final_dataset.csv

id,title,selftext,Family Issues,Relationship Conflicts,Work Dynamics,Financial and Legal Disagreements,Personal Boundaries,Cultural and Identity-Based Issues,Other
1fv8lck,AITA for doing chores after work?,"live with my girlfriend and I work from home pretty much full time. I'll go into the office probably once every two weeks whereas my girlfriend is only home around once a week now that she has started her new job. Her old job was work from home so she'd occasionally do laundry and other chores during downtime. 

I've been moved into a new team and have a lot of work to do so my downtime is pretty much non existent. My girlfriend has started asking me to do laundry and maybe do some dusting during the day. I've told her I will do it if I get time but that I can't guarantee it. I said I'll happily do it after work but am not likely to be able to do it in work time. 

She was annoyed at this and pointed out she used to do it but I just told her that our jobs are different and her having downtime doesn't mean I have downtime. Yesterday morning she asked me to do some laundry during the day and I told her I'd do it if I got time but if not I'd do it after work. 

I was busy all day so put the laundry in the machine when I finished work. When my girlfriend got home she saw the washing machine was on and got annoyed. She asked why I hadn't done it earlier so I told her again that I didn't have the time. I asked what the difference was as it's still getting done but she just said I should have done it earlier.

AITA for doing chores after work?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fv8g0z,"AITA for telling my wife “it isn’t hard, you can do it by yourself” referring to IKEA furniture.","So, my wife recently bought some new furniture from IKEA.  She has been remodeling the house and almost every week she is buying something new.  I do not like assembling furniture, and ever single time she has bought soemthing I am the one who is assembling it.I don’t think it’s that difficult. Really it is more time consuming than anything.


I got home and she bought a new desk and asked me to put it together. I told her no, it isn’t hard, and she can do it by herself.
She wasn't happy about any and did go do it.

It wasn't long until she made a loud yell. She dropped the price of wood on her foot. This caused a big argument about me not helping her and I pointing out that she doesn't want help she wants me to do it all

She called me a jerk and the desk is just laying on the floor not assembled. I am refusing to assemble it ",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fv8fto,AITA for finding used feminine hygiene products disgusting,"I(50f) has recently injured my back so while I still clean the house, anything that requires me to bend my back is usually handled by my husband.

When daughter(15f) has her period last month, I realise she only takes out her toilet trash twice every week. Everytime I go and clean up her toiletries. It’s a foul smell and disgusting to look at. I usually clean it out immediately at the end of the day but I really can’t bend my back these few months.

So before her period starts this month I’ve warned her to clean out her feminine hygiene products immediately and she nodded. But when the time actually come she say she’s busy with exam week. I was furious and I demanded she clean it up cause it is disgusting and it smells foul.

She says I have internalised misogyny for viewing a woman body fluid to be disgusting. 

",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fv6qmv,AITA for ignoring phone calls from an ex friend ,"I was uninvited to her birthday party by her after another friend of hers invited me via Facebook. 
Over the last couple years, my friend quit inviting me to meet for cocktails and do other things with her. She also did this to another mutual friend. We discussed it several times and both of us have hurt feelings over it. I chose to walk away and be done with her. My other friend keeps trying to reach out to her, but always ends up getting her feelings hurt. 
When I got the invite, I didn’t rsvp because I didn’t think she would have invited me herself.  About 3-4 days before the party, she said she was calling to chat. But, she ended up uninviting me to her party by saying things like, “I’m not looking forward to this party because…entertaining everyone, certain people invited don’t get along, people in town, don’t care for the venue. She had plenty of reasons to explain why I shouldn’t come because SHE will be so stressed, etc. 
Since that phone call, she’s tried calling multiple times and texting me to see if I’m okay and ask why I haven’t responded. 
Aita for not responding with an answer? Should I answer her call and tell her I don’t want to be friends anymore (she’s the one that started excluding me in the first place). Or should I continue to ignore the calls and hope she figures it out on her own? I do feel bad for ignoring her, but I guess I’m just trying to protect myself from future situations like this one. Any advice is appreciated.",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fv4xh8,AITA for wanting a full pot of coffee?,"Am I the Asshole for wanting my dad to make a full pot of coffee instead of just a half?
Evey single day my dad makes half a pot of coffee in the morning. Why? I HAVE NO CLUE!! We're a family of 4 who all drink coffee and when a half pot is made only 3 people can have a small cup of coffee and I didnt mind giving up my coffee until recently because I was on summer vacation and didn't have a job. 
Now I'm school and on Thursdays I have school for 9 hours straight, no break, so I kinda care if I'm able to get a cup of coffee or 2. 
Whenever I ask him to make a full pot on Thursdays so I can sleep for an extra hour or 2 i always get a response like ""stop being such an ass"" or ""deal with it"". THERES NO REASON FOR HIM TO MAKE HALF A POT AND IT TAKES THE SAME TIME AS MAKING A FULL POT!!!! whenever you ask him why he makes half a pot he just sighs and looks away.

Anyways AITA?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fv4kjr,AITA for asking fiance to split expense for car rental,"I M(29) and my fiance F(28) have been in a relationship for 9 years now 
And coming November we have decided to tie the knot and In India there is a tradition where groom expenses the dress cost of the bride .ie for both wedding and reception .
So the tradition is mostly where the groom purchases the dress for bride accompanied by grooms family.The groom covers all the dress costs including family and bride.
Since the Location lets say Point A is a one hour drive from bride home and for me its a 3 hour drive .
Since i had an accident and cant drive i thought of my fiance to rent a car from her place so it would be convenient.
I just asked her to split the expense of rental so that i could save a few bucks.
But she refused 
Her justification is she has other expenses in future so cant help me and its my responsibility to expense all the spendings for the day
AITA for asking to split expense of car rental",1,0,0,1,0,0,0
1fv454o,AITA for not looking at my mother in the eyes?,"We've had a difficult relationship from the start. I’ve never felt like I was enough for her. She constantly compares me to others and calls me stupid. She makes sarcastic, hurtful comments, and when I tell her they upset me, she accuses me of being too pessimistic. She gets angry over the smallest things and often lashes out. Once, I casually mentioned that I don't like bugs because they scare me, and from then on, she would deliberately try to put me in situations where there were bugs. One moment she's kind, and the next, she’s threatening to harm herself. I can't trust her. It’s not that I fear her as a person, but I’m afraid of her reactions.

For instance, when I was a child, if I did something she didn't like, she would punish me by ignoring me for an entire month, acting as if I didn't exist. She even told me I had to earn her love. Now, I can’t even look her in the eye without feeling anxious. She gets angry, claiming I treat her like a dog just because I struggle to face her.",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fv3yie,AITA for not saying hi back?,"So, context:

There’s this guy in my class that gives me the creeps. I do not like him in the slightest but every time I walk in to the classroom he says “hi”. I do not respond as I do not want anything to do with him, cause he’s creepy as hell, (always tries to be close to us girls, and talks like he’s 60, im also pretty sure he just turned 18 too, also general creepy vibes which is hard to explain).

I feel guilty about it though, and I know it’s impolite, but why hasn’t he stopped saying hi yet?? And it feels like I’m such an asshole for avoiding someone like this even though I really dislike him.",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fv3odj,AITA for telling my neighbor her dog is barking?,"My neighbors got a new puppy at the end of August. Apparently she came from a very busy home with lots of other animals, teens, kids - my neighbor's house is quiet, 2 parents and 1 adult child all of whom are out of the house for work/college at various points through the day.

The dog is very obviously suffering  from seperation anxiety. She starts barking her poor head off the moment they leave and doesn't really stop until someone comes home.

A week ago I sent my neighbor a message to say the dog is barking, and got back a message that she's a baby and is getting used to being left alone and it'll just take time - i've had dogs before, i do understand this.

The thing is, every day i've heard it since i've sent a message just to let them know she is barking, and i think my neighbor is getting pissed at me, i got a pass agg ""i dont know what you expect me to do"" last time. 

Genuinely, i'm not trying to piss her off - if someone doesn't tell them that the dog is barking, how would they know??

Tldr; neighbors new puppy barks every time shes left alone, i tell them every day i hear it - aita?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fv2yqn,AITA Social Media Nonsense 47F 45M married 8 yrs,"My husband(M45) likes to post pictures of me (F47) to his social media page. I usually have no issue with this. he’s my husband. He wants to show me off that’s fine. I could care less. The problem is he wants to post pictures of me and scantly clad clothing and bikinis, but get upset when men comment. I’m 5’3” 120 pounds and I have large breast implants 800 cc the largest silicone implant you can get. I don’t post pictures of myself up with bikinis and what not but he does. It’s OK but why are you getting mad at me when someone makes a comment on a social media page? On a picture that you posted? He tries to start arguments with me saying that men are disrespectful because they say that I look good. He gets mad at me because I say I don’t care what people say that’s not my problem. I didn’t post the picture and I’m not responsible for what people say. Also, if you want to post pictures of me, half naked in a bikini with my large breast showing why are you mad that people comment? Somehow it’s my fault that the picture he post on his page and tags me in. When someone I went to school with over 20 years ago, makes a comment that he doesn’t like. so am I the asshole for not caring? Because what does it have to do with me? I didn’t post the picture. Furthermore, I’m belief if you post something up on a social media platform on the Internet and then you get what you get you don’t want people saying things don’t post picturesof me half naked. But according to him, this is somehow my fault.",0,1,0,0,0,1,0
1fv2ulg,AITA for watching videos at 2x speed,"The title says it all really. My friend sent me a video to watch on youtube, one of those informative ones where someone talks through a concept with some visuals to help explain. It was about 30min long and I watched it on 2x speed the way I normally do for such videos. If I watch these videos in normal speed I tend to get distracted so I almost always speed them up. 

After about 20min I replied to my friend about how interesting the video was, I really enjoyed watching it as it was very thought provoking. My friend then accused me of not watching it and quizzed me on things that were said in the video. They seemed very angry when I said I watched it at 2x speed. I explained that I always speed up videos(apart from music) for the reason I gave above. Many friends also speed up for videos and I am currently studying at uni where almost everyone speeds up lecture and tutorial recordings.

I just wanted to ask here though, AITA for watching YouTube videos on 2x speed?",0,0,0,0,0,0,1
1fv1sol,AITA: scheduling... Not making a date,"I said I could be free on Friday OR Saturday for a few days house sitting with a very nice girl. My exact words were I could conceivably be free.. and indeed I essentially committed to --in my mind-- arriving on one of those two days.  Maybe in a follow up conversation I have more confidence in making it on Friday (can't say for sure I didn't give that impression, but doubt I guaranteed it). 

Well, in confirming plans just now (almost 48hrs in advance) I'm clarifying that Friday I'm not certain (50-50, reasons arent relevant but can add that it's not like I'm choosing to blow it off for something not important) but Saturday definitely... Can be there first thing in the morning, and if the other party wants to make plans on Friday it doesn't bother me in the least.
Am I an asshole for saying that Friday is still uncertain for me to arrive? I got a short but very clear response that I'm super disrespectful in this situation.  

I wouldn't be bothered at all if the roles were reversed. I guess that part that struck me was that I'm potentially responsible for one night of my date being alone/not having anyone to hang out with for one night... Speaking for myself I struggle to relate to this point, I dunno, feels like an overreaction, but what do I know, it seems important to her so maybe I'm the asshole?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fv184u,AITA for Cancelling a few days before a two day trip,"AITA for cancelling on a trip a few days before going to save myself from my stressful family?
   I (25M) am supposed to be going on a weekend trip to an amusement park with my mother and two sisters (it’s far so we got a hotel). My mom invited me a couple months ago and I agreed.
   Here’s where the issues lie, my sisters and occasionally mom like to argue with each other on trips (even single day trips). This has given me a lot of anxiety about going on trips even with friends. It wasn’t till recently that I realized my anxiety comes from my families arguments. So I discussed not going on the trip with my mom and she came off as upset since she paid for the hotel already, but ultimately said it is up to me if I want to go. She understands the arguments can be stressful and promises there wouldn’t be arguments but I know them well. I moved out a year ago just to get away from that.
   AITA for canceling on this already paid for trip to avoid adding stress to my life?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fv16te,AITA for not attending my sister's wedding because her bridesmaids are exes?,"I (30M) have a sister, (27F), who is getting married soon. 

I was looking forward to it until I found out that she chose her two best friends as bridesmaids - who also happen to be two women I had one night stands with years ago.

I have nothing against them now, but the history is awkward. 

I told my sister I was uncomfortable attending the wedding with them in the spotlight, and she blew up at me. She said I was being selfish and should put her happiness first.

I suggested that I could skip the reception to avoid the awkwardness, but she insisted that if I’m not there for the whole thing, I shouldn't come at all. I decided not to attend. 

Now, she’s heartbroken, and my family is split. some think I should just get over it, while others agree with my choice.

AITA for not going to my sister's wedding because of her choice of bridesmaids?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fv16qb,AITA FOR CALLING GF PUSHOVER,"So basically my gf has this friend who has lied to multiple of our mutual friends and said that they and my gf have “history” together. My girlfriend refuses to cut this friend off and constantly insists that she is just a forgiving person and is choosing to forgive and forget rather than being upset at the situation. This situation obviously pisses me off. I don’t enjoy people coming up to me and asking about my gfs past and if she’s been with certain people or not especially when i know it is not true. 

This person has told others that they and my gf have shared a bed, held hands, cuddled, and slept together. Before my gf and I started dating, this person would talk shit about my her to me, calling her a tease, a player, and saying that she had a bad personality. 

When out with other friends, they bring up these lies and my gf calls them out but they continue to do that as well as rub my gfs back or slyly touch their waist while at the bar. My other friends see this and have said this person makes them uncomfortable and often flirts with them even after being rejected.

AITA for calling my girlfriend a pushover for allowing this person to remain in their life

(Edit) I did not directly call my gf a pushover but I just don’t understand how to get her to see it from my perspective or at least see that this is not a forgiving situation. I more or less insinuated she was acting like a pushover but I did not say the word pushover to her. ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fv0h9i,AITA for keep a secret from my best friend ,Me and my best friend have been friends since we were kids. We’re in are 20s now and I’ve never told her that when we were younger that’s I messed around with her brother. I think she’ll be pissed at me so I never told her. I feel bad about what we did and not tell her. I don’t know what to do should I tell her. Am I the asshole for this ,0,0,0,0,1,0,1
1fuzi3j,AITA for telling my coach he was balding? ,"I (21F) have a flag football coach (25M). The college I attend is in Cyprus, I’m the only American on my team. I’m also the fastest on the team (we’ve done multiple races and determined that), yet he never lets me play during practice. He lets every new member try besides me, I’m almost always sitting alone on the bench. The only time he called on me was when he needed my shoes for a girl that’s not even in the team to play because they were short on people. 

He also makes fun of my ‘american accent’ constantly, ‘acts like a white girl’ to mock me, and even told me he wished foreigners would get out of Cyprus. What I’m getting at here is that I think he’s a bit racist towards me.

Fast forward to when I post a picture on instagram (he follows the whole team on insta) and he replies with “Fatty”, for the record I’m 121 pounds and 5”3, I’m not overweight and then he proceeded to ask me for private pictures. I laugh about it because I didn’t take it seriously but he said there was nothing funny. 

It pissed me off so I told him, that I could lose the ‘weight’ but he will never lose the receding hairline, and the shitty personality, I then told him that he was a horrible coach and that I desperately hope he’d get changed next year. 

My friends are telling me I took it too far and that I should never talk to a coach like that no matter what. Now my coach is contemplating kicking me off the team. 

AITA? ",0,0,0,0,0,1,1
1fuz14c,"AITA for smoking weed out of my window, even though my roommate who used to smoke is now upset about it?","So, I live with two other adults. For context, both of them have smoked weed in the house, but one of them has quit smoking, which is totally fine—everyone has their own choices and can do whatever they want too.

However, now that he has stopped, he has started to get upset with me for smoking weed ""inside the house,"" even though I always smoke out of my window. I go out of my way to clean up after every session, light a candle, and even set up a box fan to blow the smoke outside. Which is more than he has ever done. But my roommate is still telling me to smoke outside because they claim it’s ""seeping into the walls,"" and that just rubs me the wrong way.

It almost feels like they’re on some sort of superiority trip now that they’ve stopped smoking. Am I wrong for feeling annoyed? Should I just start going outside, or am I justified in thinking that I'm already making an effort to keep it out of the house? (FYI - his name is technically on the home but we split it three ways)",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fuxm0n,AITA for telling my sister no to driving 2 hours for lunch? ,"First time posting. Long time reader. 

My sister’s birthday is about a week and a half away and she’s decided she wants to go to lunch at a restaurant that is 2 hours away from where everyone who would attend lives. Those in attendance would be our mother, my sister and bil and their child(3), me and my spouse and child(5), and birthday sister and her child(2). 

My bil and spouse agree it’s too far to drive for lunch. My bil will feel obligated to go since his wife said he’s already. I have said I do not want to drive this far for lunch and offered to make her dinner to celebrate. 

I am getting a lot of flack from my mother and sisters about saying no. They are saying its one day and I should just do what she wants. 

I knew she wouldn’t like my answer, but I’m getting a lot of attitude. I know this all sounds stupid but I just want more input. I will probably go just to stop receiving their wrath. ",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fuxjl1,AITA for not following through on a favor?,"I have a medical ""grass"" card & my friend asked me to get him a product from the store, which he can't get as he's not carded up. I say ok and he pays me 50 up front. We agree on no clear date. 3 days go by and we decide to hang out. When i meet him he's overtly hostile about not having gotten his goods, and I try to explain that I work a 12 hour a day job and sometimes I forget. He ends up making such a big deal about it I say f\*\*k it, and try to give him his cash back, as I don't want any pressure to buy it on me, and he can pay me when I get him the goods. He has a history of acting like he's entitled to favors, and I didn't want to give him the satisfaction. He dodges the money as I try to give it to him, but persists that I am in the wrong. Eventually, I get so fed up with his entitlement I decide, ""Anytime you want your money back I'll hand it over, but you are never getting those goods."" He jumps in the car. I throw the money inside. He throws it back out and drives away angrily. Funniest part is he wasn't at my place for more than 5 minutes, and ticked me off before i could even tell him I went to the store and got him some earlier that evening.

Edit: Didn't realize hooking a friend up was so taboo, in my area it's pretty commonplace and viewed very casually.",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fuwnup,AITA for asking for soap not to be used on my cast iron....,"I know sometimes reddit has those silly titles that seem juxtaposed like AITA for cleaning? But like. I genuinely dont know here. 

X moved in around January and it's been a slow change since. X is going through a custody battle for her son and honestly the dude seems pretty abusive. I believe X to be a person of trauma that hasn't dealt with it yet. 

So essentially X does nearly all the dishes. At least one load per day that isn't hers, and she cleans the kitchen. I am disabled, but still provide childcare during the day and we have financially subsidized her life as much as we could due to the above. 

Today, I asked her not to use soap on my cast iron, and she got pretty upset. It ended with her saying that she felt like she shouldn't help at all if we are going to tell her how to clean. 

She has broken pans by leaving them on the stovetop, she has scrubbed nonstick with the scrubber I use on my cast iron. I am somewhat lost on what to do. ",1,0,1,0,0,0,0
1fuvvrv,"AITA for ""misrepresenting"" in an upcoming story?","For some background information, I (16f) am in my school's writing club, and I have an idea/draft whose central romantic pairing is m/m. There is a female supporting character in this story, who is the topic of my argument with another member of the writing club, who I'll refer to as ""Lyla"" (17f) for privacy.

Lyla said that I was misrepresenting members of the LGBTQ+ community because of how this female character, who I'll call ""Jia,"" is written. Because Jia dresses in a more genderfluid/androgynous style and engages in ""flirtatious"" (in the words of Lyla) behavior with close friends of the same gender, I was told that I was apparently being homophobic because Jia is a cishet female when ""she is clearly flirting with her friend!"" (paraphrasing Lyla's words)

In all honesty, I had never thought of it that way, since I pictured Jia with naturally playful behavior towards those people close to her. Plus, I didn't see the problem with cishet people expressing themselves through ways of dressing in androgynous styles. However, I'm wondering if I really created a problematic character...

Opinions would be greatly appreciated! So, AITA?

Edit: This conflict hasn't been brought up to many others yet, and as far as I know, Lyla isn't LGBTQ+. I'll also add that I am not LGBTQ+ either, which further confuses on whether my actions were right.",0,0,0,0,0,1,0
1fuuwfr,AITA For Not Helping My Father With Immigration,"So me 16(f) have never been close with my father 39 (m) who lives out of the country though maybe 2 times a year with an hello and how are you. But after I met my brother (his child) who lives near me we begin doing activities with each other and getting to know each other. And after that I thought perhaps I should make an effort to build a relationship with him. I had never tried in the past really because he’s never helped with a dime, but after my mother expressed because of the distance and how it’s not the easiest where he lived I decided to give him grace. That was until my brother told me had over 4 children where he lives (all younger than me) who he doesn’t take care of either. And he also has a strained relationship with his younger daughter who lives up there with him because his 17 (f) pregnant girlfriend  treats her bad and he doesn’t do anything . And he also has the crazy idea that this child will be different and he’ll be the “ideal and great father”. When he could just try with his current children.

 After I found all this out my decision to permanently made to end my relationship with him was made because I will never support a predator who has impregnated a minor and also cares little for his kids. Weeks later he reached out asking if I could help with his papers ( he wants me to pretend like he wants to come back here because of his kids in the state to build relationships them and so on). While abandoning the 4 that already live where he is now. So, I cursed him out and blocked him. Am I the AHOLE?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fuu59p,AITA for using a towel in the sauna,"My gym has a spa section where I like to come and relax, recently I entered a sauna with my clean towel that I brought from home.

After I exited the sauna, another visitor has told me to never enter the sauna again with my towel, as it releases toxins into air that he doesn't want to breathe.

There are other people in the sauna using towels they brought from home, some of them are even sitting in the sauna in their swim trunks. 

Is this man right? Is the linen cloth the only acceptable attire for the sauna?

