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id,title,selftext
1fu80jo,AITA for not inviting my fiancés brother to my wedding after he demonstrated he doesn't approve?,"I (29F) am getting married in a few months, and my fiancé (30M) and I couldn’t be happier. However, his brother has been doing these racial microaggressions since we got engaged. He often comments on how he thinks he’s not good enough for me and he shouldn't be with someone ""like me"".

I’ve tried to brush it off, but it’s really starting to affect me. I’ve talked to my fiancé about how his comments hurt, but he insists that he's just looking out for us. Recently, I decided to not invite him to the wedding. I feel like this is a special day for us, and I don’t want his negativity to overshadow it.

When I told him he wouldn’t be invited, he was furious and called me selfish for not including soon to be family. I’m feeling guilty now and wondering if I overreacted.



AITA for not inviting him to my wedding?"
1fr1uhq,AITAH for calling parents on my brother? ,"
I (26F) have a younger brother (17) who recently had a friend over at our mom's house, drinking and possibly smoking pot. I live three hours away, so I couldn't just show up, but I felt something needed to be done. Our other brother (23), who is non-confrontational, called me voicing his concern about the situation. 

Our mother is currently on her honeymoon and had trusted my younger brother to be responsible while she was away. However, knowing that he's been experimenting with substances, I felt uneasy. We come from a family with a history of addiction, and I couldn't shake the worry. My brothers mean the world to me, and while I didn't want to cause any trouble, something in my gut told me I had to act. So, I called our mom to let her know. 

Now, I'm wondering if I overstepped."
1fsavk0,AITA for asking my ex if he was going to pick up our daughter tomorrow? ,"My husband (27m) and I (25f) split up about 7 months ago. We have one daughter together who is almost 2. We share custody with me having primary physical custody and him having visitation on “up to 50%” of days. He is supposed to keep her for a few hours after work twice a week and overnight every other weekend. Over half of the time he cancels on his visitation for some reason. The reasons are all legitimate sounding on their own (work, sick, needing a mental health break etc.) but they really add up and it makes it very hard for me to make plans that don’t involve my daughter. 

I have been going to yoga pretty much anytime I can when she isn’t with me. Tomorrow is supposed to be his evening with her so I signed up for my yoga class after work. I sent him a text saying “You're going to pick her up after work tomorrow, right? I signed up for yoga so I just want to be sure.” He has canceled on his visitation twice in the last week so I just wanted to make sure that he was still planning on picking her up. Just for context, there is a late cancel fee if I cancel less than 2 hours from the start of the class. 

He is saying that I should have asked what time he was picking her up instead and that it was disrespectful to ask if he was still planning to get her. So Reddit, AITA? "
1fqznau,AITA For wanting a gift I gave my mother back instead of her giving it away.,"I'm posting this for my mother.

Years ago she gave her mother a stuffed camel that my father had bought while he was deployed to Turkey a good 20 years ago. Now that she is getting older my grandmother has been giving away quite a bit of her things. She originally tried to give the camel away to her neighbors kid, but he didn't want it. 

So my mom told her she would like it back to give to either one of my kids or my brother's kids.My grandmother stated that she would probably just give it away to one of my mother's sisters that live in another state than all of us. 

So my mom wants to know would she be the asshole if she presses the issue and continues to ask for it back since it is kinda sentimental to her. Or because it was a gift my grandmother can just give it away to whoever she wants to."
1frk17m,AITA for walking my dog through an unmarked yard?,"
About a month ago, I was told by a property owner that the area beyond his fence is private property while walking my dog along the fence line. I respected his request and stopped using that route. 

Recently, I had no choice but to walk on the lower part of the hill since there’s no clear sidewalk in my neighborhood. I stayed as far from his property as possible, thinking it would be okay. 

When the man saw me, he came out, threatened to call the police, and insulted me, even calling me fat and saying he’d ""fuck up"" my boyfriend. I argued back, feeling provoked, but I genuinely thought I was being considerate by avoiding his yard.

I don’t know the property laws in my state, but I thought the area I was in was reasonable to walk through. So, AITA for walking my dog there again?"
1fqvlz4,AITA for not picking my sister up at the airport,"I 28 (F) living in Florida has a sister (41) living in Texas with my niece (4). We all grew up in Florida but she decided to move which is normal but when she comes back in to town she stays with us and we are her transportation most of the time. Every time she comes she decides to come into an airport that is at least 1 hour away from us. We have an airport 30 minutes away but she says that it is too expensive to fly into from there. She also has a habit of having a car rental at this far away airport so we have to make at least 4 trips there.

