her own? I do feel bad for ignoring her, but I guess I’m just trying to protect myself from future situations like this one. Any advice is appreciated. |
1frqwtr | AITA for mentioning my mom's insecurities | So me, my mom and my sister were talking and the conversation started about me not washing my face after putting mascara and she started laughing about how my eyes are looking black and she said that my left eye is even funnier because i have a droppy eyelid (and she knows i'm insecure about it) so to get back at her i said that at least mine didn't drop after doing botox and i told her that she shouldn't be laughing at me because of that because i can also play that game and call out her insecurities. She got mad and said that I shouldn't be saying that to her because she's my mom and a droppy eyelid isn't even that big of a deal. She even gaslit me and said that I'm the one who started it and to watch out because she wasn't born with her insecurities and that could happen to me too. So am I the asshole? |
1fsopwb | AITA for telling my unemployed mother "differently from you I have job", when she told me to find a job? | I (18F) go to school and have a job. I'm a part-timer, but in summer I used to do a full 8 hours (finishing work at 1 AM). I initially got the job thinking I was about to drop school but I'm still going. So I'm 18 (I will finish school in one and a half years), and working in the afternoon - evening.
My mother (61F) is unemployed, she hasn't looked for a new one since she lost the former. she never goes out, she's always at home.
Today I only slept two hours and I was in quite a bad mood. Not in the mood for going to school and not getting a suspension/in detection.
when on the door I said: "I don't want to go" she initially tried to persuade me, then told me to "go out and get a job", here is where I got enough. I told her "differently from you I have job". And left home.
Am I the asshole for telling her this and remind her she's unemployed?
probably, I think I might be the asshole because I feel terrible with myself.
edit: I knew I was probably the asshole, some way to apologize properly? |
1fr33kz | AITA for laughing at my dad dying in Hollow Knight? | Me (13M) and my dad (40M) like to "play" hollow knight together. Well... He plays, and I watch (we still have fun). Sometimes, he dies in REALLY silly ways, and I laugh at that. Sometimes he doesnt like it, but thats when he is clearly pissed. But a lot of times, we both laugh at it and just laugh it off.
I do still wonder if I'm the a-hole for doing that, after all when I play Geometry Dash with my mom and I laugh like that, its almost always fine. I really need opinions on if I should stop doing that, or is it fine? Please help, I really am questioning if I'm doing a good thing or a bad thing... |
1fqhapv | AITA for moving someone’s laundry | I'm a college student that lives in a 10-story building with one laundry room (that's 10 stories of college students having access to the few washing and drying machines there). I start off by putting my clothes in the washer, and I set it by using an app that controls setting it up, which also has a timer to notify the duration left of your laundry and when it's done. Once my clothes were done washing, I took it out so I could dry them however there weren't any available dryers so I took someone's out and put mine in there and took mine once my timer went off. There's a lot of mixed opinions on my campus regarding doing that and whether that makes you an ass or not, but in my defense, I do that because people, especially 10 floors of people to 1 laundry room, have to do their laundry and shouldn't have to wait around on someone taking up a dryer for quite a while with no other available dryers, especially when the app used lets you know when your laundry's done, and others make it a priority to get their laundry immediately after the timer goes off. Anyways, am I an asshole for that? |
1fqbxsz | AITA for accidentally coming out to my son in front of his friends? | So I'm bi which technically isn't a secret ,but it's never been something I like sat down and told my kids about. My youngest "Riley" (14M) is in a band with his two best friends "Zack" and "Trevor" both 15 I believe and who are a couple. They sometimes practice at our house in the afternoons so I end up chauffeuring them home when it gets late and Riley comes with me so we can pick up dinner afterwards.
Yesterday on the ride taking the other boys home I let them play whatever music.Zack picked "Bloom" by Troye Sivan and if you've heard that song as a queer person you know what's it about. For you straights think a woman letting you be the first person in the garden. Anyways I know the song and I start singing along pretty comfortablely. Zack and Trevor are both giggling and texting each other and Riley I think. Out the blue Trevor ask me If I know what the song means and without thinking I was like yeah of course I do. Both him and Zack started laughing.