Today, before entering, I checked the sauna rules for the gym and it said nothing about towels. 

I had another encounter with this man where he complained about me using a towel.

I told him I checked the rules and being in a towel seems alright, l also told him there are other people in towels and even swim trunks.

He said he is gonna tell the staff and make sure I wont come back again. I said we will see.

Didn't see him again since then.

Am I the asshole in this situation? The whole towel situation feels personal, as I didn’t see him bothering other people about this, but maybe he is actually right? 

I go to the sauna to relax and now l'm having uncomfortable encounters with this person twice a week instead. I just prefer being in the sauna with my towel.

",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1futdz9,AITA for refusing to cook dinner,"AITA. The last few times I have cooked dinner my husband has had a negative comment to say about it. I like to think I’m an excellent cook and my kids always tell me I’m the best cook. He however seems to not be a fan of any of my cooking. 
He even told me “if I always say I like your cooking you won’t believe me” 
Tonight I made ribs complete with a homemade BBQ sauce and of course he had to let me know. He wasn’t “a fan”. 
So now I’m refusing to cook dinner anymore and have told him he’s head chef in charge. 
It’s very discouraging because he can’t even tell me one compliment when I do cook. It’s always just something negative. I had already talked to him about it the other day about how the negative comments hurt my feelings and I’m not a restaurant accepting reviews so just keep it to himself. ",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fusv6q,AITA for not texting my girlfriend every time I get a break at work?,"I text my girlfriend randomly throughout the day when at work and we normally see each other every day in the afternoons. Recently she’s been blowing up on me if I don’t text her on my lunch break. For my side of the story, I’m the one to drive to lunch and we go in a group of about 5 close friends. So we’re always cutting up and messing with each other during lunch. Honestly, sometimes I just forget to text her during lunch. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to her, I just get distracted and forget. She’s taking it as me not caring enough about her to text her. For example, today I drove us (work friend group) to a restaurant and we ate and I get a text from her just when we’re pulling back into work saying “this is the second day in a row I got no contact during your lunch” to which I replied “I’m sorry. I got distracted talking to (friend) and (friend). How was your lunch?” And then she goes off about how I don’t care about her, I have a whole hour I could text her during and I chose not to, etc. etc. I always make time for her after work so it’s not like I’m avoiding her or I don’t actually care about her. I just want to know if Im the asshole and need to be a better boyfriend or is she making a mountain out of a mole hill?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fusmou,AITA for repeteadlty requesting my boyfriend to stop his female friend from touching his abs ?,"I know that from the title it straight up looks like I'm not, however both me and my boyfriend are gay men so in his opinion I'm incredible insecure for getting jealous over a woman when she could never be ""competiton"", however it's just not about jealousy as I also feel very uncomfortable about it as I would never allow another person that isn't my boyfriend touch me in the way she does him.

His friend is also hella cringe about her pretty obvious crush on my boyfriend cause she'd always say how she wishes she found a man with abs like my bf's while gliding her hand across his abdomen, the thing is not to diss my bf's psyhique but he doesn't even have a pronounced six pack, like he's lean and fit but his abs are barely visible unless he's stretching, so that just makes her even more desperate in my opinion, however my bf thinks she's just ""quirky"" like that and means no harm (which I call BS but whatever).

Personally I don't think my bf would cheat on me with her (cause I truly believe him when he says he's gay), but I think he enjoys all the attention from her cause it feeds his ego and that's why he doesn't want it to stop despite me talking to him about it multiple times, which is really starting to get on my nerves, so AITA for expressing my frustrations about tho and making a big deal out of nothing according to my bf ?",0,1,0,0,0,1,0
1furha1,AITA Current friend wants an event at my house and wants me to invite my ex-best friend,"I (25F) used to be best friends with this girl (24F). We met in college and had been roommates for years. Well, about 1.5 years ago out of the blue (to me anyway) I wanted to hang out (we saw each other a few weeks ago, I thought was everything normal) and she told me via text she didn't want to be friends anymore. I was understandably hurt, but if someone doesn't want me at their table I'm not going to beg for a seat. I didn't get a full explanation other than she felt we grew apart and we haven't spoken or seen each other since. 

Fast forward to present day. We still have a couple mutual friends, who know we aren't friends anymore and decided to stay out of it. We just all hang out separately. Well, one of those mutal friends found out she is expecting, and I am so happy for her. She asked if I would throw her a baby shower and I said I'd love to do so. However, she wants to invite my ex-best friend. I am 100% not comfortable with that, as that ex-friend and still I haven't spoken and I am still very hurt by how she ended our friendship and dropped me. I dont think I could pretend everything was okay. Am I the a-hole for not allowing this ex-friend in my house for a mutual friend's baby shower? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fur0fz,AITA - Partner expects me to go to visit Disney Florida with her Annually,"My partner travels from the UK to Disney Florida at least once per year and I'm estimating it must cost around £2500 per trip. She expects to start coming along on these annual trips but then refuses to go on shorter and cheaper trips based around my interests (mainly sports) because she doesn't enjoy them. I'm not against Disney but I'm definitely not an amusement park/Disney person. She maintains that there is something for everyone at Disney. I'm happy to go once to experience it but I also like visiting different places and feel that continually going back to the same place is a waste.

Am I in the wrong here? Is it reasonable for her to expect me to go annually?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fupt0n,AITA for having a monotone voice that affects many relationships?,"
I (30f) have a monotone voice and can't control it. This has been an issue since around age 16. I realized it affected my relationships earlier on, so I’ve made it a point to be extremely blunt about how I feel. Otherwise, people think I'm bored or sarcastic. I went through some things and developed PTSD, which caused my emotions and voice to dim into this monotone sound. It’s the only tone I have. I explain this to people and ask them not to think I’m ungrateful, unhappy, bored, or sarcastic.

Recently, my long-term partner (27m) said he hates that I can't express myself vocally. Every time he does something nice for me, he feels that I am ungrateful. This came to a head because we ended up fighting when he thought I didn't want to spend time with him and the kids that day. He based his assumptions on my voice tone. In actuality, I was excited and happy. I specifically told him, “I’d like to go to this place, but anywhere else that you want to go to, I don’t mind going too,” as he was still thinking of where to go. However, he thought I felt forced to go along. We eventually didn't do anything because of the argument. 


AITA?",1,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fuo8bu,AITA For Expressing My Feelings,"Throw away acct so my partner/family members don't see. English is a second language so sorry in advance.

Backstory: I have a lot of issues with anxiety and PTSD that started over 20yrs ago. I've been in therapy for months now trying to work through these things so I'm not angry all the time and so I can learn to express my feelings and emotions instead of bottling them up inside. Every time I've tried to express my feelings/emotions about something my partner said or did, they would get upset or mad and take it personally. We talk about this a lot because when this happens, I shut down and refuse to express anything. If I express my feelings on a neutral topic, like my work or animals, then they seem fine and don't react badly. But if I express feelings towards them that are not 100% good, I get the harsher reactions. 

Fast forward to the present: I expressed my feelings about them being on their phone all the time and not really paying attention to me/being present with me. This has been going on for a long time and I finally worked up the courage to open my mouth. No, i wasnt mean, i just expressed myself calmly and explained my side. Shocker, they took it personally and asked if there was anything else they couldn't do right. You're asking me to open up and express my emotions to you but when I do, I get these type of reactions. Am I the asshole? Can I do something differently?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1funf4z,AITA for not going to my goddaughters birthday party for it falling on my bday weekend?,"
My goddaughter‘s birthday is falling on the Saturday of my birthday weekend. I planned on taking a solo trip for my 30th birthday, as this birthday is a significant one to me because I usually don’t enjoy celebrating my birthdays. However, given I am turning 30 I figured I could celebrate stepping into a new chapter of life enjoying some alone time. I had already told my best friend that I wanted to take a solo trip for my birthday and to not plan anything for me around those dates. My god daughter’s actual birthday is five days after my birthday, which lands on a day closer to the following weekend but my best friend decided to book her daughter’s party on my birthday weekend and now I feel like I have to put my trip on pause for my goddaughters bday. Am I the asshole if I don’t attend my goddaughters birthday and take the solo trip?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1funa4u,AITA for serving box mac and cheese for a get together with friends?,"I invited some of my (33f) friends over last week as we hadn’t seen each other in a while, everyone goes their own way and has kids and jobs. I was really excited because it really has been a while and it’s been a rough time for everyone. I didn’t really think too hard about what to eat or anything because my Mom always said when you do stuff like this, it isn’t about the food. It’s about spending time with loved ones and well drinking too.

I had a few boxes of mac and cheese and some chicken nuggets made up. And of course we had beer for everyone too. So when it came time for everyone to eat I told them to grab a bowl.

They acted like this was really weird like it wasn’t something we ALL eat all the time? They said that it was weird for me to invite everyone to dinner but at the same time serve kids food to them. I didn’t really know what to say because to me it isn’t kids food. I eat it all the time and I’m 33.

Two of them had refused to even eat and said they hadn’t eaten chicken nuggets since they were kids and made dramatic “icky” faces about it. 

I guess I’m asking AITA for serving the box mac to everyone? I thought it was about us being together and catching up but I guess they expected a fancy meal from me. I feel really sad that this went this way and I don’t really feel like I understand. AITA?

# The box mac wasn't Kraft it was Annie's",0,0,0,0,0,0,1
1fuk6kl,AITA for staying at a party when my friend's mum died?,"My (26f) friend's (29m) mum sadly passed away two weeks ago. I was hosting my housewarming party that day and my friend texted me in the morning that he won't make it due to his mum not feeling well. I replied that I completely understand and wished her (and him) the best.

At about 10.30 pm, I recieved another text, that his mum had died in hospital. I offered to call him, asked if he needs anything and that I am sorry to not be able to drive to the other town where the hospital is. He never replied. 

Now he is calling me an AH because I did not come to the hospital or his home to comfort him. I did not want to send all my guests home, especially the ones sleeping over, and I was not allowed to drive anymore since I had been drinking. Does it make me TA? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fuivzx,AITA to refuse to join a money guru course?,"I, F(17) have a male bestfriend, he is the same age as me and recently he joined this course about making and investing money, the type of course you find on tik tok. Half an hour ago, he called me and we started talking about school and stuff, then he asked if next day at 9 pm i was free and i told him that i dont know. He then told me he want to send me a zoom link to a meeting about this course and i refuse, he kept insisting. My friend then told me that in a year if i did the course i would have the money for university, but i told him that i need a five years diploma to go to university, he then vtold me that studying is useless. Itold him that if i wanted to learn finacial economics i would have went to accounting school, but curently im studying human sciences to become a psycologist, he kept insisting for me to join and i hang up the phone call, he then texted me ""you cant refuse an oppurtunity like this, you are really a bad friend"". Am i the asshole?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fuh88g,AITAH feeling guilty for swearing at kids i do not know,"throw away acc

I was taking an afternoon walk a couple days ago and came past these kids all under the age of 12 (youngest looked about 7; possibly all siblings) on the busy suburban road. They were crossing from one side of the road to the other side with busy incoming traffic on both ways and during that time is peak hour. A couple cars had beeped at them but no one seemed stopped. Their parents were no where to be seen. It annoyed me a lot since it could cause a big accident and injury. I thought about not speaking up but something in me was like no say something. 

I will admit I spoke out in emotion because I said “You do know what you’re doing is fucking dangerous” “Where the fuck are your parents?” And the kid responded “Inside” I told them “I think it’s best you guys go back inside because if you guys keep on doing this you will cause an accident” 

I felt so bad to swear at kids I did not know. I was so frustrated that no one had stopped to tell these kids to stop running back and forth off the road. Their parents obviously did not care what their children were up to because if they did they would be outside watching them. 

But AITAH for swearing at them? I definitely do know there could have a been a better way to approach it. The intention was there just the way I spoke out wasn’t. 

Edit: I had seen them from a distance as they were running back and forth as if it was a game to see who could outrun the incoming cars.  ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fugzd8,AITA for Parenting my siblings?,"I(17m) have 3 siblings. 3(f) 6(m) and (15m). Recently I have been in charge of watching the two little ones most of the time because my parents have work. 
Because of this the 3 and 6 year olds have been acting up which doesn't help they're glued to the tv 24/7... so I started a system where they get 2 hours of tv a day and the rest I spend time making up crafts and activities to do instead, this isn't the problem. It's punishing them for bad behavior. If they break a toy the toy gets thrown away and not replaced, If they're being mouthy they sit in time out for 5 minutes and don't get to pick out a show for the day and If they hurt eachother or swear they have the same consequence. Though I don't make them apologize because apologies without remourse don't mean anything, I do also explain why the behavior is bad and how it effects others, usually they cave and apologize themselves. They have significantly improved their behavior since.

My parents learned about this and were shocked I limit tv and put them in time out. They say I'm not the parent and should have waited until they were home to deal with it... they are usually gone from 7am - 10pm 5 days a week so I'm not exactly sure how that's supposed to work? I don't think the kids would learn if they're told off several days after doing the bad thing..... so AITA for parenting my siblings?
",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fugui3,WIBTA to celebrate christmas with my friend?,"I have been together with my husband for 8 years.
Every year we celebrate Christmas with my inlaws.
I dont have any family, they passed away. 

I dont get along with my SIL. She does not like me. I have tried to talk this out but she is not interested. As a result I am very careful when we see each other and do not say too much. She is very strong verbally and she walks all over me. My husband, or anyone else in the family, has never intervened.

I have already decided to distance myself and not go on vacations etc. My husband found this very difficult but understood.

Today I got the question from a friend to celebrate Christmas together (she also has no family). I immediately thought this was a nice idea.

When I suggested this to my husband he immediately said no. I find this very difficult because I am more or less obliged to celebrate my Christmas with someone who does not appreciate me. Because I have no family of my own, my husband finds it normal that I go with him to his family.

I think it's a shame that within my marriage I can't decide for myself what to do at Christmas.

If I had family, maybe there would just be a rotation.

Would I be the asshole for spending Christmas eve with my friend?

I suggested he can go to his family. He said no.


Update
He told me to do whatever I want but my that absence will make him very unhappy. I told him there is little I can do about that.",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fuf1ht,AITA For not standing up for my mom while at work,"(Sorry texting this on my phone English is my first language I just suck at spelling) I 25 non-binary work in a convenient store with my 60 year old mother I do graveyard she does mornings this just happen an hour ago an I'm still debating driving up their an geting on to the person last night I was stuck on the register cause my old boss doesnt trust the other coworker working with me on their she was doing other stuff that he had texted her to do I was stuck inside and we were slightly busy all i could do was keep the coffee fresh and keep the cups stock my mother came in around 5:54 am I told her that the cooler hadn't been stocked and she told me that I was okay when got clocked in I could go stock it. I go to stock the cooler filling the holes up on the shelfs but we dont have a lot of product I go and tell her that we dont have alot of stuff she tells to just fill in the holes I do. I walk out of the cooler and see my soon to be old manger and my mother quickly telling to clock out and go home I do so and go to grab my things that when I hear him getting on to her for I dont know what for but I feel my blood boiling  i grab my stuff and leave.
Should have i staid and got on to him for getting on to her or should I keep my mouth shut?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fuerfq,AITA for encouraging my friend to pursue their dreams?,"My friend worked very hard to complete a Bachelors degree in a creative field while maintaining a full time, dead end job. They’ve been at this full time job for almost 15yrs now and despite finishing their education, have zero interest in using that degree to find a new position. 

They are always complaining about money and how there is no opportunities for growth at their current organization  so I told them some hard truths (they are just too comfortable, scared to put the work in to find a role in their chosen field, etc.) and they got very mad at me. Basically said the more I encourage or suggest they use their hard earned degree, the more it makes them not want to use it. It’s so frustrating because they are incredibly talented and creative but simply refuse to find a new job; I’ve even applied to role for them and helped setup interviews which they refused to go to. Am I an asshole for wanting them to be use their hard earned degree? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fueb5o,AITA for using family emergency funds for winning HOA,"We had an emergency fund that sat in a very comfortable position for a while, and we live in a nice house with an HOA. We are currently at the board of the HOA which gives us a good vintage point on house values, allows us to make sure our house is always positively impacted and also helps us guide the agenda of the HOA. 
Due to several issues we let the house appearance go down a little, landscaping and outside fixtures, the election of the board is coming up. 
So, I decided to use the emergency fund to fix the house so it looks great and the rivals cannot use it against us in the next election.
One of the twins says AITA because that money is needed in case a car breaks or we have an accident. The other says we can use the already maxed out credit cards.
Am I the asshole?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fue3xe,AITA for not knowing my group did a project and i didnt realize ,"I help whenever theres usually a group project in my class and im usually the first to answer or suggest something in the group, but i didn't realize that we had a group project and i saw messages of my group members messaging about doing work, responding to each other yet no one directly messaged me about them doing something now i have a really really bad grade, AITA?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fudxor,WIBTA if I let my dad stay over after roommates tried to veto it?,"I live in NYC and have 3 female roommates. We aren't very close with one another and definitely aren't all the most compatible as roommates, but things are mostly pleasant at the apartment.

My dad is visiting NY for 4 days, and he and I were planning on him staying with me. I texted the roommate gc asking if anyone minds, and two of my roommates said it made them uncomfortable. 

I really only texted as a courtesy. I wasn't expecting anyone to veto. My roommates have overnight guests very frequently, male and female. While they've never had their dads stay over, they've had their moms stay. They also throw parties at the apartment that I've expressed discomfort with, but I've never been allowed veto power. They, too, text the group chat out of courtesy - not asking for permission or saving room for discussion. 

We have a decently sized apt for NY with 4 beds and 2 baths. My dad would be staying in my room and would really only be at the apartment to sleep. He's very normal and quiet and respectful. WIBTA if I had him stay over anyways? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fubw87,AITA for not letting child live with me,"My adult daughter & her husband were evicted from their rental home. We talked of them temporarily moving in with me to get on their feet. The day before moving, my SIL and I got in a huge fight because of his disrespect toward my daughter & their 12 week old twins. In the end, I uninvited him to live with me, but told my daughter that her and her babies were welcome. She has been having many issues with him and keeps telling me that she is done with him & his attitude. However, she chose to stay with him and they are now homeless and living in a motel and she will not talk to me. AITA? The mom guilt is great and I am missing my daughter and the babies.",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fubuxn,AITA for going on holiday with friends?,"When I was at university I lived with 5 people. Two of these were men and three were woman. We all became close friends and planned to go on holiday after graduation. This didn't end up going ahead for a few different reason and we were all upset. That was 5 years ago. 

We live in the UK but all live at different parts so we haven't been able to meet up since we all lived together. One of us made a groups chat and mentioned the possibility of going on holiday in the new year. We started looking at possible destinations. 

I mentioned this to my girlfriend and she asked if she was invited. I said no as it's just for the friendship group and no one is bringing their partners. We found a destination that was affordable and somewhere we all wanted to go. My girlfriend said she should be invited or I should cancel. 

She said the destination is somewhere she's wanted to go for a while so I just said we could go together another time. She said I'm being disrespectful for going on holiday with other woman and mentioned that me using my leave means we have less time to take together. 

I pointed out my leave reset in April and this holiday is going to be January or February so my leave will reset shortly after. She just said again that I was being disrespectful for going away with other women. I asked what was disrespectful about it but she couldn't elaborate. 

AITA for going on holiday with friends?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fu80jo,AITA for not inviting my fiancés brother to my wedding after he demonstrated he doesn't approve?,"I (29F) am getting married in a few months, and my fiancé (30M) and I couldn’t be happier. However, his brother has been doing these racial microaggressions since we got engaged. He often comments on how he thinks he’s not good enough for me and he shouldn't be with someone ""like me"".

I’ve tried to brush it off, but it’s really starting to affect me. I’ve talked to my fiancé about how his comments hurt, but he insists that he's just looking out for us. Recently, I decided to not invite him to the wedding. I feel like this is a special day for us, and I don’t want his negativity to overshadow it.

When I told him he wouldn’t be invited, he was furious and called me selfish for not including soon to be family. I’m feeling guilty now and wondering if I overreacted.



AITA for not inviting him to my wedding?",0,1,0,0,0,0,1
1fu7mna,AITAH I know I am but I feel horrible ,"I’m so messsd up

Should my man forgive me

Should my man forgive me for having inappropriate conversations? 41f w/cptsd&adhd w/36m

I had inappropriate conversations should my man forgive me? 41f-cptsd&adhd w/36m

My now ex unknown to me had been going through my phone and emails to find evidence of me cheating. We had been together officially since March,and moved in together in May. I don’t know when but he found an old photo of my ex’s privates that was stored in the cloud and had been erased from my phone. I DO ADMIT TO telling this same person in the photo that if my relationship didn’t work I MAY be back. I honestly just said it. I didn’t mean it at all. The only reason my ex was able to contact me was I had my phone reset and it took out everything in my phone that wasn’t saved in the cloud.
My now ex kept asking me if I was cheating and I’d say no,because I wasn’t physically doing anything. I honestly thought I wasn’t doing anything wrong,I’m just bulljoshing. I NEVER met up,made plans or anything.
He also found a text from a good friend that was very sexual in nature and I laughed it off,and responded in kind, until he got serious and I said ignored the other text,as opposed to becoming enraged the first time.Although I never physically cheated I now understand that I was making it seem very unlikely. He packed his things whilst I was at work and left me a dear John letter.He now has me blocked and will not talk to me. I’m very sad and very upset at myself for ruining my relationship.Please give me advice. Am I forgivable?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fu7lmu,AITA for accidentally ignoring my boyfriend’s text for two hours?,"UPDATE: He just messaged and apologized.
He’s been going through a lot lately with work and stuff. I should’ve took that into consideration.



Hi, so what happened was I was working on some college assignments and my boyfriend and I were texting. I finished with my assignments and had texted him saying I was done with my school work. That was the last text I had sent and as far as I knew was the end of the conversation.

After my schoolwork, I started cleaning up my room, did a bit of laundry, and had a snack. I then got stuck in the living room talking with my parents because one of them just got home from work. I don’t carry my phone in my hand 24/7 and I figured while cleaning and stuff I would hear the message pop up. 