She and my niece are coming into town and yet again are coming in to the far away airport. This time I decided to let her know that I will not be coming to get them because it an inconvenience. I decided to pay for a taxi to get them instead. She was so upset and the reason is because my niece has a car seat in my car and it's safer to get with her that way. I told her the only way to do that is to fly in the local airport. I also told her, I would get her a ride to pick up her rental car. AITA?"
1fv0h9i,AITA for keep a secret from my best friend ,Me and my best friend have been friends since we were kids. We’re in are 20s now and I’ve never told her that when we were younger that’s I messed around with her brother. I think she’ll be pissed at me so I never told her. I feel bad about what we did and not tell her. I don’t know what to do should I tell her. Am I the asshole for this 
1fuxm0n,AITA for telling my sister no to driving 2 hours for lunch? ,"First time posting. Long time reader. 

My sister’s birthday is about a week and a half away and she’s decided she wants to go to lunch at a restaurant that is 2 hours away from where everyone who would attend lives. Those in attendance would be our mother, my sister and bil and their child(3), me and my spouse and child(5), and birthday sister and her child(2). 

My bil and spouse agree it’s too far to drive for lunch. My bil will feel obligated to go since his wife said he’s already. I have said I do not want to drive this far for lunch and offered to make her dinner to celebrate. 

I am getting a lot of flack from my mother and sisters about saying no. They are saying its one day and I should just do what she wants. 

I knew she wouldn’t like my answer, but I’m getting a lot of attitude. I know this all sounds stupid but I just want more input. I will probably go just to stop receiving their wrath. "
1fuzi3j,AITA for telling my coach he was balding? ,"I (21F) have a flag football coach (25M). The college I attend is in Cyprus, I’m the only American on my team. I’m also the fastest on the team (we’ve done multiple races and determined that), yet he never lets me play during practice. He lets every new member try besides me, I’m almost always sitting alone on the bench. The only time he called on me was when he needed my shoes for a girl that’s not even in the team to play because they were short on people. 

He also makes fun of my ‘american accent’ constantly, ‘acts like a white girl’ to mock me, and even told me he wished foreigners would get out of Cyprus. What I’m getting at here is that I think he’s a bit racist towards me.

Fast forward to when I post a picture on instagram (he follows the whole team on insta) and he replies with “Fatty”, for the record I’m 121 pounds and 5”3, I’m not overweight and then he proceeded to ask me for private pictures. I laugh about it because I didn’t take it seriously but he said there was nothing funny. 

It pissed me off so I told him, that I could lose the ‘weight’ but he will never lose the receding hairline, and the shitty personality, I then told him that he was a horrible coach and that I desperately hope he’d get changed next year. 

My friends are telling me I took it too far and that I should never talk to a coach like that no matter what. Now my coach is contemplating kicking me off the team. 

AITA? "
1fv2yqn,AITA Social Media Nonsense 47F 45M married 8 yrs,"My husband(M45) likes to post pictures of me (F47) to his social media page. I usually have no issue with this. he’s my husband. He wants to show me off that’s fine. I could care less. The problem is he wants to post pictures of me and scantly clad clothing and bikinis, but get upset when men comment. I’m 5’3” 120 pounds and I have large breast implants 800 cc the largest silicone implant you can get. I don’t post pictures of myself up with bikinis and what not but he does. It’s OK but why are you getting mad at me when someone makes a comment on a social media page? On a picture that you posted? He tries to start arguments with me saying that men are disrespectful because they say that I look good. He gets mad at me because I say I don’t care what people say that’s not my problem. I didn’t post the picture and I’m not responsible for what people say. Also, if you want to post pictures of me, half naked in a bikini with my large breast showing why are you mad that people comment? Somehow it’s my fault that the picture he post on his page and tags me in. When someone I went to school with over 20 years ago, makes a comment that he doesn’t like. so am I the asshole for not caring? Because what does it have to do with me? I didn’t post the picture. Furthermore, I’m belief if you post something up on a social media platform on the Internet and then you get what you get you don’t want people saying things don’t post picturesof me half naked. But according to him, this is somehow my fault."
1fsab82,AITA for not respecting my dad,"the other day we were having an argument in the kitchen (I forget what about), he (m55) was washing his hands and instead of drying them flicked the water into my (f23) face while making a remark before angrily storming away. according to my dad, im rude and have no respect. I asked him if It makes sense to respect someone who flicks water into my face, and that isn't that in itself rude?