Riley just kinda blurts out asking if I'm gay if I love mom. I was caught off guard and I just kinda reflexively said "no I'm bi and of course I love your mom". He's been kinda weird about since and was really embarrassed about it. My wife thinks I shouldve just told him that I'd talk to him about it later and had more of discussion instead of just blurtting out Infront of his friends like that. AITA? |
1fq2rzp | AITAH for going on a ride my friend could go on. | AITA for going on a ride that my friend is too heavy to go on. My buddy is a big girl, and I mean a big girl and we went to Knott's, she told me "No rides" and I decided not to listen to her and enjoy myself and go on some rides. Am I the Ahole for going on rides she wasn't able to go on. |
1fstdzo | AITA for telling my friend about a guy? | So I 13/F have been talking to a guy 14/M during the whole summer who we will call Victor. He seemed nice and into me which he clearly was. He kept asking me when I was coming home as I was on holiday. I told him I didn’t know and he just replied with ok. When I got back home it was time for school. On a friday of the second week at lunch my friend 12/F who we will call Lauren grabbed my phone as a joke and looked through my snapchat. Lauren saw the name “Victor” and asked who it was. I blushed at first before she told me she also knew him. We talked about him and Lauren told me he was annoying. I thought nothing of it until the Sunday of that week. My friend Lilly gave Victor my TikTok and asked if he thought I was cute. He said yes and she told me instantly. I was so happy about it and straight away texted Lauren. Lauren asked me what else he had said and I told her he’d been asking when I was gonna come home bcuz I think he wants to meet me. Then Lauren went and texted him that I had said that to Lauren. He denied it. I don’t know why but he did. Lauren called me a trash talker, a b!tch and a liar. I blocked her but later apologise but she just started arguing with me again. I said that she made me feel worthless but she just wrote “AHAHAHAH” and it was rlly mean. Then I apologised again but she didn’t want the apology. I don’t understand what is happening but,
ATIA? |
1fsa0dd | AITA-controlling or respect? | Wife got caught emotionally cheating.. yes i went thru her messages. But told her best friend "im not in love with her anymore, i don't know how to tell her" and speaking of "hookups with someone is all she can do right now". wife still hangs out with the accused affair person. She changed password, takes phone to shower about a month ago. So i had a bad feeling..and recently turned off location because I invaded her privacy. Haven't gone thru messages in over a year, when i found she added a girl on SC that she was suppose to block and used a fake name.. AITA or am I being controlling as she says? |
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- Secret url: https://codalab.lisn.upsaclay.fr/competitions/20729?secret_key=5821ba39-30f4-4d25-a627-7b595b6179d3
Uses
- This dataset can be used for training machine learning models to classify posts by thematic content. It is suitable for tasks such as: Multi-label text classification Sentiment analysis NLP-based research on conflict resolution and human behavior
Dataset Structure
- Columns: Post ID Post Title Post Text Labels: One or more labels describing the thematic category of the post ("Family Issues", "Relationship Conflicts", "Work Dynamics", "Financial and Legal Disagreements", "Personal Boundaries", "Cultural and Identity-Based Issues", "Other").
Curation Rationale
- This dataset was created as part of a ML class project, where we had to collect and annotate the data.
Source Data
- the subreddit r/AmItheAsshole
Data Collection and Processing
- The data was collected from the AITA subreddit using PRAW python library on the date of October, 3rd 2024.
- Each post represents a unique conflict submitted by Reddit users.
- Posts collected have a word count of greater than 10 and less than 300 and number of comments greater than 4
Annotations [optional]
- this dataset was annotated by four classmates, each couple worked on a subset of the collected data, and the cohen's kappa was calculated to determine the agreement between the annotators.
Annotation process
- The annotattons were done on a simple google sheet file.
- Each annotator had a sheet in their name where they read the posts, their titles and accordingly assigned them one or more categories of the proposed categories.
- Each pair annotated approximately 100 posts.
- After calculating Cohen's Kappa, there was a high agreement score between the annotators, except for 10 posts where there was disagrement, so a 5th annotator was asked to solve these disagreements
Annotation Guidelines
- Categories and Descriptions:
- Family Issues: Posts where the conflict revolves around family relationships, such as disputes with parents, siblings, or extended family members.
- Relationship Conflicts: Posts focusing on romantic relationships, including conflicts between partners, dating issues, or breakups.
- Work Dynamics: Posts that describe problems or disagreements in a professional environment, including conflicts with coworkers, managers, or clients.
- Financial and Legal Disagreements: Posts where money or legal matters are a central issue, such as disputes over loans, payments, debts, or legal responsibilities.
- Personal Boundaries: Posts where the conflict revolves around individual boundaries, personal space, or requests for respect regarding personal autonomy.
- Cultural and Identity-Based Issues: Posts that involve conflicts stemming from cultural differences, identity (such as gender, race, or sexual orientation), or societal norms.
- Other: Posts that do not clearly fit into any of the above categories.
- Annotation Instructions:
- Open the Google Sheets link for the dataset, read each post carefully and assign one or more labels by selecting the categories that best fit the post’s themes. Only use the "Other" label if none of the predefined categories are a good fit for the post or if a post is too ambiguous.
Personal and Sensitive Information
- This dataset was collected from Reddit, so there might be some strong language used in the posts.
- As far as Identifying information, there was not any in the collected posts.
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