At about 10:30 my boyfriend messages me “….” And I was very confused. I then look above the message and see that he had sent me a text way earlierrr. I felt awful for not seeing it and messaged him apologizing for not seeing the message sooner. He then messages back saying that it says I actually did read the message. I absolutely do not remember seeing this message at all. I continued to apologize but it didn’t do much. He’s upset with me and asked to give him time but I feel horrible. Especially because I honestly don’t remember the message at all. He’s the sweetest person in the entire world and I would never ever purposely ignore him, but I have to know, AITA?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsty3v,AITA for telling my friend to stop interrupting me?,"My friend (22f) and I (27f) were talking about how in high school we had to take those fake babies home to take care of. I was in the middle of talking about something to do with it when she cut in the middle and started talking about something to do with hers. She is someone who will interrupt people all the time which to an extend I understand, everyone does it but she does it to the point where you can’t ever finish anything you’re saying without being interrupted. So as I was saying, when she interrupted me I said “will you let me finish telling my story”. After that she was all quiet and awkward, she’s now annoyed with me and is hardly talking to me. I don’t think it’s a big deal, I get maybe being a little embarrassed but I think she’s being a little extreme. I wasn’t super mean about it either. 

Am I the ass hole? Should I apologize? I think we both might just be the ass hole 😅",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fstdzo,AITA for telling my friend about a guy?,"So I 13/F have been talking to a guy 14/M during the whole summer who we will call Victor. He seemed nice and into me which he clearly was. He kept asking me when I was coming home as I was on holiday. I told him I didn’t know and he just replied with ok. When I got back home it was time for school. On a friday of the second week at lunch my friend 12/F who we will call Lauren grabbed my phone as a joke and looked through my snapchat. Lauren saw the name “Victor” and asked who it was. I blushed at first before she told me she also knew him. We talked about him and Lauren told me he was annoying. I thought nothing of it until the Sunday of that week. My friend Lilly gave Victor my TikTok and asked if he thought I was cute. He said yes and she told me instantly. I was so happy about it and straight away texted Lauren. Lauren asked me what else he had said and I told her he’d been asking when I was gonna come home bcuz I think he wants to meet me. Then Lauren went and texted him that I had said that to Lauren. He denied it. I don’t know why but he did. Lauren called me a trash talker, a b!tch and a liar. I blocked her but later apologise but she just started arguing with me again. I said that she made me feel worthless but she just wrote “AHAHAHAH” and it was rlly mean. Then I apologised again but she didn’t want the apology. I don’t understand what is happening but,

ATIA?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fst3dg,AITAH Girlfriends moms car broke down,A few weeks my girlfriends mom's car broke down and she and her sister were with her mom and they were two hours away. It was getting dark and I was far away and I couldn't do much to help. She asked if I could go help her moms car but I told her I couldn't because it was getting really late and they were really far away. A tow truck later came to pick up the stranded car and my girlfriend and her mom and sister made it back safely with my parents. AITAH for not being able to help my girlfriend out when he mom's car broke down and not picking them up while I was far away from them?,0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fssxhw,AITA for staying home to see my grandma,Hi I'm 14 and recently my grandma was admitted to a hospital because she was having a lot of seizures recently. Today I was told that my grandma was going to come home and after school I would see her but since my mom was gone when I was young and when I was 4 came back to be a real mom while she was gone I was with my grandma all those 4 years and now we are best friends. Now we go back to the present and I don't want to wait to see my grandma since she's been gone for almost 5 days and I've been worried. Though it would seem fine school has only been open for a few months and I've missed almost a week with only a day left then It becomes a week and in my district or state idk if you miss a lot of days unexcused you either get put in delfy or get put in a orphanage and my mom is mad because I wanted to stay home. So AITA for staying home?,1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fsp3wa,AITA if my brother didn’t get me a birthday present and I called him out for it ,"Long story short I’ve gotten my younger brother some pretty lavish bday gifts over the years, some I definitely couldn’t afford but couldn’t help but get for him. I genuinely never expect back what I give in terms of effort or value because it would be unreasonable and I’m more then happy with pretty much anything with some thought behind it, but this year he didn’t get me anything at all. I pretty much kept it to myself for like 3 days questioning if I had a right to be upset ab it but ended up ranting ab it to my parents which then led to a multi day fight between me and my whole family. My brother broke up with his gf the day before my bday and their issues started the week leading up to it. To him and my parents, this is a completely valid and fair excuse as to why he didn’t get me anything. And suddenly I’m the worst person ever for putting this issue on his plate during his breakup and for not caring more about his feelings rn. Honestly feel so gaslit, and am starting to even question if I’m in the right here. At this point they’ve even shifted the argument into me being a materialistic selfish person who just wants more things and don’t care ab my brother well being when in reality I’m more so upset he didn’t even apologize till I brought it up days later and thought his excuse was fair. Ended up being a long story anyway lol, but was curious what people thought ab this. Thanks for reading this far ",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fsopwb,"AITA for telling my unemployed mother ""differently from you I have job"", when she told me to find a job? ","I (18F) go to school and have a job. I'm a part-timer, but in summer I used to do a full 8 hours (finishing work at 1 AM). I initially got the job thinking I was about to drop school but I'm still going. So I'm 18 (I will finish school in one and a half years), and working in the afternoon - evening.

My mother (61F)  is unemployed, she hasn't looked for a new one since she lost the former. she never goes out, she's always at home. 

Today I only slept two hours and I was in quite a bad mood. Not in the mood for going to school and not getting a suspension/in detection. 

when on the door I said: ""I don't want to go"" she initially tried to persuade me, then told me to ""go out and get a job"", here is where I got enough. I told her ""differently from you I have job"". And left home.

Am I the asshole for telling her this and remind her she's unemployed?
probably, I think I might be the asshole because I feel terrible with myself.

edit: I knew I was probably the asshole, some way to apologize properly?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fsonmp,AITA for not telling my friend I left the country?,"I(18m) confessed to my friend 'Ashley'(18f) that I'm in love with her five weeks ago. She said she used to be in love with me but has moved on.

Two days ago, my other friend 'Zoe'(18f) invited me to go to Singapore with her and her parents. She said the short four day trip would help me move on. It's my favorite holiday/vacation destination. Excellent zoo, Universal Studios park and wonderful shops, only a two hour flight away.

At first I wasn't sure if I should let them take me since it's obviously expensive but then her parents reminded me they're both cardiothoracic surgeons. They assured me money's no big deal and that if I feel uneasy about letting them pay then I can tutor their son(11m) in English as a second language.

Hung out with Ashley yesterday morning and left in the afternoon. This morning, she called me, saying she came over to my place and my grandma told her I left on a trip(my parents are druggies so I live with my grandma). I told Ashley I forgot to tell her. It didn't occur to me that she'd visit my place since we usually don't hang out there and normally hang out at the mall and our favorite cafe.

Ashley was still upset about it though and called me inconsiderate",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fso546,AITA for buying my boyfriend a chili pepper pipe? ,"Am I the asshole for wanting to buy my Mexican boyfriend a chili pepper pipe because I thought it would remind him of his culture? 

Important information:

He is very passionate about being Mexican and likes to display that he is with car bumper stickers of the Mexican flag and similar things like that around his house. 

He does not think I was racist, but my friends do. He thought the attempt was sweet. (the artist that made the pipe ran out, and I was not able to get him it)

I know food is a part of culture, but culture also includes beliefs, values, practices, and many other things. 

I don't only associate Chili peppers with Mexican people; I know many people from almost every other ethnic group who use them in cooking. 

But I do know Chili peppers have some significance in Mexican cuisine/culture. 

Am I racist because I am being told I am

Edit: For the sake of easy writing for the post, I put my boyfriend. We are broken up now, but we are still friends. ",0,0,0,0,0,1,0
1fsnwsi,AITA for deciding to quit my work and focus on my side gig?,"For context me and my girlfriend are both 20 years old and don’t live together nor share any bills.

I have a ten grand saved up from working like a slave since I was 16 and I have also been doing this side business where I draw and design clothing and sell them. So I decided since my side business has been starting to pick up (like ~20 orders a week) that I would quit my job and start putting my full focus onto my business; using the 10 grand I have saved up to keep me afloat for a couple months.

My girlfriend says I’m just wasting my time and money and that I should just continue working so we could move out together. I get where she is coming from but this might be the only time in my life where I don’t have much bills at all and can afford to put my full focus into something like this.

She said she won’t support me at all with this decision and that this would put a “strain” on our relationship. 

I feel like I’m doing nothing wrong and am simply following my passion? Am I wrong here?",0,1,0,1,0,0,0
1fsnisf,AITA for refusing to help fix my friend's mistake when we were moving out of an apartment together?,"Me and my friend moved to the city and had to leave our suburban apartment behind. We had drilled some holes in the wall to mount objects, which we used drywall putty to cover up. I told my friend I would go around painting over the drywall spots to make it match the wall color, and he said okay and handed me the paint to use. 

I went around painting the spots while he cleaned in his room. The color didn't match the wall perfectly, but I assumed thats because it was wet and it would dry to be the same color. I painted all the spots and went to clean the kitchen. An hour later, I noticed the paint was more dried and it had not dried to the color of the wall, it was definitely noticeably lighter. 

I talk to my friend and it turns out he got the wrong paint color at the store accidentally. He has to drive to home depot and get the correct one. He gets back and hands me the paint and I say ""hey man, I already painted over it once. This isn't my fault, you have to fix your own mistakes."" He's clearly annoyed at me and has to keep working on painting even after we don't have anything left to do at the apartment. He was right, we could have left earlier if I had helped, and it was a long day, but it wasn't my fault so AITA.",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsn6t3,AITA for asking my roommate and her boyfriend not to use my living room? ,"My apartment has four bedrooms and two living rooms. the two rooms upstairs have a living room and washer dryer the two rooms downstairs have a living room and the kitchen attached. Me and my partner live downstairs and have furnished and decorated our living room. our roommate lynn put less effort into decorating her living space , so her and her bf often use mine and my gfs living room to watch movies and hang out in. 

my partner and I dont feel comfortable/ dont want to use her living room because all of our stuff is down here and our rooms are down here. One day I approached lynn and let her know that me and my partner wanted a heads up if they were going to use our living room for a movie night or to hang out in because the living room is like an extension of our bedrooms and we dont want it to be the default hangout space since they have their own. 

obviously the kitchen is communal and we have no qualms with that just the hanging out in our living room thing. She didn't say anything really after i said my piece and just sort of just gave me silent treatment after (which i get). I'm just wondering if this was an unreasonable ask? I would feel weird going and hanging out in her living space so it's just odd that she feels comfy hanging in ours. so anyways am i the asshole? 
",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fsmvbz,AITA for not committing to my best friend’s bachelorette? ,"I’m hoping I can make this as short as possible without leaving out too many details.

One of my best friends is getting married next year. We are a very close group of 5 friends. The bridal party is the remaining 4 of us. We planned to stay in-country for the bachelorette (something around a 5 hr drive away) but some things have changed since we made those initial plans. The bride is now moving out of country (5 hr flight away) and it seems more convenient (for the bride) for us to go to her, rather than for her to come home. Now, my other 3 friends want to spend approx. $2500 on a bachelorette trip out of country to go to her, rather than force her to fly home for a less extravagant bachelorette here.

I feel like a shitty friend for not immediately committing to this, but I find it extremely hard to do. I’ve been struggling with a lot lately, (whole other story) and as a result of that I don’t even have a job at the moment. I feel trapped as if I have to go  and make it work or else face being perceived as a bad friend. I already feel guilty just airing my concerns to my friends and not immediately just going along with whatever they say. ",0,1,0,1,0,0,0
1fsl81j,AITA for yelling at my cousin ,"I 16m was at a family gathering for my grandma's birthday. At the gathering was me my mom and my sister along with my aunt uncle and their 2 kids who I'll call Lacey 6f and Luke 4m (not their real names). My aunt and uncle have a habit of not disciplining their kids, and because of that, Luke is usually misbehaving in public ever time we have a gathering (Lacey used to also misbehave a lot but now I'd say she's better). When I was in the living room minding my own business, Luke comes up to me and he all the sudden starts climbing on top of me, I tell him to stop, and he keeps putting his hands on me, and I keep trying to tell him to stop but he won't get off of me, then I eventually raise my voice and say ""get off me now"".

He then gets off and starts crying, then my uncle comes in and starts getting mad that I yelled. I try to tell him that he wouldn't get off of me but he still is mad at me for yelling. My aunt also scholds me for yelling at him. My grandma just says that she wants us to be a happy family and doesn't try to get involved. When we were going home, my parents and sister said that they agreed with me, but idk, I need to know if I was wrong here. AITA?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsjegj,AITA for asking my bf to do the dishes while I am gone ,"My (long time) bf live in my place 4 days out of 7 because his place is really small, rn I am in college while he dropped out and his trying for a job. Since he wakes up way after I am gone for college I ask him to do little tasks like ""hey when you wake up can you do the end of the dishes / takes the trash out"" LITTLE TASKS only. But now he’s starting to do small comments about how weird it is for him to do that as my ""guest"" while for me it’s normal for him to do 1/2 chores a day since he lives here at my total expense ( so rent, food, water, basically everything ) . But I genuinely don’t know if I am right here, probably not, so I would really like answers here :) ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fsis2c,AITA for not buying cookies?,"A month ago my mom broke her ankle. I took three days off to get her to appointments and make sure she had groceries, a wheelchair, cat food is accessible, those things. 

She lives about an hour away. The last three weeks I took my daughter to hang out with her while I:

Got six double doozies from Great American Cookie
Picked up lunch from Longhorn. 
Got an order from Freddie's.
A chili burger from Taco John's.
A medium vanilla coke from Sonic.
Cash from an ATM.
Groceries 

Did all that once a week for three weeks. Today, I told her I was in town with a friend playing disc golf. I could get groceries, but not the other stuff. Use Door Dash if you want it.

She proceeded to yell at my friend for being too busy, yelled at me for being an ungrateful piece of shit son who never does anything for her, etc. I responded badly and said something to the effect of ""you're going to be fucking grateful I brought this so you don't starve."" Also set up Door Dash on her phone while she literally bawled about how hard everything is and how much I suck as a human and she could just die and nobody would care.

AITA?",1,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsikse,AITA for telling my dad he wasted my whole day on my day off? ,"For context i used to work with my parents, then they got really annoying about getting to work on time although  they dont get to work on time either (id get there a few mins later vs they get there 2 to 3 hours later)  and they basically fired me so i said fine and i got a job right after. So i used to work 6 days a week with them and now with my new job i get to go mon-fri and i go to school as well and have gym time as my schedule. I'm also in a car club team my teacher has for college so i really dont have a lot of time to study but on my days off i do all my work basically. Anyways i wanted to study and do my hw and all my assignments today but then he says oh come and help me do thing at the store it will only be for a while even though he's aware i worked all week and go to school. Well 1pm turns to 5pm.... i have no time to study now. So I'm already mad so i told him next time to pay someone to come help him and that he wasted my time because i didnt want to be there and i have hw and other things to do on my day off. Dude is being inconsiderate and told him i dont want to work with him but he just doesnt get it. I'm mad as hell rn and told him that i never want to come back to work with him ever. ",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fshglt,AITA for giving up my seat on the bus for an old lady and not for a kid?,"I 15nb currently use public transport to get around the majority of the time because my parents are too busy working, gambling, taxiing my siblings around to their stuff, and life in general to really care. 

Anyways so today (about an hour ago) I was on my way home from work. The bus was full when a kid and mom got on the bus. They came and the mom was talking with her kid trying to get my attention as she kept saying that polite people would give up their seat to let a kid sit down especially if they were just teens. After a few stops this old woman gets on, using a cane having trouble walking. I stood up and gave her my seat. 

The mom tried to get her kid in the seat id just left but I stopped them and said it wasn’t for the kid, it was for the lady. The woman then said that her kid needed a seat and that I was a b for not giving her one. 

I vented to my brother about this  when I got home and he said it was a bad move for me not to give my seat to the kid (who looked to be about 6) in the first place but was better of me to let the old lady have the seat. 

So AITA for not giving up my seat for the kid? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsglle,AITA for not unpacking my house?,"I (39f) am over it. I've had to move so many times over the last 10 years that I don't have it in me to unpack my stuff anymore. My fiance loves all the nerdy and witchy stuff I have and desperately wants me to pull it all out and decorate our home. This is the third place we've lived since getting together almost 3 years ago.

Because we've struggled financially we've had to relocate more than once. I have a large family and there's just so much stuff. I just don't have it in me to unpack, completely settle in and decorate, and then in a couple months take it all down and start over.

I know he wants to have the comfy family home and I want to give that to him for the most part, but I'm just too over it anymore. I work, come home, be the mom, go to sleep and start over again. AITA for just keeping it all in boxes? ",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fsg1iy,AITA for being productive?,"

I'm studying in Europe, and I'm coursing an optional career about electricity and maintenance. I started studying in a different school than last year, but I know 7/25 of my classmates. For context, I don't have a good relation with any of them. They didn't bully me, but I know for a fact that I was nobody's first option, neither second or third. I like anime, videogames, and reading light novels, and I'm not going to change because of what other people think about me. 

The problem started this Thursday in class. The teacher told us that we have to do a summary of the first unit. Then, I pulled out a summary that I have done before, and all of my classmates started making fun of me, telling me that I should try to go outside and touch some grass, some of them even told me in the middle of class that I should try alcohol and other substances. I ignored them, and handed the summary to the teacher. He said that it was okay. 

Fast forward to last hour on the same day, I have another teacher, and after class, she tells me that she wants to speak with me. 

She basically tells me that I should try to socially with my classmates and that eventually, when I'm working, I will have to work in a team. Then, I tell her ""With all due respect, I don't give a fuck about my classmates, I come here to learn, not to befriend those idiots"". She starts going mad and telling me how wrong I am. AITA?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsfyk7,WIBTA for asking my mother to pay for my apartment (shared with other students even though we are on a budget and she lives in the same city?,"So first year undergrad and pretty much a big change for me moving to another city and country. I had found and signed myself an apartment for students and I am sooo excited for this.

Thing is she is also looking to move there and looking for apartment for BOTH of us. I keep hinting that I am okay to live alone (and prefer it) because I am pushing her to find an apartment further away from me but she doesnt seem to  read between the lines. 

I want this because I'd like to be independent, to know myself alone, how capable/resourceful I can be. To be young stupid adult. To be responsible and irresponsible. Normal things people my age do. 

I am soaked in guilt and limitations because of her disapprovement or worries about me as a mother which I understand but it really has stopped me to venture further in life because of this guilt and consideration.

She continues to find apartment so close to my uni, and insists for me to not even show up/continue for the apartment I signed and gave deposit (her money) and just find 1 apartment for 2 of us. 

She pays for everything. I dont have my own money and we do not have currently anything incoming. 

Tonight I was annoyed when she told me she found a good apartment 15 min from uni and she is thinking to finalised it. She saw how my mood changed and stopped talking to me. 


TL;DR- Financially dependent student asking mom to pay separate apsrtments even though there is no incoming income atm for the pursuit of individuality, independency, self exploration and hedonism haha. ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsfww2,AITA for catching my falling sister?,"So I (m15) had to deal with a visit from my former stepdad (we all hate it, not just me) and he's very defensive over his younger kids. When he was married to my mom he always made me stay away from my younger siblings because he considered me a ""bad influence"" due to me studding my clothing and dressing in dark colors. Keep in mind, I don't think it's the root cause, he just needed a scapegoat. 

Anyhow, one of my sisters (f7) is very hyperactive and never stops moving. During her dad's visit she wouldn't stop climbing on furniture and laughing hysterically. Later we went to a park and my sisters go to play and the 7 year old I mentioned makes it impressively high up on the jungle gym thingy. I walk over and ask her to please be careful, and so she decides to scare me by fully standing up. 

As you might expect, she fell almost instantly. I gotta say, I was still a good few feet away, booked it over and caught her before she hit the ground. (When I did, I let myself fall back a little slower than she was tumbling to not make a complete stop). My mom comes running over freaking out and my sister starts crying and my old stepdad starts yelling at me for distracting her, and if I hadn't said anything at all she wouldn't have fallen and started crying. He proceeds to shout more until my mom abruptly ends the visit and takes us home. She later thanked me for catching her. I don't really know, when a child is at risk do I just seriously... Do nothing?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fseyqv,AITA for frequently asking my husband if he's okay?,"My husband often tells me he's ""fine"" when he's actually doing very poorly mentally. Therefore, I usually don't believe him when he claims that he is all right. This normally causes me to ask him a few times within the span of a day.

He becomes visibly frustrated when I ask, ""are you okay?"" or ""what's going on?"" Apparently it angers him any time he is asked this. I tried to explain that I keep asking because sometimes he'll finally admit that something is wrong. He doesn't care. I suggested that he answers ""no"" but follows up with ""but I don't want to talk about it right now"" so I don't press the issue. 

Today his mom asked him THE QUESTION and he straight up yelled at her and stormed off. I brought it up later and told him that his expression looked angry/upset. He curtly replied that ""it's just his face"" and that he's ""fine.""

Hours later he admitted that he was depressed. I told him to please not lie to me, but he claimed that he didn't lie by telling me he was fine. I couldn't continue the conversation because he was too angry at me.

I should probably quit talking about ""feelings"" with him but I'm so worried about his mental health, and I have no one else to talk to about mine. But am I really the asshole for being concerned over the well-being of the love of my life?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsepr4,AITA for telling my friend that his ex is getting shagged right now,"Context:

Me and a few friends were joking around but what tends to happen is they end up targeting jokes at me and anything I say back to them, they belittle it. I tried to leave the conversation but they were still throwing little jokes at me until I threw an insult to one of my friends saying that his ex is probably getting ragged right now. I feel quite bad because afterwards they both told me that went too far. Am I the asshole?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsdxxy,WIBTA if I shared with my friend’s gf what he said to me over text? ,"For context, Jay (20M) and I (18F) have been friends for about six months. I met him a little while before he broke up with his ex-girlfriend, and provided him with emotional support and advice afterwards. While we both think each other is good looking, we’ve always shared the sentiment that we want nothing more than a good friendship between us. 