AITA for not ""respecting"" my dad after shit like that?"
1frkoo1,WIBTA if I created a google booking page for friends/family to schedule visits with me?,"I work full time, got to school full time, and study independently of school for my job. I also have several chronic illnesses that take up a lot of my time (appts, rest, etc). It can be exhausting going back and forth with friends and family to figure out when we’re both available. 
I feel like this would be sooo much easier on everyone, just pick a slot and go. But, I also know that some people will think I’m being holier-than-thou. My time is valuable, and I have to keep a strict balance. 
Would I be an asshole if I created a booking link for friends and family to schedule visits/hangouts/whatever with me?"
1fsg1iy,AITA for being productive?,"

I'm studying in Europe, and I'm coursing an optional career about electricity and maintenance. I started studying in a different school than last year, but I know 7/25 of my classmates. For context, I don't have a good relation with any of them. They didn't bully me, but I know for a fact that I was nobody's first option, neither second or third. I like anime, videogames, and reading light novels, and I'm not going to change because of what other people think about me. 

The problem started this Thursday in class. The teacher told us that we have to do a summary of the first unit. Then, I pulled out a summary that I have done before, and all of my classmates started making fun of me, telling me that I should try to go outside and touch some grass, some of them even told me in the middle of class that I should try alcohol and other substances. I ignored them, and handed the summary to the teacher. He said that it was okay. 

Fast forward to last hour on the same day, I have another teacher, and after class, she tells me that she wants to speak with me. 

She basically tells me that I should try to socially with my classmates and that eventually, when I'm working, I will have to work in a team. Then, I tell her ""With all due respect, I don't give a fuck about my classmates, I come here to learn, not to befriend those idiots"". She starts going mad and telling me how wrong I am. AITA?"
1fsglle,AITA for not unpacking my house?,"I (39f) am over it. I've had to move so many times over the last 10 years that I don't have it in me to unpack my stuff anymore. My fiance loves all the nerdy and witchy stuff I have and desperately wants me to pull it all out and decorate our home. This is the third place we've lived since getting together almost 3 years ago.

Because we've struggled financially we've had to relocate more than once. I have a large family and there's just so much stuff. I just don't have it in me to unpack, completely settle in and decorate, and then in a couple months take it all down and start over.

I know he wants to have the comfy family home and I want to give that to him for the most part, but I'm just too over it anymore. I work, come home, be the mom, go to sleep and start over again. AITA for just keeping it all in boxes? "
1fqtw5x,AITA for texting my upstairs neighbour asking them to stop being loud ,"Okay okay I know how the title is making me sound. Let me explain. I (23F) and my boyfriend (32M) live in a one bedroom basement apartment in the bottom of a duplex. I’ve been living here for over a year and he moved in early December. We never had any issues with the previous neighbours but since May of this year, the new neighbours moved in. They’re honestly really nice, a young family with a young child. But here’s the thing…I feel like they have no regard for us, living below them, especially early in the morning (I’m talking 6am). We’ve ignored it for months and haven’t said anything until I was woken up at 615 by their child running at full speed right above our room. Maybe I wasn’t the nicest in the moment, but I texted the neighbours “hi can you guys please keep it down. Your son running at full force at 619AM has woken me up. Please be mindful”. To spare time, I’ve summed up the conversation that follows. They said they can’t keep their child from walking and kept saying “what are we supposed to do” after I stated that it’s not the child that is the issue, it’s that they let their child run around in the morning. They say they are more than mindful but I don’t feel like they care. AITA? "
1fuo8bu,AITA For Expressing My Feelings,"Throw away acct so my partner/family members don't see. English is a second language so sorry in advance.

Backstory: I have a lot of issues with anxiety and PTSD that started over 20yrs ago. I've been in therapy for months now trying to work through these things so I'm not angry all the time and so I can learn to express my feelings and emotions instead of bottling them up inside. Every time I've tried to express my feelings/emotions about something my partner said or did, they would get upset or mad and take it personally. We talk about this a lot because when this happens, I shut down and refuse to express anything. If I express my feelings on a neutral topic, like my work or animals, then they seem fine and don't react badly. But if I express feelings towards them that are not 100% good, I get the harsher reactions. 

Fast forward to the present: I expressed my feelings about them being on their phone all the time and not really paying attention to me/being present with me. This has been going on for a long time and I finally worked up the courage to open my mouth. No, i wasnt mean, i just expressed myself calmly and explained my side. Shocker, they took it personally and asked if there was anything else they couldn't do right. You're asking me to open up and express my emotions to you but when I do, I get these type of reactions. Am I the asshole? Can I do something differently?"
1fqy5bt,AITA for constantly bringing up the subject of my boyfriend's future career?,"Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.