Jay and his girlfriend Sasha (19F) have been dating for around three months, and he updates me on how their relationship is going from time to time. Sasha and Jay are exclusive and have been pretty much ever since they started seeing each other, but Jay shared with me that Sasha believes he is “settling for her”. 

Earlier today, Jay and I were texting when he wrote, “To be honest, you’re more attractive than Sasha.” 

I replied back rather dryly, genuinely confused as to why he would say anything of the sort. Jay and I have always been very clear about our relationship being purely platonic. He went on to say that it was true but that he loved Sasha for who she was on the inside. 

He knows I have a boyfriend Chris who I love and care about with all my heart, but he also suggested [having a foursome] to me. These kind of comments make me extremely uncomfortable, and I would want to know if my boyfriend told another girl these things. However, I’m not sure if it’s my place to tell her as I don’t know Sasha personally. ",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsc3an,AITA for Getting a Different Dress for my Daughter's Wedding?,"My daughter is geting married in 6 days.  Six months ago I got my mother of the bride dress.  I didn't  love it but it was ok.  It is a light pink which matches the pink accents in her wedding dress.  I tried it on again yesterday while inwas getting things ready for next weekend and i just felt blah in it.  It fits ok but it isnt comfortable and i dont feel as though it is flattering. 

I was at lunch with my mother and mentioned I didn't like my dress.  She offered to buy me a new one if i found something i liked better.  I found one in a dark purple that is a similar style but more comfortable and more flattering.  I called my daughter to verify what color the mother of the groom is wearing.  She's wearing maroon. 

My daughter is now upset with me saying they got blue flowers to match my dress and I cant just change what I'm wearing 6 days before the wedding.  I told her if i wore the original dress, I would be uncomfortable all day and not feel I looked good.

Am i the asshole for changing my dress this close to the wedding?",1,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fsbw47,AITA for telling my friend to stop talking about how he quit a game that we play.,"Me and my friends all play a card game every week. One of my friends who has tried the game and dislikes it shows up and has mentioned that he wants to be invited when we hang out to play at locals or other events. Every time he is with us he talks about how he is glad that he has stopped playing the game. That was fine the first time but he asks if we are excited for new cards coming out and everytime we talk about a new combo that can be done he says some form of complaint or talks about being glad that he's stopped and even compairing it to other games saying that those are better. I haven't told him that he's kinda ruining the mood when we are there to play a game and he's showing up to hang out but always having to say something negative about the game we are playing. I understand he wants to hang out but there are other ways outside of playing a game that he does not enjoy and always has something negative to say. 
Edit 1: he's in a group chat where we mention events and he goes to the shop that we play the game at on its designated day. ",0,1,0,0,0,0,1
1fsbsda,WIBTA for continuing to go on my camping trip with my fiance?,"My fiance and I live in our house and my parents and siblings currently rent from us in our house. Out of courtesy we informed them a few weeks ago that we were planning a camping trip and wouldn't be able to be contacted for the week of our camping trip. Today, while I was at work my father asked my fiance who had just gotten home from work where we were going camping. He disclosed the location and my father did not approve of the location. According to my fiance he said that my family in that location (my mom's side of the family, my dad's ex-wife) ""are going to cause all sorts of problems and there isn't even a campground in that location."" 

I only know about this because while I was at work I received a call from my father where he said ""Please don't go camping in that location. It's really gonna mess with my head.""  
I didn't say a word as I had too much anger to handle myself calmly. I texted my fiance about it and that's how I found out.  
  
My father has PTSD and is obviously very anxious about me camping near my mom's side of the family. I don't want to exacerbate my father's mental health problems, but at the same time I don't seem to find his mental health to be my/my fiance's responsibility. In addition to that we've already booked the campsite and I don't know how that side of my family could possibly find out we're camping in that location, they're not omniscient.

So, WIBTA to not amend my plans and continue to go on my camping trip with my fiance?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsbrw9,AITA for giving someone asking for money a gift card,"Today I went to a local convenience store and there was a man outside asking people for spare cash. The guy seemed pleasant enough and 90% of the time I will always give a person in that situation a buck or two, but I knew I had no paper money on me so I told him I’d get him something on my way out. I considered going to the ATM and taking ten bucks out, but there was a line and I was in a bit of a hurry. I quickly scanned my wallet and found a Dunkin Donuts gift card that I knew I hadn’t used. On my way out I handed him the card, apologizing that’s it was all I had. His demeanor changed, smacking the card on top of a trash and muttering something along the lines of “Man, get this crap outta my face.” I simply kept walking and he kept grumbling. As I approached my car, he yelled towards me “You think I’m f**king stupid?!” I brushed it off but still felt bothered by the situation, seeing his glare in my rear view mirror as I pulled out.

Am I the asshole here?",0,0,0,0,1,0,1
1fsavk0,AITA for asking my ex if he was going to pick up our daughter tomorrow? ,"My husband (27m) and I (25f) split up about 7 months ago. We have one daughter together who is almost 2. We share custody with me having primary physical custody and him having visitation on “up to 50%” of days. He is supposed to keep her for a few hours after work twice a week and overnight every other weekend. Over half of the time he cancels on his visitation for some reason. The reasons are all legitimate sounding on their own (work, sick, needing a mental health break etc.) but they really add up and it makes it very hard for me to make plans that don’t involve my daughter. 

I have been going to yoga pretty much anytime I can when she isn’t with me. Tomorrow is supposed to be his evening with her so I signed up for my yoga class after work. I sent him a text saying “You're going to pick her up after work tomorrow, right? I signed up for yoga so I just want to be sure.” He has canceled on his visitation twice in the last week so I just wanted to make sure that he was still planning on picking her up. Just for context, there is a late cancel fee if I cancel less than 2 hours from the start of the class. 

He is saying that I should have asked what time he was picking her up instead and that it was disrespectful to ask if he was still planning to get her. So Reddit, AITA? ",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsalai,AITA for not doing my husband’s laundry,"My husband is angry with me because the jeans he wanted to wear weren’t clean yet and I’ve “had a week to take care of it”. I told him that he’s a grown man who should be able to take care of this himself and that I am not his mother. His justification is that it’s not like I have anything else to do. I am currently a stay at home mom (not by choice) and take care of everything in the house and all of the childcare. We’ve been together for 20 years, married for 14 and have two daughters. 5 years ago I gave up my full time job so he could pursue a job opportunity abroad. I gave up my financial independence and support system and became a stay at home wife, this was meant to be temporary. I worked part time for a while but a stressful work environment, lack of support, taking care of the household and being the default parent took a major toll on my mental health. I do all the cleaning, laundry, shopping, cooking and childcare. He claims he does enough because he works fulltime (flex hours from home) and provides financially.  He doesn’t help out over weekends and spends his free time gaming. Am I really the asshole for not making sure his jeans were washed and ready? 
",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsab82,AITA for not respecting my dad,"the other day we were having an argument in the kitchen (I forget what about), he (m55) was washing his hands and instead of drying them flicked the water into my (f23) face while making a remark before angrily storming away. according to my dad, im rude and have no respect. I asked him if It makes sense to respect someone who flicks water into my face, and that isn't that in itself rude?

AITA for not ""respecting"" my dad after shit like that?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fsa5e9,AITA if I tell my landlord there’s a non-student living in my student house?,"So this week I (M23) moved into a seven bedroom student house. Before I moved in, I had to sign a disclaimer stating that I was below 35 and that I’m a student (I am a student). So I move in and I’m the first person in the house for most of the week until a random man (I’m guessing forties) shows up in the hallway at like 11pm. I thought he was my landlord or something so I was just chatting to him and then he was like where is my room? I realised he was moving in and I asked if he was a student and he said he wasn’t. Then he told me he was a wedding entertainer and showed me videos of him dancing around dressed as a clown (?). So I just want to know if it would be a dick move if I ask my landlord why he’s here and if the landlord knows he’s in his forties and not a student. I’m also confused why he’d want to live with students at his age, especially considering this property is more expensive then other house shares in the area? None of my other housemates have arrived yet and we haven’t met but I’m wondering if they would think this is weird or if I’m just being mean. Please let me know, thank you!!! ",0,0,0,0,1,1,1
1fsa0dd,AITA-controlling or respect?,"Wife got caught emotionally cheating.. yes i went thru her messages. But told her best friend ""im not in love with her anymore, i don't know how to tell her"" and speaking of ""hookups with someone is all she can do right now"". wife still hangs out with the accused affair person. She changed password, takes phone to shower about a month ago. So i had a bad feeling..and recently turned off location because I invaded her privacy. Haven't gone thru messages in over a year, when i found she added a girl on SC that she was suppose to block and used a fake name.. AITA or am I being controlling as she says? ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fs9cre,AITA for eating my roommate’s food and blaming it on a storm?,"When roommate (22F) was away visiting her family for a weekend recently, I (22F) had the apartment to myself. She lives about 2 hours away from our college campus apartment so she was gone almost 2 full days. I stayed in on the Friday night and got hungry. I finished off my snacks pretty quick into the night but wanted more. Because of a bad storm, I couldn’t go out and get more food or DoorDash something, so I ate some of my roommate’s food (ice cream, frozen pizza, cereal, a bag of chips etc). Since I ran out of most of my food that night, I continued eating her food throughout the weekend. The morning she was supposed to get back, I realized I had eaten pretty much all her food in the apartment and panicked. A few hours before she got back, I texted her and said the big storm we just had over the weekend cut our power and flooded a small portion next to the back door (close to where she stores her snacks), and therefore I had to toss all of her food she had in the house. She came back that night with new groceries totaling $100+ but doesn’t suspect a thing. I’m conflicted on what to do now cause I don’t want to pay her back for the food but if she finds out somehow, it could ruin our friendship. WIBTAH for not telling her or doing anything?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fs8i6c,WIBTA for not letting my MIL tell our kid that the tooth fairy is real?,"I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant, so my husband and I have been having a lot of conversation about how we want to raise our child.

One thing we agreed on immediately was that we don’t want to lie to our kids. So, while we will 100% celebrate Christmas, Easter, losing teeth, etc and make the event as wonderful and memorable as possible, we won’t be telling them that Santa or large bunnies or tooth fairies will be breaking into our house to deliver gifts.

Everything seemed great… until his MIL.

She is a dental hygienist and is obsessed with her job. She absolutely loves the tooth fairy and even makes little doors for her kid patients to put in their room to “let the fairy come in.” She wrote an (unpublished) book about the tooth fairy.

Safe to say she’s extremely passionate about the tooth fairy.

My husband and I were honestly thinking mostly about Christmas and this potential conflict hadn’t occurred to us until now. It’s still important to us not to lie to our kids like that, but I *know* my MIL is going to freak out. My husband will side with me when push comes to shove, but is starting to worry it’ll devastate her

WIBTA if I stand my ground and don’t let MIL tell our child the tooth fairy is real?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fs8c27,AITA for encouraging my sister to cut off our mother,"Me (26 F) and my sister (29 F) have always been close, but we are very different people. I did well in school growing up, I am very independent, went to college, moved cities and have a good job. My sister is the opposite and I have always felt resentment from her about it even though we were given the same opportunities (or lack thereof) in life.

We were raised by two abusive parents who I chose to go no contact with in 2022, but decided to try and mend bridges with my mother last year for the sake of my sister as she was getting married and just wanted us to get along. This attempt went horrible and afterward my sister decided to go no contact with our mother as well.

Ever since she went no contact, my sister’s resentment towards me has just grown. She says she feels like I gave her an ultimatum (I didn’t), she says that I can’t understand what she is feeling, and I am too harsh on her. These thoughts and feelings keep coming up every couple of months whenever a birthday or event that reminds my sister of our mother happens.

I never gave my sister an ultimatum, but I definitely have encouraged her to cut our mom off not only because of what she has done to me, but also due to the constant and (then) ongoing verbal abuse my sister also was on the receiving end of. Her now husband (36 M) also encourages the same, so it’s not just coming from me either.

I just want a relationship with my sister but she resents me and blames me for so much that I don’t even know if this is all actually my fault or not ",1,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fs87da,AITA for calling my friend out?,"so, i was in class with my friends the other day when one of them pulled a pretty big prank. it was actually kind of funny, but then the teacher noticed and got really upset. he said if no one owned up to it, the whole class would get detention.

in the moment, i felt like it was better to just say what happened rather than let everyone get in trouble. i told the teacher it was my friend who did it, and he ended up getting detention. he was really pissed at me afterwards and said i should’ve just kept quiet.

now i’m feeling guilty because i didn’t want to throw him under the bus, but at the same time, i didn’t want to face detention for something i didn’t do. my other friends are kind of split on it, with some saying i did the right thing and others saying i should’ve kept my mouth shut.

aita for telling the teacher and causing my friend to get detention?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fs7uvw,AITA for giving a Stranger with unknown motives a fake name out of caution.,"I (20M) was having lunch with one of my buddies at my College Cafeteria eveually he left leaving me alone to finish when this one woman walked up to my table to join me. Prior to this point, I had never met he before and when she spoke, she mentioned jokes I had made with my friend earlier, before introducing herself. Concerned that this lady had been Eavesdropping and how her intentions were unkown, when she asked for my name, I lied and gave her a fake name.

We kept bumping into each other around campus after that and in about a week I decided she was no threat and that I would tell her the truth.... that did not end well. She began saying things that insulted men as a whole and considering how mad she was, you'd assume I did something far worse. While I can see how she might view this as an attack on personal trust, I was only concerned with my safety and was uncertain about her motives(to a lesser degree I still am, but I'm reasonably certain about ruling out the really bad stuff) ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fs7p6h,AITA for wanting my partner to tweeze facial hair in the bathroom only,"my parter is AMAB and currently transitioning - a big part of their dysmorphia comes from facial and bodily hair, so they are putting a lot of time into shaving and tweezing. I fully support esp because we can't afford laser at the moment.

often they leave a lot of plucked facial hairs on the bathroom sink, which I wipe away - I find this a little gross

today they were sitting on the couch in the living room with a mirror and tweezers- ready to lay back and pluck them out there. I said no, because tweezing is a bathroom task for me. They said their arm gets tired. I felt bad but I really don't think you should tweeze/pluck/wax/shave outside of the bathroom -- also as an afab, i get that it is uncomfortable to do thihs for a long period of time, but like...no

they suggested laying on our bed and doing it there, that their chest would 'catch' the plucked hairs, and I said no 

I feel bad :( AITA????",0,0,0,0,1,1,0
1fs6kt6,AITA for not travelling for a concert with my husband?,"My husband loves to live life to the fullest, is an 'all or nothing' kind of guy, and can be impulsive when he's excited about something.

An artist he likes (maybe loves, but is not a die hard fan of), is coming to a country near us (5 hour flight), and he bought tickets even after me saying I don't really want to go and it's not a good idea.

My issue is that I can't get leave from work, so I will need to leave on Saturday morning, and come back on Monday morning on a red eye and go straight to work. I care about my quality of work because I just got this job after months of being unemployed, and I don't want to be exhausted and off my game with a whole week of work ahead.

This is also a significant cost! Plane tickets + concert tickets + food + accommodation + transport = around 1300 USD. He says he'll pay for it if I'm uncomfortable with the cost, but I just don't think this is a good time for us to be dropping all this money (re: I was unemployed for months).

So am I overthinking this, or AITA for not wanting to go for this concert?",0,1,0,1,1,0,0
1fs69y9,AITA for having eaten a box of chocolates alone?,"The story I'm going to tell is almost ridiculous, but here it goes.

I am the oldest of three siblings and as the oldest sister, everyone expects me to share everything I have with them. From clothes, shoes, my room, my bed, my toys (my beloved collection of collectible plush toys 😭), my books, my food and even my boyfriend (it's not what you think, but every time he comes to visit they beg him to play with them and never leaves us alone). So, whether out of love or pressure, I always end up sharing everything I have with them. A few days ago, my boyfriend gave me a huge box of chocolates from a very famous brand. I knew it was expensive and I wanted to enjoy it as much as possible. But when I got home, my sinblings saw the box and asked for a piece, which I refused. They cried and called our parents, who tried to force me to give them a piece of chocolate. I refused again and they started scolding me and saying they were going to ground me. I didn't care about that and ate it all by myself. So am I the asshole for not sharing with them?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fs5kca,AITA for ordering food during my partner's gathering with her friends?**,"Last night, my partner had some childhood friends over for a get-together, and she mentioned that everyone would bring food. I ordered a meal in advance for her family, thinking some could be shared with her friends too. When they arrived, no one brought any food, and some had small kids with them. We ended up sharing what I brought.

Two of her friends later went to get chips and drinks, but I noticed there wasn’t enough for everyone, especially the kids. So, I ordered pizza online, thinking it would be better than nothing. One of her friends even mentioned that she assumed I’d be ordering food since her kid would be eating rice.

I also learned that one friend brings in only $13 a week, another is out of work, and the third just returned from working in the Middle East and doesn’t make much. Meanwhile, my partner and I combined make $10,000 a month. I thought sharing would be considerate, especially since I was meeting some of them for the first time. I’m all about being thoughtful and often offer to share or pitch in.

When I got home, my partner called me “controlling” and said I shouldn’t have ordered anything. I’m confused because I only wanted to ensure there was enough food for everyone. Why do I look like the bad person here?

AITA for trying to help by ordering food?
",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fs4ygi,AITAH for not inviting my brother in law to my birthday party?,"I (19M) usually do not celebrate my birthday but earlier this year my family offered to take me out to dinner and I was very grateful to spend time with them. My sister (21F) brought her partner of 8 and a half years along. I was totally fine with this and love to spend time with him. For context I knew him briefly before my sister met him. Later in the year my sister informed me that she was going to his birthday dinner and I was a little upset that I wasn't invited. So I decided that next year I won't have dinner with my family and I might celebrate alone. My sister did inform me that the reason I wasn't invited is that his dad was paying and doesn't really know me. While he came to mine because all of my family knows him. My main issue is I'm a little sad that my entire family wants me to consider him close immediate family but he doesn't consider me in that same category. It's not that I want to purposely exclude him, it's more that I don't like the vibe of being taken out to dinner by the family with their partners as opposed to spending it with my friends. I get it would be weird if I actually went to his birthday dinner, it just made me think a little about who I want to spend the time with. AITAH?",1,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fs35qs,AITAH for waking up at 6 am for work,"Now just to make some points before I explain what just happened. I, (20) F, work at a well known grocery store which I will not name. I work usually on Saturday and Sundays from 10 am to 4 pm. I enjoy my job, but over a few months of first working there I slowly developed a schedule for myself to ensure I work as efficiently as possible without really needing too many breaks (which has actually led to work work over the time limit that I’m allowed to be the on the floor working). I am very strict about my schedule because of this and if I were to wake up any other time I usually am left tired and worn out by the time I’m at work which I don’t like. As of late however a hurricane came by a knocked the power out of my mother’s place, meaning she had to move in with me and my grandparents. This morning I wake up as I usually do to my mother’s annoyance, since she was sleeping in the living room, from which she immediately told me to go back to bed. I tried to explain this is how my schedule work and that my grandfather also wake up around this time but she wouldn’t listen, leaving me to sit at the staircase and wait for my grandfather to get up because going back to bed was kinda pointless. I know my mother doesn’t have a choice but to stay here but I think she should at least be a little bit more understanding on how my schedule work and why I don’t change it. Am I the ah for being upset about this.",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fs2h5c,AITA for not using the hyphenated name of the blended family?,"So my dad and his wife blended two families together 5 years ago. Dad has me (15m) and my brother (12) and sister (10). His wife has two daughters (14, 13) and two sons (11, 9). Their dad and our mom are dead. So we all live together all of the time. After my dad got married they hyphenated their last names to be her last name-his last name. Her kids and my siblings agreed to the hyphenated name. I said no and kept my name as it was. I was asked a few times if I'd like to change it but my answer was always the same.

When talking about the blended family my dad and his wife, and my siblings and stepsiblings, will say the her last name-his last name hyphenated version. But I always say I'm a ""my last name"" and I never use the blended family name.

Why this became a big deal is someone asked me if I was a (hyphenated name) and I said no, just a (my last name). It was someone delivering a package to the house. But my dad's wife heard me say it and she asked me why I did that and I told her because it's my last name. She told me I am a part of the family though and when talking to others I could use the hyphenated name even if I don't make it legally my name. I told her I didn't want to and when my dad found out about it he told me I should use the hyphenated name when talking to others and I'm just being difficult using my last name.

AITA?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fs04ss,AITA for going to a Coldplay concert without my friend who really wanted to go?,"So, here’s the situation: my friends and I (we're all Indian) were super excited about Coldplay coming to India. One of my friends, let's call him Ash, is a *huge* fan and was the one who first asked me to go. Initially, it was going to be Ash, Dom, me, and another friend, Ashley. We were all hyped to go together.

When the tickets went on sale, it was chaos with the queue system, and none of us managed to get tickets—except for Dom’s friend, who ended up getting 4 tickets. So now, Dom, his friend, his friend's girlfriend, and I are going, but that leaves Ash and Ashley without tickets.

I’m really torn here. I love Coldplay too, but Ash was the one who was so excited and invited me first. I asked him if it was okay for me to go without him, and he said yes, but I can’t help but feel like I’m ditching him and Ashley, and that he might be hurt even though he said it’s fine.

AITA for going to the concert and leaving Ash and Ashley behind, even though they were part of the original plan? Should I skip it out of solidarity?
",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1frznm9,WIBTA to refuse to bring my son to his mother’s on her day?,"WIBTA if I said I’m not going to pick him up from school and bring him to her house on her days, nor do I want to start picking him up from practice and driving to her city to bring him to karate then to her house only to get home at 9p?

To be clear, I handle pickups on the days he is with me. She lives 30 minutes away and karate practice is next to her house at 7pm. ",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1frzdx1,AITA for being pissed off with a friend for lying to me?,"To explain; 

I found out that a regular in my job (I work with the public) was interested in me, so we were talking outside of the confines of my job and things were going ok between us

A co worker found out they was interested in another person who also does the same job as me and warned me about it (fair enough) this other person that she was interested in told me that they would not go near the member of the public (for xyz reasons) 

Last night I found out that my co worker (who said that they would not go near the member of the public) went and saw said person, and straight up lied to me about it all. 

Then sends me messages this morning saying they feel guilty and they don’t normally lie 

Am I the arsehole (I’m British) for being pissed off and feeling like I cannot trust my co worker?",0,0,1,0,0,0,7
1frz223,AITA for being sensitive over my boyfriend's comment?,"I, (20f) and my bf (21m) have been together for a year.   
yesterday, his hair was quite messy and I decided to help him comb it. While I was combing it, he made a comment saying ''you look like my personal maid rn''.   
To me, it felt disrespectful because a maid is someone who does chores in exchange for money. I told him I felt it was disrespectful because I was just trying to help him out and it was insensitive to call me a maid.   
He started defending himself and said it was just a harmless 'joke' and that I was clearly overreacting and wanting an argument.   
He then later asked for a goodbye kiss, and he was leaving and I went ''additional services cost extra sir"" because I was still mad at the fact that he called me a maid.  
He got really mad and started going on and on about how I was taking it too far and it was ridiculous that I refused to give him a kiss because of his comment. He said I was being really childish, and I had to learn to take a joke.   
He left angry.   
AITM for taking it too deep?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1frw6nu,AITAH? Sentimental belongings ruined,"My mom is dying of cancer and doesn’t have much time left. I live in a studio apartment with not much space at all for storage and I had asked if my parents keep some sentimental stuff safe at their new home only a few months ago and they promised to do so! My mom and I used to collect Barbie’s and I had some classic wizard of oz Barbie’s that meant a lot to me that was still in the box in perfect condition. I was over today and noticed them out of the box and in the floor and my nephew playing with them. My heart sank! I confronted my parents about it and they were like yeah we gave them to him! I was shattered and simply just left without a word to go cry and this is the text my dad sent me 

“You need to remember that your mom has cancer and vasculitis. She only has a year or maybe two left. If you get mad over something like a doll that is worth nothing, you will probably regret it later, it’s your decision though You were fucking full of shit! I hope they mean a lot to you, I’ll box that shit up and send it to you”


My dad is such a dickhead . Like am I wrong for being sad? 







",1,0,0,0,0,1,0
1frw2w3,AITA for torrenting a videogame,"So I (19m) live in the US and was pirating this video game that I wanted and my dad who loves monitoring the Internet later found out that I was pirating the game. Both of my parents got really worried and mad saying that we could all go to prison or that I could get a really bad virus on my computer. I tried playing it off saying that I had no idea that that kind of stuff was illegal, even though I obviously did and they believed me. The irony of all of this is that my dad literally torrented a Call of Duty game for me on his computer like five or six years ago. So AITA For downloading pirated games?",0,0,1,0,1,1,0
1frv6v8,AITA for telling my boyfriend what to wear around his parents?,"I am on vacation with my boyfriend and his parents and he was walking around in front of me, his mom, and his dad, in just boxers and a t-shirt. I told him that made me uncomfortable that he's walking around in his boxers around me, his mom, and dad. It just made me feel uncomfortable. I tried to explain why it made me uncomfortable (boundaries) and was told that I am in the wrong for telling him what he can or cannot wear. AITA?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1frv6kt,AITA for telling my sister-in-law she needs to learn how to drive?,"My brother's wife doesn't have a license and refuses to learn how to drive. They have a special needs child and my brother routinely has to take PTO to take their child to different therapy appointments. She works at the same company as my brother so he drives her everyday. At a recent family gathering I mentioned that she should learn how to drive so that she can contribute and lessen the burden on my brother. She called me an @$$hole and they left early. That was at Labor Day and my brother is giving me the cold shoulder. I don't think I did anything wrong. I didn't call her lazy (though I think she is) and i didn't attack her with names, I thought I gave a friendly suggestion. They've been married almost ten years and she's 35, their child is 8, my brother is 40.",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fru3zx,AITA for Refusing to Give My Mom $10 Every Month?,"Hey Reddit, I need some perspective. My mom asked me to give her $10 every time I get paid, saying it would be a blessing for me genuinely saying that giving her money will bring me blessings from God. I'm $60,000 in debt + monthly expenses and my husband can't work here in Costa Rica or find an international job, so he is my responsibility.

My mom has a husband that is retired and a 17-year-old son. While my brother doesn't work, she buys him expensive things like Nike sneakers and an iPhone. She said I'm a bad person for not giving her money, even though she earns two to three times my salary. I feel conflicted because I'm trying to manage my debt and support my household. I'm also from Costa Rica , I ear $5/h 💀. AITA for standing my ground and not given  her the money since she doesn't need it?",1,0,0,0,1,1,0
1fru0wn,AITA for not offering my friend a beer,"I (17m) had invited a couple friends over to my house since it was empty for the night. This was planned pretty on the fly since we just agreed to do it after school that day. Around 8pm my first friend arrived then 30 minutes after he did the friend in question arrived aswell so already I wasn’t too happy since this is a habit of his especially since he lies by saying ‘he’s on his way’ or ‘he’s outside’ when he hasn’t left the house or is actually 5 minutes away. So when we sat in the kitchen he saw my wine fridge and immediately asked ‘can I get a drink?’ I said no because these 12 beers were mine and were a little gift from my mum before she left for her holiday. He continued to ask until eventually I just ended up giving him one. Later he asked for another I said no but he insisted since my mum would usually offer him or any of my friends a drink if they came round but I didn’t cave this time and said no this back and forth continued for the next hour to hour and a half roughly. His whole point was ‘if your mum was here she’d give me one’ and ‘I said I don’t care she isn’t so you don’t get one’ After all he already owes me money from previously drinking my alcohol.

So I’m asking am I a cheap bastard or is he an entitled twat or is this just a stupid teenager thing?",1,1,0,0,0,0,1
1frt8s3,AITA for telling my husband that it’s not ok to tell his friend exactly how much money I make?,"My husband and I were driving his friend home after dinner, and we were all talking about our jobs. And my husband said, ‘yeah I think they lowballed me with my starting salary.’ And I said, ‘yeah I think I was lowballed too.’ And his friend says, ‘oh well you make WAY less than me (says exact figure how much I make) and I have less education than you so that SUCKS. You should be making way more than me.’ I felt humiliated. And come to find out my husband had told him that in front of a group of other people I don’t know when I wasn’t present. He doesn’t think there’s a problem with sharing that information with his friends. I am very private about how much money I make, and I would never share that information with my friends or anyone. Ever. I think that is extremely personal information and it was not his place to share. And he just said ‘well I guess I’m not allowed to say ANYTHING about you.’ 🙄 Tell them I play pickle ball or that I watch Drag Race ffs. I felt a boundary was crossed and it made me feel furious. Is everyone sharing how much they make to everyone? ",0,1,1,0,1,0,0
1frs44t,WIBTA if I left my friend at homecoming,"So im a 16 year old girl, and I'm currently at homecoming. I hate it here so much, I hate the noise, I hate the people here, everybody is looking at me because I didn't show up in a slu**y short dress. Id rather be at home or going to my local dollar store for a monster right now, rather than have to go through this. But my problem is that my friend is here with me. My mom drove us both here, and it wouldn't matter if I left because I live a walkable distance from my school. The problem is she doesn't have a ride back to her house and she lives multiple miles away and her parents will make her walk. So this is why I think I'll be an asshole if I leave, like we can always pick her up after but I don't want her to wonder where I went because she kind of ditched me at the tables. 

So wibta if I just leave",0,1,0,0,1,0,1
1frqwtr,AITA for mentioning my mom's insecurities ,"So me, my mom and my sister were talking and the conversation started about me not washing my face after putting mascara and she started laughing about how my eyes are looking black and she said that my left eye is even funnier because i have a droppy eyelid (and she knows i'm insecure about it) so to get back at her i said that at least mine didn't drop after doing botox and i told her that she shouldn't be laughing at me because of that because i can also play that game and call out her insecurities. She got mad and said that I shouldn't be saying that to her because she's my mom and a droppy eyelid isn't even that big of a deal. She even gaslit me and said that I'm the one who started it and to watch out because she wasn't born with her insecurities and that could happen to me too. So am I the asshole?",1,1,0,0,1,0,0
1frq5w5,AITA - Wet feet v. Squirrel life,"AITA? 
I am a new mom and have a new perspective on life now that I’ve created life. My husband is also a new dad. 
While preparing lunch, we heard a horrific screeching in our back yard, as our dog caught a squirrel. I immediately screamed for my husband to go help. My husband refused. Instead, my elderly mother went outside to try to get the dog to release the squirrel, that was still screeching. 

I was holding the other dogs back, in the middle of a work assignment otherwise I would have run out myself. As I started crying asking my husband why he wouldn’t help, he said he didn’t have shoes on and didn’t want to get his feet wet. I told him to just take his socks off and that his feet are washable. I understand it’s just a squirrel but it was being tortured and could have also injured our dog, or transmitted a disease. 

I also know if I had gone out there, my husband would have been mad because he does not like when I put myself in “dangerous” situations. 

He ended up going to help my mom and they got the dogs away from the squirrel. The squirrel was alert but having trouble moving so we took it to a wildlife vet. 

I was still upset with my husband after the “rescue” because he chose to protect his feet over saving a life. I will add that we have been together for 11 years, I am a vegetarian, and very nature loving. He knows I am over caring about anything and everything. Again, I get how this is just a squirrel to him, but to me it was someone suffering and he did not do everything he could to help. 

AITA? ",1,1,0,0,1,0,0
1froyc1,AITAH for me having a argument about getting better toilets ,"I am (26F) and i work at as a graphic designer. I have been paralised since I was 8 from a spinal cord injury. At my job that I have recently started about a mounth ago, I’ve asked the manager for a bigger disabled toilet because  the toilet is too small to fit my wheelchair in the toilet, I’ve ask him this since I’ve worked here and he always says no because it costs lots of money and I have been requesting since I have been at my job. When I went to my college to become a graphic designer I met my boyfriend who is (27M) and is also paralyzed and i spoke to him  about this and he was angry about this and he said “your boss is a bastard for not making his staff not go to the toilet because it would cost a bit of money to change it, so the disabled space is a bit bigger so you can use the toilet.” And then he went in and spoke to my boss because he really wasn’t Happy. So my job building is a big building on multiple floors and my colleague had the same issue when he joined. So we both went to him and demanded him to change it. But he still was stubborn not to change it so we filed a complaint against the company. One day the inspector came in and I saw him and spoke to him about it and showed him the disabled toilets and he seen me getting in my wheelchair and that it isn’t big enough. Then I spoke to him about him denying it to get bigger. So know the inspector said it’s too small and now they are making the disabled toilets bigger.",0,0,1,0,0,1,0
1frorz2,AITA for ordering a usb C cable?,"My husband (M30) and I (F30) have a 3 year old and 3 month old. Today my husband told me to take some time for myself and go thrifting as well as pick up formula. I did that at took about an hour of time. 

When I got home, I sent my husband to Costco, he was going to get a list of things as well as look for a charging cable for his new AirPods. We were texting and he said Costco didn’t have one, so I told him I would add it to the Walmart order and in the meantime he can wirelessly charge them on his phone. I thought I was doing a favor so he didn’t have to run another errand. I told him I added them to the order, but to still take some time for himself and not come home yet if he didn’t want to. 

He came directly home and was very upset with me because I purposefully cut his me-time short. I can see that he was planning on going to target and maybe he was looking forward to it, but I never asked him to come home early, just that I’d buy the cable so we can get it without pickup order tomorrow. He is now cold to me and not speaking. We got into an argument when he got home because he blamed me for cutting his time short, when I was only trying to help. Now he is not talking to me and I’m wondering if im the AH. 

He wanted to go to Costco by himself, and he could have gone anywhere honestly. I was just trying to be helpful. ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fro44o,AITA for telling my little sister’s best friend that my brother stole her college fund?,"I (30M) found out my younger brother, ""Tom"" (28M), stole $5,000 from my little sister’s (18F) best friend, ""Emma"" (18F). Tom and Emma's families have always been close, and Emma practically grew up with us. My mom asked Tom to help Emma manage her money for college because she trusted him with it (he works in finance).

Tom recently confessed to me that he “borrowed” $5,000 from Emma’s college fund and blew it on gambling. He said he planned to replace it before anyone noticed, but he lost everything. He begged me not to tell anyone, saying he’s going through a rough patch and just needs time to make it right.

Emma’s family doesn’t have a lot of money, and she worked super hard to save for school. Knowing this, I felt sick. I didn’t want to betray my brother, but Emma’s future is on the line.

So, I told Emma the truth. She was devastated and confronted Tom, who denied everything at first, but eventually broke down and admitted it. Now, my family’s furious with me for “ruining” Tom’s life and says I should have given him a chance to fix it. Tom won’t speak to me.

AITA for telling Emma?

--edit : just to clarify, my brother and I are quite close but, due to some past events, not so close to our parents. They didn't know about my brother hobby.",1,0,0,1,0,0,0
1fro3f0,AITA— food edition ( sorry don’t know what to title this),"I( 16 non binary) and my dad( 64 M) have a really good relationship.

 I recently found out that I need to go on a very limited diet due to health issues. I am in severe pain( to the point I can not walk) so this is nesassary.


 It is now better since I am on meds and I went shopping with my dad to get food I can eat. 

He was frustrated the entire time and seemed to not believe I needed the diet and we have enough food at home. 

I can't have a lot of gluten, processed foods or dairy and everything in my house has a lot of it.



 I feel frustrated because if I eat certain foods it makes me sick now. This has also been so stressful for me bc I was told this yesterday. And both my parents have done no reduce to help me find what I can eat or not. 




Maybe I got to much food( tofu, fresh veggies, pinapple, diary free milk). So I am the asshole for getting mad? 

Sorry for formatting on my phone! ",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1frmph3,AITA? Hanging out means standing in line? ," (25F) met a friend (25M) about two months ago at a concert. They were chill, and they live in another state, but one that’s easy to get back-and-forth from my state, like maybe 2 hours or less by bus or train, and it costs around $20


This person kept calling me and texting me inviting me to come to their state, saying they didn’t have the funds or time to come visit me (I have more free time) 


I planned to come see them, then they cancelled the day before. We rescheduled, but then I had to cancel for work. They recently messaged me that they were in my city for an event (think con/festival) and they 3 hours to kill and would love to see me. 


So I took the train 35 min to see him, and I find him waiting in line for something for this event with his friends. I asked if he invited me just to stand in line IN THE RAIN with him and his friends, and he stammered “I’m probably going to grab food also, you can come for that if you want” 


I said nope, I’m going home, and I would not have come if I knew you were inviting me to stand in line in the rain for an event I don’t even have an interest in or tickets to. 


He says he just wanted to see me and spend time  with me. AITA? 
",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1frkoo1,WIBTA if I created a google booking page for friends/family to schedule visits with me?,"I work full time, got to school full time, and study independently of school for my job. I also have several chronic illnesses that take up a lot of my time (appts, rest, etc). It can be exhausting going back and forth with friends and family to figure out when we’re both available. 
I feel like this would be sooo much easier on everyone, just pick a slot and go. But, I also know that some people will think I’m being holier-than-thou. My time is valuable, and I have to keep a strict balance. 
Would I be an asshole if I created a booking link for friends and family to schedule visits/hangouts/whatever with me?",0,0,1,0,1,0,0
1frk17m,AITA for walking my dog through an unmarked yard?,"
About a month ago, I was told by a property owner that the area beyond his fence is private property while walking my dog along the fence line. I respected his request and stopped using that route. 

Recently, I had no choice but to walk on the lower part of the hill since there’s no clear sidewalk in my neighborhood. I stayed as far from his property as possible, thinking it would be okay. 

When the man saw me, he came out, threatened to call the police, and insulted me, even calling me fat and saying he’d ""fuck up"" my boyfriend. I argued back, feeling provoked, but I genuinely thought I was being considerate by avoiding his yard.

I don’t know the property laws in my state, but I thought the area I was in was reasonable to walk through. So, AITA for walking my dog there again?",0,0,1,0,1,0,0
1frigj3,AITA for joking with my friend?,"You know how sometimes your iPhone will show you memories from like a year ago? A few days ago, I saw a picture I took of a beach when I was on vacation like 2 years ago and I posted it on my story on Instagram. No caption or anything, just the picture. My friend replied to my story and said “Omg, where?” So I told her it was a beach 20 minutes away from my house. My exact words were “Near my house. 20 mins away.” 

We live in different states and I thought it would be a funny joke, because it is generally known that there are no beaches in my state. I mean, we barely have a lake or two. This is genuinely just common knowledge.

My friend, without doing any research whatsoever, booked a short getaway trip to my state so she could visit the beach. I’m not even joking. When she told me she was coming over and asked me if I wanted to join her at the beach and have dinner later. I was beyond confused and immediately told her that I was kidding and the picture I posted was of a beach in a completely different state.

She was beyond pissed. I mean like 30 texts in 5 minutes and 7 calls kind of pissed. The airline refuses to refund her the ticket she bought and the hotel is refusing to refund her as well, they only offered to change her dates free of charge. She is now demanding that I bear the cost of the trip because of the joke I made.

AITA here? If I’m genuinely at fault here, I will actually cover her expenses.",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fri7lz,AITA for telling the truth about Uncle Dave? ,"Something is mentally wrong with my Uncle Dave (50’s) he’s faked cancer, faked being in the military, and faked having well paying jobs to impress women. He’s been married 3 times. 

I went to my grandma’s birthday and Dave shows up with a new girlfriend and his head shaved. She goes on about his cancer treatments. I look at my cousin who works at the closest chemotherapy facility and is like nope.  I later pulled this woman aside and tell her Dave’s history of faking cancer and she started to put two and two together because Dave just lost his well paying “job” because of his sick days for cancer being back. Dave has already moved in with this women and she was helping him out. 

This woman had no fucking chill and screamed at Dave at my grandma’s birthday and told him to get his shit out of the home before she calls the police about him. 

My mom and grandma are angry at me and told me to leave because what I did to Dave and grandma at here party was “evil” because this could be grandma’s last birthday party because she’s old. 

I don’t see how I’m in the wrong when it was Dave lying to a woman to live in her home but I’m the bad guy here. So everything is now my fault and I have been told not to come around to a family gathering at my grandma’s again. ",1,1,0,0,0,0,0
1freo0m,AITAH if I expect my partner to address their snoring?,"My partner is a snorer. I’m exhausted and at my witts end. 

If I wake them up and ask them to stop snoring, they vehemently denies they are snoring and get angry at me. If I bring it up in the morning, they tell me they don’t snore and if I have a problem it’s on me to figure it out.

I think they should make some effort. Over the years they have tried a couple of over the counter solutions (wristband, breathing strips) with little success. I’ve tried recording the snoring but they get offended at that too. They have never gone to a doctor about this issue. They’re position as to why they don’t have to care is that I complain too much in general and that I’m just complaining for the sake of complaining.

AITHA for not finding my own solution as to how to overcome this?



",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1frddz6,AITA for not taking my phone to a barber shop?,"It was the morning and I told my mother I would be going to the barber's to get a haircut. I didn't drive and instead walked because the place is only around 15 minutes away.

When I arrived, there was a considerable queue there and I had to wait a bit before it was my turn. And so I waited for like 2 hours and 30 minutes before it was my turn. It was then that my cousin also came to check where I was.

When I came back home I found out that my mother was worried and even crying worrying about me

This was during the bright sunny day. It wasn't even the night, for which case I would understand her worry. And also, I am a 25 year old adult. 

AITA for going to the barber's without taking my phone?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1frd5jb,WIBTA if I ask for a discount on rent?,"In June my acquaintance, said that I could rent her land, which is a field, if I wanted to keep an animal there and she told me the price is 3000 Polish zlotys for one month and this includes that she will feed the animal and it could stay in the stable also.

I agreed to this deal and have a sheep that lives there now and will buy other ones there as well. But actually the sheep does not live on the land because after I rented the land, she grows tomatoes and other vegetables there so the sheep doesn't go there. He stays in the stable and sometimes he is in the yard also. Also the sheep was away for 2 months but I was charged with the full price of renting the land for those 2 months.

In my experience another person took care of my sheep and he did have access to land and the sheep and a dog both ran around the land freely but it was only 400 Polish zlotys for a month, actually it was less but that was an old man so I gave him some more and actually he passed away so I cannot keep the sheep there RIP.

I was thinking about asking her if I can get a discount on the land by mentioning that I'm not renting the land but only the stable and the yard but I am worried it could seem rude to ask for a discount and she might raise the price even more in response.

So could you tell me if this is reasonable to ask if I can have a discount on rent? (no specific number in my mind, just that it would be cheaper)",0,0,0,1,0,0,0
1frbibs,AITA for telling my girlfriend and her friends to stop shouting?,"Me and my girlfriend and 2 friends, we’ll call Alice and James were all standing around, when Alice makes a comment about how I’m mentally slow or something like that.

I argued back a bit jokingly, but I didn’t care much. My girlfriend was a bit more offended so she and Alice started arguing. By this point voices were raised and we were walking up the stairs towards a silent study area.

On the way up the stairs I had stopped arguing, so it was just my girlfriend defending me against Alice. By the time I had got to the door of the study area, they were still shouting.

I stopped and told them, ‘can you guys please stop shouting?’. I wanted them to be mindful of people studying, but Alice took it as me telling my girlfriend to shut up and said ‘See? Don’t waste your breath.’

My girlfriend is adamant I embarrassed her, which I can see why she would feel that way. So I have apologised for the way the message came across, but she is also adamant that I shouldn’t have told them to stop shouting at all, and saying that I was prioritising the people in the study area over her feelings?