Me (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for 5 years. He's very caring and I love him very much. We are both interested in pursuing careers in the creative industry, which obviously is very competitive and requires a huge level of commitment. My boyfriend, while declaring that he wants to be an artist, doesnt really know which career path to choose and he's not really taking any actions to pursue a creative career. He says he simply can't decide on anything specific and is afraid of making the wrong commitment. On the other hand I'm very career-oriented and I decided on pursuing costume design in high school. Even though I lost some of my passion for costuming, I'm still commited to it as I studied it for two years and graduated. I feel like I need to worry constantly about my career and I can't make any changes in my plans, because it seems like I'll be soon supporting both of us, since he's not putting any effort into monetizing his hobbies. Every time I try to talk to him about it he starts to cry and apologize, but he's not really listening and still does not take any action. Am I expecting too much from him? Should I just let him figure it out? Am I overreacting? AITA for constantly trying to make him become more active in his career development?
"
1fseyqv,AITA for frequently asking my husband if he's okay?,"My husband often tells me he's ""fine"" when he's actually doing very poorly mentally. Therefore, I usually don't believe him when he claims that he is all right. This normally causes me to ask him a few times within the span of a day.

He becomes visibly frustrated when I ask, ""are you okay?"" or ""what's going on?"" Apparently it angers him any time he is asked this. I tried to explain that I keep asking because sometimes he'll finally admit that something is wrong. He doesn't care. I suggested that he answers ""no"" but follows up with ""but I don't want to talk about it right now"" so I don't press the issue. 

Today his mom asked him THE QUESTION and he straight up yelled at her and stormed off. I brought it up later and told him that his expression looked angry/upset. He curtly replied that ""it's just his face"" and that he's ""fine.""

Hours later he admitted that he was depressed. I told him to please not lie to me, but he claimed that he didn't lie by telling me he was fine. I couldn't continue the conversation because he was too angry at me.

I should probably quit talking about ""feelings"" with him but I'm so worried about his mental health, and I have no one else to talk to about mine. But am I really the asshole for being concerned over the well-being of the love of my life?"
1frmph3,AITA? Hanging out means standing in line? ," (25F) met a friend (25M) about two months ago at a concert. They were chill, and they live in another state, but one that’s easy to get back-and-forth from my state, like maybe 2 hours or less by bus or train, and it costs around $20


This person kept calling me and texting me inviting me to come to their state, saying they didn’t have the funds or time to come visit me (I have more free time) 


I planned to come see them, then they cancelled the day before. We rescheduled, but then I had to cancel for work. They recently messaged me that they were in my city for an event (think con/festival) and they 3 hours to kill and would love to see me. 


So I took the train 35 min to see him, and I find him waiting in line for something for this event with his friends. I asked if he invited me just to stand in line IN THE RAIN with him and his friends, and he stammered “I’m probably going to grab food also, you can come for that if you want” 


I said nope, I’m going home, and I would not have come if I knew you were inviting me to stand in line in the rain for an event I don’t even have an interest in or tickets to. 


He says he just wanted to see me and spend time  with me. AITA? 
"
1fsfww2,AITA for catching my falling sister?,"So I (m15) had to deal with a visit from my former stepdad (we all hate it, not just me) and he's very defensive over his younger kids. When he was married to my mom he always made me stay away from my younger siblings because he considered me a ""bad influence"" due to me studding my clothing and dressing in dark colors. Keep in mind, I don't think it's the root cause, he just needed a scapegoat. 

Anyhow, one of my sisters (f7) is very hyperactive and never stops moving. During her dad's visit she wouldn't stop climbing on furniture and laughing hysterically. Later we went to a park and my sisters go to play and the 7 year old I mentioned makes it impressively high up on the jungle gym thingy. I walk over and ask her to please be careful, and so she decides to scare me by fully standing up. 