I just wanted them to be mindful. AITA?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fraisd,AITA for booking my wedding on my nephews birthday,"i booked my wedding day on my nephews birthday, after running it by my sister beforehand, and was told my nephew (5)would be so happy and that he would never stop talking about it. in fact ran it by her 3+ times and explained why every other date didn’t work. she is now refusing to come to my wedding because i’m taking the day from her son. manipulating my nephew and sending me voice messages of my nephew saying how upset he is. claiming i’m taking his special day from him. my fiancé and i are very private people. we would never celebrate our anniversary with anyone other than ourselves. she also lives many states away and has never thrown my nephew a birthday party. ",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fr8ge4,WIBTA For asking neighbors to not walk our driveway,"We are building a new house on a several acre lot. As such it has a very long driveway. We’ve noticed almost every time we stop by to check progress, someone is walking our driveway. We’ve seen at least 4 different people, in a small neighborhood. 

I get that it’s a very long driveway, but I can’t understand why they would be walking it other than just a new place to go for a walk. 

I’m hopeful that once we move in, they won’t do it anymore. We bought this lot specifically to have distance from our neighbors. ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr7qdq,AITA for getting pissy at my partner at his friend’s 21st party,"
Hey reddit, so I (19F) and my partner (20M) have been acting like boyfriend and girlfriend since January, we introduce each other as bf and gf to everyone we’re with, but we don’t officially have a title yet (he said we’d be together soon not to long ago so i’m not phased). But tonight, I was catching up with one of my old friends at the party and she asked if him and I were together and he said ‘no we’re not’ and that made me really mad at him and I gave him a glare. Everyone KNOWS we’re together and we always introduce ourselves that way but he didnt just now and it made me really upset obviously. So I started giving him attitude after communicating about how it made me feel and he sat with me instead of hanging out with his friends even though it was his friends’ 21st. So I left to go sit in my car while I cool off. 

So now I’m wondering if I’m TA in this situation because I genuinely do not know.",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fr7mdw,AITA  for correcting my dad about my “sister”,"I (16 female) am always correcting my dad when he talks about my sister (17 Female) who disowned us because we outed her to my grandma about always causing drama and pinning everyone against each other. This started last year when she moved in with my grandma. My sister we will call her Sahara has always loved drama and my grandma knew this . I warned my grandma when Sahara moved in with her I told her she likes to fight and cause trouble but she didn’t believe me until her marriage almost fell apart cause of it. A couple of weeks ago my grandma was talking with me and told me what  Sahara did she is always fighting with her husband and accusing him of abuse but I contacted my grandma and my mom who Sahara tells everything to and my mom said that she told her that they were getting abused and I don’t take that lightly so I called my grandma and found out she was lying about everything and so Sahara blocked me, my dad, and my mom and she disowned me and my dad. My dad still refers to her as his daughter so I tell him i am the only kid you have that talks to you Sahara disowned us. He will stop talking to me for the rest of the day once I say that. Like I get that she is still his daughter but she doesn’t want anything to do with us unless she wants money. I always feel bad when I say it to him. Am I the a**hole ",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fr6x01,AITA for telling my friend to shut up/ F off?,"I (18F) turned 18 a few weeks ago and for my birthday my parents bought me a sapphire jewelry set consisting of matching earrings, a necklace, and ring. 

Due to my lunch schedule, I eat lunch with a lot of underclassmen, so I started sitting with an old friend/ acquaintance (17F) and some of her friends. I like her but I admit she has flaws where she talks bad about people she calls her “sisters.” (Close friends of hers) random emotional outbursts (randomly crying/ explosive anger) and cheating on boyfriends. 

So for the past few weeks I’ve been wearing my jewelry set every day and I’m really happy to have this set, so I like to hold the ring up to the sun and admire it. 

I was doing this today at lunch and my friend made a comment how it was funny I kept bragging about my jewelry. I said I wasn’t bragging because I hadn’t said anything, and was just sitting. She replied saying she thought it was weird I was so proud of my tiny ring and the fact that my parents had bought it for me was sad, because she had a job and her parents would never do something like that for her. 

I felt a little offended because I was minding my business, and I said I didn’t care about the size of the ring, I got what I wanted and I was grateful for it. She said how she had bigger at home and didn’t wear it to school and look dumb like I did. By this point I was upset and I told her to “fuck off and mind her buisness.” 

Am I this asshole?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fr6qwv,AITA for asking someone to change their username?,"I know a girl, friend of a friend, weve met before and been friendly. 
She sells adult content which is perfectly fine. But she made a twitter one month ago (shes known me about a year), it uses my last name. My last name is common but I found it to be weird. It uses my sisters first name, which was coincidental, it's the girls middle name but I still feel weird about it. I politely messaged and explained, I said it wasnt a big deal but I'd appreciate her changing the last name.
She sent a pretty rude response saying it has nothing to do with me and shes not changing it. 
It's fine she doesnt want to change it but she screenshots the messages to show her friends and make fun of me. I feel I was polite and non confrontational, but its annoyed me she couldn't see my point, and is screenshotting to make a fool of me.

Am I justified in being angry at her? 

Edit:: thank you for all the replies!! I appreciate my feelings being validated, I also appreciated being humbled, I was being petty and entitled. I still don't like the girl because of the way she responded, but I dont have to like her. Letting it go and moving on ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fr5viu,AITA for not helping my coworker when she really didn't need help?,"My coworker has a habit of asking me to help her when I am also busy. We work together, but take care of seperate tasks so we get more done. Nothing that we do requires 2 people to handle the same task, so she really doesn't need my help, it would just make her work more convenient and mine longer if I stopped what I was doing to help her. So I don't help her. Am I the asshole? ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fr5hed,AITA For Asking My Brother To Allow My Friend To Live At A House He Owns?,"So my brother owns about 30-35 homes in the area. All rentals. My friend was recently laid off and needs a place to stay. I can't offer up my place since it's kind of tight at the moment. 

I called up my brother to see if he had any space available in the rentals. He kept asking me why i needed to know and I told him about my friend's situation. He immediately said no, because he was hoping to eventually get some new tenant for his vacant areas at the moment. I told him that he could spare some money for about a month or so until my friend gets back on her feet. Still no, and we began to argue about it until he hung up on me. 

AITA? I think expecting some compassion isn't a-holeish",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr5bo2,AITA for not having people over ,"I (23F) live in an apartment with my friend (23F) of over 5 years. We met in college and back then I was wayyy more social and outgoing. Now I prefer to stay home and enjoy the peace and quiet. Before moving to this apartment, my friend and I lived in a guest house. We didn’t feel quite comfortable having friends over when we quite literally lived in our landlord’s backyard. In the last month, we moved to actual complex and it’s easier to have guests over. I think I got used to having no one over, so I enjoyed the privacy and the sanctity of old place. Now, my friend wants to invite her other friends over for game nights, baking nights, or to watch football games. I’ve met and hung out with her friends a couple times and they’re not bad people. I just feel like I’m intruding cause they all have their history and things in commons that I don’t share. Recently, she asked if we can host her friends for a halloween cookie decorating night. She already talked to her friends about it. She said if I don’t want to do it then they can do it at someone else’s. I sort of feel like I’ll get painted as the bad guy if I say no, but I don’t like to constantly have people over. I’m always emotionally drained after work so I just want quiet weekends. However, I also understand that it’s her place too. If she wants to have her friends over, she can. I should be grateful that she asks beforehand. Would I be the asshole if I said no?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr512o,AITA for asking for a reimbursement?,"Sorry if my redaction is not the best; my main language is not English and I’m kinda mad at the time lol.

Hello everyone! Long story short, I (28F) started a postgraduate diploma last year at a well-known university in my town. 

From the very beginning, things were a mess. Before the program even started, I asked for a reimbursement because of how disorganized everything was. However, the coordinator convinced me that things would improve and that the issues I encountered were isolated incidents.

Fast forward to the end, we were required to submit a final project to receive our certificate.

It’s now been 150 days since I submitted my work, and I haven’t received any feedback. I’m frustrated! She ignored my emails, so I had to message her directly. When she finally responded, she rudely claimed that “someone” had given me feedback two months ago, which is completely false. I told her that directly.

At this point, I’m beyond frustrated. I’ve been patient and polite, even when she wasn’t, but I’m desperate now. So, I just sent her a new email and CC’d the rector and provost. In my email, I stated that if I wasn’t going to receive any feedback, I’d like to know so I can request a reimbursement.

AITA for asking for a reimbursement and CC’ing the rector and provost?

**Additional Info:**
- I visited her once before submitting my final project, but since I work in a remote area, visiting her office in person again is difficult for me.
- I called the rector once and explained the situation. He said he would speak to her, but it’s been almost four weeks with no response.
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1fr4odx,AITA for not doing the dishes?,"I (25f) live with my partner (28m) and his parents. We're in this situation because we can't afford to buy our own house. My partners' sister (25f; let's call her Jane) lives in a different house (still owned by the parents) but comes to the main house everyday. She comes here at around 7am before her current partner goes to work, and leaves at around 6-7pm after her partner comes home. 

Now the part where I may be the AH is that I don't do ALL the dishes. I will wash some, but I don't wash the plates used by Jane and her family, which is kind of a lot considering she has 3 kids. I only wash what my in-laws and my family used.

The dishes in the sink piled up when the parents were gone for the past few days, and i had to leave for a few hours each day to process some documents. I still come home during lunch to feed my kids and I immediately wash the dishes we used. Jane comes, eats then leaves the dishes ON THE TABLE. She doesn't even bother to put them in the sink sometimes.

The parents came home and started to berate me after seeing the sink. I feel guilty because maybe I could've done more, I guess? And I really don't like being a burden to them. But I feel like it's not my fault the dishes piled up.

So, reddit, AITA for not doing the dishes?

",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr4dff,AITA for not keeping my (28F) in the loop when it comes to my medical appointments ,"Back story:
Back in July I had a heart attack due to extremely high blood pressure. Since then my doctor has ran a whole heap more test and scans on me, which one particular scan showed I have a tumour and a cyst. I’m also seeing a cardiologist because I’ve developed an irregular heartbeat since the heart attack. Now they’re talking about me getting a pacemaker to correct my heartbeat. Also my liver isn’t functioning the way it should either

The issue at hand:
Well any time my dad would ask me about my appointments and what’s going on with my appointments, my stepmother will cut in to either talk about herself or her kids and he will allow her instead of correcting her bull. Well after the last time she did this, I looked my dad dead in the eyes and said ‘you know what I’ve been patient enough with this nonsense, I’m not going to bother updating you because it’s obvious that you don’t actually give a shit else you would be telling her to be quiet while I update you on what’s going on with the appointments’ and I got up and walked away. 

Now he’s acting like the victim and the worried father, but the way I see it is if he actually cared he’d be telling her to hold up on what she wants to say until I’ve told him everything about what’s going on. 

So reddit AITA for not continuing to update my dad on my medicals ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr4c36,AITA: am i the asshole for postponing my date ? ,"For context, my girlfriend and i live together in my parents house. my parents travel for work and my mom has to care for my brother who has cancer. (doctors appointments etc). my parents were home today and my mom told me that we were going to be having family dinner, my girlfriend included. about 3 hours before my mom told me this my girlfriend and i had planned to go out to dinner that night. i told my girlfriend we could still go out just after we saw my parents. 

my girlfriend is upset that i pushed back the date so, am i the asshole? ",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fr33kz,AITA for laughing at my dad dying in Hollow Knight?,"Me (13M) and my dad (40M) like to ""play"" hollow knight together. Well... He plays, and I watch (we still have fun). Sometimes, he dies in REALLY silly ways, and I laugh at that. Sometimes he doesnt like it, but thats when he is clearly pissed. But a lot of times, we both laugh at it and just laugh it off. 

I do still wonder if I'm the a-hole for doing that, after all when I play Geometry Dash with my mom and I laugh like that, its almost always fine. I really need opinions on if I should stop doing that, or is it fine? Please help, I really am questioning if I'm doing a good thing or a bad thing...",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fr304t,AITA for not going on vacation but staying up playing video games? ,"My wife and daughter are going on a trip to the beach tomorrow. I am supposed to go with them but today I started to feel a little cold coming on. They still want me to go and I don't feel horrible but not 100% either- a little headache. 

Anyway, when I told my wife I don't think I am going to go on the trip, she responded that I better not stay up tonight playing video games if I'm too sick to go on vacation. I don't see a problem with me playing games since I'll just be at home sitting down. She said if I am too sick to go on vacation then why am I not too sick to stay up late playing games. 

Am I the asshole for playing games most of the night and not going on vacation with my family? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr2n7q,AITA for defending my mom after my boyfriend was rude to her?,"My boyfriend(19m) and I(19f) have known each other since we were kids. His mother recently passed away. At the funeral, his sister(8f) asked him if she's in heaven now. He said yes. My mom told her though that she didn't believe in Jesus so she isn't there. My boyfriend asked my mom 'What's the matter with you?""

Now, I know what my mom said was callous. Believe me, I do. I felt for the poor kid. But I'm serious about my boyfriend. I love him and the fact that he was rude to my mom could cause issues for us in the future. So I stood up for my mom. I told my boyfriend he can't speak to her that way and said that he has to apologize.

He refused to and hasn't talked to me for two days now. My dad said that as much as he hates people being rude to my mom, my mom was in the wrong.",1,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fr251p,WIBTA for refusing to eat my stepsister’s ex’s food and making my own?,"My stepsister (40F) and I (25M) live with our parents due to her having a special needs son (12M) and I have autism. Her ex husband (the father of her child) has been out of the picture for most of her son’s life. He abandoned them shortly after her son turned 1. As such, I don’t like the guy. 
I recently got a closing shift job, meaning I’m not home for dinner most nights. Cooking is my primary hobby, but because of my job, I had to give up doing it for all but one night a week. I found out today that my stepsisters ex wants back into her life, and wants to cook for my family once a week. The problem, aside from expecting to just waltz back into his sons life after being absent for a decade, is that the day my family agreed to give him is my day to cook, leaving me with no chance to make dinner. This is really frustrating to me, as it feels like my primary hobby and my need to do something on my days off has been disregarded by my entire family. My grandmother is the only person who backs me up. 
WIBTA if I cook my own meal for me and my grandma once a week and not partake in his?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr1uhq,AITAH for calling parents on my brother? ,"
I (26F) have a younger brother (17) who recently had a friend over at our mom's house, drinking and possibly smoking pot. I live three hours away, so I couldn't just show up, but I felt something needed to be done. Our other brother (23), who is non-confrontational, called me voicing his concern about the situation. 

Our mother is currently on her honeymoon and had trusted my younger brother to be responsible while she was away. However, knowing that he's been experimenting with substances, I felt uneasy. We come from a family with a history of addiction, and I couldn't shake the worry. My brothers mean the world to me, and while I didn't want to cause any trouble, something in my gut told me I had to act. So, I called our mom to let her know. 

Now, I'm wondering if I overstepped.",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr1inx,AITA for say “I don’t care” to a classmate?,"I m18 am a college student, I’ve been going through minor depression since the start of college, I moved a state away from my family and have been stressed over classes (I have 7 classes due to my degrees if I want to graduate in 4 years)

 yesterday a classmate lets call her Maggie asked if I could help her with her homework because she forgot to do it. This is not like a math equation it is a 500 word writing assignment, if it was I would have

I said I can’t because I have so much homework to do that I can’t (also I was sick for the past 3 days) and she responded with “you would let a woman fail a class. What happened to chivalry” I thought she was joking but I looked over and she look like that Linus tech tips meme. And I I asked “are you serious” she said yes. Then I said “I don’t care” 

I got an email today by my English professor asking to speak to me about it Monday after the girl told my professor that I said something rude to her. And now her friend (who I’ve been talking to) is texting me saying I’m a dickhead for not helping.

I admit I should’ve said it better but ma’am I’m sorry that I’m not gonna help you do your homework which you didn’t do it’s absurd in my opinion.

Am I the asshole",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fr1ihb,AITA - best friends boyfriend messaged me for help and now she's mad,"My (25f) best friends (26f) boyfriend (25m) messaged me the other night asking for some help as they we going through something and he wanted another one of our friends numbers without telling her.

I had called her a few times that day and the phone was never picked up. I quickly sent the number and didn't think anything of it, I was out with my partner and was going to call her after to tell her (we were at Church).

I get asking if he had reached out to me and I was truthful and sent her the screenshots etc. She is now mad at me for not being ""loyal"" to her.

I honestly don't see what I've done wrong - I only sent the number because I thought it was an issue of not being able to reach her or something like that, not that they were breaking up.

So, AITA?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fr0y9r,AITA for telling my mother in law she’s an *sshole?,"I’m a little trapped as I’m in another country with my mother in law at the moment. My mother in law has many great qualities. She’s very down to earth and (seemingly) likable. She also has a great sense of humor that everyone warms up to instantly. The problem is the second anyone leaves the room, shots are fired. She makes rude, hateful comments about everyone. Her daughter, her friends, her family, me, you name it. It’s exhausting to be around. One minute we’re all friends, and the next we’re tearing down the existence of everyone and everything.

To give you context, when I started dating my wife, this was her take: “Why do you want to date him? You’re going to have funny looking kids.” (I wish I was exaggerating.)

Generally I’m able to dismiss those comments and allow it to roll off my shoulders, but this trip in particular I had enough. I communicated to her that I think she’s generally great to be around, but I struggle to talk negatively about people. I also told her that it very well could be a me problem, but I’m going to respectfully separate myself if or when she starts making rude comments about others.

It did not go well. My MIL now hates my guts and my wife is telling me it was rude to say that to her. I did apologize that it wasn’t well received, but I refuse to apologize for what I said or establishing what I perceive as healthy boundaries for myself. My wife’s stance is “why couldn’t you just keep the peace?” They all think I’m a sack of crap, but honestly, I’m struggling to grasp how the hell this has blown up to the capacity that it has.

Am I the asshole?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr0uus,AITA for not babysitting my sister’s kids pretty much every day?,"
So, I (21M) am childfree and have been very clear about that my whole life. My sister (33F) has three kids (8M, 5F, and 2M), and while I love them, I don’t want to be responsible for taking care of them.

Recently, my sister has been asking me more and more to babysit so she and her husband can ""have some time to themselves."" At first, I said yes occasionally because I felt bad for her. But then she started asking all the time, like every weekend. I finally told her I’m not comfortable with how often she’s asking and I can’t keep saying yes.

Well, she blew up at me, saying things like “family helps family,” and that I’m selfish for not wanting to help out when she really needs it. I suggested she hire a sitter, but she said she can’t afford one and that since I don’t have kids, I should be more available to help her out.

Now my parents are involved, and they're saying I should just help her because I’m not doing anything important with my time (I work full time but apparently, it’s “different” (because I don’t have kids). I’m feeling a lot of pressure to cave in, but I really value my free time and feel like I shouldn't be guilted into taking care of kids I didn’t choose to have.

AITA for refusing to babysit and standing my ground?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fr0rq6,AITA for telling my daughter that she would have to stay home if she couldn’t get ready in a reasonable amount of time?,"My (42F) daughter (18F) takes forever to get ready. Ever since I was 16, I’ve been able to take a shower, get dressed, and do my makeup in 15-20 mins. My daughter, all her life, has always taken longer. She starts getting ready for work 2 hours early. I’ve tried getting her not to take so long, but then she just looks like a mess. Her hair unbrushed in a messy bun, her outfit not matching, and she’ll wear ugly flip flops. She doesn’t really wear makeup other than for certain occasions, but she insists in always styling her hair some kind of way. The fastest she gets ready is in an hour, and that’s if she doesn’t really care about where we’re going. And every time she gets ready, she has to have her tv on a show she’s currently obsessed with. I’ve tried taking her tv away, but she just takes longer then. I’ve also tried taking her phone so she doesn’t get distracted, but then I go to tell her it’s time to go, and she’s still not ready yet. I got fed up last night when I told her she needed to be ready in 10 mins and she looked at me like I was the insane. We got into an argument where she yelled that she couldn’t do a shower, get dressed, and do her hair in 10 mins. So I told her that if she couldn’t do it, then she couldn’t go to our town fair with me. She’s currently ignoring me and staying in her room. I don’t see how I’m in the wrong for trying to somewhere on time. So AITA?",1,0,0,0,0,1,0
1fr0abr,AITA to have refused to do a birthday ‘s present for a classmate’s birthday? ,"there’ll be the birthday party of a classmate of mine in a week, and me and other 5 friends created a group to talk about the present we would gonna make her. they bought that and said nothing about: a 180€ dress, so that means 30€ for person. i got angry cause they didn’t tell me before and cause it’s too expensive (that person is turning 16) and i just refused to pay for it, refusing to go to that party too. they said that 30€ it’s nothing, but it’s not like that for me, and they accused me to overreact. so, am i the asshole?",0,0,0,0,0,1,1
1fqznau,AITA For wanting a gift I gave my mother back instead of her giving it away.,"I'm posting this for my mother.

Years ago she gave her mother a stuffed camel that my father had bought while he was deployed to Turkey a good 20 years ago. Now that she is getting older my grandmother has been giving away quite a bit of her things. She originally tried to give the camel away to her neighbors kid, but he didn't want it. 

So my mom told her she would like it back to give to either one of my kids or my brother's kids.My grandmother stated that she would probably just give it away to one of my mother's sisters that live in another state than all of us. 

So my mom wants to know would she be the asshole if she presses the issue and continues to ask for it back since it is kinda sentimental to her. Or because it was a gift my grandmother can just give it away to whoever she wants to.",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqyn02,AITA for not offering my bed to my grandmother?,"I (M15) live with my mother and father, my mom’s mom visted us yesterday to catch up, as I was chatting and playing with my family, my youngest cousin asked my grandmother to stay over for the night. My grandmother was reluctant after a while, she said yes and all was good, until 12AM, my grandmother decided to leave and go back to her house (she lives 2 hours away). I was obviously suprised at this, though I thought it was because my aunt was busy the next day (my cousin and aunt live with my grandmother), but my mom decided to confront ME, for not offering my bed, my grandmother apparently didn’t want to sleep on the bed like couch and was to uncomfortable, she could have spoke and told me so I could offer it, but she decided to talk to me, not my other siblings, me, the only one with a head injury, as I didn’t want to argue with my dear mother, I told her off and ignored her insults. She eventually said and I quote: “I will force all four of you in a room so I can make space for my family, I am apparently an idiot for not caring about my family before you”
After her words, I started ignoring her no matter how much she tried to talk to me, I feel bad for ignoring my mother but I also feel like I was in the right 


*Lmao sorry for the grammar mistakes, this was more of a rant than anything*",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqy5bt,AITA for constantly bringing up the subject of my boyfriend's future career?,"Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.