As you might expect, she fell almost instantly. I gotta say, I was still a good few feet away, booked it over and caught her before she hit the ground. (When I did, I let myself fall back a little slower than she was tumbling to not make a complete stop). My mom comes running over freaking out and my sister starts crying and my old stepdad starts yelling at me for distracting her, and if I hadn't said anything at all she wouldn't have fallen and started crying. He proceeds to shout more until my mom abruptly ends the visit and takes us home. She later thanked me for catching her. I don't really know, when a child is at risk do I just seriously... Do nothing?"
1fqrdsp,AITA for not selling my beloved car to my gf’s sister for her daughter ,"Tomorrow I plan on trading in my 2016 CX-5 (bought in 2015) for a new CX-70.  My car is 9 1/2 years old and has almost 225,000 miles on it.  Yes, I drive a lot!  When I first started considering a new vehicle I had mentioned maybe trying to sell it outright.  This car is my baby.  It’s been the best vehicle I’ve ever owned and I’m feeling pretty sad about saying goodbye to it.  But with this kind of mileage I’m really concerned that something could go wrong with it, and if it did I would feel awful selling it to someone I know.  Plus, we’re talking about a 17 yo girl who isn’t going to care for it the way I have.  I can’t bear the thought of seeing it trashed.  My gf is really pissed off at me for not wanting to sell it to them.  In addition, I’m getting a great deal on my new car, which I know in part is because the dealership will make a few bucks on my trade.  So the gf wants me to sell it to them for the amount I’m getting in trade plus the tax break I’ll be getting due to the trade.  With all the mileage I likely couldn’t sell it outright for more than this amount.  I don’t want to deal with the hassle of doing so and the dealership has earned its right to make a few dollars.  The gf’s sister has a high paying job and could easily afford to buy her daughter a new car.  I never thought my last ride in my car would be a guilt trip…. AITA?

Edit: Just want to add, there are some additional personal reasons I don’t want to sell it to this person.  "
1fr2n7q,AITA for defending my mom after my boyfriend was rude to her?,"My boyfriend(19m) and I(19f) have known each other since we were kids. His mother recently passed away. At the funeral, his sister(8f) asked him if she's in heaven now. He said yes. My mom told her though that she didn't believe in Jesus so she isn't there. My boyfriend asked my mom 'What's the matter with you?""

Now, I know what my mom said was callous. Believe me, I do. I felt for the poor kid. But I'm serious about my boyfriend. I love him and the fact that he was rude to my mom could cause issues for us in the future. So I stood up for my mom. I told my boyfriend he can't speak to her that way and said that he has to apologize.

He refused to and hasn't talked to me for two days now. My dad said that as much as he hates people being rude to my mom, my mom was in the wrong."
1frd5jb,WIBTA if I ask for a discount on rent?,"In June my acquaintance, said that I could rent her land, which is a field, if I wanted to keep an animal there and she told me the price is 3000 Polish zlotys for one month and this includes that she will feed the animal and it could stay in the stable also.

I agreed to this deal and have a sheep that lives there now and will buy other ones there as well. But actually the sheep does not live on the land because after I rented the land, she grows tomatoes and other vegetables there so the sheep doesn't go there. He stays in the stable and sometimes he is in the yard also. Also the sheep was away for 2 months but I was charged with the full price of renting the land for those 2 months.

In my experience another person took care of my sheep and he did have access to land and the sheep and a dog both ran around the land freely but it was only 400 Polish zlotys for a month, actually it was less but that was an old man so I gave him some more and actually he passed away so I cannot keep the sheep there RIP.

I was thinking about asking her if I can get a discount on the land by mentioning that I'm not renting the land but only the stable and the yard but I am worried it could seem rude to ask for a discount and she might raise the price even more in response.

So could you tell me if this is reasonable to ask if I can have a discount on rent? (no specific number in my mind, just that it would be cheaper)"
1frw2w3,AITA for torrenting a videogame,"So I (19m) live in the US and was pirating this video game that I wanted and my dad who loves monitoring the Internet later found out that I was pirating the game. Both of my parents got really worried and mad saying that we could all go to prison or that I could get a really bad virus on my computer. I tried playing it off saying that I had no idea that that kind of stuff was illegal, even though I obviously did and they believed me. The irony of all of this is that my dad literally torrented a Call of Duty game for me on his computer like five or six years ago. So AITA For downloading pirated games?"
1fsfyk7,WIBTA for asking my mother to pay for my apartment (shared with other students even though we are on a budget and she lives in the same city?,"So first year undergrad and pretty much a big change for me moving to another city and country. I had found and signed myself an apartment for students and I am sooo excited for this.

Thing is she is also looking to move there and looking for apartment for BOTH of us. I keep hinting that I am okay to live alone (and prefer it) because I am pushing her to find an apartment further away from me but she doesnt seem to  read between the lines. 

I want this because I'd like to be independent, to know myself alone, how capable/resourceful I can be. To be young stupid adult. To be responsible and irresponsible. Normal things people my age do. 

I am soaked in guilt and limitations because of her disapprovement or worries about me as a mother which I understand but it really has stopped me to venture further in life because of this guilt and consideration.