Me (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for 5 years. He's very caring and I love him very much. We are both interested in pursuing careers in the creative industry, which obviously is very competitive and requires a huge level of commitment. My boyfriend, while declaring that he wants to be an artist, doesnt really know which career path to choose and he's not really taking any actions to pursue a creative career. He says he simply can't decide on anything specific and is afraid of making the wrong commitment. On the other hand I'm very career-oriented and I decided on pursuing costume design in high school. Even though I lost some of my passion for costuming, I'm still commited to it as I studied it for two years and graduated. I feel like I need to worry constantly about my career and I can't make any changes in my plans, because it seems like I'll be soon supporting both of us, since he's not putting any effort into monetizing his hobbies. Every time I try to talk to him about it he starts to cry and apologize, but he's not really listening and still does not take any action. Am I expecting too much from him? Should I just let him figure it out? Am I overreacting? AITA for constantly trying to make him become more active in his career development?
",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqy3uh,AITA For Not Telling A Student's Parents Their Kid Hit My Car?,"A  week ago, one of the students I (F30) teach was backing out, got out of the student parking lot and when she was driving forward accidentally hit my car in the lot in front of the student one. I wasn't too really upset, given it was just a scrape on paint, and no structural damage but the student (F16) was still upset over it. She was more concerned about my car than hers, which kind of surprised me since her car was more than my salary (She had like an GLE63 or something) and I told her not to worry about it. 

She kept asking to see if I was sure and said that she'd use some of her money to help pay for it, but I said it was nbd. 

Now  her parents call me, telling me that they found out what happened because they finally noticed the scrape on the car and their daughter told them that she had accidentally scraped my car. I told her parents I told her not to worry about it since it wasn't that much of an issue, but they immediately said that next time I should've given them a call or something like that. They weren't necessarily too angry. We had a discussion over it and that was that. But they were kind of upset I didn't tell them.

AITA? Or was i the ah in this situation? ",0,0,1,0,1,0,0
1fqy1wr,AITA for stopping for a dog on the road?,"I was at a 4 way stop and there's a shed like building that looks like it's abandoned. There was a dog that was lingering there, bit close to the road, so I parked on that property to check the collar. Dog was friendly but wasn't staying still so I was digging around the car for a lead or anything similar, and a man walked over from behind the building.

He asked what I'm doing and I responded that I was just checking the dog. He didn't ""understand"" what I meant so I told him I was checking if he was lost and wanted to check if he had a tag or anything on his collar.

He got irritated and said the dog lives there. I never knew there was a house behind the shed and it totally looked abandoned at first glance. He asked if the dog got close to the road and I said yes. Why else would I stop for a dog? Guy says the dog keeps doing that but wants me to get off the property anyway because he's annoyed that I'm bothering them.

Kept thinking he should keep a better eye on the dog if he doesn't want him to get off the property... AITA for checking on the dog?",0,0,0,0,0,0,1
1fqxvv6,"AITA for using cleaning products to clean the same bathroom that my roommate, who’s allergic to said products, also uses?","So, I share a college apartment with my roommate, (19M). Now, he’s a super dirty person. Like, open leftover toothpaste, hair in the drain, and he never, EVER wipes down the toilet and there’s so much hair everywhere. It got so bad that I couldn’t even walk into the bathroom without feeling grossed out, It’s gross to live like this. I get that we’re in uni but this is a whole other level of inconsideration. 

So, here's the deal: he has told me b4 that he's allergic to certain cleaning products. 

But after a lot of bickering over stupid s*it (not exclusively about the bathroom either) a few days ago I used some regular bathroom cleaner with bleach to really scrub everything down.

I usually clean up after myself, sometimes I  don’t it right away cus I lazy but I get to it usually ij few hours. I always make sure not to leave anything dirty. I take out the trash from time to time which Ive never seen him do btw.

I not too sure how bad his allergies are, but I know they aren't life-threatening or anything. But when he got back I told him and he flipped out, saying I knew he was allergic and this ended up becoming a RA issue and an argument. 

I honestly just wanted to live in a clean space, but he’s pissed and honestly? So am I.

AITA?

EDIT: To clarify, I did open the window while cleaning and used a fan to air out the bathroom. Also, I used the cleaner before he even got back. I didn’t just spray it while he was around and we have separate rooms with one bathroom.",0,0,1,0,0,0,0
1fqx387,AITA because I want my gf to stop getting tattoos? ,"I (32M) met my girlfriend (28F) close to a year ago. She has since moved into my house and things are going pretty well overall.

When I met her, she was pretty heavily tattooed; almost a complete sleeve on one side covering her hand, more on the other arm, and knuckles done on both hands. She once told me that she wanted a lot more, and while I'm fine with the tattoos she has, I really don't want her to get any more. She hasn't gotten any since we've been together, fortunately.

All of her tattoos are well done, but 95% of them are not meaningful. Just a bunch of random stuff all over. It's pretty unnecessary, and I really like being able to still see some of her natural skin.

Since expressing my opinion about this, she has told me she would be fine with not going to the extent of sleeving out her arms and legs (thank god) but she still wants to get her other hand tattooed because ""it looks bad with only the knuckles done,"" which is such a stupid reason. It looks fine.

I told her she can do whatever she wants, but that I can also do what I want, and I don't have to stay with her if I don't like it. She started crying about it, asking how I could say such a thing. But I'm not stopping her from doing what she wants; I'm just saying I don't have to stick around if I don't like it. I might end up liking it, but I just really wish she would stop or get smaller, less visible ones.",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqwyu9,AITA for asking my bf not to yell at the dogs while I’m sleeping? ,"My bf works on the road all week and comes home on weekends. We have three dogs who get really excited when he comes home, and I get that it’s overwhelming; they irritate me sometimes too. However, he has a habit of overreacting to their excitement by yelling at them instead of remaining calm, which is how you get dogs to calm down. 

Last weekend, he came home while I was napping and freaked out at them, startling me awake and putting me in a pretty sour mood. I have trauma from being startled often as a child and so it takes a long time for the cortisol rush to leave my body, and I hate that because my time with him is already short as it is, and I never want to spend my already-limited time with him feeling frustrated with him. He knew I was napping, and if I ever screamed while he was asleep, it would be a HUGE problem for him. 

I texted him a few mins ago to tell him I was gonna take a nap and, pretty respectfully, asked him to please not yell at the dogs when he comes in. I told him I was excited to see him, etc. He responds by saying he will yell at them if he needs to and I don’t need to text him that. I was like ummm, you wouldn’t appreciate me yelling at them while you’re sleeping, and I don’t appreciate it either, so I’m giving you a heads up that I will likely be asleep when you get home. 

I really don’t think it’s a big ask. Am I in the wrong for thinking this is an unreasonable request?",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqvlz4,AITA for not picking my sister up at the airport,"I 28 (F) living in Florida has a sister (41) living in Texas with my niece (4). We all grew up in Florida but she decided to move which is normal but when she comes back in to town she stays with us and we are her transportation most of the time. Every time she comes she decides to come into an airport that is at least 1 hour away from us. We have an airport 30 minutes away but she says that it is too expensive to fly into from there. She also has a habit of having a car rental at this far away airport so we have to make at least 4 trips there.

She and my niece are coming into town and yet again are coming in to the far away airport. This time I decided to let her know that I will not be coming to get them because it an inconvenience. I decided to pay for a taxi to get them instead. She was so upset and the reason is because my niece has a car seat in my car and it's safer to get with her that way. I told her the only way to do that is to fly in the local airport. I also told her, I would get her a ride to pick up her rental car. AITA?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqtyhd,AITA for calling a friend on the shitter?,"I had to shit, but had a bunch of other things to do as well. I figured I would save some time by calling my friend while on the shitter. It worked fine until he asked me if I was pooping, at which point he got mad and said it was disgusting to call him while on the toilet. I think he overreacted. What do you think?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqtw5x,AITA for texting my upstairs neighbour asking them to stop being loud ,"Okay okay I know how the title is making me sound. Let me explain. I (23F) and my boyfriend (32M) live in a one bedroom basement apartment in the bottom of a duplex. I’ve been living here for over a year and he moved in early December. We never had any issues with the previous neighbours but since May of this year, the new neighbours moved in. They’re honestly really nice, a young family with a young child. But here’s the thing…I feel like they have no regard for us, living below them, especially early in the morning (I’m talking 6am). We’ve ignored it for months and haven’t said anything until I was woken up at 615 by their child running at full speed right above our room. Maybe I wasn’t the nicest in the moment, but I texted the neighbours “hi can you guys please keep it down. Your son running at full force at 619AM has woken me up. Please be mindful”. To spare time, I’ve summed up the conversation that follows. They said they can’t keep their child from walking and kept saying “what are we supposed to do” after I stated that it’s not the child that is the issue, it’s that they let their child run around in the morning. They say they are more than mindful but I don’t feel like they care. AITA? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqtc5i,WIBTA if I reminded a friend he has owed me money for months?,"I have a friend who I play golf with. Last time we played, he showed up to the course and said he forgot his wallet and asked if I could pay for him. Well, four months later still hasn’t paid me back, and never mentions it even though we talk and have seen each other many times. Not a lot of money, just the principle is what bothers me.",0,0,0,1,0,0,0
1fqsn23,AITA for laughing while my grandma’s brother is dying?,"I was standing beside my father as he was showing me some funny design fails on his pc. There were actually some really funny ones which made us both laugh and giggle at times. Well, after some odd seconds of really bad designs, my fathers smartphone was ringing and we could hear his mother (my grandmother) cry on the other side. She was informed that her brother (his nickname is Bill) was diagnosed with cancer and had 6 weeks at best. So while my grandma was in shambles, my father just continued clicking through the bad design compilation while comforting her. I notched him to stop clicking through these designs as I had to giggle to some of it and couldn’t bring myself to stay serious. Come as it had to come, the final design he showed me was of a truck which had „FUCK BILL“ written on it, because of the sliding door hiding the other letters. This made me laugh out loud, my grandmother was not so fond of me laughing about her brother basically dying. I tried convincing her that my laughter was not related to the subject she was talking about, but she didn’t want to listen to me and instead started swearing at me and my father for being inappropriate and that we should be ashamed of ourselves. She ended the call with me being uninvited from Sunday dinners indefinitely.
So again AITA for laughing while my grandma’s brother is dying?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fqsgi7,WIBTA for wanting boundaries regarding my family’s expectations for my late grandmother's apartment?,"My grandmother passed away a few months ago, and my seven uncles and aunts inherited her apartment. Recently, they offered my girlfriend and me the opportunity to move into the apartment, and after checking it out, we decided to take it.

We’ve started clearing out my grandmother's old belongings and planning how we want to furnish and arrange the place. But just before we began buying things, my mom informed me that my uncles and aunts expect to hold family Shabbat dinners (Kiddush) there every Saturday. Additionally, if any of my relatives who live abroad visit, they expect us to vacate the apartment for about two weeks while they stay there.

I tried discussing boundaries with them, but they refuse to compromise. Since it’s their apartment and they’re not charging us rent (even though I offered to pay), they feel it’s their right to visit their mother’s house whenever they want and use it as they see fit. While my girlfriend and I are willing to cover all other expenses—property tax, electricity, water, etc.—we’re uncomfortable with the lack of privacy and the idea of having to vacate the apartment during visits.

WIBTA for wanting more boundaries around how the apartment is used if we’re going to live there, even though I don’t own it?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqrdsp,AITA for not selling my beloved car to my gf’s sister for her daughter ,"Tomorrow I plan on trading in my 2016 CX-5 (bought in 2015) for a new CX-70.  My car is 9 1/2 years old and has almost 225,000 miles on it.  Yes, I drive a lot!  When I first started considering a new vehicle I had mentioned maybe trying to sell it outright.  This car is my baby.  It’s been the best vehicle I’ve ever owned and I’m feeling pretty sad about saying goodbye to it.  But with this kind of mileage I’m really concerned that something could go wrong with it, and if it did I would feel awful selling it to someone I know.  Plus, we’re talking about a 17 yo girl who isn’t going to care for it the way I have.  I can’t bear the thought of seeing it trashed.  My gf is really pissed off at me for not wanting to sell it to them.  In addition, I’m getting a great deal on my new car, which I know in part is because the dealership will make a few bucks on my trade.  So the gf wants me to sell it to them for the amount I’m getting in trade plus the tax break I’ll be getting due to the trade.  With all the mileage I likely couldn’t sell it outright for more than this amount.  I don’t want to deal with the hassle of doing so and the dealership has earned its right to make a few dollars.  The gf’s sister has a high paying job and could easily afford to buy her daughter a new car.  I never thought my last ride in my car would be a guilt trip…. AITA?

Edit: Just want to add, there are some additional personal reasons I don’t want to sell it to this person.  ",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fqrbin,WIBTA if I had my mother ask our relatives to only invite us over when I can go?,"

My aunt and uncle invited my family to dinner like a few weeks ago on a Friday night, and I couldn't go because I was working. So my whole family went other than me. So I took Fridays off work so I would have a life and be able to do stuff on a Friday. But then last week, another relative of mine invited our whole family like cousins and everything to their house for a party for a special occasion, and I couldn't go because I was working. My mother for some reason told me about it which just made me pissed off because if they didn't say they were going I wouldn't even have known about it.


It's annoying not being able to go to anything so I was considering telling my mother to messsge all of our relatives on that side to say that if they're going to invite us over or have a party or some shit to have it on a Friday so that I can go.",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fqqs8n,AITA for asking my dad to make less “jokes”?,"I (18F) am in a bad family situation, and my dad has been my whole life making bad comments about me, saying that I’m a bad daughter, that he loves me more than I deserve, that I’m a rock on his path, that I look horrible, stuff like that.

I’ve always hated it bc I feel horrible abt it. And he says they are just jokes to help me not be like those people that think they are better than others. So yesterday I told him that he did it too much and it hurt me. But he now says I make him feel like a bad father. 

I just told him to make less comments like this, and he is making me feel like an asshole for asking that. As if I were a bad daughter for not wanting him to insult me all the time we spend together. He also says that I keep spending less and less times with them since I’m all the time in my room but I just don’t want to go through that more than what I already do.

So AITA for telling him to make less comments?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqqru3,AITA for asking my boyfriend to stay away from his hallucinating best friend ,"To add context me and my boyfriend who we’ll call Preston and his best friend who we’ll call Billy have been friends for over a year now. During last year Billy ended up in the mental hospital and on anti-psychotics for being classified a danger to themselves and others. Preston and Billy are very close, to the point Preston uses Billy’s home as an escape from his own. Though recently Billy has gotten off of their medications due to how the side effects lead to a lot of zoning out and dissociating. Billy is getting really bad again, hallucinating people talking to them, doing dangerous actives, and mistreating the people around them. I asked Preston to please limit speaking to Billy as much as possible and only have conversations when necessary till they’re back on their meds for Preston’s safety. Preston understood my worry immediately and agreed but I still feel bad for asking my partner to distance themselves from someone so close to him. AITA?

UPDATEEEE!!
we talked too Billy’s family and Billy is going back on their current medication temporarily until next week when their going to talk to someone about getting a different medication:) ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqqn93,AITAH for tell my ex she can't be mad when our daughter calls my girlfriend mum when she'll call my ex's boyfriend dad,"I (M26) have had a ongoing disagreement with my ex (F25) about what our daughter will call my girlfriend (F29) or or her mom's boyfriend (M25). My ex won't correct our daughter when she'll call this guy dad but gets extremely mad when my daughter will call my girlfriend mum.

My girlfriend has been in my daughter's life for almost two years now while my ex's boyfriend has been in her life for less than a year. Anytime she called my girlfriend mum, I'd correct her and I'd do the same when she talks about her weekend at her mom's place and talks about her mom's boyfriend. If she calls him dad, I tell her, ""No sweetie, that's your mom's boyfriend. Like Cori is my girlfriend until either side gets married to them. Then they'll be your step parent or other parent"" Note trying to explain it to a 5 year old, is easy and isn't at the same time.

But, when I was dropping my daughter off to her mom and she said hi to her mom and her mom's boyfriend, she called him dad. I corrected her. Her mom got irritated and said, ""She can call him whatever she wants."" Not even two minutes later, my daughter says bye to me and my girlfriend calling her mum. My ex got pissed. ""She isn't her mom. I'm her only mom until you two get married.""

So it's okay for him to be called dad but she can't be called mum? How is that fair? Plus I still corrected my daughter. In front of everyone. 

I don't mind, but I just want it to be fair. But my daughter just calls mine and her mom's other half by their name. 

So reddit, am I the jerk?
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1fqq0xx,AITA for not letting my mom browse my messages?,"I am a 16 year old male and has had a phone since I was 8. My mom would take my phone from time to time and browse all my messages and conversations on all my messaging apps. I understood it when I was younger, but now I feel like I'm too old for that. When I told her I don't want her to do that, she'd accuse me of hiding something for her and say something the lines of ""Is this my thanks for everything I've been doing for you???"" and similar things that just make me feel like an asshole, hence the post.

I understand she's very worried about me and she just wants to make sure I'm ok and don't get into conversations with shady people and such. But I feel like I'm old enough to be able to deduct who I should or shouldn't talk to and I want to be able to have privacy.

I also completely understand she has been through a lot in life and that she may view this as me being distrustful of her, doing something behind her back and lying to her, and I really don't want to hurt her.

So AITA for not letting my mom browse my messages?

Edit: Holy cow my notifications are exploding",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqpne6,AITA: For wanting a “girls day”,I (F24) wants to go see a friend (F20) in the hospital with my coworker/friend(F20). She may have a serious illness and we are very worried about her. I told my partner (M27) about it and he said he will drive us or he can drive by himself and he will visit his aunt or come with us to see our friend. Normally I wouldn’t mind but my coworker invited me so I don’t feel comfortable asking her? I love him to death but we are around eachother 24/7 which I don’t necessarily mind but I work 40 hours a week with one day off. In the beginning of our relationship alone time was very important to him but now it’s changed. I haven’t been alone at all not even with just my friends without him for 3 years. I’m afraid if I say no I’ll make him sad. He said he just doesn’t want something to happen to me or for me to die without him. He is an amazing partner but I just am starting to feel crazy. Would I be in the wrong if I said no?,0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqohrd,WIBTA for cleaning while my in laws visit?,"I’ll start by saying that I (29f) am not super close with my in laws, but we’re not hostile either. We just don’t have much in common to bond over. That being said, they are very close to my husband and they are super loving to my 9 month old son, so things remain peaceful. My job allows me to work from home on Fridays, and my MIL is a SAHM and homeschools her younger two kids 13M and 12F, so sometimes they come to visit my son on Fridays. Since my husband and I both work full time, chores sometimes get piled up more than they should. WIBTA if I took time to get some things done around the house while my in laws play with my son rather than actually visiting with them? ",0,0,0,0,0,0,1
1fqo585,AITA Not wanting my gf to drive my car after crashing it.,"Hello I’ve been in my relationship for almost around 3 years me and my gf are both mid twenties. When we started dating she had her own car and it was much nicer. Her first accident was her turning to avoid a deer so kinda not her fault her second time she totaled her car by rear ending a ford truck witch was her fault but luckily no damages to the guys tailgate so didn’t have to pay him. Now it’s been about a year and she’s been biking to college/work or using my car when it’s convenient. Last week she was driving and a guy skipped a stop sign and totaled my car. She and her friends were perfectly safe and even if it’s not her fault I can’t help but feeling anxious and not trust in her driving abilities. I’ve been driving since I was 18 and have never gotten into a car accident. 
AITA For feeling like I need to control use of car now. I feel like it would be rude to cut off your partner in that way but it’s also giving me anxiety and now neither of us have a car and I have to buy one and go through this whole process. 
",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqmyes,AITA for potentially denying my boyfriend’s brother’s request to live with us in my place? ,"My (28M) boyfriend’s (23M) brother (17M) wants to move in with us for 4 months. He recently went to military training and injured himself and is on crutches right now and can barely walk. It’s not that I don’t want to help him but I personally really really feel he needs to live with his mom and heal up and rest up at least until he turns 18. 

Their mom wants to let him make his own decision but I feel he’s too young and I feel that he legitimately needs to stay at Mom’s house for a while longer, he doesn’t need to be in my house or pressured into getting a job etc in my opinion. 

But basically the mom told me to be hard on him and make firm boundaries. My boyfriend wants to try to co-parent his brother but to me this is just far too much to deal with as me and my boyfriend run a business. 

Plus not to mention I don’t like his younger brother’s personality cause he’s pretty rude and blunt. And he’s even recorded me and my boyfriend kissing in the middle of the night and then sent it to me with laughing emojis…. 

But yeah, on one hand it feels a little mean to deny him a place to stay when he’s trying to move in with me and wants to work for my company but I also don’t feel comfortable with him in my house. I don’t want to rock the boat with my boyfriend’s family or cause a potential break up between us but I also don’t want the brother in my house either. 

What should I do? ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqkdre,AITAH for wanting time with my boyfriend when he's helping his bestfriend,"So not long ago mine and my boyfriends bestfriend had an accident and had to have surgery on her wrist which meant she was unable to do anything with that arm 

other then our bestfriends mum and sister she has my boyfriend and her other friend to look after her. 

issue is I have epilepsy so I can't be there all the time as I need to look after myself but that means that the main person that can look after her is my boyfriend because he has the most free time, but most of the time she just lies on her bed on a phone call with her boyfriend watching tv, so when she's not doing anything I would assume he could make time for me 

but she still wants him there to help so I dont get to see him anymore and apparently she needs 24hr care when I know she can do some things for herself 

she starts her physio soon which means she will have to start using her arm and hand and if she continues asking for 24hr care while she is doing that I know she is taking the piss because she knows she can get him to do anything for her and her mum can get him to do anything too.

I get no time with him anymore at the moment and if feel like she will continue to take advantage because she likes the attention 

please give me advice, am I being unreasonable? do I have the right to feel this way? and how do I approach the situation if it happens? ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqk5np,AITA 22(F) 24(M) for not letting my bf drive my car after he crashed his car? ,"My bf rear-ended another car today, thankfully everyone was okay. However his car was unfortunately a ticking time bomb and he waited all summer to fix his brakes. His car is going to need about a month in the shop, Every time I reminded him he would get defensive so I stopped bringing it up. when this happened today I told him the car crash was natural consequences because that was irresponsible to not prioritize his brakes. His mom said she would help him pay for his brakes, however he expects me to lend him my car on my days off work. I work three nights a week, and he works 6 days a week. I said I didn’t feel comfortable with him taking my car to work, and that at the very least I’d like to be in the car. I sent him my schedule and told him I would give him rides to work. He is convinced I am punishing him. And that I don’t trust his driving. I told him it’s not that personal. I am mainly just protecting my assets since he has liability insurance and I have full coverage. My service dog just has emergency surgery and we can’t afford another financial mishap at this time.  Also why do I have to go without my car on my days off? I feel like he is being selfish. But I also can’t help but think if I am being unfair about this? ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqjvx3,WIBTA for no longer telling my friend about job opportunities?,"So me (20f) and my friend (20f) both want to work in the same industry. It’s a very competitive industry to work in and a lot of it is about who you know, as well as what you know. 

I’m quite good at finding opportunities for volunteering and getting known, I often put myself out there. Originally, I shared these opportunities with my friend. I know how tough it is out there and I wanted to help her succeed as well. However, this has resulted in us doing the exact same volunteer roles, competing for the same opportunities and I don’t like it. When we work at the same places, she wants to stick together. This means that I can’t strike up friendships with anyone else who might be working there. 

I applied for a role about a month ago and my mum suggested to me that I didn’t immediately mention it to her. I let myself grow there for a bit and slipped it in into conversation and see what happened. 

Well as soon as I mentioned it, my friend immediately applied for a role working at the same company. (It’s volunteer). 

I decided after this that I didn’t want to mention things anymore. It might sound selfish and stupid but I feel like I don’t have anything to myself. It might sound like I’m trying to get ahead but I promise it’s not that. 

So WIBTA if I no longer mention opportunities to her?

",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqin5m,AITA for immediately accusing my sister of lying to me?,"Two months ago, my(22m) sister(21)'s best friend 'Cath'(21f) asked if I'd like to hook up with her. I told her I'm not interested in having a one night stand.

Last month, she asked me out. She told me she's hooked up with several guys, 22 to be exact, but wants to settle down now and thinks I might be the right person for her. I said yes and we have been dating ever since. It's great, really. She's great. Sweet, kind and funny. I'm serious about her.

At first my sister was okay with this but then she told me Cath drunkenly confessed that she only wants to have sex with me and plans to dump me after taking my virginity. I didn't believe her so I called her a liar and accused her of changing her mind about us dating and not being brave enough to just say that.

She recoiled before telling me I should give her the benefit of the doubt since she is my sister and has always only wanted the best for me.",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fqiib8,AITA for asking to keep some friendships separate in a relationship?,"AITA for asking my partner of 6 years to keep some friendships separate? We have many mutual friends but I have some friendships I wish to keep for my own because I like the comfort of him not being too involved so I asked to not build a close/direct friendship relationship with. He thinks everybody, no matter their relationship to me, should be allowed to be his friend and really would like to get a one on one drink with this guy. I’m totally ok hanging out together but separately I thought was too much. 

AITA for asking this?
",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqiecl,AITA For Sharing Something Personal ,"Boyfriend (29M) dumped me after I (29F) shared something personal 

We were arguing and I had initiated the idea of a break up because I was uncomfortable with crossing certain physical boundaries and he had kept pushing it. I explained why I was uncomfortable with him crossing those boundaries by sharing a past experience and that's when he decided to end the conversation and dumb me. I didn't want to share, but after incessantly explaining my point of view he just wasn't getting it and I felt forced to share. I feel that I've hurt him/his ego by what I've shared, but I'm also so mad that he was pushing something he wasn't willing to accept if I had done it with someone else in my past. ",0,1,0,0,1,0,0
1fqhapv,AITA for moving someone’s laundry,"I'm a college student that lives in a 10-story building with one laundry room (that's 10 stories of college students having access to the few washing and drying machines there). I start off by putting my clothes in the washer, and I set it by using an app that controls setting it up, which also has a timer to notify the duration left of your laundry and when it's done. Once my clothes were done washing, I took it out so I could dry them however there weren't any available dryers so I took someone's out and put mine in there and took mine once my timer went off. There's a lot of mixed opinions on my campus regarding doing that and whether that makes you an ass or not, but in my defense, I do that because people, especially 10 floors of people to 1 laundry room, have to do their laundry and shouldn't have to wait around on someone taking up a dryer for quite a while with no other available dryers, especially when the app used lets you know when your laundry's done, and others make it a priority to get their laundry immediately after the timer goes off. Anyways, am I an asshole for that?",0,0,1,0,0,0,0
1fqfpul,AITA for taking my friends role at my ballet studios nutcracker?,"I am currently a senior in highschool and participating in my dance studio’s annual christmas nutcracker performance. I had the role of Arabian last year and was really hoping to get cast as Mirliton this year. However, I got the role of arabian again this year. As it is my last chance to dance in the nutcracker, I was encouraged by all my peers at dance to ask that I be allowed to switch to mirlitons. 

However, I was told that if I did get the role, it would most likely be double cast meaning I would only dance in some performances and not all. I was completely fine with this and happy that I would not be “taking” anyones spot. My dance teacher called me over today telling me that one of my friends who originally got the role of mirlitons was “more than willing to and very excited to switch to arabian”. 

Hearing this I was already uncomfortable feeling like though she allowed it, I was technically taking her spot as a Mirliton. Today I overheard the girl I switched with and others at dance talking about me as if I stole her part when this is not what I wanted at all. 

She tells me that it is fine when I apologized and that she wanted to do arabian anyway but I heard her the other day saying she would not want to be cast as arabian. I feel very uncomfortable now with this role as others see me as a part stealer and seem to be talking behind my back. The only thing I wanted was to do this nutcracker without regrets but now I am regretting asking to change roles in the first place. AITA?",0,0,1,0,0,0,0
1fqe9wm,AITA for making my son's birthday take precedence over my partner's family gathering? ,"I (37M) have a 6-year-old son whose birthday is next week. I have been planning his small birthday party and invited a few close friends and family. It means so much to him, and I just want to make it special since he's still at that age where birthdays are magical.

My partner (35M) comes from a big family, and his family is planning an event on the exact date of my son's birthday. He claims we have to go because his family always make it a point to get together during occasions. I kind of get that, but somehow, this is my son's birthday, and it should be more important than them, especially since he's excited.

I suggested we could attend his family gathering later in the day after the birthday party. But instead, he's irritated and thinks that I am putting my son's interest before his family, which feels kind of stupid. He says its not fair on his family; and that such a miss may result in hurt feelings.

I've tried to tell him that we could celebrate with his family another day, but he claims this is important to him and that I am selfish since I am not putting his feelings into consideration. Now he's threatening to go alone, which means not making it to my son's party.

I want my son's birthday to be memorable, and it happens only once a year. AITA for insisting we need to prioritize my son's birthday over his family gathering?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fqc2aq,AITAH for laughing at my husband after he wet the bed and i had to clean it?,"Basically my husband (M26) is a police Officer and he works 10 hour shifts and normally when he gets home I'm (M28) still awake as I am a teacher and I have books to mark so when he got in he went straight to bed like always and a few hours later I hear him waking up and he said:

Him ""no..no""

Me ""no? no what?

Him ""Nothing just look away""

Me ""Why?

Him ""Hmmm I wet the bed"" in a soft tone""""

Me ""Sorry?""

Him ""I wet the bed""

me "" I heard what u said perfectly thank you how the fuck did u do that?

this is when I started to laugh my head off and he ran into the bathroom leaving the bed still soaked so I had to clean the bed then finally after like 20mins he came out and climbed straight back into bed and now I feel like I hurt his feelings by laughing at him

So AITAH?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqbxsz,AITA for  accidentally coming out to my son in front of his friends?,"So I'm bi which technically isn't a secret ,but it's never been something I like sat down and told my kids about. My youngest ""Riley"" (14M) is in a band with his two best friends ""Zack"" and ""Trevor"" both 15 I believe and who are a couple. They sometimes practice at our house in the afternoons so I end up chauffeuring them home when it gets late and Riley comes with me so we can pick up dinner afterwards. 

Yesterday on the ride taking the other boys home I let them play whatever music.Zack picked ""Bloom"" by Troye Sivan and if you've heard that song as a queer person you know what's it about. For you straights think a woman letting you be the first person in the garden. Anyways I know the song and I start singing along pretty comfortablely. Zack and Trevor are both giggling and texting each other and Riley I think. Out the blue Trevor ask me If I know what the song means and without thinking I was like yeah of course I do. Both him and Zack started laughing.

Riley just kinda blurts out asking if I'm gay if I love mom. I was caught off guard and I just kinda reflexively said ""no I'm bi and of course I love your mom"". He's been kinda weird about since  and was really embarrassed about it. My wife thinks I shouldve just told him that I'd talk to him about it later and had more of discussion instead of just blurtting out Infront of his friends like that. AITA?",1,0,0,0,0,1,0
1fqaymy,WIBTA if I stopped walking my elderly neighbors dog?,"So, I’ve been helping out my elderly neighbor by walking his dog for a few months now. He’s old and has trouble getting around, so I figured I’d help out since I’m already walking my own dog anyway. At first, it was pretty manageable because it was on my own schedule, and I didn’t mind doing it when I took my dog out.

But lately, it’s starting to feel like a bit much. I work from home and sometimes walk around my complex during business calls. When my neighbor sees me, he’ll ask if I can walk his dog, even when I’m not walking mine. On top of that, he’s started texting more and more asking me to walk the dog at random times, and it’s just becoming a little demanding.

To be honest, I just don’t feel like walking the dog anymore. It’s not the best on a leash, and it’s way more hyper than my dog, which makes it a lot less enjoyable. I feel bad, because I know he needs the help, but I’m also feeling taken advantage of and don’t want to be responsible for someone else’s pet anymore.  

WIBTA if I tell him I want to stop?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fqaxfd,AITA for refusing to help my mom with housework because I’m tired from my job and classes?,"I (20F) live with my mom (45F) while attending college full-time and working a part-time job. My mom also works full-time, but recently she’s been asking me to help out more with housework. She says it’s because I’m home more often than she is, even though I’m usually studying or exhausted from work.

Last week, she got really upset with me because I didn’t clean the kitchen after my shift, even though I told her I had an exam the next morning and needed to study. She said that I’m not pulling my weight and that I’m taking advantage of the fact that I’m living with her rent-free. I told her that I’m trying my best to juggle everything and that I need to prioritize my education, but she called me ungrateful and lazy.

Now I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable by not helping out more. AITA for refusing to do more housework because I’m tired?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fqan5m,AITA for choosing to go to homecoming over my Aunt and Uncles Wedding ,"AITA for skipping out on my Aunt and Uncles wedding because it’s the same night as my homecoming? I (16F) had found myself in a slight delimma last week when I was reminded of my Aunt(37) and her soon to be husbands(38) upcoming wedding. The date had been known for over a year. I wouldn't say we're super close, I mean I've known her husband, let's call him Alex my whole life. We live in the same town, about 15 minutes away from each other. Alex and my Aunt, we'll call Laura have been together for over 20 years. They have 2 children, my cousins 14 and 8. We've always done holidays and gone to each others birthdays etc. Laura can be bitchy and blunt with people but overall I know she loves me. Alex is the exact opposite. I've never had a problem with him. Always kind to me. Even coming to some of my soccer games. So to the point I guess, Laura messaged my mom, we'll call Rachel(41) ""Hey, Alex heard that (we'll call myself Carly) Carly's homecoming is the same night as the wedding. You guys are still coming, right?"" Rachel text back, "" me and(moms boyfriend Zach) will be there but Carly won't"". This started a chain reaction of them fighting with each other. End result, none of my family(Rachel, Zach, and 3 other siblings) will not be attending. I don't think it's my fault this all happened but I feel I have the choice to choose which thing I want to go to. So Reddit AITA for choosing homecoming over my Aunt and soon to be Uncle's wedding?",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fqamgg,AITA for refusing to support my brother financially after he dropped out of college?,"I (20F) am in my second year of college, and I work part-time to cover my expenses. My older brother (23M) recently dropped out of college because he said it “wasn’t for him” and has been struggling to find a stable job. He moved back home with my parents, but they’re struggling financially and can’t support him entirely. My brother asked me if I could lend him some money to cover his bills until he gets on his feet, but I refused because I’m already working hard to pay for my own education and living expenses.

He accused me of being selfish and said that family should help each other out, especially since I’m the one who’s “more successful” right now. Our parents are also pressuring me to give him some money, saying that it’s my responsibility to support him during this difficult time. I feel guilty because I know he’s struggling, but I also feel like I shouldn’t have to sacrifice my own financial stability because he chose to drop out.

AITA for refusing to help my brother financially?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fq6s6u,AITA for not deleting old messages from an old phone I haven’t used in years?,so my partner saw some old messages from a old phone of mine that our kid plugged up. My partner put the password in and somehow saw some very old texts between myself and an ex who at the time we were just fwb’s. I had told them multiple times about how much of bad place I was in before we met. How when we met I was just trying to make it an FWB thing because I didn’t want to get hurt again. My ex and I hadn’t spoken in a bit before my current partner and I met. But the last text sent was a week before we were introduced. The texts read were very NSFW. I’ve been getting the silent treatment for the majority of these last two days and as soon as I was told it happened I apologized profusely. Made sure they knew it was before them and never happened during. Today is day three and I can still feel the shift and the awkwardness. I don’t know what to do. I’m not one to just let it not be talked about but they’re one to just bottle up emotions and take forever to talk about things.,0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fq6gz1,WIBTA if I told my partner I don’t want to stay for the entire family trip?,"So I (33M) and my partner (36M) go on holidays around twice a year with my in-laws (his parents, brother, sister, sister-in-law and two nephews) either visiting their home or going away somewhere abroad (we’re all Europeans living in Europe). I love them and feel very accepted by them, but spending so much time with everyone after some time it just gets too much/tiring for me, and I just wanna fly back home or do something by myself for a day. I’m a social introvert and after 3-4 days it feels like I need my alone/bf time back! To be fair, I had told my partner that I’d like to spend a bit more time just the two us together even if we’re on holiday, and he’s heard me - we’ve been going on half-a-day trips/hikes/etc away from the others.

We also sometimes visit my parents / brother / brother’s family as well, though I keep those visits shorter (usually around 3-5 days) and spend less time with everyone being all together. I love my family and we’re close, it’s just I have less need of spending more time with them.

We’ve been planning a longer (7-10 days) holiday abroad for next year with my partner’s family - WIBTA if I told my partner that that’d be too much for me and I’d like to either join in halfway or fly back home halfway while he spends the rest of the holiday with his family?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fq5s3m,AITA for ignoring my cousin-in-law,"I've(22F) been with my husband(22M) three and a half years we have been married for almost a year. He has this cousin(22M) he used to be very close to but they've been a bit distance we've gotten married, and the cousin has never been like open to me. I always reach out and invite him in his fiance(22F) to do stuff with us or go on a double date and try to be nice, friendly, and accommodating. Problem is that I'm still good friends with his ex. Her and I had been friends when we met and even since they broke up(it was toxic relationship for both of them but ended civil she said). She has been there for me during some hard times and has been a really good friend. She moved across the country nine months ago and has moved on from him altogether. Well randomly yesterday he and his fiance unadded and blocked me on all social media because they are upset that I'm still friends with her. It ended civil and they have known I was friends with her so why now. And I don't feel like I owe them anything since they don't even try to reciprocate a familial or friend relationship. So WIBTA If I stay friends with his ex since him and his fiance are not even close with me?",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fq5j2e,AITA for telling someone to logout of my account ,"I made a crunchyroll account so I could watch some shows I couldn’t watch on anything else. I added one of my friends and he asked if he could add one of his friends, I said it was cool because i’ve meet the other guy a couple times. He joins makes my username the n-word (were all white) and makes my friends username f@ggot. I asked my friend to tell him to log out but he never did so I deactivated his device remotely and this was a couple months ago. Today my friend tells me he logged back in and deleted my account and changed all of the accounts that were on there. I removed him again and changed the login info so he can’t rejoin. But I texted him asking him to logout (before I changed the info) once again and he told me to chill since it’s between him and my friend. I told him this was childish and embarrassing on his part and he told me “fuk off”. I responded saying “I was so scared” and he should get his life together.  He responded saying that i’m the one who lost his shit over someone he doesn’t know. He said he was done with me and I responded with “Finally” and wish him luck with whatever he’s struggling with and that I’d keep him in my prayers since i’ve attended church with him once or twice before. My friend reached out and said they’re no longer friends because of whatever issues they’re having but why did his ex friend lash out on me?",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fq5d9g,"AITAH my partner, and I had an argument which led to the silent treatment.","Me (21F) am currently getting the silent treatment from my partner(29M). This all started because my partner told me he would call me when he got home and we made plans to online game (we currently live a few hours away from each other.) I waited for my partner to contact me, But heard nothing from him. I waited until 9 PM and then I messaged him “ hey are you still busy?” he responded to me that he was playing a game with his friends online. I left it alone after that since he was busy playing with friends and I didn’t want to interrupt that. I end up calling him before I went to bed and we talked for a while. He asked if I was ok and I told him I was a bit upset that he forgot to call me and forgot about our plans. He got upset and said. ” you always make me feel guilty for wanting alone time.” I tried to explain that I didn’t want to interrupt him playing a game with his friends. He got more upset and asked me why I didn’t tell him that he forgot when I first messaged him. I told him I shouldn’t have to remind him and that it hurts me when he forgets and blames me for not reminding him. He hung up and is now giving me the silent treatment AITAH? ",0,1,0,0,0,0,0
1fq3znv,AITAH for getting a wheelchair and my parents not liking it,"I (25M) went to my doctor because I have had pains that made me barely able to walk on most days but sometimes I can walk for 10 minutes max. I went to the doctor today asking for solutions for my pain and I made a idea of getting a wheelchair, because I have had this issue for a year and it’s not going away and i can sometimes walk for 10 minutes but I said I will just be using it for ambulatory use and he said yes. And I had to pay for my own and a few days ago it came and my parents got really annoyed because they don’t think I needed it and she said “you shouldn’t have that someone else might need it more” but I told her my doctor said it was a good idea. this happened on back and forth for about a week and she is just being really stunborn on this. Dads is trying to stick up for me as I have a great relationship with him because we play helldivers 2 together and he’s sticking up for me I am starting college soon and getting everything done for my wheelcha and everything.

AITAH for this I don‘t think I am as my doctor said it was a good idea

so you in the comments",1,0,0,0,0,0,0
1fq3vyx,AITA for being an introvert and feeling judged by my family?,"I’m perfectly happy spending time alone and recharging by myself, but my relatives often label me as a snob for it. They think it’s weird that I prefer solo activities over social gatherings, and it’s frustrating to constantly defend my introverted nature. I know it’s not “normal” for them, but I wish they could understand that being alone doesn’t mean I don’t care about them. Am I the asshole for wanting to embrace who I am, despite their judgments?",1,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fq3fhx,AITA for giving someone the finger at an aiport,"Pretty simple story. I was travelling through Phoenix airport since I have a layover there. Some context that will be important later is that I'm not white, and my parents are immigrants, but I was born and brought up in the US.

There is a couple in front of me who are walking kind of slowly so I walk past them a considerable amount and then walk across in front of them so I can get on one of the moving walkways. While I walking I don't feel anything from my suitcase, but I hear a woman say ""You just rolled over my foot."" I was turning around to apologize, but as I'm turning around I hear the man say in a rude voice ""Welcome to America!,"" so when I turn around instead of apologizing I give him the finger. He yells at me and call me a mf'er, but I'm already on the moving walkway and I zip away. 

AITA?",0,0,0,0,0,1,0
1fq2rzp,AITAH for going on a ride my friend could go on. ,"AITA for going on a ride that my friend is too heavy to go on. My buddy is a big girl, and I mean a big girl and we went to Knott's, she told me ""No rides"" and I decided not to listen to her and enjoy myself and go on some rides. Am I the Ahole for going on rides she wasn't able to go on. ",0,0,0,0,1,0,0
1fq2c1u,AITA for how I dealt with this situation ,"I (26F) have 3 children. My middle child (2) creates mess, as all young children do. 

I spent a lot of time living with my Nan (my mums mum) when I was growing up, and she was the sort of person who could not accept mess of any kind. 

If I knocked a cup over, screaming at me. If I accidentally dropped a bowl, screaming at me. Crumbs in the floor, screaming at me. This made me genuinely terrified to do anything but sit still the majority of the time. I no longer have a relationship with her. 

I refused to be the same with my children, as I don’t want them to be terrified of me. As an adult, I knock things over, I don’t expect children not to do the same. 

My middle child is still learning, and accidentally knocks stuff over frequently. It’s frustrating sometimes, but I’ve always taught him that it’s okay, accidents happen, but you should always clean up after yourself. 

He accidentally knocked over a mug with some milk in it tonight and said “sorry mummy, sorry mummy”. My mum, who is currently visiting, started shouting at him, saying he was deliberately careless and had done it on purpose. I reminded her that he’s a toddler and accidents happened, but he had already started crying. 

I calmed him down and we cleaned it up together, but my mum is now angry at me saying I undermined her and that he’ll grow up destroying things on purpose if I don’t start punishing him for it. 

She has a lot more experience with children than I do, so now I’m wondering if she’s right, am I enabling bad behaviour? ",1,0,0,0,0,0,0