She continues to find apartment so close to my uni, and insists for me to not even show up/continue for the apartment I signed and gave deposit (her money) and just find 1 apartment for 2 of us. 

She pays for everything. I dont have my own money and we do not have currently anything incoming. 

Tonight I was annoyed when she told me she found a good apartment 15 min from uni and she is thinking to finalised it. She saw how my mood changed and stopped talking to me. 


TL;DR- Financially dependent student asking mom to pay separate apsrtments even though there is no incoming income atm for the pursuit of individuality, independency, self exploration and hedonism haha. "
1fri7lz,AITA for telling the truth about Uncle Dave? ,"Something is mentally wrong with my Uncle Dave (50’s) he’s faked cancer, faked being in the military, and faked having well paying jobs to impress women. He’s been married 3 times. 

I went to my grandma’s birthday and Dave shows up with a new girlfriend and his head shaved. She goes on about his cancer treatments. I look at my cousin who works at the closest chemotherapy facility and is like nope.  I later pulled this woman aside and tell her Dave’s history of faking cancer and she started to put two and two together because Dave just lost his well paying “job” because of his sick days for cancer being back. Dave has already moved in with this women and she was helping him out. 

This woman had no fucking chill and screamed at Dave at my grandma’s birthday and told him to get his shit out of the home before she calls the police about him. 

My mom and grandma are angry at me and told me to leave because what I did to Dave and grandma at here party was “evil” because this could be grandma’s last birthday party because she’s old. 

I don’t see how I’m in the wrong when it was Dave lying to a woman to live in her home but I’m the bad guy here. So everything is now my fault and I have been told not to come around to a family gathering at my grandma’s again. "
1futdz9,AITA for refusing to cook dinner,"AITA. The last few times I have cooked dinner my husband has had a negative comment to say about it. I like to think I’m an excellent cook and my kids always tell me I’m the best cook. He however seems to not be a fan of any of my cooking. 
He even told me “if I always say I like your cooking you won’t believe me” 
Tonight I made ribs complete with a homemade BBQ sauce and of course he had to let me know. He wasn’t “a fan”. 
So now I’m refusing to cook dinner anymore and have told him he’s head chef in charge. 
It’s very discouraging because he can’t even tell me one compliment when I do cook. It’s always just something negative. I had already talked to him about it the other day about how the negative comments hurt my feelings and I’m not a restaurant accepting reviews so just keep it to himself. "
1fqrbin,WIBTA if I had my mother ask our relatives to only invite us over when I can go?,"

My aunt and uncle invited my family to dinner like a few weeks ago on a Friday night, and I couldn't go because I was working. So my whole family went other than me. So I took Fridays off work so I would have a life and be able to do stuff on a Friday. But then last week, another relative of mine invited our whole family like cousins and everything to their house for a party for a special occasion, and I couldn't go because I was working. My mother for some reason told me about it which just made me pissed off because if they didn't say they were going I wouldn't even have known about it.


It's annoying not being able to go to anything so I was considering telling my mother to messsge all of our relatives on that side to say that if they're going to invite us over or have a party or some shit to have it on a Friday so that I can go."
1fsl81j,AITA for yelling at my cousin ,"I 16m was at a family gathering for my grandma's birthday. At the gathering was me my mom and my sister along with my aunt uncle and their 2 kids who I'll call Lacey 6f and Luke 4m (not their real names). My aunt and uncle have a habit of not disciplining their kids, and because of that, Luke is usually misbehaving in public ever time we have a gathering (Lacey used to also misbehave a lot but now I'd say she's better). When I was in the living room minding my own business, Luke comes up to me and he all the sudden starts climbing on top of me, I tell him to stop, and he keeps putting his hands on me, and I keep trying to tell him to stop but he won't get off of me, then I eventually raise my voice and say ""get off me now"".

He then gets off and starts crying, then my uncle comes in and starts getting mad that I yelled. I try to tell him that he wouldn't get off of me but he still is mad at me for yelling. My aunt also scholds me for yelling at him. My grandma just says that she wants us to be a happy family and doesn't try to get involved. When we were going home, my parents and sister said that they agreed with me, but idk, I need to know if I was wrong here. AITA?"
1fr0rq6,AITA for telling my daughter that she would have to stay home if she couldn’t get ready in a reasonable amount of time?,"My (42F) daughter (18F) takes forever to get ready. Ever since I was 16, I’ve been able to take a shower, get dressed, and do my makeup in 15-20 mins. My daughter, all her life, has always taken longer. She starts getting ready for work 2 hours early. I’ve tried getting her not to take so long, but then she just looks like a mess. Her hair unbrushed in a messy bun, her outfit not matching, and she’ll wear ugly flip flops. She doesn’t really wear makeup other than for certain occasions, but she insists in always styling her hair some kind of way. The fastest she gets ready is in an hour, and that’s if she doesn’t really care about where we’re going. And every time she gets ready, she has to have her tv on a show she’s currently obsessed with. I’ve tried taking her tv away, but she just takes longer then. I’ve also tried taking her phone so she doesn’t get distracted, but then I go to tell her it’s time to go, and she’s still not ready yet. I got fed up last night when I told her she needed to be ready in 10 mins and she looked at me like I was the insane. We got into an argument where she yelled that she couldn’t do a shower, get dressed, and do her hair in 10 mins. So I told her that if she couldn’t do it, then she couldn’t go to our town fair with me. She’s currently ignoring me and staying in her room. I don’t see how I’m in the wrong for trying to somewhere on time. So AITA?"
1frigj3,AITA for joking with my friend?,"You know how sometimes your iPhone will show you memories from like a year ago? A few days ago, I saw a picture I took of a beach when I was on vacation like 2 years ago and I posted it on my story on Instagram. No caption or anything, just the picture. My friend replied to my story and said “Omg, where?” So I told her it was a beach 20 minutes away from my house. My exact words were “Near my house. 20 mins away.” 

We live in different states and I thought it would be a funny joke, because it is generally known that there are no beaches in my state. I mean, we barely have a lake or two. This is genuinely just common knowledge.

My friend, without doing any research whatsoever, booked a short getaway trip to my state so she could visit the beach. I’m not even joking. When she told me she was coming over and asked me if I wanted to join her at the beach and have dinner later. I was beyond confused and immediately told her that I was kidding and the picture I posted was of a beach in a completely different state.

She was beyond pissed. I mean like 30 texts in 5 minutes and 7 calls kind of pissed. The airline refuses to refund her the ticket she bought and the hotel is refusing to refund her as well, they only offered to change her dates free of charge. She is now demanding that I bear the cost of the trip because of the joke I made.

AITA here? If I’m genuinely at fault here, I will actually cover her expenses."
1fqmyes,AITA for potentially denying my boyfriend’s brother’s request to live with us in my place? ,"My (28M) boyfriend’s (23M) brother (17M) wants to move in with us for 4 months. He recently went to military training and injured himself and is on crutches right now and can barely walk. It’s not that I don’t want to help him but I personally really really feel he needs to live with his mom and heal up and rest up at least until he turns 18. 

Their mom wants to let him make his own decision but I feel he’s too young and I feel that he legitimately needs to stay at Mom’s house for a while longer, he doesn’t need to be in my house or pressured into getting a job etc in my opinion. 

But basically the mom told me to be hard on him and make firm boundaries. My boyfriend wants to try to co-parent his brother but to me this is just far too much to deal with as me and my boyfriend run a business. 

Plus not to mention I don’t like his younger brother’s personality cause he’s pretty rude and blunt. And he’s even recorded me and my boyfriend kissing in the middle of the night and then sent it to me with laughing emojis…. 

But yeah, on one hand it feels a little mean to deny him a place to stay when he’s trying to move in with me and wants to work for my company but I also don’t feel comfortable with him in my house. I don’t want to rock the boat with my boyfriend’s family or cause a potential break up between us but I also don’t want the brother in my house either. 

What should I do? "
1fuxjl1,AITA for not following through on a favor?,"I have a medical ""grass"" card & my friend asked me to get him a product from the store, which he can't get as he's not carded up. I say ok and he pays me 50 up front. We agree on no clear date. 3 days go by and we decide to hang out. When i meet him he's overtly hostile about not having gotten his goods, and I try to explain that I work a 12 hour a day job and sometimes I forget. He ends up making such a big deal about it I say f\*\*k it, and try to give him his cash back, as I don't want any pressure to buy it on me, and he can pay me when I get him the goods. He has a history of acting like he's entitled to favors, and I didn't want to give him the satisfaction. He dodges the money as I try to give it to him, but persists that I am in the wrong. Eventually, I get so fed up with his entitlement I decide, ""Anytime you want your money back I'll hand it over, but you are never getting those goods."" He jumps in the car. I throw the money inside. He throws it back out and drives away angrily. Funniest part is he wasn't at my place for more than 5 minutes, and ticked me off before i could even tell him I went to the store and got him some earlier that evening.

Edit: Didn't realize hooking a friend up was so taboo, in my area it's pretty commonplace and viewed very casually."
1fs4ygi,AITAH for not inviting my brother in law to my birthday party?,"I (19M) usually do not celebrate my birthday but earlier this year my family offered to take me out to dinner and I was very grateful to spend time with them. My sister (21F) brought her partner of 8 and a half years along. I was totally fine with this and love to spend time with him. For context I knew him briefly before my sister met him. Later in the year my sister informed me that she was going to his birthday dinner and I was a little upset that I wasn't invited. So I decided that next year I won't have dinner with my family and I might celebrate alone. My sister did inform me that the reason I wasn't invited is that his dad was paying and doesn't really know me. While he came to mine because all of my family knows him. My main issue is I'm a little sad that my entire family wants me to consider him close immediate family but he doesn't consider me in that same category. It's not that I want to purposely exclude him, it's more that I don't like the vibe of being taken out to dinner by the family with their partners as opposed to spending it with my friends. I get it would be weird if I actually went to his birthday dinner, it just made me think a little about who I want to spend the time with. AITAH?"
1fqin5m,AITA for immediately accusing my sister of lying to me?,"Two months ago, my(22m) sister(21)'s best friend 'Cath'(21f) asked if I'd like to hook up with her. I told her I'm not interested in having a one night stand.

Last month, she asked me out. She told me she's hooked up with several guys, 22 to be exact, but wants to settle down now and thinks I might be the right person for her. I said yes and we have been dating ever since. It's great, really. She's great. Sweet, kind and funny. I'm serious about her.

At first my sister was okay with this but then she told me Cath drunkenly confessed that she only wants to have sex with me and plans to dump me after taking my virginity. I didn't believe her so I called her a liar and accused her of changing her mind about us dating and not being brave enough to just say that.

She recoiled before telling me I should give her the benefit of the doubt since she is my sister and has always only wanted the best for me."
1fv4kjr,AITA for asking fiance to split expense for car rental,"I M(29) and my fiance F(28) have been in a relationship for 9 years now 
And coming November we have decided to tie the knot and In India there is a tradition where groom expenses the dress cost of the bride .ie for both wedding and reception .
So the tradition is mostly where the groom purchases the dress for bride accompanied by grooms family.The groom covers all the dress costs including family and bride.
Since the Location lets say Point A is a one hour drive from bride home and for me its a 3 hour drive .
Since i had an accident and cant drive i thought of my fiance to rent a car from her place so it would be convenient.
I just asked her to split the expense of rental so that i could save a few bucks.
But she refused 
Her justification is she has other expenses in future so cant help me and its my responsibility to expense all the spendings for the day
AITA for asking to split expense of car rental"
1fqtc5i,WIBTA if I reminded a friend he has owed me money for months?,"I have a friend who I play golf with. Last time we played, he showed up to the course and said he forgot his wallet and asked if I could pay for him. Well, four months later still hasn’t paid me back, and never mentions it even though we talk and have seen each other many times. Not a lot of money, just the principle is what bothers me."
1fr0abr,AITA to have refused to do a birthday ‘s present for a classmate’s birthday? ,"there’ll be the birthday party of a classmate of mine in a week, and me and other 5 friends created a group to talk about the present we would gonna make her. they bought that and said nothing about: a 180€ dress, so that means 30€ for person. i got angry cause they didn’t tell me before and cause it’s too expensive (that person is turning 16) and i just refused to pay for it, refusing to go to that party too. they said that 30€ it’s nothing, but it’s not like that for me, and they accused me to overreact. so, am i the asshole?"
1fqo585,AITA Not wanting my gf to drive my car after crashing it.,"Hello I’ve been in my relationship for almost around 3 years me and my gf are both mid twenties. When we started dating she had her own car and it was much nicer. Her first accident was her turning to avoid a deer so kinda not her fault her second time she totaled her car by rear ending a ford truck witch was her fault but luckily no damages to the guys tailgate so didn’t have to pay him. Now it’s been about a year and she’s been biking to college/work or using my car when it’s convenient. Last week she was driving and a guy skipped a stop sign and totaled my car. She and her friends were perfectly safe and even if it’s not her fault I can’t help but feeling anxious and not trust in her driving abilities. I’ve been driving since I was 18 and have never gotten into a car accident. 
AITA For feeling like I need to control use of car now. I feel like it would be rude to cut off your partner in that way but it’s also giving me anxiety and now neither of us have a car and I have to buy one and go through this whole process. 
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